Cleavage, inappropriate or fine?

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  • bewitchinglife
    bewitchinglife Posts: 167 Member
    Having well rounded girls myself, I agree they are hard to keep covered in the summer time. Not that I try too hard. It's my body, and I like it. I'll wear what makes me happy, if you don't like it don't look.

    I think boobs are freakin' awesome and I'd rather see beautiful breast than some hairy guy's butt crack any day.

    If you got it, flaunt it!
  • AReasor
    AReasor Posts: 355 Member
    As long as you are happy and comfortable then go for it! There will always be someone out there with something negative to say. Do your own thing. I am sure 9 times out of 10 they are just jealous. Heck, I'm jealous. :wink:
  • jadedone
    jadedone Posts: 2,446 Member
    Sooo... here's the question for Ladies... would you be mad, uncomfortable, feel wrong, or something, if you SEE someone with cleavage... not like almost things popping out.. but like someone our fellow member says.. just some but obviously it tends to be more prominent?..

    I mean.. for me.. OF COURSE!!.. I would like it.. I am man.. is eye candy.. but also..I must accept that it is distracting for a MAN!..

    But is it distracting for a woman too?..

    So to answer the main question.. I think is ok.. as long as it is not excessively revealing... you have them big.. why not even "enjoy" a little of their magnetism?

    As long as it isn't ridiculous (i.e. you look like you will have a wardrobe malfunction if you have to speed across the crosswalk, or I can see your entire breast when you bend over to check your cell phone) I don't really care. Of course at the nigh club, I still think that is ridiculous, but all bets are off there. If it is the middle of the day? That's just wrong. (34Hish here)

    As a busty woman, I know how hard it is to find clothing that isn't too low cut. 90% of v-necks I have found are just too low. i.e. I look like Madonna in the Vogue video, and you can see the bridge of my bra or more.
  • jadedone
    jadedone Posts: 2,446 Member
    Why do some women hate when men oogle? If the cleavage is out, why is it annoying if we look?

    It is one thing to look. A whole other thing is to forget we have a face. Or eyes.
  • 180farm
    180farm Posts: 230
    The girls have a mind of their own. When your large chested there really isn't much you can do about it unless you button up to your neck or wear huge unflattering clothes. They're part of you so you might as well let them shine!
  • willy0524
    willy0524 Posts: 1,897
    The girls have a mind of their own. When your large chested there really isn't much you can do about it unless you button up to your neck or wear huge unflattering clothes. They're part of you so you might as well let them shine!

    I agree :drinker:
  • EBFNP
    EBFNP Posts: 529 Member
    Its ok anywhere but the workplace and maybe the gym, IMO!
  • Mhaney
    Mhaney Posts: 467 Member
    I personally think cleavage is inappropriate in most places. I don't apprciate seeing it, that's for sure. I don't care how fit and trim I get, I will never be comfortable showing it off the way some women do. It's tacky and classless to me. Swimsuits is one thing, shopping/dining out is another.

    I had a meeting with my daughter's teacher last year and her stuff was ALL in my face, and all I could think was "I bet she complains that no one looks her in the face."
  • BigRich822
    BigRich822 Posts: 681
    Love this thread!
  • shaynak112
    shaynak112 Posts: 751 Member
    Obviously at work there is a different standard. But I'm guessing you don't mean at work since you're wearing yoga pants. And if you're allowed to wear yoga pants at work - totally jealous! lol
    Anyway, I'm 36D, a bit smaller than you, but I do feel like there is a bit of a double standard.
    A cup gals can walk around in next to nothing and it's not a big deal but D or DD gals walk around in something even a bit revealing and it's just craziness :p.
    It's just ... we have a bit more to "reveal" if that makes sense.

    All in all, if you're just wandering around, errands, hanging around at home, visiting friends/family, etc. then it's just fine!!
  • walkwithme1
    walkwithme1 Posts: 492 Member
    it's revealing a lot less then a bikini top would, so what's the problem?

    I hate this argument. I know what you are trying to say because you clarified that you don't wear low-cut tops to work or around children, but too many people use the bikini top argument as an excuse to wear inappropriate things at inappropriate times. Just because a bikini top is acceptable at the beach doesn't mean it's acceptable everywhere, and the same goes for cleavage-baring tops, midriff-baring tops, and *kitten*-cheek-baring shorts/skirts.

    There is also a difference between "low-cut" and having pretty much everything on display. I live in Texas. It's hot, and the women dress like it is hot, so cleavage isn't anything that's going to raise eyebrows around here. But having your boobs pushed so far out of your top/dress that I can see part of your areola is ridiculous. If it's at the beach or some place where people are normally not wearing much clothing, I don't care. But in a restaurant or a grocery store or a shopping mall, yes, I am judging you as an attention *kitten*.


    ^^^^this! Drives me nuts seeing cute girls with everything showing. Not everyone wants to see your boobs. I live nowhere near the beach and constantly see girls and women in sundresses with boobs pushed up to their chins and way to much cleavage showing. Yes, guys are looking at you but for all the WRONG reasons. (I'm a 38c and yes I wear some low cut tank tops but I keep it classy) and there is a very thin line between classy and trailer park trashy when it comes to this.
  • starla5881
    starla5881 Posts: 190 Member
    I always say- even in a turtle neck I have clevage. These puppies have a mind of their own !
    Ha! I always say this as well. Glad I'm not the only one whose cleavage has a mind of its own. :smile:
  • slkehl
    slkehl Posts: 3,801 Member
    I don't like having boobs in my face, but it's probably just cuz I'm jealous
  • F__7
    F__7 Posts: 371 Member
    Why do some women hate when men oogle? If the cleavage is out, why is it annoying if we look?

    It is one thing to look. A whole other thing is to forget we have a face. Or eyes.

    Ok... so let's put it this way.. I will give you a flower... show you some yummy ice cream.. make you laugh and smile.. that is nice right?.. well.. man don't think when cleavage is on the radar.. is just nature... of course rudeness and staring like you want to sleep over is not ok.. but just remember.. the brain goes off when that happens.. :D
  • kvf323
    kvf323 Posts: 16 Member
    More cleavage the better! Ive never heard a man complain about it and any woman that does is probably just jealous
  • F__7
    F__7 Posts: 371 Member
    More cleavage the better! Ive never heard a man complain about it and any woman that does is probably just jealous

    Ok.. I am a fan of yours NOW!!! :wink:
  • loneworg
    loneworg Posts: 342 Member
    Cleavage is awesome that all I got to add lol
  • alikrorp225
    alikrorp225 Posts: 54
    Lately, throughout the summer, I've been wearing yoga pants and a low cut top. It's comfortable and doesn't make me melt with the heat of the summer, my problem is people seem to get pissed off that I'm showing cleavage. I have rather big breasts (DD38) so I have a bit to show off. But I personally don't think it's a bad thing, it's revealing a lot less then a bikini top would, so what's the problem?

    Do any other big breasted women have this problem, it seems it's socially acceptable for smaller breasted women to show some cleavage than it is for a big breasted woman.

    Am I being to inappropriate, or are people over reacting?

    *(I wear low cut things at the beach/ getting ice cream or just laying out in the sun. Never around young kids or work lol)

    First, you just wear what you want. It seems you're choosing appropriate places, so meh!@ anyone who has a problem with it. I'm in love with those tops with the built in extra material(I won't go as far as saying it's a bra haha). I wear them all the time here in Texas...it's friggin hot! My husband LOVES it when I wear them. I did have a friend ask me where my bra was, though. I just laughed it off. I'm not "big-breasted." I'm average, I suppose. Anyway, I wear what I like. If someone doesn't like it...too bad for them. :)
  • missymuffet459
    missymuffet459 Posts: 162
    I am 34DD and am very self-conscious about my cleavage. I do everything I can to cover them up within reason. I usually wear a tank top underneath most shirts to make them more modest- even in the 100 degree weather we are having. The problem is that the CLEAVAGE IS STILL THERE. I do what I can and if it offends someone then so be it. I am not going to wear a turtle neck or my husband's t-shirts everyday.

    I don't mind if men happen to notice- they are men after all. But is it really that hard to not look there? I have a face and eyes too! Once glance I understand, but multiple glances and you are on my nerves!

    I hope when all is said and done that I lose a bit in my chest area even though my husband disagrees :love: .
  • alikrorp225
    alikrorp225 Posts: 54
    I am 34DD and am very self-conscious about my cleavage. I do everything I can to cover them up within reason. I usually wear a tank top underneath most shirts to make them more modest- even in the 100 degree weather we are having. The problem is that the CLEAVAGE IS STILL THERE. I do what I can and if it offends someone then so be it. I am not going to wear a turtle neck or my husband's t-shirts everyday.

    I don't mind if men happen to notice- they are men after all. But is it really that hard to not look there? I have a face and eyes too! Once glance I understand, but multiple glances and you are on my nerves!

    I hope when all is said and done that I lose a bit in my chest area even though my husband disagrees :love: .

    I understand where you're coming from. My daughter, who's 17, is large on top. She is always wearing a cami or tank under her shirts to attempt to cover up. She's very modest(THANKFULLY lol). She is in a constant battle to keep covered and is sometimes self-conscious about it.

    I say you wear what you're comfortable in and let the rest go...in appropriate places, of course. :smile:
  • raerae514
    raerae514 Posts: 171 Member
    Let's be real here...women show cleavage for attention, which is fine. The problem is that most of the time they receive unwanted and negative attention. Goes with the territory. If you like to good attention....then you have to expect the unwanted. And cleavage at work is never appropriate. Cleavage after 5pm....Hell Yeah!!

    "Let's be real"? Really?

    The only shirts I own that do not show cleavage are either men's tshirts or men's sweaters. Also I want to point out that THOSE shirts make my boobs like bigger and rounder, and ti's then that i personally get more comments. So pardon me if I want to wear girl clothes. A low-cut v-neck on a 34B may show no cleavage while the same shirt on a 38DDD will show a TON of cleavage. Why shouldn't we be able to wear the same clothes?

    If you're uncomfortable with people looking then cover it up. If you don't care, then FLAUNT it. I don't care. But just because it's on display doesn't mean it's for sale. LOOKING is fine, great, whatever, I can't stop everyone's eyes. But it's the idiot jerks at bars who go WOOAHH TITS *disgusting comment*.. those are the ones I kick in the *kitten* with my pointy-toed shoe.

    And as for those attention-seekers, not only do the wear the lowest-cut tops, but also the shortest skirts, the highest shoes, the fake tan, the *kitten* makeup, etc, ya know, they ones that look like hookers. Whereas if I dress for an evening out, (I do not dress like a lady of the evening) it will be a dress that is knee-length, 2 or 3" heels (not 6"), regular makeup, regular hair (which always sucks regardless) and YES, some cleavage.

    There's a difference between looking for attention, and just wanting to look nice.

    And my cleavage looks NICE.
  • pittskaa
    pittskaa Posts: 319 Member
    I think it's fine I am also that size and I think it's completely appropriate to wear that. Girls with flat chests can do it. So why can't we?? If you got it flaunt itttt
  • brewerchick
    brewerchick Posts: 70 Member
    :sad: I want big boobs
  • summertime_girl
    summertime_girl Posts: 3,945 Member
    Always appropriate, unless it just gets ridiculous, and you're showing more boob than what's covered.
  • iiiEllie
    iiiEllie Posts: 224 Member
    I hate cleavage for online shopping, the shirt looks adorable on the model, then I have to factor in that my chest is at least 3 cup sizes larger than hers. Haha. It makes buying clothes without trying them on nearly impossible unless I feel like everyone getting an eyefull.
  • DelainaB
    DelainaB Posts: 28
    I struggle with this too. I'm a mom and a 36DD so sometimes not only am I considering can I wear this without looking like a ho, but I'm wondering if whatever top is too "slutty" for a mom. I feel like many of the tops that I wear wouldn't be revealing if I didn't have large boobs, so where as a flatter chested person can get away with a top without looks, I, in the same thing....get stares.

    I've finally come to the conclusion that I can't live in a mu-mu just because I have a large chest. I have a daughter, and I think there's a fine line between teaching morality, and teaching her to be ashamed of her body. As long as you are within the dress code of where ever you are I don't see any issue with a low cut tank top. Breasts are nothing to be ashamed of, and a little cleavage never hurt anybody.
  • pandorajinel
    pandorajinel Posts: 13
    Semi unpopular opinion, but if you are getting stares you are probably showing too much cleavage. Nobody ever believes me, but there really isn't that much difference coolness wise between someone wearing a tank top and someone wearing a thin long sleeved t-shirt (believe me, I've done both in my life time), but I don't expect everyone to dress as I do.

    To clarify I am only talking about when you are out and about. It's never appropriate at work and it's your own business what you wear in your own home.
  • jperrysunlover
    jperrysunlover Posts: 96 Member
    It's hot here too! When I'm not wearing suits and bras and demure tops to work, I wear lots of cleavage baring tops. My husband loves it (he bought most of them for me) and his opinion is the one that matters most to me.
  • mikeyboy
    mikeyboy Posts: 1,057 Member
    Big, small, covered, on display.... I love boobies! :flowerforyou:
  • Roadie2000
    Roadie2000 Posts: 1,801 Member
    I'm gonna go warm up my motorboat.
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