Magic Mike vs A Gentleman's Club

[So I pose this question. Is it the same? Is enjoying 2 hours at the local strip club different then watching Magic Mike?
*this assumes no touching or dances strictly viewing*]

It absolutely is the same. It doesn't matter whether there is touching of not. The movie, as well as "Gentleman Club" (strip club), plants seeds of temptation to go after what is forbidden and the "what if's" and the "grass is greener" thinking starts to set in. Not only is this a moral issue, but a relational and scientific issue as well. Even men and women of the strongest moral fortitude and caliber can fall to the temptations of sexual desire.

Research is showing the intertwined relationship between intimacy and sex in marital relationships and how it leads to stronger, happier, longer lasting marriages. Even images can have a profound effect on the way the mind thinks and reacts and can have negative effects.

This type of "stuff" also stimulates the pleasure centers in the brain, whether you want them to or not. If that is combined with any type of behavior that reinforces and validates the pleasure, it becomes difficult to correct. Its not impossible to correct, yet very difficult in way too many cases. For example: man and wife head to strip joint, man is mentally (and physically) aroused, man and wife go home and have sex. What is he mentally imaging: the stripper. What is she imaging: her husband having sex with the stripper and feeling totally disgusted and dirty after the sex act. Her trust in him is shaken and now he must win the heart of his wife over again.

My advise: DO NOT GO TO THE MOVIE.

Personally, I wouldn't take my wife to the movie nor would I go to a strip club with her. I don't even go to Hooters because of this. My wife is more important than that. She deserves better than that. She isn't some object of pleasure for my satisfaction. She is my wife; the one who spiritually, emotionally, and physically completes me.

I just can't wait for the hype around this movie to disappear. It's sad that eyecandy movies like this are getting so much attention when other better movies are ignored because they may not have "hot actors." Doesn't anyone care about the plot in a film anymore?

I care a lot about the plot, and this movie just didn't have it. The naked butts were great to look at, and I love the dancing. But storyline, nope.

[So I pose this question. Is it the same? Is enjoying 2 hours at the local strip club different then watching Magic Mike?
*this assumes no touching or dances strictly viewing*]

It absolutely is the same. It doesn't matter whether there is touching of not. The movie, as well as "Gentleman Club" (strip club), plants seeds of temptation to go after what is forbidden and the "what if's" and the "grass is greener" thinking starts to set in. Not only is this a moral issue, but a relational and scientific issue as well. Even men and women of the strongest moral fortitude and caliber can fall to the temptations of sexual desire.

Research is showing the intertwined relationship between intimacy and sex in marital relationships and how it leads to stronger, happier, longer lasting marriages. Even images can have a profound effect on the way the mind thinks and reacts and can have negative effects.

This type of "stuff" also stimulates the pleasure centers in the brain, whether you want them to or not. If that is combined with any type of behavior that reinforces and validates the pleasure, it becomes difficult to correct. Its not impossible to correct, yet very difficult in way too many cases. For example: man and wife head to strip joint, man is mentally (and physically) aroused, man and wife go home and have sex. What is he mentally imaging: the stripper. What is she imaging: her husband having sex with the stripper and feeling totally disgusted and dirty after the sex act. Her trust in him is shaken and now he must win the heart of his wife over again.

My advise: DO NOT GO TO THE MOVIE.

Personally, I wouldn't take my wife to the movie nor would I go to a strip club with her. I don't even go to Hooters because of this. My wife is more important than that. She deserves better than that. She isn't some object of pleasure for my satisfaction. She is my wife; the one who spiritually, emotionally, and physically completes me.

I wonder if the women going to ogle at Magic Mike are against pornography?

Doing > watching

doing what? Watching is all thats happening in both examples

Magic Mike has a plot, last I checked the Gentlemen's club didn't.

If the plot is so impotant then why do you know the name of the star and his name is on every womans lips?

Because its not about the plot is about Channing Tatum, his 6 pack and his hot Man package. Oh and matthew mcconaughey. thats the entire point of the thread. Regardless of the story line there were millions of women who went to the theater to privately fantasize in their own minds as the images of those men flashed across the screen. Women in this thread who disagree were fanning themselves With I know right comments about how hot the movie was. So dont give me this Oh my movie is an innocent film with no negative drawbacks. the purpose of the film was to give millions of Women a GNO to go get hot and bothered in a darkened movie theater.

Riddle me this:

Why do threads like this always turn into a question of morals, love, relationships, marriage etc. etc. etc.?

To each their own. I like going to strip clubs with my husband. I'm ok with him going to strip clubs with his friends. He's ok with me going to watch "Magic Mike". We love, trust and respect each other (sorry but I don't buy the whole if-your-s/o-goes-to-a-strip-club-he's-disrespecting-you-and-secretly-hates-women-and-sees-them-as-objects bologna).

I am the only person who knows anything about my relationship with my husband and for a stranger to step in and tell me -- or anyone else for that matter -- what their husband or significant other is doing and how it's affecting them is just plain ridiculous. I get that people don't like strip clubs, get jealous if their s/o goes to them and thinks he's going to run off and marry his favorite dancer but to throw out blanket generalizations, push your views on me and make it seem like you know my relationship and how my husband treats me is just ludicrous.

You can respectfully have your opinion and I can respectfully have mine. There is no right or wrong answer here but don't generalize and act as though you know my life because trust me. You don't and if you did? Well your hair would stand on end and you'd be shocked as all hell.

I personally don't have an issue with strip clubs. But I will say that from watching these threads the people who seemed to get bashed and generalized are the ones who are not okay with strip clubs, especially women. They get very belittled for their point of view, they get accused of being jealous and insecure when in reality none of us knows what is going on in their marriages either.

I think my argument would be that the men in the movie aren't attainable, where as at a local gentleman's club those women are, and are in your immediate area, to me there is a difference.

I wonder if the women going to ogle at Magic Mike are against pornography?

I honestly don't see the difference, and I'm a woman. In a no-touch scenario, I don't get the big deal. As for stuffing bills, you don't have to. I've been to strip clubs, and the girls will dance without it AND you can just hand them the bills.

I wonder if the women going to ogle at Magic Mike are against pornography?

I honestly don't see the difference, and I'm a woman. In a no-touch scenario, I don't get the big deal. As for stuffing bills, you don't have to. I've been to strip clubs, and the girls will dance without it AND you can just hand them the bills.

Does anybody care that these people in these clubs make their money off pathetic, unsatisfied people?
HELLO!
How about doing what you can in real life to earn what you desire without running off to a strip club to long for what you want but can't have?
ABSURD!

Self righteous much?