Why be a side-chick???
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Once upon a time, I was a side chick. Mostly because the person was convenient and I didn't want the strings attached.
This is why guys do it! I know plenty of guys who would just hook up with married girls just so they wouldn't have to deal with that person in any other way besides sex.0 -
The world is filled with pathetic, lonely people who hunger for intimacy.
And instead of setting relationship goals and taking the right action to achieve those goals, they just blow around like a reed in the wind.
Losers....
Who says you have to have relationship goals and that there is a certain path you are supposed to take to get them? People have different tastes in relationships, sex, etc. Some couples are perfectly happy in open relationships, some people are not. Some people just enjoy sex (it's human nature) and not relationships.
Who are YOU to judge!?
I like this post ^^^^
SOCIETY has set the "rules" of the game up so that the big collective "WE" will judge each other and condemn one another for all of our "abnormal" bedroom activities... whatever those may be. Many use the guise of religion to do such judging of others... even though their precious book (the Bible) specifically tells you there's only one judge. Ok... enough religion BS now! LOL
Just look at any post in here where someone comes out and openly admits they are in an open relationship... the judgments start flying almost immediately. "Oh, honey you have such low self-esteem to live like this." etc. etc. etc. The men get bashed for it, too! Don't get me wrong, but I see the WOMEN as the ones being attacked the most because they aren't "conforming" to the societal ideal of how things SHOULD be.
I say live and let live... I would imagine those willingly in open relationships are pretty damn happy... AND... guess what... they have problems to deal with just like everyone else does.0 -
I lost my husband when I was 21, after 9 years together. 4 years later I met a great guy and fell hook, line and sinker....roll on 6 months and I find out he's married.
Why did I only find out after so long? We work together and we both work away a lot so there was no "sneaking about".
Am I still seeing him? Hell no!
Did I break it off straightaway? No, it took me 2 months to finally break the hold he had on me.
I'm half and half on this. The side chick isn't a homewrecker if she's not trying to wreck his home. HE made the commitment to the wife/girlfriend, not the side chick, so she owes the wife nothing. That said, I'd hate to be cheated on so wouldn't want to cause someone else that same potential misery if and when they found out. I am someone who gets attached to the people I get intimate with and I would never try and break up someone's family but more than anything, I don't want to get hurt again. Selfish, I know!
Each to their own I say and what goes on between 2 consenting adults is their business. I don't judge anyone - it's the way they want to live their life and therefore it's their business.
Do I still work with aforementioned man? Yes and he's one of my best friends but we haven't been intimate for 2 years. He talks to me about his marriage problems and I advise him to work on it because I do believe in the sanctity of marriage.
Do I love him? Yes because he's genuinely a great guy who lost his way for a while and craved excitement. No because I can't love someone who I can't wholly respect.
Do I wish things were different and I could have him all to myself? Yes because he made me happy. No because I'd never trust him.
Not every man who cheats is evil and not every side chick is evil. It's just life. **** happens. Work through it if you want to. Move on to better things if you don't.0 -
The world is filled with pathetic, lonely people who hunger for intimacy.
And instead of setting relationship goals and taking the right action to achieve those goals, they just blow around like a reed in the wind.
Losers....
Who says you have to have relationship goals and that there is a certain path you are supposed to take to get them? People have different tastes in relationships, sex, etc. Some couples are perfectly happy in open relationships, some people are not. Some people just enjoy sex (it's human nature) and not relationships.
Who are YOU to judge!?
I like this post ^^^^
SOCIETY has set the "rules" of the game up so that the big collective "WE" will judge each other and condemn one another for all of our "abnormal" bedroom activities... whatever those may be. Many use the guise of religion to do such judging of others... even though their precious book (the Bible) specifically tells you there's only one judge. Ok... enough religion BS now! LOL
Just look at any post in here where someone comes out and openly admits they are in an open relationship... the judgments start flying almost immediately. "Oh, honey you have such low self-esteem to live like this." etc. etc. etc. The men get bashed for it, too! Don't get me wrong, but I see the WOMEN as the ones being attacked the most because they aren't "conforming" to the societal ideal of how things SHOULD be.
I say live and let live... I would imagine those willingly in open relationships are pretty damn happy... AND... guess what... they have problems to deal with just like everyone else does.
This thread isn't addressing people in open relationships .. its addressing people that are in committed relationships , and the people that are willing to cheat with them .. and the people that are in the committed relationships that justify the cheating.. or keeping of "side pieces."
if its open its open .. personally I have no judgments on this sort of relationship because its their choice and they are being HONEST.. I have qualms with people.. who act as though ..its trivial to suggest that they behave in a moral manor when someone whose getting the @$$ end of the stick doesn't know .. and is left with whatever feelings that are a result of peoples "mindless and thoughtless actions"...
If its open its not the point ... its the ones that "thought" that their relationship was indestructible.
what I find ironic is that these women actually believe that if the sex is good enough that the man wont wander ... in one hand they claim to not care because its not their responsibility to be "moral" yes swear by **their men **.. and their happiness.. most of the men agree its all good ..
so long as they get their needs met , with or without the side piece,...
sadly us women seem to be torn between what most women want in a committed relationship and how we are to behave at the event that the relationship involves "another"
because of this .. I will say Men for the win..
women are divided ..
men seem to agree that its sex sex sex that they need
and women are daft enough to believe that their P*SSY wields the power to bring down the forces of evil.. and every other woman will just disappear in the eyes of their men... Touche Guys .. and women WOW.0 -
Can't turn a ho into a housewife.0
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Can't turn a ho into a housewife.
BANG!0 -
Can't turn a ho into a housewife.
I think people can change. With time, age, and experience, that is.0 -
can change in desperate housewives! or normal housewives! or bored housewives! it depends..:huh:Can't turn a ho into a housewife.
I think people can change. With time, age, and experience, that is.0 -
Can't turn a ho into a housewife.
I think people can change. With time, age, and experience, that is.
I believe its a fact .. you can change but this is the $hitter these women think they are invincible .. its just not true.. they aren't the exception to the rule.. and apparently there are no rules...
MEN for the WIN.
as long as the women stay divided they ( the men ) are as powerful as we let them be.0 -
Can't turn a ho into a housewife.
I think people can change. With time, age, and experience, that is.
I believe its a fact .. you can change but this is the $hitter these women think they are invincible .. its just not true.. they aren't the exception to the rule.. and apparently there are no rules...
MEN for the WIN.
as long as the women stay divided they ( the men ) are as powerful as we let them be.
Divided as in in Ho's against housewives??0 -
I just hope yall be wrappin it up.
I can't tell you how much I enjoyed reading this!
I have a latex allergy, and I have AMAZINGLY uncomfortable reactions! No sex is worth that....0 -
Can't turn a ho into a housewife.
I think people can change. With time, age, and experience, that is.
I believe its a fact .. you can change but this is the $hitter these women think they are invincible .. its just not true.. they aren't the exception to the rule.. and apparently there are no rules...
MEN for the WIN.
as long as the women stay divided they ( the men ) are as powerful as we let them be.
Divided as in in Ho's against housewives??
Divided in The same women who think its okay to be a "side chick" claim that they are happy with their "monogamous" partners and are immune to becoming the Main chic..
I think its hilarious. .. ( I have never been a side chic ) but I am playing .......... devils advocate
"I was a side chic once .. but I know the man I am with loves the beejaysus out of me and is fully committed" ..
WOW.. I guess the women that were/ are being cheated on realize their lack of appeal and ability to put the "reigns" on their poor destitute sex depraved men..
people ...guys will cheat whether or not the sex is good the moon is full or the sky is grey if they want to.. has nothing to do with need and a hell of a lot to do with opportunity..
and if you are their opportunity you only prove one thing.. your lack of respect for people in general.. I commend the people on the thread that at least admit that it was questionable, the ones that claim no harm no foul are a different breed all together.0 -
News flash... WOMEN CHEAT TOO!!! It sure seems like the majority think that it's only men who cheat here... women, however, cheat just as if not even MORE often than men do!0
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Can't turn a ho into a housewife.
I think people can change. With time, age, and experience, that is.
I believe its a fact .. you can change but this is the $hitter these women think they are invincible .. its just not true.. they aren't the exception to the rule.. and apparently there are no rules...
MEN for the WIN.
as long as the women stay divided they ( the men ) are as powerful as we let them be.
Divided as in in Ho's against housewives??
Divided in The same women who think its okay to be a "side chick" claim that they are happy with their "monogamous" partners and are immune to becoming the Main chic..
I think its hilarious. .. ( I have never been a side chic ) but I am playing .......... devils advocate
"I was a side chic once .. but I know the man I am with loves the beejaysus out of me and is fully committed" ..
WOW.. I guess the women that were/ are being cheated on realize their lack of appeal and ability to put the "reigns" on their poor destitute sex depraved men..
people ...guys will cheat whether or not the sex is good the moon is full or the sky is grey if they want to.. has nothing to do with need and a hell of a lot to do with opportunity..
and if you are their opportunity you only prove one thing.. your lack of respect for people in general.. I commend the people on the thread that at least admit that it was questionable, the ones that claim no harm no foul are a different breed all together.
Ohhhhhhh0 -
News flash... WOMEN CHEAT TOO!!! It sure seems like the majority think that it's only men who cheat here... women, however, cheat just as if not even MORE often than men do!
tell yourself that handsome..
no women do not cheat more.
women do, however cheat.
they are just better at not getting caught.
we think with the one head, while you "boys" if and when you are cheating think with another ..
I heard its devoid of grey matter entirely .0 -
News flash... WOMEN CHEAT TOO!!! It sure seems like the majority think that it's only men who cheat here... women, however, cheat just as if not even MORE often than men do!
This is true. BUT even a man will admit that a woman who cheats is made from a different cloth than a man. "They" say women need a reason to cheat and a man needs a reason not to. Men cheat for sex and women cheat out of emotion. The fundamental and biological differences between the two sexes makes it different. Which is why it is "easier" (if you will) for a woman to forgive a man (and society for that matter) than a man will forgive a woman if they were to cheat. A double standard for sure. But somewhat understandable....And becasue of that this thread was focused on the female side piece ,However all "side piece" comments were welcome.0 -
News flash... WOMEN CHEAT TOO!!! It sure seems like the majority think that it's only men who cheat here... women, however, cheat just as if not even MORE often than men do!
This is true. BUT even a man will admit that a woman who cheats is made from a different cloth than a man. "They" say women need a reason to cheat and a man needs a reason not to. Men cheat for sex and women cheat out of emotion. The fundamental and biological differences between the two sexes makes it different. Which is why it is "easier" (if you will) for a woman to forgive a man (and society for that matter) than a man will forgive a woman if they were to cheat. A double standard for sure. But somewhat understandable....And becasue of that this thread was focused on the female side piece ,However all "side piece" comments were welcome.
I would mostly agree with this, although nowadays there are a LOT more women who are just in it for the sex just like men. Just peruse these forums for a few hours, and you'll see exactly what I'm talking about!0 -
News flash... WOMEN CHEAT TOO!!! It sure seems like the majority think that it's only men who cheat here... women, however, cheat just as if not even MORE often than men do!
This is true. BUT even a man will admit that a woman who cheats is made from a different cloth than a man. "They" say women need a reason to cheat and a man needs a reason not to. Men cheat for sex and women cheat out of emotion. The fundamental and biological differences between the two sexes makes it different. Which is why it is "easier" (if you will) for a woman to forgive a man (and society for that matter) than a man will forgive a woman if they were to cheat. A double standard for sure. But somewhat understandable....And becasue of that this thread was focused on the female side piece ,However all "side piece" comments were welcome.
I would mostly agree with this, although nowadays there are a LOT more women who are just in it for the sex just like men. Just peruse these forums for a few hours, and you'll see exactly what I'm talking about!
I wouldnt be surprised if that were true. Being that at one point a man or 3 cheated on them and they decided "Hey, if i can't beat 'em, join 'em". Its said but true. Alot of women I think have stopped tryna be the "main Chick" cause the main chick only gets hurt in the end.0 -
Ive been with my guy for 6 yrs, and the WOMAN he cheated on me with for a yr off and on was his friends mom!!
This was about 3 yrs ago so yea, I also knew around the time it started and finally stopped..
And the B-I-T-C-H knew that we were together and how i felt bout him but o well she seduced him with money and drugs. HOW DID WE MAKE IT TO 6 YRS? HE FINALLY CONFESSED WHEN HE RALIZED HE LOVED ONLY ME, LEFT HER AND ALL HIS FRIENDS HE USE TO KICK IT WITH. AND IS ONLY WITH ME NOW AND A FEW SELECT FRIENDS WE MADE TOGETHER AND NEVER AROUND NE CHICS. HES A GOOD BOY NOW
SO PPL CAN CHANGE BUT YEA O WELL, HE DID WHAT HE DID, I GOT HIM BACK FOR IT AND NOW WERE DOIN BETTER.. F-U-C-K SIDE S-L-U-T-S!!! IF U R ONE U REALLY HURT A RELATIONSHIP TO ALL HELL!!! 0 -
I have met some down-right nasty, evil women who are abusive to their husbands and withhold intimacy like it's a toy.
So THAT'S the validation that homewreckers tell themselves! I get it.
No, wait.
No I don't.0 -
They aren't responsible for remembering birthdays.0
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I think most women DO know when they are the "other woman." They either think they can change the guy's mind or they have so little self-respect that they're willing to play second fiddle just to have something. Or they're evil and they just don't care.
Just out of curiousity.
Who is more evil, the side chick (that knows she is) OR the person in the committed relationship doing the cheating?
I'm not sure why someone should be expected to respect a relationship IF one of the people in the relationship obviously have no respect for it themselves.
The person in the committed relationship is wrong. It is not the "side chick's" responsibility to make sure the person is faithful to their Significant Other... that is the person in the relationship's responsibility.0 -
I personally would not ever be the side chick because I know what it feels like to be cheated on, and would never want to make someone else feel like that!
girl code.
nuff said!0 -
I personally would not ever be the side chick because I know what it feels like to be cheated on, and would never want to make someone else feel like that!
girl code.
nuff said!
^^^^ :drinker: THIS!! ^^^0 -
"Side chicks" are a particularly sad breed of woman. In my experience, they break down into two groups.
There's the desparate ones who kind of fell into it and they probably honestly think that the man will leave his wife (most cases he won't) and they just let themselves get strung along...
And then there are the sluts, who say they do it because they don't like strings and all they want is the sex and thrill, but the truth is in the end they're just as sad as the woman who's getting strung along.
So pathetic. Women who search for "power" and self esteem by landing a man or taking him from someone else will never truly be happy.0 -
It all depends on the nature of the affair. If it is just sex, they are just sluts. However, if the affair is a relationship it is a completely different situation. The mistress may be in love with the cheater, the cheater may have told side-piece that they will leave their significant other for them. The reasoning varies from affair to affair. The two things that don't vary, though, are as follows: If they are willing to cheat with you, they will be willing to cheat on you, and if you knowingly sleep with a person still in a relationship that they can get out of, you are both skanky *kitten*.0
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If people want open relationships, go for it. I just think people shouldn't cheat without ther partners consent.
I think the "sides" are equally responsible on an ethical level. If a married woman tried to get frisky with me, the first thing I would do is tell her husband so he knows the situation he is in. It's the honest thing to do, otherwise she'll screw around, get aids, and ruin his life. There's sort of an ethical obligation to not watching peoples lives get ruined, don't you think?
If the spouse is so "awful" then breakup and get your sex on after.
If you like the sex without relationships, find someone for NSA sex, go to a swingers club, or find someone in an open relationship.
To sex someone whose spouse is unaware is reprehensible. I would never date someone that did it because it shows their character. If they sexed a guy in an open relationship, I'm not bothered. It's the partaking of dishonesty and disrespect that I find sad.
If you had a brother and found out 2 of the kids he's been raising for 10 years aren't his and that his wife got pregnant banging other guys, how would you feel? If you were that guy, wouldn't you feel relief and thanks for anyone who burst that bubble instead of letting you live in stupidity?
Edit: I guess I'm just old fashioned.0 -
If people want open relationships, go for it. I just think people shouldn't cheat without ther partners consent.
I think the "sides" are equally responsible on an ethical level. If a married woman tried to get frisky with me, the first thing I would do is tell her husband so he knows the situation he is in. It's the honest thing to do, otherwise she'll screw around, get aids, and ruin his life. There's sort of an ethical obligation to not watching peoples lives get ruined, don't you think?
If the spouse is so "awful" then breakup and get your sex on after.
If you like the sex without relationships, find someone for NSA sex, go to a swingers club, or find someone in an open relationship.
To sex someone whose spouse is unaware is reprehensible. I would never date someone that did it because it shows their character. If they sexed a guy in an open relationship, I'm not bothered. It's the partaking of dishonesty and disrespect that I find sad.
If you had a brother and found out 2 of the kids he's been raising for 10 years aren't his and that his wife got pregnant banging other guys, how would you feel? If you were that guy, wouldn't you feel relief and thanks for anyone who burst that bubble instead of letting you live in stupidity?
This.
I don't even know how real affairs get started. I am married and back when I was hot (haha) when I was hit on the only thing I heard was "I think you are a slut who would cheat on her man and that's why I'm coming on to you"
How does this stuff even happen unless you want it to?0 -
You do not HAVE to release every 2 days... i call bs
Sure. With effort, it's possible to avoid it for 2 days, just as possible to not eat for 2 days but you'll still FEEL very hungry. But you'll get more and more uncomfortable and feel more compelled to do it.
Wait a few more days, and a man will have a wet dream against his wishes.
Relationships are more than just sex but if you want to be in a committed relationship then you need to realize that sex is a big part of it. If you and your S/O aren't happy then that is when people start to stray. Is it right? No absolutely not. That is why even if you are tired or busy you still have to make time for each other because it is important and usually once you start having it more you want it more.0
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