Little Kids Telling You That You Are Fat

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a2902c
a2902c Posts: 96
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My 7-year-old niece grabbed my thighs, and said "These are bigger than my mom's and dad's combined. Your so fat." I've also had kids run up to me and grab my belly, with their parents looking horrified. Seriously, it's humiliating. Just wanted to get that off my chest.

Edit: Oh, I forgot to mention when my niece said, "You have the body of a fat man." Nice.
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  • FatStoatLondon
    FatStoatLondon Posts: 197 Member
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    You have my sympathy! There's not much you can do about it, kids are little savages until they have been socialised, bless them! Look at Lord of the Flies... If it happens again, maybe you could tease them for being so short in return.
  • LrdTwitchyMcChin
    LrdTwitchyMcChin Posts: 84
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    OMG!!! Do their parents not talk to them about this? My "step daughter" (boyfriend's daughter) is 5 and she called me fat once. We scolded her and explained why that is incredibly rude and mean to say to someone. She understood and hasn't done anything like that before. In fact, when her and I were talking about me eating differently and exercising more this last weekend, she caught herself before using the word "fat" and said something like "getting even smaller." Kids can be hurtful, but they don't know any better. It's the parents that should be taking responsibility for their actions and correcting them.
  • jr1985
    jr1985 Posts: 1,033 Member
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    Yep little kids are brutally honest... I've been called fat by more than one kid... I'm sorry I feel your pain... you can't get mad at them because they don't know any better (depending on how old they are). but still stinks.
  • NamibianRose
    NamibianRose Posts: 151 Member
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    Wow, looking at your profile pic, you don't even look fat to me. I'd hate to hear what your niece would say to me LOL!
  • Namaste1983
    Namaste1983 Posts: 603 Member
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    EHHH... I GET IT. MY 4 YR OLD NEPHEW WALKED IN ON ME IN THE BATHROOM AND SAID "WHY ARE YOU SO FAT?" TO WHIC ISAID "WHY ARE YO USO SHORT. GET OUT" THEY ARE KIDS, THEY HAVE NO CENSOR
  • ClearNotCloudyMind
    ClearNotCloudyMind Posts: 238 Member
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    Proper sympathy. On the other hand just because they're kids doesn't mean they're right. My 3-year old told another mother at pre-school that she had fat legs. The lady was completely normal sized. I was horrified but she took it in apparent good humour. I do hope her feelings weren't hurt as her legs were perfectly fine. Tried to explain to my kid but hard to tell if it sunk in...
  • mi_lady
    mi_lady Posts: 17 Member
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    I can really relate - when my sister was expecting her second son her first said "gee, you're FAT!" and at another point he asked if I had a baby in my belly too. I think it's just how kids are - completely honest until they know better. I just said that yes, I am, but that it's not nice to say to people.
  • MizSaz
    MizSaz Posts: 445 Member
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    If you want brutal honesty, ask a child. I don't ask my boyfriend how I look before I go out, I ask my 5 year old niece. She's starting to grow a filter now, though, she's getting polite in her 'old age'. ;)
  • ItsMeRebekah
    ItsMeRebekah Posts: 910 Member
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    the other day my kids were watching me do my kettlebells and said " why does your stomach bounce and move all around crazy like that "
    kids, its who they are! i giggled
  • bcattoes
    bcattoes Posts: 17,299 Member
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    OUCH!! Kids can be brutally honest in their innocence.
  • skinnedknee101
    skinnedknee101 Posts: 92 Member
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    But it does make it that more awesome when a kid says you look good. Gotta take the good with the bad. Best compliment ever was when my 3-year-old son, came into the room and on his own accord said, "Mommy, you're pretty."
  • JediSwan
    JediSwan Posts: 455 Member
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    My oldest daughter is 7. She was called fat by a girl in her class last year and she is one of the healthiest and fittest kids and by no means even close to having any fat on her body. It tore her to pieces! "Fat" is a bad word in our house. We use healthy or unhealthy. I wanted to punch that little girl for saying that. And I know the girl's mother and I can guarantee that the little girl learned to criticize others by her mother's actions. Its ridiculous!

    My daughter is brutally honest about my clothes and size. She tells me that I'm doing good with my workouts and that I will be "healthy" in no time. :) Which is nice. She says she doesn't like me "unhealthy."

    Its frustrating that kids say that and I'm sorry that your niece said that to you. Its a wonder sometimes what goes on inside their little heads.
  • a2902c
    a2902c Posts: 96
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    But it does make it that more awesome when a kid says you look good. Gotta take the good with the bad. Best compliment ever was when my 3-year-old son, came into the room and on his own accord said, "Mommy, you're pretty."

    Never had the good. Only bad. She also has a tendency to tell me I'm ugly. Oh well.

    But from your profile pic, you are gorgeous! Your son was right :)
  • Marll
    Marll Posts: 904 Member
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    Yep kids can be brutally honest, and sometimes it's refreshing not to have all the fake politeness, other times, not so amusing.

    Another group that can be brutally honest: The elderly. My grandfather, who is in his 90s, last time I saw him asked "How's life been treating you?" I said "Great! No complaints really." He grabbed my love handles and said "I can see that, seems like its been treating you a bit TOO well." and then he walked off.

    Granted that was about 65lbs ago, but he had a very valid point!
  • a2902c
    a2902c Posts: 96
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    Yep kids can be brutally honest, and sometimes it's refreshing not to have all the fake politeness, other times, not so amusing.

    Another group that can be brutally honest: The elderly. My grandfather, who is in his 90s, last time I saw him asked "How's life been treating you?" I said "Great! No complaints really." He grabbed my love handles and said "I can see that, seems like it's been treating you a bit TOO well." and then he walked off.

    Granted that was about 65lbs ago, but he had a very valid point!

    Oh I can definitely relate. Once during a dinner party, my grandmother apologized to everyone on how fat I've gotten. In her own words, "I'm sorry that you have to see her like this. She's a blimp. She used to be so much prettier."

    I've also gotten "At least, you have a cute face." from other relatives.
  • skinnedknee101
    skinnedknee101 Posts: 92 Member
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    But it does make it that more awesome when a kid says you look good. Gotta take the good with the bad. Best compliment ever was when my 3-year-old son, came into the room and on his own accord said, "Mommy, you're pretty."

    Never had the good. Only bad. She also has a tendency to tell me I'm ugly. Oh well.

    But from your profile pic, you are gorgeous! Your son was right :)

    Well take it from someone who still has the thought filter of a 5 year old, though perhaps a better vocabulary...you are a very pretty girl!
  • stellaskies
    stellaskies Posts: 161 Member
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    Yep kids can be brutally honest, and sometimes it's refreshing not to have all the fake politeness, other times, not so amusing.

    Another group that can be brutally honest: The elderly. My grandfather, who is in his 90s, last time I saw him asked "How's life been treating you?" I said "Great! No complaints really." He grabbed my love handles and said "I can see that, seems like it's been treating you a bit TOO well." and then he walked off.

    Granted that was about 65lbs ago, but he had a very valid point!

    Oh I can definitely relate. Once during a dinner party, my grandmother apologized to everyone on how fat I've gotten. In her own words, "I'm sorry that you have to see her like this. She's a blimp. She used to be so much prettier."

    I've also gotten "At least, you have a cute face." from other relatives.

    I don't want to step on any toes, but your family sounds kinda mean, like meaner than most family ribbing. I'm sorry they aren't more sensitive.
  • Marll
    Marll Posts: 904 Member
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    Yep kids can be brutally honest, and sometimes it's refreshing not to have all the fake politeness, other times, not so amusing.

    Another group that can be brutally honest: The elderly. My grandfather, who is in his 90s, last time I saw him asked "How's life been treating you?" I said "Great! No complaints really." He grabbed my love handles and said "I can see that, seems like it's been treating you a bit TOO well." and then he walked off.

    Granted that was about 65lbs ago, but he had a very valid point!

    Oh I can definitely relate. Once during a dinner party, my grandmother apologized to everyone on how fat I've gotten. In her own words, "I'm sorry that you have to see her like this. She's a blimp. She used to be so much prettier."

    I've also gotten "At least, you have a cute face." from other relatives.

    I don't want to step on any toes, but your family sounds kinda mean, like meaner than most family ribbing. I'm sorry they aren't more sensitive.

    Lots of families are like that. While not as insulting as hers appears to be, my Dad's side of the family is brutally honest on pretty much any topic.
  • puttingmyselfoutthere
    puttingmyselfoutthere Posts: 48 Member
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    My niece once said "Auntie don't lose your Jiggly Bigglies cuz if you do you wont be soft like a pillow any more" and another time she was playing a pretend game & said "I'm going to pretend to be Auntie..she grabbed a blanket and sat on the couch." That was one of those days that really made me realize that I need to get healthy and set a good example for her.
  • Medeabacktothestart
    Medeabacktothestart Posts: 2
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    When I was about 8 my step-mother's family nic-named me sumo and as I enjoyed ballet so much they also called me the sugar plump fairy.
    I may have been stocky as I'm not delicately built, but I was never overweight as a child. As an adult it actually shocks me that somebody would call a child that

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