Why aren't more guys ballsy?

AmberJslimsAWAY
AmberJslimsAWAY Posts: 2,339 Member
And I mean that as in personality.

I'm single. Super tall girl so I intimidate the crap out of men, apparently. But if see an attractive girl that you want to take out, why not just ask? Stop being so damn shy! lol

That's my "rant"...
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  • ElizabethRoad
    ElizabethRoad Posts: 5,138 Member
    Why don't you ask?
  • bikermike5094
    bikermike5094 Posts: 1,752 Member
    because I'm married and my wife wouldnt appreciate me doing that.. otherwise......
  • spade117
    spade117 Posts: 2,466 Member
    Wanna go out?
  • sourkeys
    sourkeys Posts: 36 Member
    Got a Girlfriend. But when I didn't I was still to shy to just walk up to someone and ask.... Still have a hard time striking a conversation up..
  • Grimmerick
    Grimmerick Posts: 3,342 Member
    Eye contact goes a long way with opening the door for a guy to ask. Sometimes you just gotta crack the door lol
  • holeshottdr
    holeshottdr Posts: 364 Member
    Yep, my wife doesn't let me ask women out either....
  • _binary_jester_
    _binary_jester_ Posts: 2,132 Member
    Because rejection for guys sucks as bad as rejection for women.

    Why don't you ask a guy out?
  • portalm
    portalm Posts: 201 Member
    Wanna go out?

    Anyone can be an E-thug/E-pimp over the internet. Gotta do it in person, thats when it counts.
  • AmberJslimsAWAY
    AmberJslimsAWAY Posts: 2,339 Member
    Why don't you ask?

    Because I'm a tad old fashioned
  • AmberJslimsAWAY
    AmberJslimsAWAY Posts: 2,339 Member
    Wanna go out?

    Anyone can be an E-thug/E-pimp over the internet. Gotta do it in person, thats when it counts.

    exactly
  • lbetancourt
    lbetancourt Posts: 522 Member
    if he's not asking could it possibly be that he's not interested? And, if he is interested & not asking... he lacks confidence. why would you want to date that? the right one will ask.

    reminds me that being single can sometimes suck.

    good luck!
  • portalm
    portalm Posts: 201 Member
    And I mean that as in personality.

    I'm single. Super tall girl so I intimidate the crap out of men, apparently. But if see an attractive girl that you want to take out, why not just ask? Stop being so damn shy! lol

    That's my "rant"...

    Besides the common answer of "I have a SO" or "because rejection sucks for men and women"

    Try this, Women send rediculously crazy stupid signals that no one, except for maybe their best friends understand. This is a Diverse world with anything from eye contact to a brush of the hair, or even a giggle in your direction could mean anything...

    IE Eye contact=

    What he is thinking: Shes either digging me or thinks im looking at her and its freaking her out.

    Brush of the hair: pretty commonly used, Usually means I wanna get this freaking hair outta my face. Not COME OVER HERE AND TALK TO ME GUY!

    Giggle in your direction: Well this usually is good, But how many different types of giggles are there? It could be he is cute lemme show him im witty and quirky and stuff *Giggles* Or look at that freak! he thinks he can get with me *Giggles*

    For me however I have a huge set of "insert here" I dont care if a girl rejects me because im start funny and successful... Her loss not mine!
  • Why don't you ask?

    Because I'm a tad old fashioned



    So what you are saying is you don't put out on the first date? Since you are old fashioned ?
  • AmberJslimsAWAY
    AmberJslimsAWAY Posts: 2,339 Member
    For me however I have a huge set of "insert here" I dont care if a girl rejects me because im start funny and successful... Her loss not mine!

    I wish more guys looked at it this way
  • AmberJslimsAWAY
    AmberJslimsAWAY Posts: 2,339 Member
    Why don't you ask?

    Because I'm a tad old fashioned



    So what you are saying is you don't put out on the first date? Since you are old fashioned ?

    I sure don't
  • Drenched_N_Motivation
    Drenched_N_Motivation Posts: 1,004 Member
    You're right. This hot girl intimidated the *kitten* out of me at the bar the other night, my friends kept telling me she was looking at me all night but I just couldnt make my move. :sad:
  • spade117
    spade117 Posts: 2,466 Member

    So what you are saying is you don't put out on the first date? Since you are old fashioned ?

    I sure don't

    Wanna go out?

    Nevermind. :)
  • still_crafty
    still_crafty Posts: 682 Member
    Why don't you ask?

    Because I'm a tad old fashioned

    as am I but if I notice a guy noticing me and he doesn't make a move to talk to me I'll go talk to him.
  • portalm
    portalm Posts: 201 Member
    For me however I have a huge set of "insert here" I dont care if a girl rejects me because im start funny and successful... Her loss not mine!

    I wish more guys looked at it this way

    Not all guys are smart, funny, or successful. Maybe it takes a combination? I personally have always had the confidence to persue what I want in life. But then again I had a great male role-model that showed me what it was like to be a good man and to have alot to offer. My father is an amazing man. But now I have taken his teaching and use them and apply them into my life and made myself better!
  • AmberJslimsAWAY
    AmberJslimsAWAY Posts: 2,339 Member

    So what you are saying is you don't put out on the first date? Since you are old fashioned ?

    I sure don't

    Wanna go out?

    Nevermind. :)

    :laugh:
  • thebaconbeast
    thebaconbeast Posts: 560 Member
    You haven't met me then , I will at any opportunity given ...
  • Tat2dDom624
    Tat2dDom624 Posts: 1,226 Member
    because I'm married and my wife wouldnt appreciate me doing that.. otherwise......

    I'm in the same boat.....
  • Merrychrissmith
    Merrychrissmith Posts: 232 Member
    I mean this in a gentle way but "being old fashioned" about not making an approach of your own is another way of saying "I fear rejection, so you make the first move and I will decide to reject....or not."

    Double standard.
  • Hendrix7
    Hendrix7 Posts: 1,903 Member
    Why don't you ask?

    Because I'm a tad old fashioned

    You can't have it both ways.

    Take the initiative or stop complaining.
  • _binary_jester_
    _binary_jester_ Posts: 2,132 Member
    Funny only gets you so far. I don't do lines. But I there are a couple of times I walked up to someone and tried to start a conversation (which I am damn good at) and she looked at me like I just handed her a moldy fish. I show no fear in talking to someone so this was based on looks alone.
    Have that happen a couple of times and meh...
  • Il_DaniD_lI
    Il_DaniD_lI Posts: 1,593 Member
    Move to Canada, lot's of ballsy guys here :)
  • Drenched_N_Motivation
    Drenched_N_Motivation Posts: 1,004 Member
    Amber, how tall are you?
  • And I mean that as in personality.

    I'm single. Super tall girl so I intimidate the crap out of men, apparently. But if see an attractive girl that you want to take out, why not just ask? Stop being so damn shy! lol

    That's my "rant"...

    I'm 6', and I have the same issue. Lots of "appreciative" looks...but no one with the guts to walk up to me. I've been told multiple times I am intimidating. But geeze.
  • AlayshaJ
    AlayshaJ Posts: 703 Member
    Pahaha, I was about to say... I know some pretty ballsy guys. My husband is one of them! I'm pretty sure only a select few would have the confidence to date a woman taller than them.
  • TylerJ76
    TylerJ76 Posts: 4,375 Member
    I mean this in a gentle way but "being old fashioned" about not making an approach of your own is another way of saying "I fear rejection, so you make the first move and I will decide to reject....or not."

    Double standard.

    This.
    Good Job, Santa