Does anyone else NOT want kids?

I didn't want any. My husband & I discussed it before we got married. He wanted at least 2. So I told him I would compromise & have 1. We now have 5. lol I have friends that don't have any or only have 1. My husband has a friend who was married for about 15 years & they always said they didn't want kids. They just had one a few years ago. You may change your mind & you may not. I don't think there is anything wrong with not having any. Everyone is different.

I wish more people would decide not to. Some people should not spawn. Not saying you shouldn't, but I wish some people wouldn't have them just because they can.

Nope not interested! Rather than the crazy lady with cats I shall be the crazy lady with horses! lol
I have raised my sibling so I already feel like I ave had kids to be honest

I'm almost 37 and have no desire for kids. I always said let me turn 40 and I'd rethink it. I personally can't stand most children in public places including my nephews. I'm happy with animals and my man. To each his/her own. It's not like there is a lack of reproduction in this world. (except white middle class America, but that is another discussion).

So Much ignorance out there, it amazes me. if you look at the stastistics there is enough room in TEXAS for everyone on the planet to have one square foot. That is just texas! Come on people. I think there are way to many selfish people in this world, why do you think Germany is at negative population growth.If everyone thinks like this what do you think will happen in 50 years? Good thing your parents didn' t think like you or you would never have been given a chance to experience your wonderful life.

(1) How is not having children you don't want more selfish than having children you don't want? I never understand this. To me one of the worst things a person can do is have, and keep, a child they don't really want and aren't prepared to care for. I have studied child maltreatment, and it is a terrible thing. I have close friends who grew up knowing they were never wanted--I can't begin to imagine what that felt like. How can not having children be more selfish than that?
(2) What in the world does the size of Texas have to do with the dangers of over-population? The absolute reality, not just according to people like me, but according groups like the World Health Organization, is that the world cannot be full of people who live (eat, consume, etc.) like Americans, it's just not environmentally sustainable.
(3) If I hadn't been born, I wouldn't know the difference, now would I?
(4) Everyone doesn't think like me, that is how the world works. Some people have kids, some don't, it's okay, really...Especially since the U.S. is still well over replacement levels of births.
(5) There are plenty of children out there who don't have good homes. If you think children are so important, why not work on making sure all the ones that are here, on this planet, right now are well cared for in loving homes before you go shaking the stick at those of us who chose not to add to the surplus of children.

I think people that don't want kids are selfish.

LOL. Ducking.

Nah, j/k. But, I always wonder...who will take care of you when you can't take care of yourself. that's why you have kids. Isn't it? That's my reason.

Lol. And so having them so they will take care of you... how is this not being selfish?

I'm 48 and never had any children, but I have been both a step-mom and a foster mom. I wanted children in my life, I just didn't want them there forever!

My sister was married young and became a young widow at 28--they did not have kids. She is now engaged to a man she met when she was 30--they've been together for 21 years now. They did not want kids. There is nothing wrong with not wanting kids. We have one son. Thought about a second one and just never got around to it.

Everyone chooses their own path and if that path doesn't include having children, then don't. Too many folks who shouldn't ever have kids, do. I commend you for knowing what you want and not being pressured into something YOU will have to live with that you don't want.

As for telling your folks and in-laws: I am a MIL. Our DIL is expecting now. I am thrilled, but if they had decided not to have kids, I would have understood. It is THEIR decision, not the family's. You just need to tell them that at this time you have no plans for having children. (this statement won't upset hubby if he has already told them he wants kids.) It leaves it open for future discussion but puts it on hold until YOU say so. Good luck. This can be really emotional for the older folks! lol.

Just tell her. No big deal that you don't want kids. Regardless it is YOUR choice.

i don't have any advice on how to tell her to mind her own beeswax, but i don't know if i want kids either. i keep saying when i am in my 30s but i don't know if i want to dedicate my whole life to raising children, my fiance feels the exact same. i'd love to babysit kids....or take in exchange students. but have them for my whole life, i don't know. and the world is a pretty ****ty place, i don't know if i could deal with the heartache of them being bullied, sexually assualted, kidnapped, etc.