Confession Time! ((ABSOLUTELY NO JUDGEMENT))
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FluffySandwich wrote: »smashley_mashley wrote: »FluffySandwich wrote: »rungirl1973 wrote: »kellyjellybellyjelly wrote: »mysticlizard wrote: »I'm very pale like a bunch of you have said you are. I used to try tanning, but it didn't take. I've never had a tan or a sunburn in my life. I finally stopped trying and embraced my day walker skin. I sometimes get embarrassed by it, but I figure if people don't like it screw them. Being able to blind people with the color of my skin is a super power!
My daughter shares your super power. In our house we call it rockin' the Casper.
I'm also very pale & once had a co-worker comment on how white I was after coming back from Hawaii for the second time. The first time I went to Hawaii I had learned my lesson the hard way. Over there the heat is very dry & I thought well it's not as hot & humid like it is in Pennsylvania so I don't need to cake on the sunblock. Ugh! Huge mistake! I had huge welts all over my one arm from a horrendous sunburn. Luckily they didn't hurt, but it definitely taught me to be more vigilant while out in the sun.
I'm pale but by choice- I can tan really easily but I'm super OCD about having sunblock on anytime I'm outside! I'm terrified of wrinkles and skin cancer
You are very smart! (say the hypocrite tanning addict) I gave it up several years ago, but started again this past March. I love it! But I seriously need to stop.
My best friend had melanoma when we were in our early twenties and I've been watching my mom deal with all the consequences of being a sun bathing beauty her whole life! So just trying to avoid all of that
I tanned for a couple of years in my 20's. Getting a tan started is TOUGH for me because I'm blindingly pale. My mother is a redhead, and I'm whiter than she is.
I confess that I stopped not because of the fear of melanoma but because my friend who is 10 years older than me LOOKS more like 20-25 years older than me due to her decades of tanning, skin like leather.
Yes, this is right up there next to cancer for me so even if we didn't risk skin cancer from tanning I still wouldn't do it! I know lots of people hate being pale but I think it looks elegant honestly! I always think about how back in the day if you were pale it was a sign of wealth as you didn't have to spend all your days out working haha I'm not that shallow I swear! I just prefer being pale and I don't want to look like a leather hand bag in 10 years!
When my mom was in her 40's, she had a circle of friends, mostly people she worked with. I knew one or two of them were younger, but thought the rest were around her age. There was one woman who I thought was in her late 50's, because she definitely looked much older than the rest. Turns out she was mid-30's, and had already tanned herself into looking around 58 or so. I'd never had an interest in tanning before then, but that definitely killed any remote curiosity I had about it.
When I was a teen working a counter service job, many of our customers were retired, wealthy "snow birds" who wintered in warmer climates. The *ahem* older (as in, not much more than my age right now, lol) ladies would come in sporting heavily tanned skin that looked like old boot leather. I remember thinking how unattractive it was... ewwww, shrivelled cleavage... and "I don't ever want to look like that".
A couple of things I've read have stuck with me. Supposedly 90% of skin aging is "photo-aging" caused by UV. And "a year of incidental sun exposure is worth a day of baking at the beach". A former coworker who easily looked 15 years younger than her age credited diligent use of sunscreen for her youthful appearance. So... vanity was my first motivation for avoiding the sun. Heck, it's probably MOST of my motivation still.
My sister is extremely pale skinned (she can't tan) and doesn't go in the sun without lathering herself in sunscreen. She has perfect skin and it looks like she hasn't aged past 20 (she's approaching 30). After hearing her talk about this routine last year I've been wearing sunscreen everyday as well.
For the diligent/year round sunscreen users, do you live in climates with year round nice weather? Where I live we may get 4-5 months of summer like weather and then we have to bundle up for the seemingly endless winter.
Since we have only so many nice days I need to take advantage of the few that I can enjoy (with sunscreen of course)
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I am officially at my goal weight as of today. I think that I would like to try putting on muscle and getting back up about 5-8 lbs.
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smashley_mashley wrote: »welcome to the thread! I boredom eat all the time, yesterday was a terrible day. I reached my calorie limit and still had a donut hole (or two) from the ones I made the other day. As much as I hate to say it, I really need to go back to work (Monday) just to get back into a routine, keep busy, and so I don't eat my face off
Haha, this made me laugh. I'm the same. While I don't enjoy working, it keeps me on a schedule and helps me eat better. I only eat lunch at work and usually it is something small (I don't snack etc).
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["That" older guy isn't as rare as you think.
@JPW1990 I know it isn't rare. Have many a friends who upon getting divorced suddenly find themselves in the company of much younger company. I shake my head as a older guy, but honestly there is a LOT of draw to it. Mostly it can capture that feeling of fleeting youth. Ya know, Jerry Lee Lewis "Middle Aged Crazy, trying to prove he still can...".
I am pretty grounded, but who knows. Was just thinking out loud. No plans for divorce or younger women at this point.
honestly, this is why at 34 i'm pretty sure i'm gonna be alone.
totally not judging you (after my parents divorced my dad spent years dating younger gals and then five years ago married a girl that is ONE year older than ME. i judge him )
anytime i go out i can't help but feel like i don't belong. there are young, stunning girls EVERYwhere, i can't imagine anyone settling for my older, pudgy butt. plus i'm also pretty sarcastic and b*tchy.
but seeing how i'm the reason my current relationship tanked, i really don't have anyone else to blame.
it's still kinda disappointing though.
Yeah, I'd have a hard time not judging if I was in your situation as well. But, stay true to yourself - never settle! It's better to be independent and be your real self than to ever be with someone and be unhappy.
And the right person for you will NOT be settling - they will be grateful to have found you and fortunate to spend time with you!
Exactly!
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smashley_mashley wrote: »FluffySandwich wrote: »rungirl1973 wrote: »kellyjellybellyjelly wrote: »mysticlizard wrote: »I'm very pale like a bunch of you have said you are. I used to try tanning, but it didn't take. I've never had a tan or a sunburn in my life. I finally stopped trying and embraced my day walker skin. I sometimes get embarrassed by it, but I figure if people don't like it screw them. Being able to blind people with the color of my skin is a super power!
My daughter shares your super power. In our house we call it rockin' the Casper.
I'm also very pale & once had a co-worker comment on how white I was after coming back from Hawaii for the second time. The first time I went to Hawaii I had learned my lesson the hard way. Over there the heat is very dry & I thought well it's not as hot & humid like it is in Pennsylvania so I don't need to cake on the sunblock. Ugh! Huge mistake! I had huge welts all over my one arm from a horrendous sunburn. Luckily they didn't hurt, but it definitely taught me to be more vigilant while out in the sun.
I'm pale but by choice- I can tan really easily but I'm super OCD about having sunblock on anytime I'm outside! I'm terrified of wrinkles and skin cancer
You are very smart! (say the hypocrite tanning addict) I gave it up several years ago, but started again this past March. I love it! But I seriously need to stop.
My best friend had melanoma when we were in our early twenties and I've been watching my mom deal with all the consequences of being a sun bathing beauty her whole life! So just trying to avoid all of that
I tanned for a couple of years in my 20's. Getting a tan started is TOUGH for me because I'm blindingly pale. My mother is a redhead, and I'm whiter than she is.
I confess that I stopped not because of the fear of melanoma but because my friend who is 10 years older than me LOOKS more like 20-25 years older than me due to her decades of tanning, skin like leather.
Yes, this is right up there next to cancer for me so even if we didn't risk skin cancer from tanning I still wouldn't do it! I know lots of people hate being pale but I think it looks elegant honestly! I always think about how back in the day if you were pale it was a sign of wealth as you didn't have to spend all your days out working haha I'm not that shallow I swear! I just prefer being pale and I don't want to look like a leather hand bag in 10 years!
When my mom was in her 40's, she had a circle of friends, mostly people she worked with. I knew one or two of them were younger, but thought the rest were around her age. There was one woman who I thought was in her late 50's, because she definitely looked much older than the rest. Turns out she was mid-30's, and had already tanned herself into looking around 58 or so. I'd never had an interest in tanning before then, but that definitely killed any remote curiosity I had about it.
When I was a teen working a counter service job, many of our customers were retired, wealthy "snow birds" who wintered in warmer climates. The *ahem* older (as in, not much more than my age right now, lol) ladies would come in sporting heavily tanned skin that looked like old boot leather. I remember thinking how unattractive it was... ewwww, shrivelled cleavage... and "I don't ever want to look like that".
A couple of things I've read have stuck with me. Supposedly 90% of skin aging is "photo-aging" caused by UV. And "a year of incidental sun exposure is worth a day of baking at the beach". A former coworker who easily looked 15 years younger than her age credited diligent use of sunscreen for her youthful appearance. So... vanity was my first motivation for avoiding the sun. Heck, it's probably MOST of my motivation still.
My sister is extremely pale skinned (she can't tan) and doesn't go in the sun without lathering herself in sunscreen. She has perfect skin and it looks like she hasn't aged past 20 (she's approaching 30). After hearing her talk about this routine last year I've been wearing sunscreen everyday as well.
For the diligent/year round sunscreen users, do you live in climates with year round nice weather? Where I live we may get 4-5 months of summer like weather and then we have to bundle up for the seemingly endless winter.
Dear God no. I'm in northern Ontario.
I do wear sunscreen year round on my face. For about 6+ months of the year, that's the only visible skin anyway.
I try to be more vigilant about putting sunscreen on my hands once we get past glove weather, which was earlier this month. I've noticed that my hands look pretty bad and they do get a lot of accidental sun, poking out of my jacket sleeves when I'm walking. I tend to forget about hands until we get to serious sunscreen "exposed skin" time.0 -
berlynnwall wrote: »kellienw335 wrote: »kellyjellybellyjelly wrote: »mysticlizard wrote: »I'm very pale like a bunch of you have said you are. I used to try tanning, but it didn't take. I've never had a tan or a sunburn in my life. I finally stopped trying and embraced my day walker skin. I sometimes get embarrassed by it, but I figure if people don't like it screw them. Being able to blind people with the color of my skin is a super power!
My daughter shares your super power. In our house we call it rockin' the Casper.
I'm also very pale & once had a co-worker comment on how white I was after coming back from Hawaii for the second time. The first time I went to Hawaii I had learned my lesson the hard way. Over there the heat is very dry & I thought well it's not as hot & humid like it is in Pennsylvania so I don't need to cake on the sunblock. Ugh! Huge mistake! I had huge welts all over my one arm from a horrendous sunburn. Luckily they didn't hurt, but it definitely taught me to be more vigilant while out in the sun.
I'm pale but by choice- I can tan really easily but I'm super OCD about having sunblock on anytime I'm outside! I'm terrified of wrinkles and skin cancer
You are very smart! (say the hypocrite tanning addict) I gave it up several years ago, but started again this past March. I love it! But I seriously need to stop.
I love tanning, even if it isn't PC! Wish I could fit it into the budget this summer, but daycare and after-school care is not cheap!
Definitely. I no longer have those expenses so I can afford it although I know I shouldn't. Pretty bad though when oldest grandson comes over and I'm not home and he asks grandpa, "Is grandma tanning?" Has a strange ring to it. In my defense the grandma of my other 2 grandchildren is at the tanning salon almost every day the same time I am.
My grandma was always laying out in the yard or by the pool. When she was about 65, she started going to a tanning place because she moved into an apartment and felt self conscious laying where other people could see her. She tanned until the very end though! As far as I know she somehow escaped skin cancer. We were actually surprised.
My mom was a huge tanner too, but she did get skin cancer. Thankfully she is OK now, but she is much more careful about wearing sunscreen.
Glad your mom is okay! And, I really don't plan on tanning the rest of my life. I had given it up completely for several years. I'm planning on stopping next month when my membership expires. I do take meticulous care of my skin because I HATE that crepey, leathery look.
Oh, I didn't think you planned to do it forever. You just made me think about her when you talked about the other grandma at the tanning salon. My grandma just really loved the sun. She used to tell us stories about how her high school teachers would tease her about ditching class on nice days to go to the lake.
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amykay9377 wrote: »quiksylver296 wrote: »berlynnwall wrote: »quiksylver296 wrote: »berlynnwall wrote: »Confession: I feel like I've lost more weight than I obviously have. Just went out to buy new running shorts but when I tried some on they looked bad. Very, very bad. I instead bought some capri-length leggings that didn't look great, but are at least *FUN* (stripy). Also got a new sports bra in a size that I've never been before (throwback to earlier in the thread!) I'm excited about that because it has a normal clasp rather than the pull-over your head type which are really hard to get off when you're all sweaty.
Yes! I love the sports bras with clasps. So much easier to get on and off.
I'm 10 pages behind, but ME TOO!!! It's a requirement in a sports bra now.
Yes. I'm slowly replacing my non claspies with the good ones.
What are the good ones?!
Ones that clasp in the back like a regular bra so you don't have to wrestle a tight, sweaty sports bra off over your head.
Ok... I thought all sports bras were like regular bras, lol.
I have this one. Haven't got any issue with it. It's pretty cheap too...
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B007KFZGWA/ref=oh_aui_search_detailpage?ie=UTF8&psc=1
I have that one, it's pretty good, but I also have this one, and it's so much better - there is a flap in the front to adjust how tight you want the girls to be held in (super-tight for running, less tight for yoga or chillin')
http://www.amazon.com/Glamorise-Womens-Double-Layer-Custom-Control-Sport/dp/B00553XFN6/ref=cts_ap_1_fbt
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There is a Russell Stover Outlet store about 90 minutes from my house, and when we drive to Disney World, I always point to the billboard and say we should go there - but we never do. For the past 8 years, we've never gone. Driving back from my mom's house in New Port Richey, we saw the sign again, and decided to go.
BAD MOVE! I could hear Sammy Davis in my head when I walked in...
We walked out with $33 worth of candy... and most of it cost 29 cents a piece! I am the proud owner of a CASE of Russell Stover Maple Cream Eggs (that would be 36 of them).
Upside? They only have 140 or so calories, and it will satisfy my chocolate cravings better than a candy bar (at twice as many calories!)
Several years ago we found ourselves in Fairfield CA and went on the (free and quite interesting) Jelly Belly factory tour. Left with 10 x 2lb bags of Belly Flops - the ones that don't quite make the grade. So yes, we drove home to Canada with 20lbs of Jelly Bellys.
I'm quite proud of myself - I think I've only had 3 since we stopped!
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funjen1972 wrote: »I wear the same stinky workout clothes for several days without washing. Ewww gross, I know. Always change my socks though lol
I do the same thing. Usually my shorts only get washed once a week, and 2-4 days of exercising in them a week.0 -
Sheesh. You all have been busy today. Lots of good stuff and some newbies.
I went to the doctor to discover what I had feared. Strep. I wanted a few more days off work but not like this. I used my last PTO day today so tomorrow I have to use a vacation day. Sucks! My mom took me to the doctor and now she's cleaning my house. It's really nice being taken care of.
Ugh. That is the worst and what I almost guessed it would be (I was REALLY hoping it wouldn't be though). I'm so sorry you have to use vacation days for that!
Yeah, it really sucks. Hopefully I don't get my husband sick because he doesn't have sick days and he's already using his vacation days for our anniversary trip.
You all are so nice. Thanks for the well wishes.
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spacequiztime wrote: »I'm lucky enough to have never gotten a sunburn. I do wear an SPF 50 or 100 spray if I'm going to be out in the sun for a while though. Don't spray 100 in the house, it sticks to the floor like crazy!
I need to pick up some prescription sunglasses.
The first spray I ever used put me off spray for a while... just a little bit of overspray made the bathroom floor treacherously slick. I won't use the spray moisturizing lotions for that reason.
Banana Boat came out with another non-sticky type but it's only available in spray format, so I'm trying it again. And I have an Australian Gold spray that I use at work -- in my carpeted cubicle, not in the tile bathroom.
Jeez, guess I'm OCD about safety too.I am officially at my goal weight as of today. I think that I would like to try putting on muscle and getting back up about 5-8 lbs.
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berlynnwall wrote: »berlynnwall wrote: »kellienw335 wrote: »kellyjellybellyjelly wrote: »mysticlizard wrote: »I'm very pale like a bunch of you have said you are. I used to try tanning, but it didn't take. I've never had a tan or a sunburn in my life. I finally stopped trying and embraced my day walker skin. I sometimes get embarrassed by it, but I figure if people don't like it screw them. Being able to blind people with the color of my skin is a super power!
My daughter shares your super power. In our house we call it rockin' the Casper.
I'm also very pale & once had a co-worker comment on how white I was after coming back from Hawaii for the second time. The first time I went to Hawaii I had learned my lesson the hard way. Over there the heat is very dry & I thought well it's not as hot & humid like it is in Pennsylvania so I don't need to cake on the sunblock. Ugh! Huge mistake! I had huge welts all over my one arm from a horrendous sunburn. Luckily they didn't hurt, but it definitely taught me to be more vigilant while out in the sun.
I'm pale but by choice- I can tan really easily but I'm super OCD about having sunblock on anytime I'm outside! I'm terrified of wrinkles and skin cancer
You are very smart! (say the hypocrite tanning addict) I gave it up several years ago, but started again this past March. I love it! But I seriously need to stop.
I love tanning, even if it isn't PC! Wish I could fit it into the budget this summer, but daycare and after-school care is not cheap!
Definitely. I no longer have those expenses so I can afford it although I know I shouldn't. Pretty bad though when oldest grandson comes over and I'm not home and he asks grandpa, "Is grandma tanning?" Has a strange ring to it. In my defense the grandma of my other 2 grandchildren is at the tanning salon almost every day the same time I am.
My grandma was always laying out in the yard or by the pool. When she was about 65, she started going to a tanning place because she moved into an apartment and felt self conscious laying where other people could see her. She tanned until the very end though! As far as I know she somehow escaped skin cancer. We were actually surprised.
My mom was a huge tanner too, but she did get skin cancer. Thankfully she is OK now, but she is much more careful about wearing sunscreen.
Glad your mom is okay! And, I really don't plan on tanning the rest of my life. I had given it up completely for several years. I'm planning on stopping next month when my membership expires. I do take meticulous care of my skin because I HATE that crepey, leathery look.
Oh, I didn't think you planned to do it forever. You just made me think about her when you talked about the other grandma at the tanning salon. My grandma just really loved the sun. She used to tell us stories about how her high school teachers would tease her about ditching class on nice days to go to the lake.
I think the guilt is getting to me due to this thread today. And because earlier this morning I ordered a new tanning lotion and moisturizer that I was excited about. And then this topic came up today. Pretty sure it was meant to send me a message.0 -
omg you are so freakin cute, but that's not me, it's kate winslete from eternal sunshine of the spotless mind. i envy her hair SO MUCH!
That is funny because I kept looking at your pic before and thinking, that looks like a picture from Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind but I hadn't seen it in so long. I figured you just looked like her. I loved her hair in that movie too (and I really like that movie).
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omg you are so freakin cute, but that's not me, it's kate winslete from eternal sunshine of the spotless mind. i envy her hair SO MUCH!
That is funny because I kept looking at your pic before and thinking, that looks like a picture from Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind but I hadn't seen it in so long. I figured you just looked like her. I loved her hair in that movie too (and I really like that movie).
It's a great movie.
I'm super picky about sunscreen.. read too many stories about how toxic they can be.
www.ewg.org/2015sunscreen/ was an eye opener.0 -
amykay9377 wrote: »quiksylver296 wrote: »berlynnwall wrote: »quiksylver296 wrote: »berlynnwall wrote: »Confession: I feel like I've lost more weight than I obviously have. Just went out to buy new running shorts but when I tried some on they looked bad. Very, very bad. I instead bought some capri-length leggings that didn't look great, but are at least *FUN* (stripy). Also got a new sports bra in a size that I've never been before (throwback to earlier in the thread!) I'm excited about that because it has a normal clasp rather than the pull-over your head type which are really hard to get off when you're all sweaty.
Yes! I love the sports bras with clasps. So much easier to get on and off.
I'm 10 pages behind, but ME TOO!!! It's a requirement in a sports bra now.
Yes. I'm slowly replacing my non claspies with the good ones.
What are the good ones?!
Ones that clasp in the back like a regular bra so you don't have to wrestle a tight, sweaty sports bra off over your head.
Ok... I thought all sports bras were like regular bras, lol.
I have this one. Haven't got any issue with it. It's pretty cheap too...
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B007KFZGWA/ref=oh_aui_search_detailpage?ie=UTF8&psc=1
I have that one, it's pretty good, but I also have this one, and it's so much better - there is a flap in the front to adjust how tight you want the girls to be held in (super-tight for running, less tight for yoga or chillin')
http://www.amazon.com/Glamorise-Womens-Double-Layer-Custom-Control-Sport/dp/B00553XFN6/ref=cts_ap_1_fbt
I'm really bad at this quoting thing, but that bottom link- I must confess it took me a minute to figure out what's going on there. I thought it was a nursing bra! LOL!!!! I get it now and it's a great idea.
I know, right?! It seems so weird, until you use it
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kellienw335 wrote: »I found this thread last night after looking for posts to make myself feel better for once again thinking I could eat out of the carton of ice cream without over doing. Like I hadn't learned that lesson already. The first two pages made me laugh til I cried, I so related to playing games with a food log that only I see. I didn't realize I wasn't alone. Thank you. I will be returning often.
Welcome to our safe place!
We have cookie butter, Oreos and Poptarts.
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AngryViking1970 wrote: »"amykay9377 wrote: »We walked out with $33 worth of candy... and most of it cost 29 cents a piece! I am the proud owner of a CASE of Russell Stover Maple Cream Eggs (that would be 36 of them).
You I like.
Awwww... <blush>0
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