Judging other people's diaries

I have my diary open to others to see. I also get a lot out of seeing other folks. I comment all the time but always a positive comment. I can always find something positive to say. If they ate something that was not going to help them reach their goals I just say - "great logging!" If they have different goals than I do, I will comment on something that was healthy or generally give them a positive reinforcement for doing what they believe will help them toward their goals. That is what we are here to do! We get all kinds of negative everything from the real world.

If people want to explore other ways of eating they can bring it to the forums.

In the end tho - I like to have my diary available for others to look at and set an example for others to open up theirs if they want to - but I do NOT judge. I like to get ideas. If they do not have theirs open that is fine too. I can see my friends posts that they are either reaching their goals or not but they are here! Sharing their progress, feelings and actions towards their goals.

Honestly if i had a friend comment on my diary like that they wouldn't be my friend anymore. We are all allowed a cheat meal once in awhile

I've only really judged one person's diary before, but that was simply because she supposedly only ate one meal at Taco Bell all day. This happened more than once.

I'm sorry, but if you eat like that, you're life expectancy is going to drop dramatically. Either that, or she was cheating herself by not listing all the other foods she ate.

Well, when someone says "I'm not losing weight, what am I doing wrong", and I look at their diary and see McDonald's and KFC and ice cream all over the place, I don't feel out of line suggesting that maybe some changes would help. However, unsolicited advice and opinions are never ok.

I will only comment on my friends. And, if there is something that is not that healthy, I will PM them. I don't think that this sort of advice should be public.

Like a few of my friends, I 'judge' diaries of the people who say they need that kind of encouragement and support. If you say you need help eating better, I'll point out the stuff that you shouldn't have. If that hasn't been established, I typically just play cheerleader (horrible mental image) and move on with my life.

The way I look at things on here is like this: If you don't like the comments, don't let them make them. Either ask them (nicely) to stop, don't be their 'friend', or if you're that worried about it, make your diary private.

I have had my diary public ever since I joined MFP almost 2 yrs ago and have never had any negative comments about what I eat. But having it public helps to keep me accountable. Most people on here are really encouraging and motivating, but like in life you are going to run into a few that are not

I'm embarrassed that my ideals about food don't match the way I eat, especially when I'm here on the forums giving advice! It's mostly an anxiety thing... maybe I should open my diary, haha. We are all flawed. In RL I prefer forthright people, and none of my friends have any problem commenting on what I eat. Yeah it's a little annoying when my super fit best friend questions my serving size or decision to have dessert... but, well, he's super fit, and I'm not. So I kind of appreciate it.

I don’t take those kinds of comments as negative, I take them as my friends doing exactly as I have asked.. Keeping me on tract. I came here for the mutual support offered, and to help me stay on tract. I have some who are hard core, I have some who have overcome some great obstacles to reach their goals, some just to get started. I have some who are just getting started. I have so much respect for each and every one and I don’t take those kinds of comments as negative, I take them as my friends doing exactly as I have asked.. Keeping me on tract. I came here for the mutual support offered, and to help me stay on tract.
I gained without expecting to a great bunch of friends ,they will be a part of the reason I complete my goals and see myself as a healthier person.
It’s not meant as a personal attack, it’s a hey are you still on tract...
I’m thankful for it.

My friends are awesome. I never see comments like the OP said.

I totally agree. That is why my diary is private. You don't need to see what I eat,
to see my progress. I think it's called a DIARY for a reason.
And if you wanna know how I've been sucsessful ask and I'll tell you.
What works for some may not work for others. Including what
people eat daily.

I am new to mfp and need to check my diary settings - my own guilt is all I need - I write it all down - the good, the bad, and the alcohol (yes, I leave calories for an empty calorie drink at the end of the day). The diary tells you right there on the screen how you are doing, if anyone else chimed in with anything but great receipe ideas - I'd flame them - live and let live. We are all trying our best here!

Wow -- I had no idea people did that. Probably because it never even occured to me to make my food log public, or to go look at anyone else's. They're probably INTENDING to be helpful, because perhaps that's what would work for and motivate them, but you're right, they don't know you, where you are, where you came from, and what drives you. I say blow 'em off and/or block them (if that's an option). And keep on truckin'. :-)

I recently asked a friend what sort of diet or fitness goal he was going for since he closed out his diary with over 800 calories left and it was too early in the day..He replied back it was the App on phone, Butt dialing diet..LOL OPPS

I understand what you are saying but I am of a different opinion. A few days ago I opened my diary and asked for input. I was not upset by any comments because I am trying to learn how to eat right and lose weight. I can take their advice or leave it but I am struggling to get this weight off and it would be silly of me not to consider what healthy people who have accomplished their goals have to say... I consider it valuable information.