Confession Time! ((ABSOLUTELY NO JUDGEMENT))
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orangesmartie wrote: »pofoster21 wrote: »orangesmartie wrote: »@coastalpath I’m really sorry you are struggling. If you can, try and carve a few minutes out of each day to look after yourself, whether its some deep breathing/meditation, exercise, a solitary cup of coffee. It is also important that you acknowledge your stress and feelings, don’t squash them away because others think you should. Everything you think and feel is valid to you.
I’m going to check out the fitbit thread in a moment. I’m having a bit of a sucky morning at work.
Totally randomly, as I drove back from Devon last night, I planned what I might have for my wedding reception. Partly inspired by this thread and partly by a comedienne that was on radio 4 (don’t judge) yesterday. Bear in mind my relationship structure means I will never get married, but still, I planned it…
So I’d have an afternoon tea, catered by my favourite Torquay café, with made to order sandwiches (guests choose from a small list of fillings); bread is home made white or granary. A variety of home made scones, with cherry, or ginger, or white choc chips in. Lots of different fruit jams. And huge bowls of clotted cream. There may also be cinnamon toast. And lots of different cakes, like Victoria sponge, lemon drizzle, chocolate brownie. All served with either tea, coffee (from starbucks) or something sparkling, probably Prosecco or Asti (I’m actually a cherry lambrini kind of girl). Set to a background of string quartet music.
And for evening meal I’d have a Chinese buffet, in the style of the Mongolian barbecue restaurant chain (do they have those in the states?) basically, you take your bowl, choose your meat/veg/noodles/cooking sauce, and they cook it on a flat top stove while you wait.
It will be held in a marquee, on the cliff tops, near where I live (in Devon).
I spent nearly 200 miles planning this. I have no idea what I’d be wearing, nor what the ceremony would be like.
You and I should get married. I plan the ceremony and the dress. You plan the food.
Although I want mine on the beach in East Hampton where my mom lives and to rent a house and just throw a big party as I have mentioned before. So we might need to be like Becky Bloomwood (confessions of a shopaholic for those who don't get the reference ) and have 2 weddings.
We are a match made in heaven! I'd love a beach wedding.
We should have 2 weddings, I'll cater them, ceremonies and outfits ate your department.
Don't judge, fantasy weddings are all I will ever have
Sorry if this has already been asked, but would you and your partners ever do a commitment ceremony? Can we all be invited?0 -
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Glinda1971 wrote: »Tiny confession - I want to leave my diary as is for as long as possible right now. I haven't logged any food and my fitbit has given me 1 extra calorie to eat - so I'm sitting at -1 calories for the day and it's amusing me for some reason.
Those of you in the fitbit challenge - you won't see an update from me for a bit - my battery is dying and I'm not going to sync until I get home.
Ooh! Can I be in the fitbit challenge? Where is it? I LOVE my Fitbit! I seriously think it's part of how I'm losing so well this time.0 -
Susieq_1994 wrote: »Susieq_1994 wrote: »I DID IT!!! I went down cautiously at first and saw that nobody was outside of the apartments, so I went all out: I CLIMBED NINE FLIGHTS OF STAIRS!!!!
I admit that I was lazy and went down in the elevator the second time, then climbed back up the three flights, took the elevator back down, repeat.
At least I did the "up" part, right?
Sooo much awesomeness! WELL DONE!!
Yes, going up stairs is the hard part, that's the one that counts.
I did it again!! Nine flights up, nine flights down. But now I'm thirsty and I still have three hours of fasting to go.
Uh-oh. Are you allowed to suck on an ice cube or something to rehydrate a little, or will that compromise fasting?0 -
Susieq_1994 wrote: »Susieq_1994 wrote: »I DID IT!!! I went down cautiously at first and saw that nobody was outside of the apartments, so I went all out: I CLIMBED NINE FLIGHTS OF STAIRS!!!!
I admit that I was lazy and went down in the elevator the second time, then climbed back up the three flights, took the elevator back down, repeat. At least I did the "up" part, right?
Sooo much awesomeness! WELL DONE!!
Yes, going up stairs is the hard part, that's the one that counts.
I did it again!! Nine flights up, nine flights down. But now I'm thirsty and I still have three hours of fasting to go.
Ah yikes, sorry I didn't think about that
Well done on doing those stairs,bits great exercise and you'll have earned that forbid in no time!
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Italian_Buju wrote: »I think a lot of people have crazy first dates like that......I had a guy once lose his mind because I did not want to go to his mother's church to meet her.....during a first date....well, and a last date in that case.....you can't let that make you stop dating!!
How... What... Ummm, I don't even know what to say. Did you go?0 -
AngryViking1970 wrote: »
Aren't they awesome! I have a friend who works for Utz. When he comes over he never fails to bring chips, dips or pretzels. If he were not such a nice guy I would hate his guts and stab him in the eye with a pencil.
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raelynnsmama52512 wrote: »TigerNY128 wrote: »raelynnsmama52512 wrote: »TigerNY128 wrote: »raelynnsmama52512 wrote: »TigerNY128 wrote: »kellienw335 wrote: »Susieq_1994 wrote: »Aww, total warm fuzzies! Thank you, guys.
By the way, does it bother anyone that I'm essentially referring to a group of women as "guys"? Because it's just the way I've always used that word growing up, so I use it automatically. 
Yes! I'm very offended! Just kidding! I waver between y'all (living in SC for 17 years) and you guys (grew up in IL) depending on the situation, but prefer you guys!
I'm also in SC!
What part?!?!
Greenville!
I'm in Laurens, I'm in Greenville a lot lol!!!
You are not far at all from me!!
We should meet up somewhere lol! (That didn't sound too creeptastic did it?)
Couple pages behind, but me too! We drove through Sumter National forest on Father's Day weekend and I thought of you, @raelynnsmama52512!0 -
@noaddedsugarx The atmosphere isn't always light, and you're always welcome to vent here when you need to.
I have no words to express how I feel about the horror that you must have gone through during those times, but please accept my deepest sympathy and empathy as a survivor of a molestation attempt when I was 9 (by a stranger). I am so sorry that you couldn't depend on your mother to be your protector. We live in a pretty twisted world. :-/
I'm so sorry about your grandmother. Have there been any other updates? At least you care, even if she doesn't. It must be very difficult to feel like you're struggling all alone, though. We're all here if you need to talk or let out your frustration.
Please let me know if you decide to delete your post and wish me to delete mine, although I refrained from quoting you; I wouldn't want this post to give out information that you chose to delete.0 -
xLoveLikeWinterx wrote: »Glinda1971 wrote: »Tiny confession - I want to leave my diary as is for as long as possible right now. I haven't logged any food and my fitbit has given me 1 extra calorie to eat - so I'm sitting at -1 calories for the day and it's amusing me for some reason.
Those of you in the fitbit challenge - you won't see an update from me for a bit - my battery is dying and I'm not going to sync until I get home.
Ooh! Can I be in the fitbit challenge? Where is it? I LOVE my Fitbit! I seriously think it's part of how I'm losing so well this time.
It's in the group; our threads are growing!0 -
kellienw335 wrote: »orangesmartie wrote: »pofoster21 wrote: »orangesmartie wrote: »@coastalpath I’m really sorry you are struggling. If you can, try and carve a few minutes out of each day to look after yourself, whether its some deep breathing/meditation, exercise, a solitary cup of coffee. It is also important that you acknowledge your stress and feelings, don’t squash them away because others think you should. Everything you think and feel is valid to you.
I’m going to check out the fitbit thread in a moment. I’m having a bit of a sucky morning at work.
Totally randomly, as I drove back from Devon last night, I planned what I might have for my wedding reception. Partly inspired by this thread and partly by a comedienne that was on radio 4 (don’t judge) yesterday. Bear in mind my relationship structure means I will never get married, but still, I planned it…
So I’d have an afternoon tea, catered by my favourite Torquay café, with made to order sandwiches (guests choose from a small list of fillings); bread is home made white or granary. A variety of home made scones, with cherry, or ginger, or white choc chips in. Lots of different fruit jams. And huge bowls of clotted cream. There may also be cinnamon toast. And lots of different cakes, like Victoria sponge, lemon drizzle, chocolate brownie. All served with either tea, coffee (from starbucks) or something sparkling, probably Prosecco or Asti (I’m actually a cherry lambrini kind of girl). Set to a background of string quartet music.
And for evening meal I’d have a Chinese buffet, in the style of the Mongolian barbecue restaurant chain (do they have those in the states?) basically, you take your bowl, choose your meat/veg/noodles/cooking sauce, and they cook it on a flat top stove while you wait.
It will be held in a marquee, on the cliff tops, near where I live (in Devon).
I spent nearly 200 miles planning this. I have no idea what I’d be wearing, nor what the ceremony would be like.
You and I should get married. I plan the ceremony and the dress. You plan the food.
Although I want mine on the beach in East Hampton where my mom lives and to rent a house and just throw a big party as I have mentioned before. So we might need to be like Becky Bloomwood (confessions of a shopaholic for those who don't get the reference ) and have 2 weddings.
We are a match made in heaven! I'd love a beach wedding.
We should have 2 weddings, I'll cater them, ceremonies and outfits ate your department.
Don't judge, fantasy weddings are all I will ever have
Sorry if this has already been asked, but would you and your partners ever do a commitment ceremony? Can we all be invited?
I'd really like to at some point. We've been together 3 years this August. So I don't know when these things can be brought up. It was something we talked about briefly having seen a TV show with triad group in Kent, who had a pagan ceremony to tie them all together. I think there is still a bit of me that thinks it would be lesser than marriage though
We are all certain that we are together for the long term. We talk about how we'll embarrass Charlie on his 18/21 birthdays, and our relationship is only 2 weeks older than he is!
Yes, you can all be invited! Between us we only have a few real life friends. Our acquaintances don't really know about our relationships, so it would be our families, few friends and you guys. And lots of cherry flavoured things. Because we love cherries
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Susieq_1994 wrote: »Susieq_1994 wrote: »I DID IT!!! I went down cautiously at first and saw that nobody was outside of the apartments, so I went all out: I CLIMBED NINE FLIGHTS OF STAIRS!!!!
I admit that I was lazy and went down in the elevator the second time, then climbed back up the three flights, took the elevator back down, repeat. At least I did the "up" part, right?
Sooo much awesomeness! WELL DONE!!
Yes, going up stairs is the hard part, that's the one that counts.
I did it again!! Nine flights up, nine flights down. But now I'm thirsty and I still have three hours of fasting to go.
Uh-oh. Are you allowed to suck on an ice cube or something to rehydrate a little, or will that compromise fasting?
You can rinse your mouth, but you can't swallow. But I'm alright now that I've rested a bit and stopped breathing hard. But I may have overdone it; my legs are all a-wobble like jell-O! 
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Some good, some bad & a confession..
Good: I cycled for over 500 miles this month, for the first time, ever. My previous high was around 467. Very proud today.
Bad: I discovered last night, the first girl I fell in love with and was always special to me, died back in 2011 from a prescription pain pill overdose. They found her unresponsive and shut down life support some days later. She left behind 2 grown daughters and a toddler daughter. Tragic.
Confession: When I brought my work clothes to work yesterday (to wear today) I forgot to pack boxer briefs so I am forced to go commando all day. lol0 -
kellienw335 wrote: »Oh I also confess after taking a 32 mile bike ride and push mowing the front & back lawns yesterday, I justifiably bought a box of chocolate covered twinkies and ate the whole box of 9 through the afternoon and in to the night. None lasted until morning. (cant have my moment of weakness infect another day!)
I think you'll be ok as many calories as you burn on your bike! Although I hate twinkies! To each, his own.
I do, too. NOW.
Haha
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pofoster21 wrote: »Ok so it's 2 am and of course I am awake due to messed up travel schedule. Ok....
Yesterday
I studied on plane (win)
Only 6274 steps (loss)
No running (loss)
No alcohol (win).
Today:
Study on plane home
10k steps
Run 1 hour
No alcohol
Sounds like you won both days!!!0 -
noaddedsugarx wrote: »Too heavy for this thread.
Stupid forum isn't quoting the post correctly, nut I wanted to say big hugs
that is a huge amount to be processing, particularly with your gran being ill.
You can say anything in this thread and we will support you as best as a group of Internet strangers can.
I wish I knew what to say to help, or comfort you. Along want.to.do is hug you. Someone better will be along soon. But in the meantime, ventral you need to here.
And perhaps consider some counsellingnor something to help you deal with all of this0 -
Susieq_1994 wrote: »I DID IT!!! I went down cautiously at first and saw that nobody was outside of the apartments, so I went all out: I CLIMBED NINE FLIGHTS OF STAIRS!!!!
I admit that I was lazy and went down in the elevator the second time, then climbed back up the three flights, took the elevator back down, repeat. At least I did the "up" part, right?
That's awesome! You've inspired me to do the stairs at work today! I'll check in later!
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Italian_Buju wrote: »I cried a lot this afternoon....a LOT
I am not gonna lie, grief bacon for the win! Perhaps during the week when I can just ignore the phone it won't be so bad....
Things have relaxed for now in intensity, but no resolution.......
My fitbit is charging now and seemed to be counting once I charged it a bit, so fingers crossed that it is ok.....weird that it did not warn me with an email before dying, but just gonna hope its a fluke at this point....
Did anyone see the second part of my left at the bar story? Someone (sorry, can't remember who), asked if I was there for a long time, so I told the rest of what happened, but it got trapped at the bottom of a page and it took me a bit to find it, so I am wondering if anyone actually saw it or not......
P.S. - then I have a DEAD spider, which is not much better.....what do you suggest I do with that??
I'm sorry you're upset! I also saw the first and second halves of your story, but I am so far behind on posts I thought it might be weird to be commenting on them now. Although sometimes I give in and post anyway. Everyone in that story was horrible and deserves a curse wherein all of their favorite foods taste like burning tires for at least a month.
I hope things go better for you and you feel better.
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Susieq_1994 wrote: »@noaddedsugarx The atmosphere isn't always light, and you're always welcome to vent here when you need to.
I have no words to express how I feel about the horror that you must have gone through during those times, but please accept my deepest sympathy and empathy as a survivor of a molestation attempt when I was 9 (by a stranger). I am so sorry that you couldn't depend on your mother to be your protector. We live in a pretty twisted world. :-/
I'm so sorry about your grandmother. Have there been any other updates? At least you care, even if she doesn't. It must be very difficult to feel like you're struggling all alone, though. We're all here if you need to talk or let out your frustration.
Please let me know if you decide to delete your post and wish me to delete mine, although I refrained from quoting you; I wouldn't want this post to give out information that you chose to delete.
Hey. I've already deleted my post.. it was one of those panicky things and I got embarrassed straight away. You don't need to delete yours though.. I'm sorry you went through that.. You're right the world we live in is twisted. I sometimes wonder how people end up in such an evil way.
My Grandma's just went in for the shunt operation which will drain some of the fluid off her brain. Just waiting to see how that turns out. Thankyou for your response 0 -
xLoveLikeWinterx wrote: »So I'm trying to catch up
@orangesmartie yay for a meetup! It sounds so awesome! I'm jealous!
@nonoelmo hurray for NSVs!!!!! You rock!!!!
@pofoster21 yay for coming home!
I would also like to say that directly because of this thread, I talked to DH last night (and there was no yelling and/or crying involved lol) and we WILL be getting a cleaning service. I'm calling today to schedule the initial intake or whatever. I need the help and I'm tired of feeling like I can't even enjoy my kids bc I'm always working. I will make room in the budget for it. If it delays me upgrading my car, then so be it. It will be worth it.
Didn't have the dog convo yet, but I did sorta bring up the subject of the car. Some forward progress was made but he got a little huffy about, "I'm doing the best I can, I'm only 27 with 2 kids so I don't know how to adult" and I shut down. I have no cares that his co-workers don't have kids. He does, he needs to man up. So in lieu of an argument I stopped talking and went for a walk outside.
AND I'm officially down 30 lb today!!!! WOOT!!!!! 10 lb to goal and then I'll adjust again, but I'm 3/4 done with my initial loss!! I'm concentrating on that today
Totally got a big smile on my face when I read the part about you guys talking and you getting help with the house! It may be better to take it one subject at time anyway, so probably better that you stopped at that point. My husband gets overwhelmed when I try to tackle too many things at once too.
And sorry, but I kinda laughed at the 'I don't know how to adult'. It reminded me of this:
ETA: Congratulations on the weight loss!
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pofoster21 wrote: »lilaclovebird wrote: »pearso21123 wrote: »lilaclovebird wrote: »riderfangal wrote: »Italian_Buju wrote: »I cried a lot this afternoon....a LOT
I am not gonna lie, grief bacon for the win! Perhaps during the week when I can just ignore the phone it won't be so bad....
Things have relaxed for now in intensity, but no resolution.......
My fitbit is charging now and seemed to be counting once I charged it a bit, so fingers crossed that it is ok.....weird that it did not warn me with an email before dying, but just gonna hope its a fluke at this point....
Did anyone see the second part of my left at the bar story? Someone (sorry, can't remember who), asked if I was there for a long time, so I told the rest of what happened, but it got trapped at the bottom of a page and it took me a bit to find it, so I am wondering if anyone actually saw it or not......
P.S. - then I have a DEAD spider, which is not much better.....what do you suggest I do with that??
I saw the second part and I would have super mad at my friend as well. Girls are supposed to look out for each other
As for the spider I would vacuum that sucker up. Oh yes I would
That's the agreement I have with ALL spiders that come into the house. They can live in the house, but they have to survive the vacuum cleaner. If they survive the vacuum cleaner, then they have to LIVE in the vacuum cleaner for the rest of their days or be revacuumed.
For all you cat lovers on this thread, don't your cats hunt spiders? I am not a cat person, but every once in awhile a make an agreement with our barn cats that they can have a reprieve in our house if they promise to catch all of the spiders.
My cat Shade eats spiders...she caught a Texas Yellow Garden spider and she killed and was ripping it apart yesterday...
This is what they look like:
That is not a spider. That is a prop in a horror story. Or a dinosaur. My sanity would not survive if that showed up in my house.
Your phrasing made me crack up.
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Original Poster who I will not identify for her sake, I'm glad I read it. I will reply with thoughts of my experience (and for those of you reading my experience is not at all the same, but something in what I'm saying may help her or someone else)
You have dealt with a lot. It does not matter what your orientation is in so far as what happened was in NO way, shape or form any fault of your own. At All. You are blameless. (HUGE HUGS). I am so sorry that you had the experiences you did.
**WARNING FOR THOSE WHO MIGHT BE TRIGGERED BY VIOLENCE - SKIP THE REST OF THIS POST PLEASE, THE LAST THING I WANT TO DO IS UPSET SOMEONE**
When I was 20 I met an acquaintance through a co-worker. He was a wealthy physician. He invited me to a barbecue. I was in no way attracted to him but I thought he was just being friendly and he was "known" so I said yes. I was drugged (the date rape drug) and have no recollection of what happened, but why would I be drugged if nothing happened?
The same year I was taken by two men in a situation where I thought there was a good chance I'd be killed and I was raped by one. I talked my way out of being raped by the second. I talked the first into a condom. I talked my way into being let go. I was shaken and I (kick myself for this one now) chalked it up to a hard learning experience and I moved on without reporting it and without telling anyone. Until 10 years later someone threatened by then 2 year old daughter. I took care of that situation IMMEDIATELY and have entirely put that person out of my life. I had flashbacks. I had nightmares. I sought counseling and was told I had PTSD. Counseling really helped me enormously. I reframed the incident so that I was strong and did everything I could to protect myself. I worked through the issues and I have not had issues since and that has been a number of years ago. Please seek counseling. Call the hotline number that you see for victims of ___ crimes even if you feel it does not apply to you because they can put you in touch with counselors. HUGE HUGE HUGS.
The first few counselors I saw were batty, find one you can work with. What happened does not define me nor do I think about it often. It is now just a tiny moment in time. You will get there. I believe in you and your bright future.0 -
Some good, some bad & a confession..
Good: I cycled for over 500 miles this month, for the first time, ever. My previous high was around 467. Very proud today.
Bad: I discovered last night, the first girl I fell in love with and was always special to me, died back in 2011 from a prescription pain pill overdose. They found her unresponsive and shut down life support some days later. She left behind 2 grown daughters and a toddler daughter. Tragic.
Confession: When I brought my work clothes to work yesterday (to wear today) I forgot to pack boxer briefs so I am forced to go commando all day. lol
I did that (undies in my case) a few times while bike commuting. Not fun!0 -
Well. Just got back from the doctors. Saw a different doctor this time. He said NO carbs. Not even yogurt, he said if I don't lose weight on this, we have a serious problem. I asked him if it could be anything else and he said "Well, we could faff around putting you on different diets, but it seems you have put a lot of time and effort into this already so I recommend you go straight to the jugular and cut carbs. It will work, it will always work. It's hard, and it will suck, it will really suck, but you will lose fat." So I went to the nearest bakery, bought myself an apple and raspberry danish (at 9 in the morning) and ate it while driving to work. If I can't have carbs for the next 2 months, I'm going to end it with something amazing. and it was.
Ack! Do you have insulin resistance or something? I apologise if you've already answered this by the time I get further forward in posts.
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Susieq_1994 wrote: »Susieq_1994 wrote: »I DID IT!!! I went down cautiously at first and saw that nobody was outside of the apartments, so I went all out: I CLIMBED NINE FLIGHTS OF STAIRS!!!!
I admit that I was lazy and went down in the elevator the second time, then climbed back up the three flights, took the elevator back down, repeat. At least I did the "up" part, right?
Sooo much awesomeness! WELL DONE!!
Yes, going up stairs is the hard part, that's the one that counts.
I did it again!! Nine flights up, nine flights down. But now I'm thirsty and I still have three hours of fasting to go.
Just wondering, can you chew gum during the fast? I chew gum when exercising so my mouth doesn't get so dry.
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noaddedsugarx wrote: »Susieq_1994 wrote: »@noaddedsugarx The atmosphere isn't always light, and you're always welcome to vent here when you need to.
I have no words to express how I feel about the horror that you must have gone through during those times, but please accept my deepest sympathy and empathy as a survivor of a molestation attempt when I was 9 (by a stranger). I am so sorry that you couldn't depend on your mother to be your protector. We live in a pretty twisted world. :-/
I'm so sorry about your grandmother. Have there been any other updates? At least you care, even if she doesn't. It must be very difficult to feel like you're struggling all alone, though. We're all here if you need to talk or let out your frustration.
Please let me know if you decide to delete your post and wish me to delete mine, although I refrained from quoting you; I wouldn't want this post to give out information that you chose to delete.
Hey. I've already deleted my post.. it was one of those panicky things and I got embarrassed straight away. You don't need to delete yours though.. I'm sorry you went through that.. You're right the world we live in is twisted. I sometimes wonder how people end up in such an evil way.
My Grandma's just went in for the shunt operation which will drain some of the fluid off her brain. Just waiting to see how that turns out. Thankyou for your response
I hope it goes well, fingers and toes crossed! I'll even cross my eyes if you think it'll help...
You're very welcome! No child ever deserves to go through that, and neither does an adult, for that matter. Sending healing thoughts your way. 0 -
Susieq_1994 wrote: »Susieq_1994 wrote: »Susieq_1994 wrote: »I DID IT!!! I went down cautiously at first and saw that nobody was outside of the apartments, so I went all out: I CLIMBED NINE FLIGHTS OF STAIRS!!!!
I admit that I was lazy and went down in the elevator the second time, then climbed back up the three flights, took the elevator back down, repeat. At least I did the "up" part, right?
Sooo much awesomeness! WELL DONE!!
Yes, going up stairs is the hard part, that's the one that counts.
I did it again!! Nine flights up, nine flights down. But now I'm thirsty and I still have three hours of fasting to go.
Uh-oh. Are you allowed to suck on an ice cube or something to rehydrate a little, or will that compromise fasting?
You can rinse your mouth, but you can't swallow. But I'm alright now that I've rested a bit and stopped breathing hard. But I may have overdone it; my legs are all a-wobble like jell-O!
The jello thing is pretty normal and your legs will probably hate you tomorrow, but SO worth it!0 -
Some good, some bad & a confession..
Good: I cycled for over 500 miles this month, for the first time, ever. My previous high was around 467. Very proud today.
Bad: I discovered last night, the first girl I fell in love with and was always special to me, died back in 2011 from a prescription pain pill overdose. They found her unresponsive and shut down life support some days later. She left behind 2 grown daughters and a toddler daughter. Tragic.
Confession: When I brought my work clothes to work yesterday (to wear today) I forgot to pack boxer briefs so I am forced to go commando all day. lol
Awesome!
Sorry!
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orangesmartie wrote: »noaddedsugarx wrote: »Too heavy for this thread.
Stupid forum isn't quoting the post correctly, nut I wanted to say big hugs
that is a huge amount to be processing, particularly with your gran being ill.
You can say anything in this thread and we will support you as best as a group of Internet strangers can.
I wish I knew what to say to help, or comfort you. Along want.to.do is hug you. Someone better will be along soon. But in the meantime, ventral you need to here.
And perhaps consider some counsellingnor something to help you deal with all of this
Yeah I feel like even though my Gran has had dementia and I've been looking after her for a couple of years she's still been the main support in my life and with her being critical it's just made everything else that's happened to me hit me all at once.
I couldn't even leave the post up for 5 minutes haha.. I think I'm going to consider counselling. Thanks so much for your reply.0 -
orangesmartie wrote: »kellienw335 wrote: »orangesmartie wrote: »pofoster21 wrote: »orangesmartie wrote: »@coastalpath I’m really sorry you are struggling. If you can, try and carve a few minutes out of each day to look after yourself, whether its some deep breathing/meditation, exercise, a solitary cup of coffee. It is also important that you acknowledge your stress and feelings, don’t squash them away because others think you should. Everything you think and feel is valid to you.
I’m going to check out the fitbit thread in a moment. I’m having a bit of a sucky morning at work.
Totally randomly, as I drove back from Devon last night, I planned what I might have for my wedding reception. Partly inspired by this thread and partly by a comedienne that was on radio 4 (don’t judge) yesterday. Bear in mind my relationship structure means I will never get married, but still, I planned it…
So I’d have an afternoon tea, catered by my favourite Torquay café, with made to order sandwiches (guests choose from a small list of fillings); bread is home made white or granary. A variety of home made scones, with cherry, or ginger, or white choc chips in. Lots of different fruit jams. And huge bowls of clotted cream. There may also be cinnamon toast. And lots of different cakes, like Victoria sponge, lemon drizzle, chocolate brownie. All served with either tea, coffee (from starbucks) or something sparkling, probably Prosecco or Asti (I’m actually a cherry lambrini kind of girl). Set to a background of string quartet music.
And for evening meal I’d have a Chinese buffet, in the style of the Mongolian barbecue restaurant chain (do they have those in the states?) basically, you take your bowl, choose your meat/veg/noodles/cooking sauce, and they cook it on a flat top stove while you wait.
It will be held in a marquee, on the cliff tops, near where I live (in Devon).
I spent nearly 200 miles planning this. I have no idea what I’d be wearing, nor what the ceremony would be like.
You and I should get married. I plan the ceremony and the dress. You plan the food.
Although I want mine on the beach in East Hampton where my mom lives and to rent a house and just throw a big party as I have mentioned before. So we might need to be like Becky Bloomwood (confessions of a shopaholic for those who don't get the reference ) and have 2 weddings.
We are a match made in heaven! I'd love a beach wedding.
We should have 2 weddings, I'll cater them, ceremonies and outfits ate your department.
Don't judge, fantasy weddings are all I will ever have
Sorry if this has already been asked, but would you and your partners ever do a commitment ceremony? Can we all be invited?
I'd really like to at some point. We've been together 3 years this August. So I don't know when these things can be brought up. It was something we talked about briefly having seen a TV show with triad group in Kent, who had a pagan ceremony to tie them all together. I think there is still a bit of me that thinks it would be lesser than marriage though
We are all certain that we are together for the long term. We talk about how we'll embarrass Charlie on his 18/21 birthdays, and our relationship is only 2 weeks older than he is!
Yes, you can all be invited! Between us we only have a few real life friends. Our acquaintances don't really know about our relationships, so it would be our families, few friends and you guys. And lots of cherry flavoured things. Because we love cherries
AHH this sounds AWESOME!! I'll totally be there! Yay for LOVE! That's all that matters
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