do girls want the bad boyz or the nice guy

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  • Sierra_Christine
    Sierra_Christine Posts: 32
    The nice guy all the way.
    The bad ones usually don't have enough respect to take control of their actions so how could they possibly take control of a real woman and treat her correctly?
    I'd be shocked if I came across a good guy with a bad boy act. Now THAT'D be hot. Not gonna lie! ;)
  • triciab79
    triciab79 Posts: 1,713 Member
    I have always wanted the nice guys. A good heart is the first thing I look for. If a man is kind hearted and genuine it doesn't matter to me how they look or how much they make. The only other qualifier is intelligence. He has to be very intelligent.
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
    I see different people have different meanings for the nice guy, bad guy.

    I just like a decent human being. My husband is a decent human being. He is also strong, very manly, and of course has his own opinions and challenges me (he's an experimental physicist that is the principle designer developing an alternative energy form). He's active, adventurous and passionate. He is also intelligent, kind and a good father to our children. He is strong physically, mentally and emotionally.

    But, if people are saying that women are attracted to bad men that abuse them or children. Then I would suggest they work on that. There is a good book called: "The Betrayal Bond" by Patrick J. Carnes. I've experienced all of the women in my family choosing partners that are incredibly abusive and sociopathic men. So, I learned at a very young age to take care of myself and to be alert, and to choose good people in my life and for building my own family.
  • TammyS327
    TammyS327 Posts: 134 Member
    If you have self-esteem, you want a nice guy. Not a pushover, but a guy who treats you well. If you don't value yourself, you want the "bad boy". Oh, and when you're a bad girl, you need a nice guy.
    What does this mean?↑
    I have tons of self esteem and I value myself. Even better my "bad boy" values me. A "bad boy" does not mean an abuser, drunk, or drug dealer. A bad boy is a mans man. A man that has a strong masculine look. A man that stands up for himself and his woman. A man that doesnt take any crap. A bad boy is a tough man, not a soft wimp. A bad boy can also be tender, kind, loving, a hard worker and a fantastic husband. I know, I am married to a motorcycle riding, beard growing, denim and leather wearing bad boy, that will get in the floor and play with legos with the grandson after a long day at work and a long walk with me.
    I have had the "nice guy". Church going, government desk jockey, that had the respect of his family, friends, coworkers and church members and that loved to beat my *kitten* on Sunday afternoon.

    So don't even try to say one doesnt value themselves if they like bad boys.
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
    Seems like people are getting caught up in very rigid stereotypes of how they view and define people and qualities. I'm sure that in real life people do not think this way as they are interacting with people (I would hope). This does not need to be a competition or an argument. Looks like there is a lot of room here for misunderstandings. Some people here are taking "nice" to mean some very rigid bad qualities. And some people are taking bad to mean different things as well. People are more complex and multidimensional than that and there is a vast world of interesting people to get to know.
  • dfb2156
    dfb2156 Posts: 225
    just like men, different women want different things.

    but you should be YOURSELF (nice guy or "bad boy") and find a girl who wants you for what you are, not what you can pretend to be.
  • sewerchick93
    sewerchick93 Posts: 1,438 Member
    They want men. Men can be bad in the sense that they know what they want and will try and get it, even if its something the girl disapproves.

    Most of the "men" nowadays are boys who tip toe around everybody. They lack confidence in themselves. When you don't even believe in yourself, why should any women?

    Most (not all) girls like a nice guy. Just be confident enough to tell her that you won't always be a nice guy when the need for a tough person comes along.

    what Taunto said is spot on
  • kendunn579
    kendunn579 Posts: 391 Member
    ♥"A real bad boy..but a real good man." ♥ :devil:

    Sounds fair...
  • SabrinaLC
    SabrinaLC Posts: 133 Member
    I think I already replied to this... or one just like it.

    I want both :-)
  • kanadian_bear
    kanadian_bear Posts: 70
    He comes across as the bad boy and the exterior is rough .. but inside he's really one of the good ones.
  • markymarrkk
    markymarrkk Posts: 495 Member
    I laugh at some of these Swaggots running around like they're hard cuz they're sportin full sleeves and body mods. I went through some real shtt in the hood, no father to put me in check... drugs, gangsters and cops. jumped fences, been shot at, been jacked for my shtt and fighting was mandatory. none of that compares to them real life Bad boys from our U.S. Military forces FTW!!

    Thanks to a series of events that led me to my first job under the guidance of some positive role models.. I got out the hood, college, career, family .... you can take the boy from the hood, but you can't take the hood from the boy. But when it comes to my moms and my family, I'm the nicest, sweetest most considerate person that can be.
  • kitty_kong
    kitty_kong Posts: 56
    I'm both. Please feed or pet me
  • quiksylver296
    quiksylver296 Posts: 28,439 Member
    The guy who is bad to everyone else, but nice to me. Found him.
  • AlongCame_Molly
    AlongCame_Molly Posts: 2,835 Member
    Whichever category Tom Hardy falls into.
  • GlutesthatSalute
    GlutesthatSalute Posts: 460 Member
    Bad boys in moderation GOOD guys to marry :heart:
  • Articeluvsmemphis
    Articeluvsmemphis Posts: 1,987 Member
    nice
  • paintlisapurple
    paintlisapurple Posts: 982 Member
    I've got the best of both worlds as my husband looks like a bad guy...but is a really nice guy. :smooched: :heart: :drinker: :bigsmile:
  • amcassey
    amcassey Posts: 16
    I married a nice guy and wouldn't change a thing.
  • tinak33
    tinak33 Posts: 9,883 Member
    Girls want boys.

    Women want men.


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  • newmein2013
    newmein2013 Posts: 674 Member
    Both... The easiest way to sum this up is to say pretty much any role that Steven Seagal has played. That would be the perfect balance between bad & nice.
  • noahsmama33
    noahsmama33 Posts: 27 Member
    I dated the bad boys then married a nice guy.



    Exactly!
  • sassyann45
    sassyann45 Posts: 51 Member
    Lol!!! I have been married to my husband for 27 years. He has the bad boy look but is one of the sweetest guys you'll ever meet.
  • shannongoneau
    shannongoneau Posts: 246 Member
    Nice Guys :) My husband has an edgy look (tattoos everywhere loves his leather jacket) but he is a nice nerdy guy. Psychology says women are looking to be "the one that can transform a man" I figure if a woman is trying to transform a man shes with wthe wrong guy.
  • TwinkieDong
    TwinkieDong Posts: 1,564 Member
    I think women think they want the bad boy. I say this because women want a type a personality, unfortunately the bad boys often are labeled as such. However there are many types of men that can be type a, good, bad, etc.

    I also believe the bad boy image is for younger people. When people get older they just want something good, something worth while something long term.

    What do I know? I have been both all my life. Like a guy wants a woman that he can bring home to mom but in private is his very own....
  • mike667grace
    mike667grace Posts: 36
    which ever one they can't have.
    ^^^^^^
    Damn right.
  • usmc01462
    usmc01462 Posts: 1,944 Member
    Its always the silent ones you need to watch out for the are nice but a freak in the bed...Same goes for the woman.
  • DebbieLyn63
    DebbieLyn63 Posts: 2,654 Member
    Bad until I grew up and wised up in my 30s. Nice boys are there with you when the going gets tough, and will be there til the end!:love:
  • DebbieLyn63
    DebbieLyn63 Posts: 2,654 Member
    Its always the silent ones you need to watch out for the are nice but a freak in the bed...Same goes for the woman.
    exactly! :blushing:
  • SmartWhatever
    SmartWhatever Posts: 718 Member
    I like a reformed bad boy lol

    This!

    But not TOO reformed, :tongue:
  • TeachTheGirl
    TeachTheGirl Posts: 2,091 Member
    Aren't people just people. Good/bad/who cares?

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