How long were you with your SO before you got engaged?

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  • kak2m4
    kak2m4 Posts: 167 Member
    We were together 3 years before we got engaged. We were engaged for two years (while I was in grad school), and just got married. I completely understand about wanting to at least be engaged by the time you buy or move into your new house...even though you've already been together for a long time, you want to make sure the relationship is one that's leading toward a "forever" committment. Sounds cheesy, but it's true.
  • lizzybethclaire
    lizzybethclaire Posts: 849 Member
    3 months. Happily married for over 6 years now. I regret it sometimes because I was so young and I missed out on a lot of things, but overall I am content with my decision.
  • teacupowl
    teacupowl Posts: 104
    Coming up on 5 years in August! I'll be 23 and he'll be 27. Poor baby still even has trouble saying the word 'marriage' sometimes.

    But, we have been living together for 4 1/2 years, so we pretty much act like a married couple anyway. :-P We even treat our two dogs like our children.

    I'm hoping this year is the year, though! He's got a good, solid job and we've been talking about selling our house. Crossing my fingers!
  • andthenwhat
    andthenwhat Posts: 69 Member
    about 7 years. Getting married in TWO WEEKS HOLY SHIIIIIIIIIIII
  • WarriorWomanMaxine
    WarriorWomanMaxine Posts: 162 Member
    13 years we won some money on the lottery he said to me if you can book it for in 2weeks lets do it AND I DID :)
  • CakeFit21
    CakeFit21 Posts: 2,521 Member
    We were dating for 2 weeks when we started talking about marriage, married 3 months later. Married for 10 years now.
  • 2dayirun4me
    2dayirun4me Posts: 336 Member
    I was friends with my husband for 6 years before we got engaged we were engaged and dated for a year and this September is our 5 year anniversary.
  • brewface811
    brewface811 Posts: 106
    We were together 3 years before we got engaged. We were engaged for two years (while I was in grad school), and just got married. I completely understand about wanting to at least be engaged by the time you buy or move into your new house...even though you've already been together for a long time, you want to make sure the relationship is one that's leading toward a "forever" committment. Sounds cheesy, but it's true.

    EXACTLY! I want to know this is a forever kind of thing. I feel like offering that committment to someone proves that. It isn't about a ring or a piece of paper from the state it is the idea behind it all.
  • GerritTheBlacksmith
    GerritTheBlacksmith Posts: 234
    1 1/2 years.
    got married at 22.
    been married for 6 years.
  • kjobb78
    kjobb78 Posts: 6
    My husband and I started dating when I was 17 and he was 18. We got engaged on my 19th birthday and got married not quite 2 years later. We have been happily married for almost 13 years and have 2 wonderful daughters.
  • ShylaBrown22
    ShylaBrown22 Posts: 4
    I was with my guy for 5 years before we got Engaged :)
  • manderson27
    manderson27 Posts: 3,510 Member
    9 Years :laugh:
  • jen_bd6
    jen_bd6 Posts: 501 Member
    We were together for 3 years before getting engaged. We have been engaged for two years now (i hate the thought of planning a wedding). But we already own a house together. :) As long as you are happy together, let it happen when it happens. Just enjoy everyday you get to spend together :)
  • fittiephd
    fittiephd Posts: 608 Member
    My man and I are not engaged, but we're coming up on four years together and are about to move in to an apartment together. I'm 22 and just graduated and he's turning 25 soon after we move in.

    I know some people who are more traditional feel it's better to be engaged or married before living together, but I feel the opposite. I hope we live together for at least a couple years before we get engaged (if we get engaged) because I really want to make sure this will work. Also I won't be able to afford a wedding for like 5 years hah so I'm in no rush.
  • debussyschild
    debussyschild Posts: 804 Member
    My husband and I had been together just over 2 years when he proposed :) We talked a lot about getting married well before he actually asked me. We knew we wanted to be together, and that hasn't changed. He is also in the Army and dating someone in the military is kinda difficult. Being married is MUCH easier, LOL. I won't go into detail about that, but we made an excellent decision to get married and it would not have made a bit of difference if we had waited. :heart:
  • ashleygonzalez1
    ashleygonzalez1 Posts: 12
    We met 12/31/96 and he proposed 5/12/97 and we were married 5/23/98. I was 20 and he was 29. We've been married for 14 years and every year just keeps getting better. Do what is in you heart, not what others are doing around you. Each relationship is different. :)
  • missjewl
    missjewl Posts: 214 Member
    We will be together 11 years come this september and he has says someday. but my situation is slightly messed i i would have probably either been celebrating my 10th yr anniversary or divorced by now... We got pregnant early in our relationship. when he found out i was pregnant he proposed but because i felt he was doing it because i was pregers i said no but i explained why. I wasnt going to get married due to being pregers i want it to be because we love each other. he hasnt asked again since. over the past couple of years his parents split after 37yrs of marriage and i now believe it is because of their marriage that he avoids the idea. someday i WILL get married! i guess time will tell!
  • MeMyCatsandI
    MeMyCatsandI Posts: 704 Member
    6 months. We got married on the first anniversary of our first date. We got divorced before our first wedding anniversary! It seems to me that, even though you are young, you've been together for a LONG time. Longer than I've EVER been with one person (and I'm 39). If you can still stand to be near him and you haven't contemplated killing him or yourself, I think you probably should take the plunge (= Also, I would definitely not buy a house together if you aren't married to him. That just gets messy if you ever break up.

    My sister once (maybe more than once!) gave me some pretty good advice: If you're happy with him more than you're sad or angry, then he's probably worth your time. If you're unhappy more than you are happy, it's time to get out.

    I know quite a few people that got married very young who are still happily married.
  • shiloh911
    shiloh911 Posts: 13 Member
    We were together about 7 1/2 years before getting engaged. We'll have been together about 9 1/4 years by the time we're married in January. We've been dating since high school but waited to get engaged until we both finished college. Then we waited to start planning the wedding since I was starting grad school and there was just too much going on.

    I know what you mean about it seeming everyone else around you is getting married. I'm 24 and he's 25 and a bunch of our friends who haven't been together as long have or are getting married before us. But don't worry about them! Do what's right for you. Sometimes I don't feel like anything will be different, but then I remember that I won't wonder if people will be offended if I say we live together and he can be on my health insurance and we'll get a tax break. All practical stuff of course, but we've been very committed to each other from the start and so getting married is really just a formality for us. Anyways, good luck with your decision!
  • scruffykaz
    scruffykaz Posts: 317 Member
    2 years :-D
  • dlyeates
    dlyeates Posts: 875 Member
    You are still young. My question is....have you talked about it?!?! Communication is so important in a relationship.

    My husband and I briefly talked about marriage when we first started dating and he said he wasn't ready.....he had just moved out of his ex's house that she trapped him into staying with a signed lease but they were broken up for almost a year!!! The next time we talked was when he proposed to me!!!

    I would seriously talk to him....you are at an age that marriage is a viable option and you should know where the relationship stands and what he is thinking.

    That being said my hubby and I were 25 when we started dating, I was 25/he was 26 when engaged and both were 26 when we got married. He proposed to me 2 months after our first official date and he had been talking to each other and developing a friendship about 1 month before that.

    Don't judge your relationship by others, that can be really dangerous. We are not the norm but we have a marriage based on trust, fidelity and Christ. We've been married 10 1/2 years.
  • lilRicki
    lilRicki Posts: 4,555 Member
    We will be together for almost 6 years, engaged for 4 by the time we get married. I know, long engagement, but we want a house and careers first. At least I'm sporting a stellar ring for the last 2 years lol
  • beckajw
    beckajw Posts: 1,728 Member
    5 years. Then we were engaged for 1.5 before getting married.
  • Montegue42
    Montegue42 Posts: 98
    We were together for just under three years, but it felt really sudden :P Not unwanted, of course! But he was still in school, and I had just graduated.
  • KALMdown
    KALMdown Posts: 211 Member
    Dated 3.5 years before getting engaged, married a year and a half later . We started dating on Jan. 1, 2000 after um... hooking up.... celebrating the millenium, but we knew each other for a year before that.
  • HauteP1nk
    HauteP1nk Posts: 2,139 Member
    You are still young. My question is....have you talked about it?!?! Communication is so important in a relationship.

    My husband and I briefly talked about marriage when we first started dating and he said he wasn't ready.....he had just moved out of his ex's house that she trapped him into staying with a signed lease but they were broken up for almost a year!!! The next time we talked was when he proposed to me!!!

    I would seriously talk to him....you are at an age that marriage is a viable option and you should know where the relationship stands and what he is thinking.

    That being said my hubby and I were 25 when we started dating, I was 25/he was 26 when engaged and both were 26 when we got married. He proposed to me 2 months after our first official date and he had been talking to each other and developing a friendship about 1 month before that.

    Don't judge your relationship by others, that can be really dangerous. We are not the norm but we have a marriage based on trust, fidelity and Christ. We've been married 10 1/2 years.

    I agree completely! You have do what is right for the two of you...not what your friends or family want. :)
  • MrsSWW
    MrsSWW Posts: 1,585 Member
    We moved in together I'd say about 2 months after we started going out, lived together for 17 year and got married in 2010. No engagement, no ring, no big fancy wedding. Still got the love :love:
  • jamaicanlady
    jamaicanlady Posts: 878 Member
    6 n half years.. I gave up thinking it was ever gona happen.. I had made loads of comments to him saying it had better happen soon.. when I stopped nagging it happened :D

    I stopped nagging...hoping it will happen :D
  • MMAQueen
    MMAQueen Posts: 279 Member
    10 months, then engaged for 3 months.

    we were friends for about 2 years before we started dating.

    been married just under 7 years and still madly in love :)
  • Tebbspcad
    Tebbspcad Posts: 233
    18 months, we only got engaged as I found out we were pregnant! We were very serious about the relationship anyway and had been planning on living together/getting married when we found out. We then bought a house together & got married when our son was 3 years old. We have 3 kids now & are very happy :) Life and circumstances dictated when we got engaged, if it's the right time for you then you need to have a conversation with your partner.

    BTW getting engaged/married just isn't that important to some people - my friends have been living with each other for over 20 years and are very happy with no itention of taking things down the aisle! Everyone is different :)
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