does anyone have a hard time making friends?

social media is killing personal interaction slowly

I agree! I have a lot of people who get upset at me because I am out of the loop when I don't check fb. I'm sorry I have a life, and that does not involve being inside on a computer all day long.

That's definitely me. My whole life I've felt like I just didn't quite fit in. I was a little too sophisticated for the rednecks and a little too redneck for the sophisticated folks. Sometimes I think it's a blessing, but other times it's lonely. It would be nice to have a good group of girlfriends to have supper dates with or to workout with, but I find that I'm just so awkward with conversation and never seem to really have that much in common with other women. It's always forced when I can talk about something they like. Plus, I'm a total goof-ball and not many people get my sense of humor.

^^ this is me in a nut shell. My redneck husband says I can be prissy, and my sister (who lives in NY) says I can be a little too country. GRRR! :sad:

I have the same problem. I'm pretty shy and I have trouble approaching people. I hate it I wish I was more outgoing...

I am... not sure why.. I can be outgoing in fact have to be with my job.. but outside of that I dont go up to people my friends 1 has to call me to do things... My kids keep me comany but Im getting the idea that I need to make more friends.. and yes as you have said put myself out there... kinda tired of being alone...

Homebody here! lol

I feel the same way. It seems all of my good friends have moved out of state over the last 10 yrs, and I am having trouble replacing them. I have alot of acquiescences but no close friends

Bump

Yes....it is really sad now. I want to be outside doing things, and not sitting around.

I blame the internet, home games, FB and everything else that is non-sociable out of the home!! This technology is what has kept people home and to themselves. In today's world EVERYONE and I mean EVERYONE is texting, FBooking and does email even exist anymore? But, nonetheless.... NO ONE GOES OUT ANYMORE!!

25yrs later... I'm very fortunate to still have my goodfriends and best friend from high school. We keep in contact by phone, email, text and through our hobby, scrapbooking! It takes effort on both parties and though our lives have been very busy... marriage, children, schools and many other things... We have still made the effort to keep in touch!

If your so called friends can't take the time to call you or see you, then move on... and those that have said that school was easier to make and have your friends.... if you really think about it... what is the difference from your work? You're still at work for 8 hours of the day and you still socialize with your coworkers...

Find people who have the same interest as you at your work, hang out with the single gals and do more happy hours. Join a community park that has activities like Salsa dancing or any other kind of dancing groups. You should also join a book club. I met one of my good friends in a book club and she's still my friend!

Before you know it... you'll have new friends, friends that will call you and vice-versa... it will take effort on your part but it will happen. =D And, who know... maybe your friends that haven't called you... feel the same... you just never know unless you call and express how you feel or how you've been feeling.

Good luck!

I blame the internet, home games, FB and everything else that is non-sociable out of the home!! This technology is what has kept people home and to themselves. In today's world EVERYONE and I mean EVERYONE is texting, FBooking and does email even exist anymore? But, nonetheless.... NO ONE GOES OUT ANYMORE!!

25yrs later... I'm very fortunate to still have my goodfriends and best friend from high school. We keep in contact by phone, email, text and through our hobby, scrapbooking! It takes effort on both parties and though our lives have been very busy... marriage, children, schools and many other things... We have still made the effort to keep in touch!

If your so called friends can't take the time to call you or see you, then move on... and those that have said that school was easier to make and have your friends.... if you really think about it... what is the difference from your work? You're still at work for 8 hours of the day and you still socialize with your coworkers...

Find people who have the same interest as you at your work, hang out with the single gals and do more happy hours. Join a community park that has activities like Salsa dancing or any other kind of dancing groups. You should also join a book club. I met one of my good friends in a book club and she's still my friend!

Unfortunately that is easier said than done especially when you are of different ethnicity & being surrounded by people at work with different interest. I work in a small company & we are only less than 50 people here. I do consider them as acquaintances but not close enough to be called friends. Moreover all of them are already married & are too busy with their family lives.

In my case, I thanked the internet because this is the only tool where I can freely express myself that I cannot do so in real life.

A very wise person told me friends you can count on one hand everyone else is an aquaintance.

I've found dimensions of friendships have changed as I've got older, friends are all doing different things. Try meetup.com its where groups of people meet up and do different activities and you can create a group yourself if you require. M x

I do! I was always the one that called my friends to get together or just chat. I decided to stop being the one that always calls and now I only have one or two people that I talk to. I do understand that people are busy with life in general but I don't think 5 minutes to return a call or text is to much to ask...or maybe it was. I will say that the few friends I have now have similar lives to mine so maybe its the similarities that make the difference....

In high school, I always made friends in what I did. Mostly, I was a musician, so I was very aggressive in seeking out other musicians to play with. Most of my time was spent forming bands, practicing, writing songs and that kind of thing. I made tons of friends that way. But, as I got older, people started falling out. Some guys would meet a girls and then just stop playing. With many of those people, I realized that other than music, we have nothing in common. In some cases, I found that I didn't even like the guy outside of music.

Then, I had to give up music for a while. So, life got interesting. All my "friends" stopped calling and I found myself very lonley.

Fast forward to today. Now my issue is different. I think now, I don't fit in anywhere. I have a well-paying professional corporate job in a pretty conservative company. I earned a BA in Economics and an MBA. However, I'm not really "that guy". I think m smart, and the work is good. But, the folks I work with are just not the type I would hang out with when I'm relaxing. I've tried hard. Outside of work, I find that I don't fit into any group well. I'm just an odd ball dude. I'm kind of rough and drink a lot, but I workout and am super health conscience. I'm quiet and people tell me soft-spoken, but I listen to really hard music. I like to do things, but I'm also a little lazy because I work hard and on weekends I enjoy vegging out, as opposed to going out and doing something. The qualities I like in my friends are usually at odds with my work life. I'm an ex-rock star that has a professional day job. It's just weird.

I've tried putting a band together, but at my age it's really difficult to do. Try finding 4 or 5 other guys with similar interests and the same schedule for practices...it's really hard. And I just feel like its impossible. I have tons of bar friends, but since I have been going out a lot less, even those friendships are fading out.

I agree somewhat with what some are saying. You really have to make an effort and put yourself out there. And, often, people are lazy and flake out on you. We're all busy with our lives. People have families and other responsibilities.

I have one friend that I'm probably getting ready to lose because it's getting to be exhausting. Maybe I'm just not a good friend or something.

I also have a hang up about doing stuff with guys. Like I would never ver go to the movies with another guy. That just seems so gay. I won't go out to dinner either. I mostly center friendships around activities. So, I'll try to find some surfing buddies, some musician buddies, some folks to go running with, etc. I can find these pockets of friends to do things with, but I have a hard time taking it beyond that activity.