Confession Time! ((ABSOLUTELY NO JUDGEMENT))

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  • MoHousdon
    MoHousdon Posts: 8,723 Member
    I ate a biscuit with honey from KFC :( and mashed potatoes

    I now want a KFC biscuit and honey sauce. I've been craving fried chicken for many days (maybe because of something someone said on here) and I still have yet to eat any. I have been watching my eating the last couple weeks to prevent excess baggage for my trip, but I REALLY WANT SOME FRIED CHICKEN!!!

  • MoHousdon
    MoHousdon Posts: 8,723 Member
    MoHousdon wrote: »
    crosbylee wrote: »
    m1xm0d3 wrote: »
    crosbylee wrote: »
    LBuehrle8 wrote: »
    crosbylee wrote: »
    LBuehrle8 wrote: »
    Started the C25k app today because I like having someone tell me when to run and when to walk :)

    I am ready to start that myself. I was hoping that would tell me what to do!!

    I really like it because I'll be going along listening to my music and it'll beep and say start walking then beep start running and I don't have to look at my watch or anything it's great!

    Great news for me. I am working on getting my physical endurance up a bit for a mud run in October.

    Either of you tried the Zombies, run! app? I've heard good reviews about that one.

    That may be one I need to look into since The Walking Dead is my favorite show. Gotta train for the apocalypse!!

    I'm counting on you, @crosbylee and @quiksylver296

    Like I've said before, I've never watched TWD. But...I think I saw a commercial for a spin-off show. Did anyone see that?

    @MoHousdon remember, we're meeting at Mt. Rushmore. :p

    How could I forget!?

  • LH85DC
    LH85DC Posts: 231 Member
    Last weekend we went out on a boat with some of fiance's coworkers, and I got really sunburnt on my back and left shoulder. Had sunscreen on, but must not have applied very well :neutral: My confession here is that my fiance felt guilty about not having helped me apply the sunscreen, and I've taken advantage of it all week long getting him to help me put on aloe and lotion and itch cream to make it feel better! whoops...
  • MoHousdon
    MoHousdon Posts: 8,723 Member
    ok guys I am on the fence about something. I got asked out on a date this weekend. I don't date because in reality I don't have a lot of free time and I am certainly not wanting to take any time away from my son. But in spite of all this I am considering going. What's a girl to do?

    Do you like date asker guy? If the answer is yes, then I say GO FOR IT!

  • raelynnsmama52512
    raelynnsmama52512 Posts: 1,184 Member
    BZAH10 wrote: »
    BZAH10 wrote: »
    Can we just cancel today? :unamused:
    As I've mentioned, hubby is out of town, and now just so happens to be the perfect time for Raelynn to get sick. As in, puking all over the bathroom and kitchen sick. She refuses to eat, just wants water, and is currently lying down in her bed watching a movie as that's all she wants to do. Not to mention, the actual act of vomiting was enough to trigger one of her daily multiple anxiety attacks. Needless to say, at this point neither one of us is concerned at all about eating and not really doing much of anything else either. :frowning:

    Oh no! I'm SO sorry! I hope she feels better soon. Hopefully it is just something that passes quickly and that the change of her father being away won't affect her any more than this.

    Thanks. :smile:
    I'm not exactly sure if it's her being upset about her daddy being gone or if she's got some kind of bug. I did have to break the news last night that daddy wouldn't be coming home for a few days, and that broke her little heart. I'm almost wondering if her drinking some diet dr pepper here lately could have something to do with it or not, because that's pretty much what came up. *sorry, tmi*

    No worries. When it comes to our kids we have to find out what the source is so that hopefully it won't be repeated. I hope it was just the soda and that it is out of her system now. Pretty sure your day can only improve from here, right??? Hope so.

    I'm hoping today gets a little better. I just laid her down for a nap, so hopefully she'll feel better with some rest. I think she's going to have to avoid the soda, just to be safe. (Mommy fail there)
    nonoelmo wrote: »
    Can we just cancel today? :unamused:
    As I've mentioned, hubby is out of town, and now just so happens to be the perfect time for Raelynn to get sick. As in, puking all over the bathroom and kitchen sick. She refuses to eat, just wants water, and is currently lying down in her bed watching a movie as that's all she wants to do. Not to mention, the actual act of vomiting was enough to trigger one of her daily multiple anxiety attacks. Needless to say, at this point neither one of us is concerned at all about eating and not really doing much of anything else either. :frowning:

    I hope she's okay soon.

    Thanks, me too.
  • m1xm0d3
    m1xm0d3 Posts: 1,576 Member
    xMrBunglex wrote: »
    I bike to work every day...today is "Bike to Work Day" in Denver.

    I confess that I call it "Amateur Hour" because all these people clumsily trying to load their bikes on the light rail, rubbing their tires on my pants, riding without helmets, running red lights, riding down the middle of the street & just generally being clueless bicyclists is making me VERY STABBY THIS MORNING

    LOL me too (commuting). Any day it's over 45 degrees F and not forecasted to rain. 7 miles in, 13 miles back home to make an even 20+ miles per commute. Do you log your rides? I am on mapmyride if you wanna link up.

    http://www.mapmyride.com/profile/33110001/
  • riderfangal
    riderfangal Posts: 1,965 Member
    MoHousdon wrote: »
    ok guys I am on the fence about something. I got asked out on a date this weekend. I don't date because in reality I don't have a lot of free time and I am certainly not wanting to take any time away from my son. But in spite of all this I am considering going. What's a girl to do?

    Do you like date asker guy? If the answer is yes, then I say GO FOR IT!

    I do like said guy lol
  • qn4bx9pzg8aifd
    qn4bx9pzg8aifd Posts: 258 Member
    Lois_1989 wrote: »
    Edited because men are men, whatever, but don't make it public, I don't want that visual thanks
    FroggyBug wrote: »
    This. This is how I feel. I know most guys are like that but I just don't want to think/hear about it because it makes me feel bad for some reason. Ignorance sometimes really is bliss...
    festerw wrote: »
    No most men aren't like that or at least myself and the guys I know.
    Just_Ceci wrote: »
    True, most men aren't like that, but men like that are more vocal!
    As a woman myself, I didn't think I could really speak up about it with much surety, but I agree--It's a case of the minority making the majority look nasty. [...] And I doubt there are many men who are nasty/immoral enough to do that kind of thing in a professional setting, no matter what they might do in the privacy of their homes.

    @festerw, am glad that you aren't like, and that you don't know or otherwise hang around with, guys like that...

    @Just_Ceci, not surprisingly, there are also men like that who are not vocal about it... or who are otherwise smart enough to 'keep it under wraps'... or who would seemingly only 'share' such crap with 'others of their kind' (a few of which I happened to (unfortunately) be physically close 'enough' to, one day, several years ago... and overheard... and they seemed to be oblivious to the fact that someone/anyone/I could hear them... they were medical students... and one of them was going to be starting his gynecology rotation the following week... and what I heard him say resulted in my from-that-day-forward disallowing any male medical student to ever be present for any gynecological anything that I would ever need done in any teaching facility... suffice it to say, his comments about what he looked forward to, with pelvic exams, was not something I'll ever forget)...

    ...and while that was one male, I'm also aware that something akin to 'the greater numbers associated with a vocal minority' aspect of 'customer service comments' whatnot would seem to apply -- for every one person who 'speaks up', there are many more who remain silent -- though of a similar mindset/reaction/'take'...


    @Susieq_1994, while I agree that there are likely not a lot of men who would actually engage in 'the act in question' in a professional setting, it doesn't mean that there aren't more who think about doing so, or who otherwise 'wait until they get home'...

    ...and while no actual 'percentage' could be realistically ascribed to 'what fraction of men are like that', it goes without saying that the world would likely be a far more intimidating and fear-laden 'place' for women, were such men's thoughts to be known by every woman whose body any such man were to 'see'...

    ...as @FroggyBug said... ignorance sometimes really is bliss...


    @Lois_1989, thank you for the careful-yet-direct way in which you politely pointed out the hypocrisy associated with the unfortunate (and supposedly truthful) statements in question...


    ...this topic, in general, results in my SO wishing a Freaky Friday -like form of 'switch' were possible, so that any such man could be 'required' to live a portion of his life as a woman (and in particular, a woman whose life could 'teach him what the other side of that experience/environment/'equation' feels like')...

    ...and for that matter, I wish it were possible with every form of discrimination, and various realities for which a 'teaching moment' needed to involve a rather dramatic method of 'driving the point home' (finding it hard to understand what this might be like 'from the other side'? -- here! -- try *this* on for size! -- LIVE IT!)...


    [/end of quasi-rant]
    [/stepping away from soapbox]
    [/shutting up]
  • kellienw335
    kellienw335 Posts: 1,745 Member
    festerw wrote: »
    @AngryViking1970 and @WestCoastJo82 Thanks I probably will. An evening that doesn't involve talking about Spongebob , farts or other bodily functions might be nice!

    I'd be lying if I said a lot of the conversations my wife and I have involve farts and bodily functions. That's how you know they're a good person lol.

    There are lots of conversations surrounding bodily functions at our house too!
  • MrsMunn2012
    MrsMunn2012 Posts: 4 Member
    When I started this, I was diagnosed with insulin resistance. I was on Metformin for months. I've successfully reversed my insulin resistance, but I've been too scared to come off the Metformin - I think I convinced myself that it was the only reason I've successfully lost the 69 pounds - that I'm incapable of doing it on my own.

    I did stop, as of Wednesday. I still scared :)

    Hey I found out recently I have that I'm not on metormin yet. What kind of a food plan are you using? You can message me or add me if you want I'd like to hear what you found works for you!
    Thanks!
  • riderfangal
    riderfangal Posts: 1,965 Member
    festerw wrote: »
    @AngryViking1970 and @WestCoastJo82 Thanks I probably will. An evening that doesn't involve talking about Spongebob , farts or other bodily functions might be nice!

    I'd be lying if I said a lot of the conversations my wife and I have involve farts and bodily functions. That's how you know they're a good person lol.

    There are lots of conversations surrounding bodily functions at our house too!

    It's so nice to know I am not alone :)
  • bkhamill
    bkhamill Posts: 1,289 Member
    Today I took the kids shopping with me and told them they could each spend $1 (I'm cheap, I know, but that's not my confession). We ended up in the candy aisle, of course, where I spent 10 minutes looking at all of the kinds of chocolate and checking calories. After 10 minutes, I finally decided none of it was worth the calories and left with nothing. It was not my first time doing this. I don't have much of a sweet tooth but once in awhile I want chocolate, but then I can't find anything worth the calories. I ended up having a sugar-free chocolate pudding. Why oh why can't I find chocolate that's worth it!?

    I guess that wasn't much of a confession. I'll try harder next time.

    Astor Belgium Dark chocolate with sea salt! I wish I could find this in stores, but cannot. my cafeteria sells them at work, and they are soooo yummy!
  • FroggyBug
    FroggyBug Posts: 4,883 Member
    LBuehrle8 wrote: »
    BZAH10 wrote: »
    ok guys I am on the fence about something. I got asked out on a date this weekend. I don't date because in reality I don't have a lot of free time and I am certainly not wanting to take any time away from my son. But in spite of all this I am considering going. What's a girl to do?

    Go. Enjoy. Doesn't have to be serious or time consuming. YOU set the boundaries! Give a try. You never know, right?

    I think this is awesome advice!

    Thanks guys. I think I will probably give it a go!!! Now I have to find something to wear lol

    I think you should go as well. It may be fun!
  • ythannah
    ythannah Posts: 4,371 Member
    pofoster21 wrote: »
    FroggyBug wrote: »
    I still need to catch up but I wanted to vent on something.

    No one probably remembers but I have talked about that guy who is on the phone at work all the time and everyone loves him even though he barely works...he just let me know he won some award so he is getting a plaque/prize at 10 today.

    I'm like seriously...

    This just happened to me. The conference I am at they did recognition awards. The guy in my group that won got recognized for 2 projects I led. One was done before he came on board. The other he came in on the tail end and had zero to do with. I totally led them. This is like the 4th time over the years this has happened to me. No one in an operations driven organization ever appreciates marketing communications. But I PROJECT LED these. This guy is connected.

    I confess as soon as the awards were over I grabbed my stuff, went to hotel, and am now drowning my sorrows by reading this thread. :( I am feeling very sad.

    Ohhh that totally sucks! :/ Sure sounds like some sort of favouritism going on. Mind you, some of those ambitious types just rack up the undeserved awards so they can move up to their next rung... maybe he'll be gone soon?
  • FroggyBug
    FroggyBug Posts: 4,883 Member
    kecmw25 wrote: »
    pofoster21 wrote: »
    BZAH10 wrote: »
    pofoster21 wrote: »
    Francl27 wrote: »
    Is it me or is it mostly women posting here? Did we scare off most of the men?

    We have xMrBunglex and Uncle Fester sometimes. We ran off the rest with our talk of TOM, bras, breastfeeding and whatever else. :D

    I confess I was actually going to post TODAY that my confession is that I think I run off all the men in this thread. Example:
    -- I asked @tincanonastring if he worked at my company, he asked me if I was stalking him (I deduced where he came from by his posts) and within a week he was gone.
    -- I started engaging with @AgentOrangeJuice on messaging (he expressed sympathy about Oberon, I asked him about his new job, etc.) he disappeared.
    -- @flatasapancake posted a new chest picture, I said impressive! You are slowly working your way around your body, is your *kitten* next and he never came back.

    I have checked on all of them...they are all still posting (not much from @AgentOrangeJuice though so he may truly be busy).

    Like in real life, I scare all the men away. Sigh.

    No, do not blame yourself! It's kind of funny, when you type it out like that, but I highly doubt it has anything to do with you!

    Perhaps not but I am not a big believer in coincidence. But luckily mixmode has promised to stick around and I haven't scared off xMrBunglex yet....

    Nah, it wasn't you. I had to take a forum hiatus to attend to IRL stuff and by the time I came back, it was 1000 comments later and I just never picked back up in this thread. Those other guys, though...that was you!

    Confession: I promised to catch up on all the missed posts in this thread and I am fully committed to breaking that promise. No regrets...y'all post too much! :tongue:

    Yay!! Welcome back @tincanonastring!!

    Has anyone seen @ShibaEars? I miss her

    I was wondering about her as well.

  • ythannah
    ythannah Posts: 4,371 Member
    pofoster21 wrote: »
    But from now on at the barn and here, I am POF. :)

    Sorry, but you'll have to be Patricia in my mind, because POF just makes me think of the dating site Plenty of Fish.
  • bkhamill
    bkhamill Posts: 1,289 Member
    pofoster21 wrote: »
    FroggyBug wrote: »
    I still need to catch up but I wanted to vent on something.

    No one probably remembers but I have talked about that guy who is on the phone at work all the time and everyone loves him even though he barely works...he just let me know he won some award so he is getting a plaque/prize at 10 today.

    I'm like seriously...

    This just happened to me. The conference I am at they did recognition awards. The guy in my group that won got recognized for 2 projects I led. One was done before he came on board. The other he came in on the tail end and had zero to do with. I totally led them. This is like the 4th time over the years this has happened to me. No one in an operations driven organization ever appreciates marketing communications. But I PROJECT LED these. This guy is connected.

    I confess as soon as the awards were over I grabbed my stuff, went to hotel, and am now drowning my sorrows by reading this thread. :( I am feeling very sad.

    You really should speak up about him being rewarded for your efforts.
  • Susieq_1994
    Susieq_1994 Posts: 5,361 Member
    Can we just cancel today? :unamused:
    As I've mentioned, hubby is out of town, and now just so happens to be the perfect time for Raelynn to get sick. As in, puking all over the bathroom and kitchen sick. She refuses to eat, just wants water, and is currently lying down in her bed watching a movie as that's all she wants to do. Not to mention, the actual act of vomiting was enough to trigger one of her daily multiple anxiety attacks. Needless to say, at this point neither one of us is concerned at all about eating and not really doing much of anything else either. :frowning:

    Yikes. I hope your little one is feeling better soon. Hugs!

    I'm sorry to hear that your little is sick! Hope she feels better soon. :)
  • tulips_and_tea
    tulips_and_tea Posts: 5,741 Member
    I just thought about @ShibaEars yesterday, too! But, we have a few posters on vacation. @FluffySandwich is on vacation, right? Or, I could be completely wrong. I'm terrible at remembering details. Things move so fast here!
  • orangesmartie
    orangesmartie Posts: 1,870 Member
    Lois_1989 wrote: »
    Lois_1989 wrote: »
    Lois_1989 wrote: »
    ccourcha wrote: »
    Beat off at work bathroom to thoughts of new reception girl

    I think it's funny that you say this, but on your page your inspirations are

    > Intimidating the boys coming around for my daughters
    > To be the best example to my son that I can be

    that new reception girl is someones daughter too y'know, and I'm not sure that is a good example of being a man now is it?

    I confess: I am judging you for judging that post...BUT his friends list consists almost entirely of attractive females with their make-up covered faces and body parts exposed....I smell a misogynist.

    I normally skip past those posts, but that made me a little sick in my mouth and had to see what kind of creep we are dealing with. Turns out to be a hypocritical one. So I felt a little urge to publicly shame him. Judge all you want, if I found out a man did that at my place of work or that new receptionist was my {hypothetical} daughter, he would be one testicle missing.

    Edited because men are men, whatever, but don't make it public, I don't want that visual thanks

    Edit again because: Why are you judging me for judging that? (out of curiosity, not picking a fight), it's disgusting and offensive.

    Because it's supposed to be a 'NO JUDGEMENT' thread. /irony

    The fact is, I totally agree with you and you were right to call him on his bullsmurf. Imagine if the woman herself found out about his 'fantasizing'. Life is NOT a porno, she would likely be horribly offended and never want to work near you again, dude.
    It also definitely had the air of a confession that was merely posted to try and stir stuff up.
    Men ARE men but, in my opinion, grown men don't 'beat off' to the new receptionist while at work. They should wait until they get home for that kind of thing. Do WORK at work. Or...post on a forum about the crappy way you've been eating lately and how you have skipped workouts and how you are posting things at work when you really should be working(I am guilty of all these things).

    Also, I noted in my post that he was likely a misogynistic hypocrite based on his friends list, which, I confess, was also me judging him. :tongue:

    TL;DR: I wasn't ACTUALLY judging you. I was agreeing with you and then confessing my own judgement of 'Yeah, this dude is a misogynistic hypocrite who should keep his self love schedule to himself'.

    ETA: Some things just come across poorly in textual format. Or maybe I am slightly terrible at expressing myself in the way I actually intend... :disappointed:

    I also think he's the same man who had the sleeping girlfriend.

    I can confirm this.

    ETA: Quotes

    Well if I knew this man IRL I would report him to the police as a predator and a threat to society. (Little bit too much?) As I said earlier I put my big girl panties on this morning, I've gone all feminist, did my Stonglift session at the gym and I'm PUMPED! :lol: well... after my 15min accidental nap at my desk. :hushed:

    I think napping at your desk is awesome!

    Put on your big girl panties and suck it up cupcake are favourite phrases of mine
    My girlfriend hates them

  • quiksylver296
    quiksylver296 Posts: 28,439 Member
    Lois_1989 wrote: »
    Lois_1989 wrote: »
    Lois_1989 wrote: »
    ccourcha wrote: »
    Beat off at work bathroom to thoughts of new reception girl

    I think it's funny that you say this, but on your page your inspirations are

    > Intimidating the boys coming around for my daughters
    > To be the best example to my son that I can be

    that new reception girl is someones daughter too y'know, and I'm not sure that is a good example of being a man now is it?

    I confess: I am judging you for judging that post...BUT his friends list consists almost entirely of attractive females with their make-up covered faces and body parts exposed....I smell a misogynist.

    I normally skip past those posts, but that made me a little sick in my mouth and had to see what kind of creep we are dealing with. Turns out to be a hypocritical one. So I felt a little urge to publicly shame him. Judge all you want, if I found out a man did that at my place of work or that new receptionist was my {hypothetical} daughter, he would be one testicle missing.

    Edited because men are men, whatever, but don't make it public, I don't want that visual thanks

    Edit again because: Why are you judging me for judging that? (out of curiosity, not picking a fight), it's disgusting and offensive.

    Because it's supposed to be a 'NO JUDGEMENT' thread. /irony

    The fact is, I totally agree with you and you were right to call him on his bullsmurf. Imagine if the woman herself found out about his 'fantasizing'. Life is NOT a porno, she would likely be horribly offended and never want to work near you again, dude.
    It also definitely had the air of a confession that was merely posted to try and stir stuff up.
    Men ARE men but, in my opinion, grown men don't 'beat off' to the new receptionist while at work. They should wait until they get home for that kind of thing. Do WORK at work. Or...post on a forum about the crappy way you've been eating lately and how you have skipped workouts and how you are posting things at work when you really should be working(I am guilty of all these things).

    Also, I noted in my post that he was likely a misogynistic hypocrite based on his friends list, which, I confess, was also me judging him. :tongue:

    TL;DR: I wasn't ACTUALLY judging you. I was agreeing with you and then confessing my own judgement of 'Yeah, this dude is a misogynistic hypocrite who should keep his self love schedule to himself'.

    ETA: Some things just come across poorly in textual format. Or maybe I am slightly terrible at expressing myself in the way I actually intend... :disappointed:

    I also think he's the same man who had the sleeping girlfriend.

    I can confirm this.

    ETA: Quotes

    Well if I knew this man IRL I would report him to the police as a predator and a threat to society. (Little bit too much?) As I said earlier I put my big girl panties on this morning, I've gone all feminist, did my Stonglift session at the gym and I'm PUMPED! :lol: well... after my 15min accidental nap at my desk. :hushed:

    I think napping at your desk is awesome!

    Put on your big girl panties and suck it up cupcake are favourite phrases of mine
    My girlfriend hates them

    We say "suck it up, buttercup." :p
  • raelynnsmama52512
    raelynnsmama52512 Posts: 1,184 Member
    edited June 2015
    Can we just cancel today? :unamused:
    As I've mentioned, hubby is out of town, and now just so happens to be the perfect time for Raelynn to get sick. As in, puking all over the bathroom and kitchen sick. She refuses to eat, just wants water, and is currently lying down in her bed watching a movie as that's all she wants to do. Not to mention, the actual act of vomiting was enough to trigger one of her daily multiple anxiety attacks. Needless to say, at this point neither one of us is concerned at all about eating and not really doing much of anything else either. :frowning:

    Yikes. I hope your little one is feeling better soon. Hugs!

    I'm sorry to hear that your little is sick! Hope she feels better soon. :)

    Thank you! She's napping now, so hopefully she'll feel better when she gets up.

    *edited for grammar/punctuation fail
  • riderfangal
    riderfangal Posts: 1,965 Member
    ythannah wrote: »
    pofoster21 wrote: »
    But from now on at the barn and here, I am POF. :)

    Sorry, but you'll have to be Patricia in my mind, because POF just makes me think of the dating site Plenty of Fish.

    Me too but I didn't want to say it so in my mind she is also Patricia
  • Susieq_1994
    Susieq_1994 Posts: 5,361 Member
    Lois_1989 wrote: »
    Edited because men are men, whatever, but don't make it public, I don't want that visual thanks
    FroggyBug wrote: »
    This. This is how I feel. I know most guys are like that but I just don't want to think/hear about it because it makes me feel bad for some reason. Ignorance sometimes really is bliss...
    festerw wrote: »
    No most men aren't like that or at least myself and the guys I know.
    Just_Ceci wrote: »
    True, most men aren't like that, but men like that are more vocal!
    As a woman myself, I didn't think I could really speak up about it with much surety, but I agree--It's a case of the minority making the majority look nasty. [...] And I doubt there are many men who are nasty/immoral enough to do that kind of thing in a professional setting, no matter what they might do in the privacy of their homes.

    @Just_Ceci, not surprisingly, there are also men like that who are not vocal about it... or who are otherwise smart enough to 'keep it under wraps'... or who would seemingly only 'share' such crap with 'others of their kind' (a few of which I happened to (unfortunately) be physically close 'enough' to, one day, several years ago... and overheard... and they seemed to be oblivious to the fact that someone/anyone/I could hear them... they were medical students... and one of them was going to be starting his gynecology rotation the following week... and what I heard him say resulted in my from-that-day-forward disallowing any male medical student to ever be present for any gynecological anything that I would ever need done in any teaching facility... suffice it to say, his comments about what he looked forward to, with pelvic exams, was not something I'll ever forget)...

    ...and while that was one male, I'm also aware that something akin to 'the greater numbers associated with a vocal minority' aspect of 'customer service comments' whatnot would seem to apply -- for every one person who 'speaks up', there are many more who remain silent -- though of a similar mindset/reaction/'take'...


    @Susieq_1994, while I agree that there are likely not a lot of men who would actually engage in 'the act in question' in a professional setting, it doesn't mean that there aren't more who think about doing so, or who otherwise 'wait until they get home'...

    ...and while no actual 'percentage' could be realistically ascribed to 'what fraction of men are like that', it goes without saying that the world would likely be a far more intimidating and fear-laden 'place' for women, were such men's thoughts to be known by every woman whose body any such man were to 'see'...

    While I see your point, here's something that a lot of people don't stop to consider when writing off people as nasty or vulgar:

    Humans are sexual beings; there's no doubt about that. Our bodies were created in a way that is attractive to each other, and in a way that causes us to be aroused by the bodies of those that we define as attractive. This applies to both males and females. Sexual thoughts and fantasies are a natural part of ALL of us, whether we like it or not, and labeling someone as a bad or nasty person for thinking those sorts of thoughts about an attractive person would mean labeling most of the world as such.

    When someone leaves their house in attire that's flattering or revealing (this applies to BOTH genders--I'm not being sexist in any way or judging anyone here), they should know and acknowledge that others will see and appreciate what is accentuated or shown, opening themselves to the possibility of others regarding them sexually.

    If someone is aroused by any given person, and that leads to any sort of... erm... "follow up" in the privacy of that person's own home, I don't see why they would be a bad person. Many people indulge in those sorts of fantasies over celebrities, and I don't see anyone calling them nasty. Having them about regular, attractive people around you is just as normal.

    The key here is the treatment of the attractive person, as well as the privacy of the matter. If you treat them like a normal human being, you're polite to them and don't make any kind of nasty overtures, then you've done nothing wrong by finding them sexually attractive or even thinking sexual thoughts about that person--these two things are both completely natural. Acting on those sexual thoughts in the privacy of your home is also a normal reaction.

    What would be nasty, vulgar, or inappropriate is treating or regarding them as nothing but an object of desire and thinking of them as such--which is the vibe I got from the original post being discussed. I think someone is nasty or vulgar if they go around announcing that they did something like that or discussed it in an open group of other people. I also find it nasty, unethical, and inappropriate if someone did that in a professional environment--we aren't animals, and we should be able to control ourselves.

    The Islamic side of the matter is a whole other novel that I won't go into, but to make it short, Islam recognizes the above as fact of our human-ness. :)

    Just my two cents--I hope I came across clearly. Although considering how long it is, there might be a whole dollar in there... ;)
  • Susieq_1994
    Susieq_1994 Posts: 5,361 Member
    FroggyBug wrote: »
    kecmw25 wrote: »
    pofoster21 wrote: »
    BZAH10 wrote: »
    pofoster21 wrote: »
    Francl27 wrote: »
    Is it me or is it mostly women posting here? Did we scare off most of the men?

    We have xMrBunglex and Uncle Fester sometimes. We ran off the rest with our talk of TOM, bras, breastfeeding and whatever else. :D

    I confess I was actually going to post TODAY that my confession is that I think I run off all the men in this thread. Example:
    -- I asked @tincanonastring if he worked at my company, he asked me if I was stalking him (I deduced where he came from by his posts) and within a week he was gone.
    -- I started engaging with @AgentOrangeJuice on messaging (he expressed sympathy about Oberon, I asked him about his new job, etc.) he disappeared.
    -- @flatasapancake posted a new chest picture, I said impressive! You are slowly working your way around your body, is your *kitten* next and he never came back.

    I have checked on all of them...they are all still posting (not much from @AgentOrangeJuice though so he may truly be busy).

    Like in real life, I scare all the men away. Sigh.

    No, do not blame yourself! It's kind of funny, when you type it out like that, but I highly doubt it has anything to do with you!

    Perhaps not but I am not a big believer in coincidence. But luckily mixmode has promised to stick around and I haven't scared off xMrBunglex yet....

    Nah, it wasn't you. I had to take a forum hiatus to attend to IRL stuff and by the time I came back, it was 1000 comments later and I just never picked back up in this thread. Those other guys, though...that was you!

    Confession: I promised to catch up on all the missed posts in this thread and I am fully committed to breaking that promise. No regrets...y'all post too much! :tongue:

    Yay!! Welcome back @tincanonastring!!

    Has anyone seen @ShibaEars? I miss her

    I was wondering about her as well.

    I thought she mentioned that she was going somewhere for a while? Didn't she? Or am I thinking of the wrong poster here?
  • Susieq_1994
    Susieq_1994 Posts: 5,361 Member
    BZAH10 wrote: »
    I just thought about @ShibaEars yesterday, too! But, we have a few posters on vacation. @FluffySandwich is on vacation, right? Or, I could be completely wrong. I'm terrible at remembering details. Things move so fast here!

    @FluffySandwich was definitely on vacation. I shared airplane pictures with her a while back when she mentioned that she would be flying and loved the view out of airplane windows, so I do remember that for sure. I'm not sure if she came back yet or not, though.
  • bkhamill
    bkhamill Posts: 1,289 Member
    Tubbs216 wrote: »
    The only two Irish Setters I ever knew were both beautiful but completely insane and uncontrollable. Is that a breed trait or were the two owners (quite normal, sensible people) just unlucky?

    Not a breed trait. My parents raised Irish Setters when I was a kid, we had one that was the smartest and sweetest dog I have ever known. I trained her to do all kinds of things. Her name was Sally and miss that dog. (she always had 12-16 puppies per litter too)
  • orangesmartie
    orangesmartie Posts: 1,870 Member
    POF: sorry you are feeling sad. You should try to address it with your boss. If you can


  • Susieq_1994
    Susieq_1994 Posts: 5,361 Member
    I confess that I've done a completely crazy amount of cardio (stationary bike) today to offset the equally crazy amount of butterscotch-flavored baking chips that I ate today. My rear is killing me. :D
  • kecmw25
    kecmw25 Posts: 2,743 Member
    I tripped and fell during my run this morning. I am thankful that my dog showed geniune concern for me instead of laughing.