The man and his horrid comment

:laugh: :flowerforyou:

Men are stupid and continually think that women have a sense of humor no matter how many times they're proven wrong.

We - talking about men - tend to project.
Google that term as it relates to psychology.
Projection.
We "project" our own feelings and attitudes on you ladies who are far more sensitive about your bodies than we are about our own. He meant nothing hurtful I suspect.
I have said some awful things myself and later was stunned that somebody got offended.:noway:
Be gentle but kindly express how much that hurt you.
And if he does it again, you know it's a personal attack, but I bet he won't, and if he ever slips up, he'll be fast to make amends.
Good luck:flowerforyou:

Here's this nice guy's thought...

He see the changes in you...and likes it. Makes him frisky. It's his playful way of encouraging you.

Dont always read into the words without understanding his mindset. Ask him. And you will see the above comment is right.

^^^Agreeing with this as well. I don't think there were any malicious undertones in what he said... he's just playing around.

If a guy says something and there are two ways of interpreting what he is saying as either a good thing or a bad thing, we meant it in the good way!!

My husband says comments like that. He refers to my thighs as a piece of large meat and when are we cooking this? Or, my cellulite. Well, I been taking the dog early mornings for runs and getting my alone time and he sits on his fat behind and still has a big gut. When I am nice and THIN, then see who makes the comments, ha. :happy:

So...you want us to lie to you?

I'm probably going to get chewed out for this but seriously, sometimes we have to tell you that you need to start watching what you eat and hit the gym. Would you rather we start cheating on you (not that I would, just saying) or just plain dump you with the lame "oh its not you, its me" ?

Please, don't make my post a gender issue and I perfectly understand getting hurt over comments like these however, the significant others can be in a hard place and a rock with these situations

What you are saying is not necessarily wrong, but did you read the part where he then asked to go get ice cream? So, probably not about getting fat... probably just a dumb thing he said.

So...you want us to lie to you?

I'm probably going to get chewed out for this but seriously, sometimes we have to tell you that you need to start watching what you eat and hit the gym. Would you rather we start cheating on you (not that I would, just saying) or just plain dump you with the lame "oh its not you, its me" ?

Please, don't make my post a gender issue and I perfectly understand getting hurt over comments like these however, the significant others can be in a hard place and a rock with these situations

Don't lie...be honest.


And let's not suggest ice cream in the very next breath...kay?

So...you want us to lie to you?

I'm probably going to get chewed out for this but seriously, sometimes we have to tell you that you need to start watching what you eat and hit the gym. Would you rather we start cheating on you (not that I would, just saying) or just plain dump you with the lame "oh its not you, its me" ?

Please, don't make my post a gender issue and I perfectly understand getting hurt over comments like these however, the significant others can be in a hard place and a rock with these situations

I understand what you are saying... but as I told my husband when we first started dating, "don't make comments when I'm not eating healthy or exercising because *I* already know that I should be doing better. It's doesn't help and makes me feel even worse than I already do. If you want to help, then comment or compliment me when you see me making a healthy choice or putting some effort into working out."

To the OP - I loved your comeback!! I never think of something that quick...

I would rather have my fiance' tell me these things now, because yes the truth hurts, but non-truths and lies hurt much more in the long run.