Confession Time! ((ABSOLUTELY NO JUDGEMENT))
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Susieq_1994 wrote: »pofoster21 wrote: »Susieq_1994 wrote: »pofoster21 wrote: »orangesmartie wrote: »Susieq_1994 wrote: »You guys (ladies?), I have something I need to confess to all of you (especially to all of those awesome people who added me as friends).
So, here's the thing: I wasn't ever planning to confess this in here, because I didn't want to offend anyone or make anyone feel guilty. A small part of me was also afraid that it would backfire and I would get taunted, but after knowing everyone for a while, I'm sure it wouldn't happen. I've honestly been sitting here in front of my screen for an hour, trying to get up the courage to confess this to everyone here, and as I type this I'm beginning to cry.
Basically, I have an extreme phobia of profanity of any kind--whether it's typed or verbally spoken. It triggers my anxiety and my FND in a really big way, and this is one of the reasons that sticking with this thread has been a huge challenge for me. I was able to stick with it mostly because of MFP's profanity filters--otherwise I would be long gone due to a level of anxiety that I really can't handle.
Now, this poses a problem for me. While I'm really, really happy to have all of you add me as friends, my MFP feed doesn't have the profanity filter that the forums have, and I need my feed to be "safe" for me. Lately I've been scared and anxious whenever I open MFP, for fear of what I might read on the feed.
I just wanted to tell all of you who have been so kind to add me, that while I don't expect you to filter what you post on your MFP, I really don't want you to be offended if I delete you for usage of profanity. It DOES NOT MEAN that I don't like you or that I don't want to be your friend--this is just an issue that I have a terrible, terrible fear of and really can't handle. I honestly contemplated making a second account to log my food so I wouldn't have to look at the feed on this one so I wouldn't end up deleting or alienating any one of you--I decided that it was best to bite the bullet and tell the truth.
Please don't be offended, because I truly don't mean to offend anyone. I'm sorry if I've made anyone feel bad or guilty or angry at me by this confession.
No judgement and all that, right?
thanks for letting us know Susie. Its quite important because none of us would want to deliberately upset you.
I will endeavour to moderate my language, apologise in advance for any that slip through, and understand if you want to unfriend me - i won't take it personally
I am sorry... I did this in a message to you...I was just saying this AM that I need to stop swearing. So from now on...no more swearing in my feed or comments or messages. Susieq...you are making us better people!
I really appreciate it! I consider you a good friend, and I hate that I feel so anxious about having you on my list(s). You guys don't know how much it means when you try to make accommodations for me--I truly didn't expect it, and I have a major case of the warm fuzzies right now. Thank you all.
It's not a problem. And seriously I hate that I swear so much. This will help me work on it. I once read that to use profanity is the sign of an uneducated or unimaginative mind (or something like that) and it always bothered me. That I swore so much. So this is motivation! And we are good friends! So we will work on it together.
We'll do that! I'm sure you can improve if you set your mind to it. I've come a long way just by being able to stick with this thread--I'm trying hard at it because I don't want to live in a box forever, and I'll never have control over strange or new environments. Going to places like airports is over-the-top stressful, for example. 
Being stuck with you guys isn't so bad, anyhow...
You're super great! 
This conversation and openness and acceptance of each other just warms my heart! We're all here to help one another be their very best, right? This is great! Super great, obviously.0 -
Italian_Buju wrote: »Well, I am just gonna go ahead and assume the calorie count on that waffle cone is fair....since nobody seemed to notice that post.....
I always assume when I log an ice cream cone (did one from Braums) that it doesn't include ice cream. Hope that helps. I can't remember the specific question and I thought someone else would have answered.
PS. Thanks for you continued sympathies regarding my home situation. I truly appreciate it.
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I really like it because I'll be going along listening to my music and it'll beep and say start walking then beep start running and I don't have to look at my watch or anything it's great!
Great news for me. I am working on getting my physical endurance up a bit for a mud run in October.
Either of you tried the Zombies, run! app? I've heard good reviews about that one.
That may be one I need to look into since The Walking Dead is my favorite show. Gotta train for the apocalypse!!
I'm counting on you, @crosbylee and @quiksylver296
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Confession: I'm seriously considering the intermittent fasting diet. I'm clearly not getting anywhere with the old fashioned calorie counting and I'm actually getting quite desperate now. I want to book a doctors appointment but I think they will say the same thing as my mum "Why don't you join weight watchers or slimming world" Yea, I don't want to pay someone to watch me stand on a scale.
I'm also considering taking all the money I have saved for a deposit on a house and getting someone to just suck all the fat out of me.
It's all feeling very hopeless at the moment
I've done 5:2 intermittently. (that sounds weird, ha ha) I've mentioned before that when he's home my SO does the cooking and that generally results in huge portions of very rich and rather "junky" food -- not at all how I'd choose to eat -- so when he's gone I'll do 5:2 to kind of recalibrate, especially since my IBS is usually in overdrive by the time he leaves (we seriously eat like cr@p).
I'd say give it a try.
But keep saving that house money!!!0 -
kellyjellybellyjelly wrote: »
Or make an ice cream sandwich.
I would have to go all day without eating or work out for multiple hours to be able to fit a Pop Tart ice cream sandwich in my daily allotment. However, it sound delicious!
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I really like it because I'll be going along listening to my music and it'll beep and say start walking then beep start running and I don't have to look at my watch or anything it's great!
Great news for me. I am working on getting my physical endurance up a bit for a mud run in October.
Either of you tried the Zombies, run! app? I've heard good reviews about that one.
That may be one I need to look into since The Walking Dead is my favorite show. Gotta train for the apocalypse!!
I'm counting on you, @crosbylee and @quiksylver296
Like I've said before, I've never watched TWD. But...I think I saw a commercial for a spin-off show. Did anyone see that?
@MoHousdon remember, we're meeting at Mt. Rushmore. 0 -
Edited because men are men, whatever, but don't make it public, I don't want that visual thanks
This. This is how I feel. I know most guys are like that but I just don't want to think/hear about it because it makes me feel bad for some reason. Ignorance sometimes really is bliss...
Edited to add: I'm pretty sure the reason I feel like this is because I imagine my boyfriend being like that and even if I broke up with him, I can imagine the next guy being like that too. That is on me I know but it's just the way I feel.
No most men aren't like that or at least myself and the guys I know.
Thank you for this.0 -
kelly_c_77 wrote: »My son and I were playing outside a little earlier and I noticed just how bad our rose bushes and flower garden have gotten overrun with weeds. I started pulling the weeds and of course, he wanted "to help"...so I let him toss the pulled weeds into a pile. Anyway, some neighbors walked by and started chatting with him and asked what he was up to. His reply? "Just doing weed with Mama"!! I almost died....and quickly cleared it up that we were WEEDING not doing weed.
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I'm up about 1 - 1.4 pounds after the trip -- but I am going to give it another day to see how much was just too much salt (a lot of things I ate were salty and I don't usually have salty foods.)
Might be plane weight, too. I always shoot up a bit after I'm on a plane (water retention?) and it takes 3-4 days for me to go back to normal.0 -
pofoster21 wrote: »I still need to catch up but I wanted to vent on something.
No one probably remembers but I have talked about that guy who is on the phone at work all the time and everyone loves him even though he barely works...he just let me know he won some award so he is getting a plaque/prize at 10 today.
I'm like seriously...
This just happened to me. The conference I am at they did recognition awards. The guy in my group that won got recognized for 2 projects I led. One was done before he came on board. The other he came in on the tail end and had zero to do with. I totally led them. This is like the 4th time over the years this has happened to me. No one in an operations driven organization ever appreciates marketing communications. But I PROJECT LED these. This guy is connected.
I confess as soon as the awards were over I grabbed my stuff, went to hotel, and am now drowning my sorrows by reading this thread. I am feeling very sad.
You being sad, makes me sad. I'm sorry someone else got recognition for your hard work. That really sucks. I present this award to you, which I'm sure is far superior to any plaque he got.
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kelly_c_77 wrote: »
Hope this works! Might be huge..if so, I apologize.
Wow that's a lot of cats (super cute, too)! I forget who else had a bunch, including a pregnant porch kitty, you might might give that person a run for their money in the cat hoarding war
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Edited because men are men, whatever, but don't make it public, I don't want that visual thanks
This. This is how I feel. I know most guys are like that but I just don't want to think/hear about it because it makes me feel bad for some reason. Ignorance sometimes really is bliss...
Edited to add: I'm pretty sure the reason I feel like this is because I imagine my boyfriend being like that and even if I broke up with him, I can imagine the next guy being like that too. That is on me I know but it's just the way I feel.
No most men aren't like that or at least myself and the guys I know.
True, most men aren't like that, but men like that are more vocal!0 -
CountessKitteh wrote: »girldownsouth wrote: »lilaclovebird wrote: »lilaclovebird wrote: »Beat off at work bathroom to thoughts of new reception girl
I think it's funny that you say this, but on your page your inspirations are
> Intimidating the boys coming around for my daughters
> To be the best example to my son that I can be
that new reception girl is someones daughter too y'know, and I'm not sure that is a good example of being a man now is it?
I confess: I am judging you for judging that post...BUT his friends list consists almost entirely of attractive females with their make-up covered faces and body parts exposed....I smell a misogynist.
I normally skip past those posts, but that made me a little sick in my mouth and had to see what kind of creep we are dealing with. Turns out to be a hypocritical one. So I felt a little urge to publicly shame him. Judge all you want, if I found out a man did that at my place of work or that new receptionist was my {hypothetical} daughter, he would be one testicle missing.
Edited because men are men, whatever, but don't make it public, I don't want that visual thanks
Edit again because: Why are you judging me for judging that? (out of curiosity, not picking a fight), it's disgusting and offensive.
Because it's supposed to be a 'NO JUDGEMENT' thread. /irony
The fact is, I totally agree with you and you were right to call him on his bullsmurf. Imagine if the woman herself found out about his 'fantasizing'. Life is NOT a porno, she would likely be horribly offended and never want to work near you again, dude.
It also definitely had the air of a confession that was merely posted to try and stir stuff up.
Men ARE men but, in my opinion, grown men don't 'beat off' to the new receptionist while at work. They should wait until they get home for that kind of thing. Do WORK at work. Or...post on a forum about the crappy way you've been eating lately and how you have skipped workouts and how you are posting things at work when you really should be working(I am guilty of all these things).
Also, I noted in my post that he was likely a misogynistic hypocrite based on his friends list, which, I confess, was also me judging him.
TL;DR: I wasn't ACTUALLY judging you. I was agreeing with you and then confessing my own judgement of 'Yeah, this dude is a misogynistic hypocrite who should keep his self love schedule to himself'.
ETA: Some things just come across poorly in textual format. Or maybe I am slightly terrible at expressing myself in the way I actually intend...
I also think he's the same man who had the sleeping girlfriend.
I can confirm this.
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Well if I knew this man IRL I would report him to the police as a predator and a threat to society. (Little bit too much?) As I said earlier I put my big girl panties on this morning, I've gone all feminist, did my Stonglift session at the gym and I'm PUMPED!
well... after my 15min accidental nap at my desk. 
You go girl (or woman? not sure which is more appropriate for your morning feminist streak )! I say no worries about your nap - you hit it so hard this morning you needed a little recovery. 0 -
ok guys I am on the fence about something. I got asked out on a date this weekend. I don't date because in reality I don't have a lot of free time and I am certainly not wanting to take any time away from my son. But in spite of all this I am considering going. What's a girl to do?0
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Beat off at work bathroom to thoughts of new reception girl
I think it's funny that you say this, but on your page your inspirations are
> Intimidating the boys coming around for my daughters
> To be the best example to my son that I can be
that new reception girl is someones daughter too y'know, and I'm not sure that is a good example of being a man now is it?
STANDS AND GIVES @Lois_1989 A ROUND OF APPLAUSE! (yes, this is worth yelling about!)0 -
I would stand in front of it and say "Tea. Earl Grey. Hot."kellyjellybellyjelly wrote: »Susieq_1994 wrote: »Susieq_1994 wrote: »kellienw335 wrote: »
Considering the heat of the summers in Oman, when I was a kid we used to buy them and leave the foil packets on the dashboard of the car on the way home. Then they were all warm and soft and melty... Mmm. I can definitely think of better desserts, but I still love poptarts!
@pofoster21 It's all so pretty! We just live in a rented apartment, so I have to live with the terrible plastic cupboards and nasty uneven counters. I don't mind it, though--as tiny as it is, it's the best kitchen I've had in a long time, and best of all, it's ALL MINE.
We rent too, and my kitchen is...something. It's a shame, because it's got high-end, stainless, new Samsung appliances and is very, very modern, but it is NOT MY STYLE AT ALL. We have shiny red cupboards, stainless steel backsplash, stark white countertops and tile floor and bright white nuclear holocaust lighting, and it's just the opposite of what I would have chosen (anything but that fingerprint-y awful stainless...whites and pale blues and light woods, maybe with some navy and red accents, nothing lacquered and nothing stark.)
Objectively it is a stylish kitchen but I hate it a lot. And we have a tiny highrise apartment so it's a narrow galley kitchen too and I would give my right toes for decent counter space and more storage.
Your kitchen sounds like mine! Tasteless and ugly. I do have all those shiny Samsung appliances (they didn't come with the apartment though, we bought those ourselves), but there's VERY little kitchen space, no air conditioner (you would only know how torturous this is if you lived in the Gulf. My kitchen settles at 30C/86F in the early afternoon), and there's hardly even space to turn around. The cabinets are shiny and plastic and cheap, and half of the doors were already broken when we moved in because they weren't installed properly.
I still love it though, because I enjoy cooking and baking and my kitchen is my haven for making all kinds of stuff. When I visit family I miss having my cozy little kitchen with all of my dishes and spices and such, knowing where everything is, having everything you need on hand, etc. It's just so nice to have your own place, even when it isn't perfect!
I wish there was a machine that Rosie had on the Jetsons that popped out whatever food item you wanted. Oh you want a hot fudge sundae well here you go. Pizza with whatever toppings you want? Flies right out & lands on a plate.
"Fries. Extra crispy. No calories."
Ha! Literally snorted at that one 0 -
Beat off at work bathroom to thoughts of new reception girl
I think it's funny that you say this, but on your page your inspirations are
> Intimidating the boys coming around for my daughters
> To be the best example to my son that I can be
that new reception girl is someones daughter too y'know, and I'm not sure that is a good example of being a man now is it?
STANDS AND GIVES @Lois_1989 A ROUND OF APPLAUSE! (yes, this is worth yelling about!)
Lois you are SUPER GREAT!!!0 -
lilaclovebird wrote: »Beat off at work bathroom to thoughts of new reception girl
I think it's funny that you say this, but on your page your inspirations are
> Intimidating the boys coming around for my daughters
> To be the best example to my son that I can be
that new reception girl is someones daughter too y'know, and I'm not sure that is a good example of being a man now is it?
I confess: I am judging you for judging that post...BUT his friends list consists almost entirely of attractive females with their make-up covered faces and body parts exposed....I smell a misogynist.
I normally skip past those posts, but that made me a little sick in my mouth and had to see what kind of creep we are dealing with. Turns out to be a hypocritical one. So I felt a little urge to publicly shame him. Judge all you want, if I found out a man did that at my place of work or that new receptionist was my {hypothetical} daughter, he would be one testicle missing.
Edited because men are men, whatever, but don't make it public, I don't want that visual thanks
Edit again because: Why are you judging me for judging that? (out of curiosity, not picking a fight), it's disgusting and offensive.
As @spamarie says maybe it's a reference to something, but I for one are glad you responded the way you did. Sometimes I think guys come here to confess something knowing this thread is mostly women just to get a reaction. Nope, don't have time. We're busy talking amongst ourselves and enjoying each others company. I could be wrong, of course.0 -
pofoster21 wrote: »I still need to catch up but I wanted to vent on something.
No one probably remembers but I have talked about that guy who is on the phone at work all the time and everyone loves him even though he barely works...he just let me know he won some award so he is getting a plaque/prize at 10 today.
I'm like seriously...
This just happened to me. The conference I am at they did recognition awards. The guy in my group that won got recognized for 2 projects I led. One was done before he came on board. The other he came in on the tail end and had zero to do with. I totally led them. This is like the 4th time over the years this has happened to me. No one in an operations driven organization ever appreciates marketing communications. But I PROJECT LED these. This guy is connected.
I confess as soon as the awards were over I grabbed my stuff, went to hotel, and am now drowning my sorrows by reading this thread. I am feeling very sad.
You being sad, makes me sad. I'm sorry someone else got recognition for your hard work. That really sucks. I present this award to you, which I'm sure is far superior to any plaque he got.
Frankly, that's better than anything the slacker coworker received, I'm sure.0
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