Confession Time! ((ABSOLUTELY NO JUDGEMENT))

TheVirgoddess wrote: »

When I started this, I was diagnosed with insulin resistance. I was on Metformin for months. I've successfully reversed my insulin resistance, but I've been too scared to come off the Metformin - I think I convinced myself that it was the only reason I've successfully lost the 69 pounds - that I'm incapable of doing it on my own.

I did stop, as of Wednesday. I still scared

Hey I found out recently I have that I'm not on metormin yet. What kind of a food plan are you using? You can message me or add me if you want I'd like to hear what you found works for you!
Thanks!

pearso21123 wrote: »

Today I took the kids shopping with me and told them they could each spend $1 (I'm cheap, I know, but that's not my confession). We ended up in the candy aisle, of course, where I spent 10 minutes looking at all of the kinds of chocolate and checking calories. After 10 minutes, I finally decided none of it was worth the calories and left with nothing. It was not my first time doing this. I don't have much of a sweet tooth but once in awhile I want chocolate, but then I can't find anything worth the calories. I ended up having a sugar-free chocolate pudding. Why oh why can't I find chocolate that's worth it!?

I guess that wasn't much of a confession. I'll try harder next time.

Astor Belgium Dark chocolate with sea salt! I wish I could find this in stores, but cannot. my cafeteria sells them at work, and they are soooo yummy!

pofoster21 wrote: »

FroggyBug wrote: »

I still need to catch up but I wanted to vent on something.

No one probably remembers but I have talked about that guy who is on the phone at work all the time and everyone loves him even though he barely works...he just let me know he won some award so he is getting a plaque/prize at 10 today.

I'm like seriously...

This just happened to me. The conference I am at they did recognition awards. The guy in my group that won got recognized for 2 projects I led. One was done before he came on board. The other he came in on the tail end and had zero to do with. I totally led them. This is like the 4th time over the years this has happened to me. No one in an operations driven organization ever appreciates marketing communications. But I PROJECT LED these. This guy is connected.

I confess as soon as the awards were over I grabbed my stuff, went to hotel, and am now drowning my sorrows by reading this thread. I am feeling very sad.

Ohhh that totally sucks! Sure sounds like some sort of favouritism going on. Mind you, some of those ambitious types just rack up the undeserved awards so they can move up to their next rung... maybe he'll be gone soon?

pofoster21 wrote: »

But from now on at the barn and here, I am POF.

Sorry, but you'll have to be Patricia in my mind, because POF just makes me think of the dating site Plenty of Fish.

riderfangal wrote: »

raelynnsmama52512 wrote: »

Can we just cancel today?
As I've mentioned, hubby is out of town, and now just so happens to be the perfect time for Raelynn to get sick. As in, puking all over the bathroom and kitchen sick. She refuses to eat, just wants water, and is currently lying down in her bed watching a movie as that's all she wants to do. Not to mention, the actual act of vomiting was enough to trigger one of her daily multiple anxiety attacks. Needless to say, at this point neither one of us is concerned at all about eating and not really doing much of anything else either.

Yikes. I hope your little one is feeling better soon. Hugs!

I'm sorry to hear that your little is sick! Hope she feels better soon.

Lois_1989 wrote: »

CountessKitteh wrote: »

girldownsouth wrote: »

lilaclovebird wrote: »

Lois_1989 wrote: »

lilaclovebird wrote: »

Lois_1989 wrote: »

ccourcha wrote: »

Beat off at work bathroom to thoughts of new reception girl

I think it's funny that you say this, but on your page your inspirations are

> Intimidating the boys coming around for my daughters
> To be the best example to my son that I can be

that new reception girl is someones daughter too y'know, and I'm not sure that is a good example of being a man now is it?

I confess: I am judging you for judging that post...BUT his friends list consists almost entirely of attractive females with their make-up covered faces and body parts exposed....I smell a misogynist.

I normally skip past those posts, but that made me a little sick in my mouth and had to see what kind of creep we are dealing with. Turns out to be a hypocritical one. So I felt a little urge to publicly shame him. Judge all you want, if I found out a man did that at my place of work or that new receptionist was my {hypothetical} daughter, he would be one testicle missing.

Edited because men are men, whatever, but don't make it public, I don't want that visual thanks

Edit again because: Why are you judging me for judging that? (out of curiosity, not picking a fight), it's disgusting and offensive.

Because it's supposed to be a 'NO JUDGEMENT' thread. /irony

The fact is, I totally agree with you and you were right to call him on his bullsmurf. Imagine if the woman herself found out about his 'fantasizing'. Life is NOT a porno, she would likely be horribly offended and never want to work near you again, dude.
It also definitely had the air of a confession that was merely posted to try and stir stuff up.
Men ARE men but, in my opinion, grown men don't 'beat off' to the new receptionist while at work. They should wait until they get home for that kind of thing. Do WORK at work. Or...post on a forum about the crappy way you've been eating lately and how you have skipped workouts and how you are posting things at work when you really should be working(I am guilty of all these things).

Also, I noted in my post that he was likely a misogynistic hypocrite based on his friends list, which, I confess, was also me judging him.

TL;DR: I wasn't ACTUALLY judging you. I was agreeing with you and then confessing my own judgement of 'Yeah, this dude is a misogynistic hypocrite who should keep his self love schedule to himself'.

ETA: Some things just come across poorly in textual format. Or maybe I am slightly terrible at expressing myself in the way I actually intend...

I also think he's the same man who had the sleeping girlfriend.

I can confirm this.

ETA: Quotes

Well if I knew this man IRL I would report him to the police as a predator and a threat to society. (Little bit too much?) As I said earlier I put my big girl panties on this morning, I've gone all feminist, did my Stonglift session at the gym and I'm PUMPED! well... after my 15min accidental nap at my desk.

I think napping at your desk is awesome!

Put on your big girl panties and suck it up cupcake are favourite phrases of mine
My girlfriend hates them

Susieq_1994 wrote: »

riderfangal wrote: »

raelynnsmama52512 wrote: »

Can we just cancel today?
As I've mentioned, hubby is out of town, and now just so happens to be the perfect time for Raelynn to get sick. As in, puking all over the bathroom and kitchen sick. She refuses to eat, just wants water, and is currently lying down in her bed watching a movie as that's all she wants to do. Not to mention, the actual act of vomiting was enough to trigger one of her daily multiple anxiety attacks. Needless to say, at this point neither one of us is concerned at all about eating and not really doing much of anything else either.

Yikes. I hope your little one is feeling better soon. Hugs!

I'm sorry to hear that your little is sick! Hope she feels better soon.

Thank you! She's napping now, so hopefully she'll feel better when she gets up.

*edited for grammar/punctuation fail

qn4bx9pzg8aifd wrote: »

Lois_1989 wrote: »

Edited because men are men, whatever, but don't make it public, I don't want that visual thanks

FroggyBug wrote: »

This. This is how I feel. I know most guys are like that but I just don't want to think/hear about it because it makes me feel bad for some reason. Ignorance sometimes really is bliss...

festerw wrote: »

No most men aren't like that or at least myself and the guys I know.

Just_Ceci wrote: »

True, most men aren't like that, but men like that are more vocal!

Susieq_1994 wrote: »

As a woman myself, I didn't think I could really speak up about it with much surety, but I agree--It's a case of the minority making the majority look nasty. [...] And I doubt there are many men who are nasty/immoral enough to do that kind of thing in a professional setting, no matter what they might do in the privacy of their homes.

@Just_Ceci, not surprisingly, there are also men like that who are not vocal about it... or who are otherwise smart enough to 'keep it under wraps'... or who would seemingly only 'share' such crap with 'others of their kind' (a few of which I happened to (unfortunately) be physically close 'enough' to, one day, several years ago... and overheard... and they seemed to be oblivious to the fact that someone/anyone/I could hear them... they were medical students... and one of them was going to be starting his gynecology rotation the following week... and what I heard him say resulted in my from-that-day-forward disallowing any male medical student to ever be present for any gynecological anything that I would ever need done in any teaching facility... suffice it to say, his comments about what he looked forward to, with pelvic exams, was not something I'll ever forget)...

...and while that was one male, I'm also aware that something akin to 'the greater numbers associated with a vocal minority' aspect of 'customer service comments' whatnot would seem to apply -- for every one person who 'speaks up', there are many more who remain silent -- though of a similar mindset/reaction/'take'...


@Susieq_1994, while I agree that there are likely not a lot of men who would actually engage in 'the act in question' in a professional setting, it doesn't mean that there aren't more who think about doing so, or who otherwise 'wait until they get home'...

...and while no actual 'percentage' could be realistically ascribed to 'what fraction of men are like that', it goes without saying that the world would likely be a far more intimidating and fear-laden 'place' for women, were such men's thoughts to be known by every woman whose body any such man were to 'see'...

While I see your point, here's something that a lot of people don't stop to consider when writing off people as nasty or vulgar:

Humans are sexual beings; there's no doubt about that. Our bodies were created in a way that is attractive to each other, and in a way that causes us to be aroused by the bodies of those that we define as attractive. This applies to both males and females. Sexual thoughts and fantasies are a natural part of ALL of us, whether we like it or not, and labeling someone as a bad or nasty person for thinking those sorts of thoughts about an attractive person would mean labeling most of the world as such.

When someone leaves their house in attire that's flattering or revealing (this applies to BOTH genders--I'm not being sexist in any way or judging anyone here), they should know and acknowledge that others will see and appreciate what is accentuated or shown, opening themselves to the possibility of others regarding them sexually.

If someone is aroused by any given person, and that leads to any sort of... erm... "follow up" in the privacy of that person's own home, I don't see why they would be a bad person. Many people indulge in those sorts of fantasies over celebrities, and I don't see anyone calling them nasty. Having them about regular, attractive people around you is just as normal.

The key here is the treatment of the attractive person, as well as the privacy of the matter. If you treat them like a normal human being, you're polite to them and don't make any kind of nasty overtures, then you've done nothing wrong by finding them sexually attractive or even thinking sexual thoughts about that person--these two things are both completely natural. Acting on those sexual thoughts in the privacy of your home is also a normal reaction.

What would be nasty, vulgar, or inappropriate is treating or regarding them as nothing but an object of desire and thinking of them as such--which is the vibe I got from the original post being discussed. I think someone is nasty or vulgar if they go around announcing that they did something like that or discussed it in an open group of other people. I also find it nasty, unethical, and inappropriate if someone did that in a professional environment--we aren't animals, and we should be able to control ourselves.

The Islamic side of the matter is a whole other novel that I won't go into, but to make it short, Islam recognizes the above as fact of our human-ness.

Just my two cents--I hope I came across clearly. Although considering how long it is, there might be a whole dollar in there...

BZAH10 wrote: »

I just thought about @ShibaEars yesterday, too! But, we have a few posters on vacation. @FluffySandwich is on vacation, right? Or, I could be completely wrong. I'm terrible at remembering details. Things move so fast here!

@FluffySandwich was definitely on vacation. I shared airplane pictures with her a while back when she mentioned that she would be flying and loved the view out of airplane windows, so I do remember that for sure. I'm not sure if she came back yet or not, though.

POF: sorry you are feeling sad. You should try to address it with your boss. If you can