Positive comments on unhealthy diaries
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Maybe the people making the comments don't have the same food "morals" as you do. I normally make pretty positive comments, because I don't know where people have come from nutritionally, and they took the time to get on there, log and be honest.. that's just me. It's important to remember that everyone's definition of "good" is different.0
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If someone on here said something bad about what i eat I would unfriend them. I am here for support not looking for FOOD POLICE.
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Good lord, it's not a "personal thing" for me and I don't "feel that strongly" about it. I was just posting some musings about why such a diary would be congratulated. I have no intention nor desire to offer my construction criticism to anyone. I'm not perfect either.
There's a big difference between disagreement and personal attack. I'm all for a little back and forth banter on a topic, and I find opposing views quite interesting, but that's is not what your posts were about. I was trying to make light of it with my comment "what's wrong with a little validation", but you had to continue with your psycological evaluation of me and my intentions and to make comments as if you know anything about me. You don't.0 -
Wow... It's just a discussion people! There is no need to be nasty. Sometimes people just need clarification on what other people post on comments to help them understand things a little better. This thread alone helped me today. If I ever do comment on food journals, it will be on positive eating habits as to encourage them to continue on that trend. I usually only comment on exercise logs.0
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Wow... It's just a discussion people! There is no need to be nasty. Sometimes people just need clarification on what other people post on comments to help them understand things a little better. This thread alone helped me today. If I ever do comment on food journals, it will be on positive eating habits as to encourage them to continue on that trend. I usually only comment on exercise logs.
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If someone on here said something bad about what i eat I would unfriend them. I am here for support not looking for FOOD POLICE. If I feel the need to eat a piece of cake I will and I do. I need some form of something sweet each day or I will not stick to my diet. I stay under my 1200 calories each day and I exercise. Oh and those sweets i eat each day hasnt stopped me from losing over 11 lbs in three weeks. So its none of my concern what someone else eats. If they dont lose weight its on them. I usually comment on the fact that they came in under their calorie goal and its a good job and I dont care if they ate a box of twinkies for the day. If they lose weight I also give them good comments. I dont look at peoples food diary because.... I just dont care what they ate. I let everyone view mine because I dont care what others think. If it is working for me then YAY. I hate the FOOD POLICE AND I WILL NOT BE ONE.
Then what are you even here for because clearly you aren't here for the support of MFPers! Seeings you care for noone's opinion, remarks, etc. Why come to a place of support if you're not willing or wanting any support??
Everyone can moan and complain about their lives and everyone jumps to their aid but the OP has a thought about Diaries and the claws come out?? Thank you to quite a few MFPers for showing true colors!0 -
Why bother even posting this if it isn't any of your business. Just ignore it and move on.
Well...it is our business if they are our friend and have an open diary....why would you give positive feed back for a poor diet?? That is just counter productive...0 -
I like to look at the diaries when commenting but who am I to judge how someone else eats. Good bad or indifferent, they tracked their food and are being accountable for what they ate.
People could be eating their food for what ever reason they may have. Whether way over or way under, you never know what issue someone might be fighting. It could be an addiction or another form of an eating disorder. Sometimes people might be looking for a little encouragement to help keep themselves going. If you want to leave a comment about their food, do so. If you don't like it and don't feel like calling them out, just move on.0 -
Comments like "awesome" and "good job" are very nice and can be supportive, but I don't get it when I see these type of comments, then I peek at the diary to which they are referring, and while they may have been under their calories, the day's food is nothing but sweets, carbs and a bunch of "junk" food. No fruits and veggies whatsoever. Very little protein. How is that "awesome" or a "good job"?? I would never criticize with a comment, as it is none of my business really, but to offer congratulations for that kind of eating? I don't think that's really all that helpful.
I would love to have someone look at my daily log and tell me the truth about it. Give me suggestions I don't go through and put positive comments on everyone though, and I wouldn't want someone to put great job or awesome on mine unless I really did do a good job. Also I agree this is a discussion board while we do need to encourage and motivate we also need to be held accountable.
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I remember when I asked for an *kitten* kicking because I was doing so terribly. One of my friends said, "You didn't do everything wrong today. Think of all that you did right today." And I actually think that was the comment to turn everything around for me. Positive reinforcement is the most successful way to increase a behavior, and punishment is the least effective way to decrease a behavior. That's another reason I try to find a positive. I like when my friends give me compliments for my healthy day--it motivates me to do better. But putting my day down wouldn't change my eating, it would change my logging.0
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Why bother even posting this if it isn't any of your business. Just ignore it and move on.
Well...it is our business if they are our friend and have an open diary....why would you give positive feed back for a poor diet?? That is just counter productive...0 -
I'm probably one of those crap eaters. Lol. Maybe the people who post those comments are firmiliar with the person & what they are tracking. For example, I'm not on here to lose weight. I weigh 95 and have cholostrol close to 300!!! I'm adopted and both my HDL & my LDL are high so nautrally high levels could run in my biological family, we don't know. I've always counted calories but I never counted my saturated fats, my doctor asked me to use this program or one like it so that we could look at my saturated fat consumption on my next visit. Here's my point, to an outsider my diary may look like "crap" but the people who know me and know what I'm tracking may be posting positive affirmation because they know we're only looking at one thing. Does that make sense? Besides, I'm 35, no matter what anyone says on a website I'm going to do what I want. I'm sure that's the feeling of most people. I don't eat a lot of veggies, I don't like them, no matter what people post on here my mind isn't going to change. I'm still not going to like them. To see a real change in my eating habits I need to speak with a profession who knows me, who has done lab work and who I can speak with face to face. I understand your frustration, but I don't think the people posting those comments are doing any harm.0
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Be careful what you put on these boards. As you can see from some replies, you are likely to get skewered. As to diaries I just quit looking cause the same thing bugged me.0
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Be careful what you put on these boards. As you can see from some replies, you are likely to get skewered. As to diaries I just quit looking cause the same thing bugged me.
Yep. I fully expected it. I've been on here nearly a year and have seen this skewering you are referring to many times.0 -
WOW, we're supposed to look at their food diary and THEN say something supportive???? I've been doing it all wrong. I just see that an MFP friend has logged for x amount of days, or were @ or under their calories or exercised then I say something encouraging. I don't see what they've eaten.
I think we all need to support each other. If someone IS eating poorly but is under their calorie goal, they know it, they chose to do it, hopefully they will choose better next time.0 -
personally im here to have my *kitten* kicked.. if I am eating crappy.. i would hope one of my friends would say.. Yo.. knock off the crap..
or even hey.. instead of pizza, have you tried eggplant pizza.. or other suggestions..
maybe just me.. but i really want to get my diet better, lose those nasty last 20/30 pounds and look ripped.
THIS....I wouldnt be here if i didnt mean business...I dont take this lightly at all...taking it lightly and being babied is what got me FAT in the first place!!!0 -
Good lord, it's not a "personal thing" for me and I don't "feel that strongly" about it. I was just posting some musings about why such a diary would be congratulated. I have no intention nor desire to offer my construction criticism to anyone. I'm not perfect either.
Would you just STFU. and lighten up please.
*wild applause*
Been waiting to hear someone say that for a LOOOOONG time. :flowerforyou:
Back to the subject at hand: I agree with you. But, I also think that some read through the newsfeed, see something that *might* look positive, comment, and move on. I even had people congratulating me for losing weight after I had already reached my goal -- even after I had commented that I wasn't happy with that.0 -
Maybe the people making the comments don't have the same food "morals" as you do. I normally make pretty positive comments, because I don't know where people have come from nutritionally, and they took the time to get on there, log and be honest.. that's just me. It's important to remember that everyone's definition of "good" is different.
Agree! If I give a general positive comment, its directed at my friend just being here, logging in, and doing the best they could today. I'm not perfect, neither are they. But we are here, and deserve some props for that. If they ask advice or have questions, then of course I will offer some, but I'm not their mother. (Except for one friend....I AM her mother). If anyone was to to all Food Nazi on my diary...instantaneous unfriend. And I would expect nothing less from them.0 -
I think it depends on the person, for some people simply staying WITHIN their calories is amazing and very difficult. So for them that IS a victory. Some people are simply not (and some may never care to be) at the macro-managing stage. We are all at different stages of our journeys and even on very different journeys. Now, there is no disputing that eating more whole foods is probably optimal for our health, but I am not sure that we should be judging what other people are eating or why other people are supporting them.
Sometimes, being accountable even when you fail a day is a massive victory and a wonderful first step in making lasting lifestyle change for the better, but that will still be by their choices and their own interpretation of what they want THEIR lifestyle to be, whether anyone else shares those ideals or not.
To someone eating low carb, a high raw fruit and vegetable diet would not look good at all. To a vegan, a high animal meat diet looks repulsive. Know what I mean?
I do agree with your sentiment however as I see people purposely starving themselves (with excuses and reasons usually) and getting a lot of "propping" support. I don't question the support itself though, because I think people are genuinely (usually) trying to be supportive and help others on their journey. *shrug* I think we are just bothered by the things we are trying to focus on changing in our own lives, which is pretty normal probably.0
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