do girls want the bad boyz or the nice guy

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  • devil_in_a_blue_dress
    devil_in_a_blue_dress Posts: 5,214 Member
    What I never understood is why some women think that nice means sexually weak.

    Frequently, the guys claiming to be "nice" are the ones who are bitter about being "friends-zoned" and talk a lot about how women don't want a guy who values them for more than sex. So really, it's those "nice guys" who are to blame. Those "nice guys" also tend to be the ones who honestly believe providing emotional support means they are going to get sex. When sex is denied they cry about their crappy luck with women.

    My point is, don't blame women -- blame guys who downplay the importance of sex to get sex.
  • j4nash
    j4nash Posts: 1,719 Member
    Women like confidence.
  • yo_andi
    yo_andi Posts: 2,178 Member
    Um, I don't want any kind of boyz... especially with a z at the end like that.
  • fbmandy55
    fbmandy55 Posts: 5,263 Member
    I grew out of the bad boy stage. I spent too much time with a guy who was in and out of jail, getting arrested for fighting and being a 'bad boy". I want a responsible guy who is going to put his focus on me, a family and a future and not trying to be cool and looking for hot chicks to hook up with.
  • Rosplosion
    Rosplosion Posts: 739 Member
    I don't know WHAT I want.

    I know what I have though. I have the BEST guy.
  • angelh1908
    angelh1908 Posts: 175 Member
    btw, to the women who are saying they want bad boyz... yeah... you haven't seen many (or are delusional about them). See I've seen bad boyz. Rapists. Pimps (who pimp out their own SO and even sisters), drug dealers who purposely get their girl addicted to hard drugs so they could pimp her out. Murderers. Women beaters. Get you pregnant and take off. Beat your kids. Call you names in front of everybody. Mooch off of you. etc.

    I'm sure you would love to have those bad boyz

    OK.....clearly our definition of "bad boy" differs. I wasn't thinking CRIMINAL when OP asked about bad boys....:frown:
  • bloominheck
    bloominheck Posts: 869 Member
    Nice guys during the day. Bad boys in bed. :blushing:
  • fbmandy55
    fbmandy55 Posts: 5,263 Member
    btw, to the women who are saying they want bad boyz... yeah... you haven't seen many (or are delusional about them). See I've seen bad boyz. Rapists. Pimps (who pimp out their own SO and even sisters), drug dealers who purposely get their girl addicted to hard drugs so they could pimp her out. Murderers. Women beaters. Get you pregnant and take off. Beat your kids. Call you names in front of everybody. Mooch off of you. etc.

    I'm sure you would love to have those bad boyz

    OK.....clearly our definition of "bad boy" differs. I wasn't thinking CRIMINAL when OP asked about bad boys....:frown:

    I'm trying to picture a bad boy in a non-criminal way or non-****head kind of way and I am struggling. What do you picture a bad boy to be?
  • diodelcibo
    diodelcibo Posts: 2,564 Member
    They actually just want some wine and chocolate.
  • whierd
    whierd Posts: 14,025 Member
    What I never understood is why some women think that nice means sexually weak.

    Frequently, the guys claiming to be "nice" are the ones who are bitter about being "friends-zoned" and talk a lot about how women don't want a guy who values them for more than sex. So really, it's those "nice guys" who are to blame. Those "nice guys" also tend to be the ones who honestly believe providing emotional support means they are going to get sex. When sex is denied they cry about their crappy luck with women.

    My point is, don't blame women -- blame guys who downplay the importance of sex to get sex.

    Did I.come off as whining? :huh:
  • JBsCrazyGirl
    JBsCrazyGirl Posts: 337
    I don't know about the other Ladies, but I prefer a man who treats me like Lady:heart:
  • BenchPressingCats
    BenchPressingCats Posts: 1,826 Member
    They actually just want some wine and chocolate.

    Make it beer and chocolate and you've got a deal!
  • LaLouve_RK
    LaLouve_RK Posts: 899 Member
    Both I think...but what do I know

    Agreed with both! :happy:
  • BenchPressingCats
    BenchPressingCats Posts: 1,826 Member
    I don't know about the other Ladies, but I prefer a man who treats me like Lady:heart:

    I like this to a point. I dated one guy who would open the car door for me and I almost gagged. I don't mind doors to restaurants or anything like that, it just seemed to be a bit much when it was the car door too.

    Maybe the real problem was that it was MY car and I didn't want him touching it more than he had to. I'm a bit possessive when it comes to my car.
  • RitaB19
    RitaB19 Posts: 221 Member
    I don't know about the other Ladies, but I prefer a man who treats me like Lady:heart:

    I Love this one!! That is what I prefer too :) And kissing the ground I walk on helps too. :smooched: So Nice, but still Manly is what I like. :wink:
  • pspetralia
    pspetralia Posts: 963 Member
    They want men. Men can be bad in the sense that they know what they want and will try and get it, even if its something the girl disapproves.

    Most of the "men" nowadays are boys who tip toe around everybody. They lack confidence in themselves. When you don't even believe in yourself, why should any women?

    Most (not all) girls like a nice guy. Just be confident enough to tell her that you won't always be a nice guy when the need for a tough person comes along.

    :flowerforyou:
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 49,031 Member
    They just want the guy they want to really want them. Doesn't matter if the guy was nice or bad.

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  • saxmaniac
    saxmaniac Posts: 1,133 Member
    Bad, but not so bad as to be abusive -- but, note, he still will get laid just fine.
    Nice, but not so nice as to be an obsequious doormat, passive-aggressive, or bitter. This guy won't get laid. Ever.

    **** the extremes.

    And what's with categorizing men as either/or? We are a bit more complicated than cardboard cutouts. My brother in law is a tough-looking biker dude with a heart of gold and loves his kitty cats. And some nice guys with short hair and no tattoos have a hidden bad streak.
  • Gizziemoto
    Gizziemoto Posts: 430 Member
    Both. Been with my bad body/good guy 26 years.
  • misscristie
    misscristie Posts: 643 Member
    Girls want the bad boy. Women want the good guy.
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  • heberlonghurst
    heberlonghurst Posts: 156
    My experience is that they completely ignore men who are intelligent, responsible, hardworking, educated, well-read, cultured and respectful and instead sleep with the men who are crass, misogynist, callus and cruel.

    People on this board have already commented that it is the nice-guys fault for being nice. But, really what type of basis is that for establishing a relationship. Do I have to be mean to women in order for them to treat me with respect? What type of respect is that?
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  • bikermike5094
    bikermike5094 Posts: 1,752 Member
    speaking from experience.... bad boyz....:glasses:
  • dakotababy
    dakotababy Posts: 2,407 Member
    I think girls who like bad boys just want to fix them.

    In the end - Nice guys always come in 1st.
  • Darius66
    Darius66 Posts: 62 Member
    My experience is that they completely ignore men who are intelligent, responsible, hardworking, educated, well-read, cultured and respectful and instead sleep with the men who are crass, misogynist, callus and cruel.

    People on this board have already commented that it is the nice-guys fault for being nice. But, really what type of basis is that for establishing a relationship. Do I have to be mean to women in order for them to treat me with respect? What type of respect is that?

    ^^
  • StheK
    StheK Posts: 443 Member
    Depends on the girl. What do you think we are, clones?
  • Cliffslosinit
    Cliffslosinit Posts: 5,044 Member
    I don't know about the other Ladies, but I prefer a man who treats me like Lady:heart:

    I'll treat you like a lady...just let me pull your hair later:tongue:
  • crimsoncat
    crimsoncat Posts: 457 Member
    I only like bad boys in movies. In real life they're selfish and too child like. I'll take a nice man thank you.
  • mytime1986
    mytime1986 Posts: 117
    I want the nice guy, but he cant be a wimp still has to know how to be a man.

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