What's your BIGGEST MISTAKE??

I've made plenty of mistakes but the one I wish I could change would be to go back and keep trying in recovery, and not give up and relapse. I'm in recovery again and I'm doing well, but around the time I relapsed years ago, I relapsed really badly, I was sectioned and my little sister developed anorexia shortly after. I know it's an illness and someone can't MAKE you ill but children copy those they aspire to be like, I played such a big part in her illness because she watched me and then copied what I was doing. So if I could go back and change anything, I would take away the pain from her life. It's been a long few months but she's finally moving in the right direction:)

Mine wasn't so much a mistake as something missed.... I was in love with my best friend and never told him. I was too afraid I would lose him and the friendship wouldn't survive. Fast forward 20 years and we've both married other people and lost each other anyway... I wish I would've just told him.

Oh this is really got me thinking... and many of the things I have done (and continue to do) have caused pain to myself and others. Do I think they are mistakes? Not sure, some yes, but I can see why I did what I do most of the time. I would like to think that I work hard towards forgiving myself for the past and learning from the situations that I come across where I have to make choices..

I think there is a nicer way of asking this which could be:

What is the biggest lesson you have learned ?

What do you guys think?

I like this!

I have one.

"Regrets, I've had a few..." and for me the song stops there.

I would say marrying the ex but there was a lot of good that came out of that.

There's a lot I wish I could go back and do again with what I know now, but it was what it was. I didn't always do the best with what I knew at the time, but to me the important thing is to learn from my mistakes and do better the next time. That's what I try to teach my kids. Mistakes are how we learn best sometimes and as long as we learn from them, mistakes are okay. Hopefully, we can avoid making the huge ones that alter the course of our lives.

Can't live in regret, that's the past. Live with hope of a better today and a better tomorrow. That's something I keep trying to remind myself.

This is more of a regret than a mistake but it kills me to this day..even 8 years later..my mom was dying..breast cancer that had spread to the bones and then finally to the brain..she was 4 hours away. My children were young..barely 2 and just turned 6..I was driving that trip every weekend with my kids to spend with my mom. Would go anytime she wanted me, needed me or something was wrong no matter the day or time. The weekend before she died I had took my kids and we spent the weekend. Came home that Sunday night because my daughter had school. That day she took a turn for the worse..I call my hubby home from work, drop the kids off with my best friend and off we go. I stayed with her that entire day and night and most of the next day. My best friend still had my kids so I was torn between having to take care of them and being with my mom. I made the decision I felt that needed to be made at the time..I told my mom I needed to go get the kids and I'd be back up the next day unless she needed me or wanted me and I'd drop everything and come. She told me to go take care of my babies. I get home and called to check on her and they said she was sleeping and had been since I left but they'd tell her I called and would call me if anything changed. I was glued to my phone for that previous month and the ONE time I decide to take my kids outside for a little walk I missed the call telling me she had just passed!! I have so much regret for leaving my mom when she probably needed me most!!! All the not so good choices I have ever made in my life or all the stupid things I've done or said can NEVER compare to the guilt I feel about this! Even as I type this..8 years and 3 months later..it still brings a lump to my throat and tears to my eyes!

Giving up on life.
That's my biggest regret.
I cut myself for about 4 months, and I will never regret that, the friends I had at the time barely spoke to me, they weren't there for me, and if I hadn't I'm not sure how I would of coped. But I regret that I allowed the past to affect me so much, that it tore me up on the inside and that I didn't just let it go. I fell out with my best friend, but I think everyone knows what it's like to have that friend who is like a sister/brother. Well she was that to me. And I had no one left, no friends. And I felt life was no longer worth living. I've done stupid things, and they never helped, I couldn't even kill myself and someone ridiculous reason I believe I can commit to this but I'll try my hardest and won't promise anymore because in reality, I'm not the person I crack up to be.

Taking a summer teaching position believing that I'd actually be teaching...only to find out 4 days into it that all I'm doing is babysitting....I did not go to college to babysit....I'll go back to enjoying my free summer and do some real teaching in August!!

well lots but you learn from them so guess its a good thing.

Probably losing my virginity to someone I wasn't in love with.

This is more of a regret than a mistake but it kills me to this day..even 8 years later..my mom was dying..breast cancer that had spread to the bones and then finally to the brain..she was 4 hours away. My children were young..barely 2 and just turned 6..I was driving that trip every weekend with my kids to spend with my mom. Would go anytime she wanted me, needed me or something was wrong no matter the day or time. The weekend before she died I had took my kids and we spent the weekend. Came home that Sunday night because my daughter had school. That day she took a turn for the worse..I call my hubby home from work, drop the kids off with my best friend and off we go. I stayed with her that entire day and night and most of the next day. My best friend still had my kids so I was torn between having to take care of them and being with my mom. I made the decision I felt that needed to be made at the time..I told my mom I needed to go get the kids and I'd be back up the next day unless she needed me or wanted me and I'd drop everything and come. She told me to go take care of my babies. I get home and called to check on her and they said she was sleeping and had been since I left but they'd tell her I called and would call me if anything changed. I was glued to my phone for that previous month and the ONE time I decide to take my kids outside for a little walk I missed the call telling me she had just passed!! I have so much regret for leaving my mom when she probably needed me most!!! All the not so good choices I have ever made in my life or all the stupid things I've done or said can NEVER compare to the guilt I feel about this! Even as I type this..8 years and 3 months later..it still brings a lump to my throat and tears to my eyes!

I was with my mom when she died (from pancreatic cancer), I heard that last breath and I regret not being there enough although my son and I lived with her majority of her final diagnosis. I'm so sorry you live with that regret but hope you forgive yourself for it. You were caring for your kids as she would have done for you.

My regret? Not seeking and accepting help earlier in my life.

#1 -- My one and only ex (if you can call what we had a relationship). It was built on smoke and mirrors and BS ... I was too inexperienced, too young and too desperate (I was even heavier then) to stand up for myself when things didn't seem right to me. I overlooked glaring red flags (disappearing acts, employment status,a Jekyll/Hyde temper, credentials that didn't check out and the "roommate") just to show the world that I could get a boyfriend too. In my mother's immortal words, "He wanted a fool" and he hit the jackpot with me! :brokenheart:

Almost 20 years later, if everything online about him is to be believed, not only he is still deceitful (my father, who never met him, famously referred to him as a "false prophet") but he has stepped up his violence game! I could go find him and show myself off (I was already heavy when I met him and had gained about 80 pounds since then the last time I saw him) but I would rather not invite that kind of trouble into my life.


#2 -- About eight years ago someone I knew before came back into my life by chance and we've become great friends since then. I realized over the last couple of years that I am crazy about him. I have not pursued for a lot of BS reasons -- professional goals (his and mine), our distance from each other, and my great fear that he'll reject me outright. :embarassed:

Staying with my ex as long as I did.

Biggest mistake? Lets see, where to start?
I had a free ride to college, forgot I took a class, didn't go to class, failed class, lost free ride... (how someone forgets they took a class... I just don't know)
Running my car out of oil... I found out I had really dirty transmission fluid (my dipsticks were reversed, eh, you live and learn, and buy a new car since the rod went through the engine)
Getting myself into such financial straits that I had to file for bankruptcy at the age of 30.
Staying at the job I'm at now because I'm too scared to do anything else.