The man and his horrid comment

I know this will sound a bit sexist but women shouldn't take everything men say too seriously. Most of the times they don't think thoroughly before they speak so they end up choosing bad words even though they never mean ill. It has a lot to do with us, women, looking for hidden meanings under every word as well.

I totally have to agree with this. I learned to take things with a grain of salt when it comes to my husband. He's got a knack for saying things that make me cry and not having a CLUE!

That being said, I would rather be told if he's finding me less attractive, than to not say anything (or worse yet, go out and cheat). It hurts to hear it, but better than being lied to.

I loved your reply "I touched his forehead and said "we need to tone THIS up in HERE so you don't make idiotic comments like that EVER AGAIN."

Even though they know it, they need to "GET IT" that all of us (men and women) will be old some day. I plan on exercising 6 day a week for the rest of my life, as long as I am able, just like I do now, But when you are in your 50's and older, like I am, no matter how much you exercise and eat right, gravity will pull it down and skin loses its elasticity. Of course you will look much better than an older person that does not exercise, but it is not the same as when you are 25. And all of us will be there some day unless we die young.

When I was in my 20's I dated a man that was obsessed with my weight (I was 5'7" and 125 pounds). I was a runner and he actually got mad at me when I ran 2 miles, because he thought I should have ran 6 miles. I could not imagine how he would have been if I got pregnant or old, so fortunately I got rid of the control freak and didn't marry him. I married a wonderful man that loves me no matter what. He is not perfect and doesn't always say just the right words, but none of us do.

Anyway, it sounds like you have a good man and it looks like you kept him in line. LOL!

So...you want us to lie to you?

I'm probably going to get chewed out for this but seriously, sometimes we have to tell you that you need to start watching what you eat and hit the gym. Would you rather we start cheating on you (not that I would, just saying) or just plain dump you with the lame "oh its not you, its me" ?

Please, don't make my post a gender issue and I perfectly understand getting hurt over comments like these however, the significant others can be in a hard place and a rock with these situations

Ifa guy will cheat that easily they aren't worth the time, anyway!

So...you want us to lie to you?

I'm probably going to get chewed out for this but seriously, sometimes we have to tell you that you need to start watching what you eat and hit the gym. Would you rather we start cheating on you (not that I would, just saying) or just plain dump you with the lame "oh its not you, its me" ?

Please, don't make my post a gender issue and I perfectly understand getting hurt over comments like these however, the significant others can be in a hard place and a rock with these situations

True BUT if someone is going to make a comment for their signifigant others own good, male or female They should try and fallow it up with some constructive advice or encouragement not "Hey babe wanna go get some Ice cream?"

Lol!

No doubt he could have used better approach or better words but not everybody is great with words

Poor men, they have to deal with women that are never happy even when they are trying to be helpful.

:laugh: :flowerforyou:

Men are stupid and continually think that women have a sense of humor no matter how many times they're proven wrong.

We - talking about men - tend to project.
Google that term as it relates to psychology.
Projection.
We "project" our own feelings and attitudes on you ladies who are far more sensitive about your bodies than we are about our own. He meant nothing hurtful I suspect.
I have said some awful things myself and later was stunned that somebody got offended.:noway:
Be gentle but kindly express how much that hurt you.
And if he does it again, you know it's a personal attack, but I bet he won't, and if he ever slips up, he'll be fast to make amends.
Good luck:flowerforyou:

Here's this nice guy's thought...

He see the changes in you...and likes it. Makes him frisky. It's his playful way of encouraging you.

Dont always read into the words without understanding his mindset. Ask him. And you will see the above comment is right.

^^^Agreeing with this as well. I don't think there were any malicious undertones in what he said... he's just playing around.

If a guy says something and there are two ways of interpreting what he is saying as either a good thing or a bad thing, we meant it in the good way!!

My husband says comments like that. He refers to my thighs as a piece of large meat and when are we cooking this? Or, my cellulite. Well, I been taking the dog early mornings for runs and getting my alone time and he sits on his fat behind and still has a big gut. When I am nice and THIN, then see who makes the comments, ha. :happy:

So...you want us to lie to you?

I'm probably going to get chewed out for this but seriously, sometimes we have to tell you that you need to start watching what you eat and hit the gym. Would you rather we start cheating on you (not that I would, just saying) or just plain dump you with the lame "oh its not you, its me" ?

Please, don't make my post a gender issue and I perfectly understand getting hurt over comments like these however, the significant others can be in a hard place and a rock with these situations

What you are saying is not necessarily wrong, but did you read the part where he then asked to go get ice cream? So, probably not about getting fat... probably just a dumb thing he said.

So...you want us to lie to you?

I'm probably going to get chewed out for this but seriously, sometimes we have to tell you that you need to start watching what you eat and hit the gym. Would you rather we start cheating on you (not that I would, just saying) or just plain dump you with the lame "oh its not you, its me" ?

Please, don't make my post a gender issue and I perfectly understand getting hurt over comments like these however, the significant others can be in a hard place and a rock with these situations

Don't lie...be honest.


And let's not suggest ice cream in the very next breath...kay?

So...you want us to lie to you?

I'm probably going to get chewed out for this but seriously, sometimes we have to tell you that you need to start watching what you eat and hit the gym. Would you rather we start cheating on you (not that I would, just saying) or just plain dump you with the lame "oh its not you, its me" ?

Please, don't make my post a gender issue and I perfectly understand getting hurt over comments like these however, the significant others can be in a hard place and a rock with these situations

I understand what you are saying... but as I told my husband when we first started dating, "don't make comments when I'm not eating healthy or exercising because *I* already know that I should be doing better. It's doesn't help and makes me feel even worse than I already do. If you want to help, then comment or compliment me when you see me making a healthy choice or putting some effort into working out."

To the OP - I loved your comeback!! I never think of something that quick...

I would rather have my fiance' tell me these things now, because yes the truth hurts, but non-truths and lies hurt much more in the long run.