Confession Time! ((ABSOLUTELY NO JUDGEMENT))

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  • Oberon21
    Oberon21 Posts: 13,235 Member
    ythannah wrote: »
    pofoster21 wrote: »
    FroggyBug wrote: »
    I still need to catch up but I wanted to vent on something.

    No one probably remembers but I have talked about that guy who is on the phone at work all the time and everyone loves him even though he barely works...he just let me know he won some award so he is getting a plaque/prize at 10 today.

    I'm like seriously...

    This just happened to me. The conference I am at they did recognition awards. The guy in my group that won got recognized for 2 projects I led. One was done before he came on board. The other he came in on the tail end and had zero to do with. I totally led them. This is like the 4th time over the years this has happened to me. No one in an operations driven organization ever appreciates marketing communications. But I PROJECT LED these. This guy is connected.

    I confess as soon as the awards were over I grabbed my stuff, went to hotel, and am now drowning my sorrows by reading this thread. :( I am feeling very sad.

    Ohhh that totally sucks! :/ Sure sounds like some sort of favouritism going on. Mind you, some of those ambitious types just rack up the undeserved awards so they can move up to their next rung... maybe he'll be gone soon?

    He will he is trying hard to get VP. He is just too well connected. He literately had nothing to do with either project he got recognized for. The problem is I am not political. At all. And it hurts me. Oh, well, I either need to suck it up or move on to another company. I control the destiny of this...so I have to choose how to deal with it. I have decided to just let it go. Thanks for letting me vent in here. :)
  • Oberon21
    Oberon21 Posts: 13,235 Member
    ythannah wrote: »
    pofoster21 wrote: »
    But from now on at the barn and here, I am POF. :)

    Sorry, but you'll have to be Patricia in my mind, because POF just makes me think of the dating site Plenty of Fish.

    I have never been there but have heard of it. Whichever you prefer!
  • Oberon21
    Oberon21 Posts: 13,235 Member
    MoHousdon wrote: »
    ok guys I am on the fence about something. I got asked out on a date this weekend. I don't date because in reality I don't have a lot of free time and I am certainly not wanting to take any time away from my son. But in spite of all this I am considering going. What's a girl to do?

    Do you like date asker guy? If the answer is yes, then I say GO FOR IT!

    I am in this camp!
  • Oberon21
    Oberon21 Posts: 13,235 Member
    MoHousdon wrote: »
    ok guys I am on the fence about something. I got asked out on a date this weekend. I don't date because in reality I don't have a lot of free time and I am certainly not wanting to take any time away from my son. But in spite of all this I am considering going. What's a girl to do?

    Do you like date asker guy? If the answer is yes, then I say GO FOR IT!

    I do like said guy lol

    then you HAVE to say yes!
  • Oberon21
    Oberon21 Posts: 13,235 Member
    kelly_c_77 wrote: »

    Hope this works! Might be huge..if so, I apologize.

    Wow that's a lot of cats (super cute, too)! I forget who else had a bunch, including a pregnant porch kitty, you might might give that person a run for their money in the cat hoarding war ;)


    That would be @pofoster21, if I'm not mistaken. And my family owns 14 cats, so I think they beat everyone. O.o

    It is me. 4 in the home now, 2 on the porch, and 2 at the barn. I have to admit 4 in the home is a lot now when I feed. And the politics of who gets fed where...exhausting. But Cobweb is doing great (latest addition, you all went through that with me). He is the sweetest cat.

    He likes to jump on the 1/2 wall between the toilet and the vanity when I get out of the shower and while I dry myself off he reaches out to me, to be petted, etc. The other day, I bent over drying my legs and he proceeded to walk onto my back and lay down! So there I am, stark naked, with a purring cat laying on my back and licking my wet hair. I crouched down to try and get him to walk off me, but he resettled himself and kept purring away. I finally had to slowly stand until he slid off, praying all the time he wouldn't grab me with his claws to stay on. If I had had a camera and wasn't such a prude, I would have taken a selfie and posted it (but yes, I was stark naked, so probably that wouldn't be allowed on here!).
  • Oberon21
    Oberon21 Posts: 13,235 Member
    BZAH10 wrote: »
    Lois_1989 wrote: »
    ccourcha wrote: »
    Beat off at work bathroom to thoughts of new reception girl

    I think it's funny that you say this, but on your page your inspirations are

    > Intimidating the boys coming around for my daughters
    > To be the best example to my son that I can be

    that new reception girl is someones daughter too y'know, and I'm not sure that is a good example of being a man now is it?

    STANDS AND GIVES @Lois_1989 A ROUND OF APPLAUSE! (yes, this is worth yelling about!)

    I haven't even gotten to the original post that prompted this but I am cheering you too! Some guys are total hypocrites. They SHOULD think about every woman/girl as someone's daughter. ICK. For whatever he thought/did (although I am starting to get an idea).
  • Oberon21
    Oberon21 Posts: 13,235 Member
    MoHousdon wrote: »
    pofoster21 wrote: »
    FroggyBug wrote: »
    I still need to catch up but I wanted to vent on something.

    No one probably remembers but I have talked about that guy who is on the phone at work all the time and everyone loves him even though he barely works...he just let me know he won some award so he is getting a plaque/prize at 10 today.

    I'm like seriously...

    This just happened to me. The conference I am at they did recognition awards. The guy in my group that won got recognized for 2 projects I led. One was done before he came on board. The other he came in on the tail end and had zero to do with. I totally led them. This is like the 4th time over the years this has happened to me. No one in an operations driven organization ever appreciates marketing communications. But I PROJECT LED these. This guy is connected.

    I confess as soon as the awards were over I grabbed my stuff, went to hotel, and am now drowning my sorrows by reading this thread. :( I am feeling very sad.

    You being sad, makes me sad. I'm sorry someone else got recognition for your hard work. That really sucks. I present this award to you, which I'm sure is far superior to any plaque he got.

    w54dv1w9uprh.gif


    Thanks, and I totally just laughed at that. :) Its decidedly better than the glass president's award he got (FOR MY WORK!).
  • Oberon21
    Oberon21 Posts: 13,235 Member
    I confess - if I have nothing to do at work, they should pay me to do what I want to do (like go home and take a nap.) It only seems fair.

    Seems fair to me.
  • Italian_Buju
    Italian_Buju Posts: 8,030 Member
    pofoster21 wrote: »
    kelly_c_77 wrote: »

    Hope this works! Might be huge..if so, I apologize.

    Wow that's a lot of cats (super cute, too)! I forget who else had a bunch, including a pregnant porch kitty, you might might give that person a run for their money in the cat hoarding war ;)


    That would be @pofoster21, if I'm not mistaken. And my family owns 14 cats, so I think they beat everyone. O.o

    It is me. 4 in the home now, 2 on the porch, and 2 at the barn. I have to admit 4 in the home is a lot now when I feed. And the politics of who gets fed where...exhausting. But Cobweb is doing great (latest addition, you all went through that with me). He is the sweetest cat.

    He likes to jump on the 1/2 wall between the toilet and the vanity when I get out of the shower and while I dry myself off he reaches out to me, to be petted, etc. The other day, I bent over drying my legs and he proceeded to walk onto my back and lay down! So there I am, stark naked, with a purring cat laying on my back and licking my wet hair. I crouched down to try and get him to walk off me, but he resettled himself and kept purring away. I finally had to slowly stand until he slid off, praying all the time he wouldn't grab me with his claws to stay on. If I had had a camera and wasn't such a prude, I would have taken a selfie and posted it (but yes, I was stark naked, so probably that wouldn't be allowed on here!).

    That is so sweet!
  • Oberon21
    Oberon21 Posts: 13,235 Member
    BZAH10 wrote: »
    @pofoster21 I'm sorry that guy took credit for YOUR work! So frustrating. And I see you as "Doctor Patricia". Is that okay?

    @Tubbs216 give him enough Valium to knock him out. Seriously though, I hope it goes well and that he's not too much of a baby for you!

    I never use the Dr. but yes, feel free! As long as its not Dr. Pat
  • qn4bx9pzg8aifd
    qn4bx9pzg8aifd Posts: 258 Member
    Lois_1989 wrote: »
    While I see your point, here's something that a lot of people don't stop to consider when writing off people as nasty or vulgar:

    Humans are sexual beings; there's no doubt about that. Our bodies were created in a way that is attractive to each other, and in a way that causes us to be aroused by the bodies of those that we define as attractive. This applies to both males and females. Sexual thoughts and fantasies are a natural part of ALL of us, whether we like it or not, and labeling someone as a bad or nasty person for thinking those sorts of thoughts about an attractive person would mean labeling most of the world as such


    What would be nasty, vulgar, or inappropriate is treating or regarding them as nothing but an object of desire and thinking of them as such--which is the vibe I got from the original post being discussed. I think someone is nasty or vulgar if they go around announcing that they did something like that or discussed it in an open group of other people. I also find it nasty, unethical, and inappropriate if someone did that in a professional environment--we aren't animals, and we should be able to control ourselves.

    The Islamic side of the matter is a whole other novel that I won't go into, but to make it short, Islam recognizes the above as fact of our human-ness. :)

    Just my two cents--I hope I came across clearly. Although considering how long it is, there might be a whole dollar in there... ;)
    Agreed 100% ain't nothing wrong with that. Bolded agreed 1000%
    Yep, I agree... I regret my post not being more clear regarding the fact that I was referring to those exhibiting the type(s) of behavior(s) associated with what was conveyed by the OP, and which would be considered highly unwelcome, disturbing, and completely inappropriate...
  • Oberon21
    Oberon21 Posts: 13,235 Member
    edited June 2015
    kelly_c_77 wrote: »

    Hope this works! Might be huge..if so, I apologize.




    Okay testing my ability to remove photos. Cats are gorgeous BTW! And the puppy!


    Okay for some reason that ended up in the quote. I'll keep trying!
  • Oberon21
    Oberon21 Posts: 13,235 Member
    Lois_1989 wrote: »
    New confession. Yup, I did just fall asleep at my desk for 15mins. I think this thread is an obsession because the first thing I thought of when I woke up was to tell you guys about it.

    I don't know if I should be concerned about this or not...

    These days when something happens to me, the first thing I think about is when can I tell you guys.

    Plus, you have now replaced my previous evening occupation of going to a bar, eating dinner, drinking wine and reading the newspaper or a book. Now I come home, drink coffee and try to catch up. I count this as a win in my ongoing attempt to quit drinking totally....still not successful but this visiting you guys instead is helping!
  • Oberon21
    Oberon21 Posts: 13,235 Member
    I wonder why this thread is so hard to find suddenly!!

    I am leaving for work now and hoping today is a good day!

    Yesterday sucked!

    I got lost running an errand for my son (he got his grad hoodie for next year Monday and his name was spelled wrong, so had to find the uniform shop and get it fixed).....then we realized his bike was stolen, he just recently bought it and it is his transportation to and from work, so he had to walk yesterday, and today. Then I missed my gym time because as I was heading there, the office staff at my building called me and told me another bike had been stolen and asked me to see if I could come and view the video....that took a while and we saw nothing actually.

    I feel bad for my son :(

    Work is stressful right now too, kind of a long story, but we had a new girl that only worked about two months and now is off sick for an 'undetermented' amount of time, so they are replacing her and her husband came in Monday while I was there and freaked out on my boss....I do not generally work on Tuesdays but my boss text me and said this is becoming a bit of a nightmare. I have known her husband for years and now things are awkward, and I got her the job for him......my boss is cool, she knows I could not have known, but the whole situation is just sucky and stressful.

    Plus I am still not really speaking to my SO still, we are on week two.....so that just adds to the stress.

    I am not going to let it ruin tonight though! Tonight is the only night in a long while that I will be home alone. My daughter is out of town visiting a friend and my son is working. My daughter keeps getting straight day shifts, which is strange for a 19 year old working at tourist attractions that are open all night...and she is a new hire....over all it is great because she can rely on the bus which is obviously much cheaper than cabs etc, but it is seriously cutting into my alone time that over the last year I have gotten very used to! A year ago I never had alone time, but now I love it, lol.

    So, tonight, I am going to indulge in a chicken bacon alfredo pizza from domino's and watch Big Brother! I figure I have about five hours of alone time after work before my son gets home....so I am gonna get everything done I need to do right away and then sit on the sofa and just bask in my aloneness lol.

    Today is my day off logging so I am not worried about such things tonight, I am gonna eat super light during the day, just a light lunch and already did not eat much breakfast, but tonight I will eat pizza and my favorite Haagan Dazs chocolate peanut butter ice cream.....I am not even gonna have my phone on!

    P.S. BB people, I am gonna go start the thread now, so don't forget to check there later!!

    Have a great day everyone!

    Sorry for the rough time you are going through. Enjoy your evening!
  • Oberon21
    Oberon21 Posts: 13,235 Member
    I confess I woke up on the wrong side of this bed this morning and I am CRANKY! Someone should send me to bed for a nap and a reset... :(

    ETA: Did I spell cranky wrong? Neither spelling looks right...

    If someone replied to you I missed it...yes, you spelled cranky correctly. :)
  • Oberon21
    Oberon21 Posts: 13,235 Member
    LBuehrle8 wrote: »
    @pofoster21 I'm sorry you didn't get recognized for your hard work Patricia! I would be so upset too as that's really unfair! Just remember we all here think you are SUPER GREAT! :)

    Thank you!
  • Oberon21
    Oberon21 Posts: 13,235 Member
    crosbylee wrote: »
    pofoster21 wrote: »
    crosbylee wrote: »
    LBuehrle8 wrote: »
    crosbylee wrote: »
    LBuehrle8 wrote: »
    Started the C25k app today because I like having someone tell me when to run and when to walk :)

    I am ready to start that myself. I was hoping that would tell me what to do!!

    I really like it because I'll be going along listening to my music and it'll beep and say start walking then beep start running and I don't have to look at my watch or anything it's great!

    Great news for me. I am working on getting my physical endurance up a bit for a mud run in October.

    Which one? I have done a bunch... Love them! It's like being 5 all over again.

    It is called the Gritty Goddess. I love that it is noncompetative and anyone of any fitness level can participate. If any of the obstacles are felt to be too difficult you can go by them. I just love going through all of them. At least this go round, I plan to get myself some cheap knee pads and a pair of lifting gloves or something without the fingers. Crawling through mud with lots of small stones= many scratches on the hands and knees. They are really a lot of fun!

    ETA: It is a 5k, not nearly as long as the ones you do!

    Sounds great! Have a blast!
  • Oberon21
    Oberon21 Posts: 13,235 Member
    LBuehrle8 wrote: »
    Lois_1989 wrote: »
    ccourcha wrote: »
    Beat off at work bathroom to thoughts of new reception girl

    I think it's funny that you say this, but on your page your inspirations are

    > Intimidating the boys coming around for my daughters
    > To be the best example to my son that I can be

    that new reception girl is someones daughter too y'know, and I'm not sure that is a good example of being a man now is it?

    Woot woot, you tell 'em Lois! High five! As a former CO I had to deal with men who felt perfectly comfortable doing this right in front of me like it was normal. Disgusting.

    That is disgusting. Like seriously.
  • Oberon21
    Oberon21 Posts: 13,235 Member
    Oh look its 1066. Battle of Hastings. :)
  • Oberon21
    Oberon21 Posts: 13,235 Member
    And lastly before I finally get to bed, I finally checked. 0 spam 0 flags. :)
  • nonoelmo
    nonoelmo Posts: 3,941 Member
    edited June 2015
    m1xm0d3 wrote: »
    pofoster21 wrote: »
    m1xm0d3 wrote: »
    Put down 37 miles over 3 rides today. 7 to work, 13 back home and a 17 mile 'restless evening' ride. Funny thing is I've hardly ate anything today. No breakfast (normal for me) a tiny 220 calorie lunch and at home I had 3 whole wheat fajita tortillas filled with refried beans and some shredded cheese. Same exact goes for yesterday. I feel strong, no soreness and I stay hydrated so until I stall, I am staying the course because it's hard to deny the results.

    Confession... It irritates me when people quote someone that posted a bunch of photos without removing said photos in their reply. Confession 2... IRL I would totally judge some of the decisions people make then whine about. You're an adult and you made an adult decision so deal with the adult consequences and shut up. :naughty: (But I am not judging so I will be like Kermit and sip mah tea)

    Oh and I found my mom (dang her!) left a huge fresh cooked brownie here at my house. I can't deny it as I am powerless against food that somehow made it's way into my safe haven away from temptation. And I am too frugal to throw it out. Whatever... I'm about to eat the thing so it will be gone. (<-adult decision) NO RAGRETS

    So you want us to delete photos... I'll try and figure out how. I don't see what the big deal is frankly I just skip by them but will try in the future. Might screw up quotes but I'll try.

    Good job on the ride.


    Please don't take what I said as a passive personal attack or anything. It's not that big of a deal but IMO it adds clutter to the threads. I try to zoom by them while at work because photos stick out way more than text does.

    Thanks pofoster. I am working up to a century, not sure if it will be this season but I am trying, just need to gain some support by way of riding friends. 4 years of cycling and I've never joined a group or have friends that carry the interest so I guess in the immortal words of the Geico commercial... I am a loner... and a loner's gotta be alone! (I am changing that this season though with the help of a new co-worker that's a board member of the local cycling group RABA)

    The brownie was gooood. :blush: And now it's gone so I can have some peace of mind. lol

    How well I format a quote and respond depends on where I am reading. On a computer - no problem. On my ipad mini, well then it depends. Sometimes the ipad behaves and sometimes it is stubborn. On my phone. Not a chance. Nope, zero. If I reply on my phone with a quote the entire thread of quotes including photos is going to show. I suspect I am not alone in phone ineptness, but I may be. I accept that. I'm good at enough other things I can be phone impaired. :wink:

    I tend to be a lone cyclist too, but my SO is a very social cyclist and I think it helped him improve much more quickly than if he was solo (just my guess). I started out as a group rider in middle school (yikes, 30 years ago) and liked the trips we did. I hope you enjoy the group you join and I am sure you will. Have fun!
  • nonoelmo
    nonoelmo Posts: 3,941 Member
    pofoster21 wrote: »
    BZAH10 wrote: »
    @pofoster21 I'm sorry that guy took credit for YOUR work! So frustrating. And I see you as "Doctor Patricia". Is that okay?

    @Tubbs216 give him enough Valium to knock him out. Seriously though, I hope it goes well and that he's not too much of a baby for you!

    I never use the Dr. but yes, feel free! As long as its not Dr. Pat

    I "rarely" use the Dr. but I pull it out once in awhile if it serves a purpose, and once in awhile it does. I don't use it with people I know - I prefer my first name. I use Dr. Lastname just in business type situations.
  • nonoelmo
    nonoelmo Posts: 3,941 Member
    I rejoined a gym in the last week. There are many gyms in the area but the one I prefer and feel very comfortable taking my kids to workout with me is kind of expensive. I had quit it for a year to catch up on things financially and tried to keep active in many other ways. Recently I decided that my daughter really enjoyed it and I want to support anything she enjoys these days. Tonight we went to a Zumba class at her request. It was 75 minutes of me flailing around as ungainly as possible. Daughter loved it and smiled more in that class than I've seen in a long time. Worth the cost of admission. I did a couple of calculators and based on my weight I think I burned around 500 calories in that time. I know I was pushing myself to stay as high intensity as I could. Is 500 calories for 1.25 hours a reasonable estimate? I'm on the very little side. I don't often log food and I even more rarely log exercise. I also lifted weights (didn't even try to figure that out) and got a decent amount of walking in during the day. I feel that I am keeping my nice slow steady goal of gradually losing another few pounds.
  • Kalici
    Kalici Posts: 685 Member
    pofoster21 wrote: »
    kecmw25 wrote: »
    I tripped and fell during my run this morning. I am thankful that my dog showed geniune concern for me instead of laughing.

    I fall all the time when I run. I don't pick my feet up enough. I have broken several walkman/discman over the years. Thank God for iPods. Although I did break my iPod when it fell off my waistband in a portapotty once. :(

    I have banged my knees up and scraped my hands, but most of the damage was to the portable players.

    I would not have even checked if I dropped it in a portapotty. I would have been all, 'so long iPod, we had some good times didn't we?'

  • Kalici
    Kalici Posts: 685 Member
    nonoelmo wrote: »
    I rejoined a gym in the last week. There are many gyms in the area but the one I prefer and feel very comfortable taking my kids to workout with me is kind of expensive. I had quit it for a year to catch up on things financially and tried to keep active in many other ways. Recently I decided that my daughter really enjoyed it and I want to support anything she enjoys these days. Tonight we went to a Zumba class at her request. It was 75 minutes of me flailing around as ungainly as possible. Daughter loved it and smiled more in that class than I've seen in a long time. Worth the cost of admission. I did a couple of calculators and based on my weight I think I burned around 500 calories in that time. I know I was pushing myself to stay as high intensity as I could. Is 500 calories for 1.25 hours a reasonable estimate? I'm on the very little side. I don't often log food and I even more rarely log exercise. I also lifted weights (didn't even try to figure that out) and got a decent amount of walking in during the day. I feel that I am keeping my nice slow steady goal of gradually losing another few pounds.

    That sounds a bit high to me for your size, but I'm not sure I can accurately estimate it. I have medical issues that make my CICO weird. I'm sorry I couldn't be more helpful. :(
  • ccourcha
    ccourcha Posts: 316 Member
    Bro you need to get alpha, funk beta
  • nonoelmo
    nonoelmo Posts: 3,941 Member
    Kalici wrote: »
    nonoelmo wrote: »
    I rejoined a gym in the last week. There are many gyms in the area but the one I prefer and feel very comfortable taking my kids to workout with me is kind of expensive. I had quit it for a year to catch up on things financially and tried to keep active in many other ways. Recently I decided that my daughter really enjoyed it and I want to support anything she enjoys these days. Tonight we went to a Zumba class at her request. It was 75 minutes of me flailing around as ungainly as possible. Daughter loved it and smiled more in that class than I've seen in a long time. Worth the cost of admission. I did a couple of calculators and based on my weight I think I burned around 500 calories in that time. I know I was pushing myself to stay as high intensity as I could. Is 500 calories for 1.25 hours a reasonable estimate? I'm on the very little side. I don't often log food and I even more rarely log exercise. I also lifted weights (didn't even try to figure that out) and got a decent amount of walking in during the day. I feel that I am keeping my nice slow steady goal of gradually losing another few pounds.

    That sounds a bit high to me for your size, but I'm not sure I can accurately estimate it. I have medical issues that make my CICO weird. I'm sorry I couldn't be more helpful. :(

    Thanks. That's what I thought too. I don't really care it is just my curiosity asking. It would not change anything else I did or ate today. :smiley:
  • nonoelmo
    nonoelmo Posts: 3,941 Member
    Confession
    While I like being nude alone or in presence of SO, I am less comfortable being nude around other people. One gym I went to in the mornings had a big open multiple shower in the locker room. I went straight from the gym to work so I showered there. One woman felt no problem showering at the same time and talking up a storm. She was nice but I wanted less talk and more space. She was very athletic and had just missed the olympic team. She had a twin sister. Maybe she was just used to chatting in a locker room shower but I was not used to it.
  • Lois_1989
    Lois_1989 Posts: 6,410 Member
    ythannah wrote: »
    Lois_1989 wrote: »
    Confession: I'm seriously considering the intermittent fasting diet. I'm clearly not getting anywhere with the old fashioned calorie counting and I'm actually getting quite desperate now. I want to book a doctors appointment but I think they will say the same thing as my mum "Why don't you join weight watchers or slimming world" Yea, I don't want to pay someone to watch me stand on a scale.

    I'm also considering taking all the money I have saved for a deposit on a house and getting someone to just suck all the fat out of me.

    It's all feeling very hopeless at the moment

    I've done 5:2 intermittently. (that sounds weird, ha ha) I've mentioned before that when he's home my SO does the cooking and that generally results in huge portions of very rich and rather "junky" food -- not at all how I'd choose to eat -- so when he's gone I'll do 5:2 to kind of recalibrate, especially since my IBS is usually in overdrive by the time he leaves (we seriously eat like cr@p).

    I'd say give it a try.

    But keep saving that house money!!!

    Yea, I don't see any harm in trying it for a month or so. It's not something stupid like a teatox. It just involves a bit of forward planning.

    It's ok, the money is still there
  • Lois_1989
    Lois_1989 Posts: 6,410 Member
    LBuehrle8 wrote: »
    Apparently they don't want newbs to find us! Oh well

    Is this page still on the stickied post? Or did they take the link away?