Confession Time! ((ABSOLUTELY NO JUDGEMENT))
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Susieq_1994 wrote: »Question for Susie: How's it worked out when Ramadan will be? I know it's coming up soon. Is it extra challenging when it falls during a month with long days? Right now it doesn't get dark until about 10pm, and dawn is super early - that's a really long day. Do people ever grumble?
Ramadan follows the lunar calendar.
It's the ninth month of the lunar calendar, so it gets a little earlier every (Gregorian) year, by about two weeks. For the last several years, it's been falling in the summer, so it's definitely a harder time for fasting. This year it's expected to fall on the 18th, but it doesn't officially start until someone sights the crescent moon, marking the beginning of the new lunar month.
It's mostly challenging when it's HOT. In Saudi Arabia, we almost always have 12 hours of daylight and 12 hours of dark, so the time doesn't change significantly--but being thirsty in the middle of summer can be killer! As for the hours, a Muslim friend of mine who lives in Finland actually has to fast for 21 hours! Imagine trying to fit all of your calories into a three-hour window...
But she says that she doesn't have a huge issue with hunger--most people tend to get more thirsty than hungry, because being dehydrated can sometimes kill your appetite.
Our fasting window will be from 3:20 AM until about 6:30 PM, which will gradually get earlier as the month goes on, because the sun is beginning to set earlier at this point. It usually gets earlier by about one minute every two days or so. It's not really very hard unless you get up really early--It'll be about a 10 hour fasting window for me.
As for grumbling, that's one of the main challenges of Ramadan. You're told to be especially kind, helpful, merciful, and respectful during the Holy month, as well as doing extra worship. Being a better version of yourself when you're hungry and thirsty is DIFFICULT. The smokers and caffeine addicts tend to be really nasty in Ramadan, but acting nastily or rudely takes away from the reward of your fast. Whining that you're hungry and thirsty is perfectly acceptable, though...;)
We have IT folks at work who follow this. I was always amazed at no eating or drinking. I could survive the food but I drink a TON. Going thirsty definitely makes me cranky.0 -
Italian_Buju wrote: »heartsstarspll wrote: »Wow. So I am going onto page 58... ounot of 808. -.-
Anyway... my confessions.
I don't own a food scale. I am still averaging a pound a week, and I overestimate things to cover myself, as well as instead of setting my calories at a low level, I have a maximum goal, and I usually don't reach that, so I figure I have room for errors.
I don't cook(I can throw frozen stuff in the oven, that's about it.. lol), my dad cooks my meals. Which is another reason I don't use a food scale, he thinks weighing food is dumb. lol He did lose a lot of weight when I was a teenager and has kept most of it off, so I trust his instincts. Although, he tends to go heavy on the portions. Luckily I only eat 2 meals a day, without snacks mostly. So even having more than one portion I can stay within my calories!
I have depression, anxiety and a history of eating disorders. Every time I start watching calories I get extremely obsessed. But I seem to be at a point now where I am relaxing a little more about it, as long as I don't go over too much, or gain weight.
I have Selective Eating Disorder and there are maybe 20 +/- foods that I can eat or be around without gagging. This makes things harder because what I can eat tends to be higher calorie, but if I stay away from cookies and stuff I am usually safe. This also made low carb reallllly hard--all I was eating was breadless bacon cheeseburgers, bacon, sausage, egg, ham, meatballs, and chicken legs, oh and pepperoni and cheese and peanuts. Since I added carbs back I didn't gain, and I'm pretty much losing at the same pace, so I'm so not denying myself carbs if it doesn't give me an advantage. I also stopped snacking on peanuts since I added carbs back, so I am actually less hungry since I'm not snacking. lol
I tend to write extremely long posts. (as you can tell.) lol
I think that's it for now.
Welcome.....I am impressed that you are reading all the posts from the beginning!! Hello when you get here!!
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Italian_Buju wrote: »pofoster21 wrote: »Italian_Buju wrote: »I confess that tonight I am irritated that my daughter's sister is coming here asking me for food (again), after spending all her (and her boyfriends) money on a dog they had for a week and had no business having at all.
On top of that, she just found out she is pregnant, and nobody except her and the boyfriend are happy about it. My daughter and I are both mortified....
She is 22, lives in a motel room, on assistance, and has a trustee to handle her money as she cannot even do that herself.....her boyfriend works full time at a fast food joint, and the second they get any money they are out blowing it. They do not have a pot to piss in, and now are gonna have a baby....
She is mentally slow, her mentality is that of about a 13 year old.....God help that baby, and everyone else that is gonna be affected by it.....
She needs to be involved with child protection services, even before there's a child. They can develop a plan to get her connected with support and educational services like prenatal nutrition... and assess her (both of their) parenting ability. If it is determined that the baby will be in need of protection, it can be apprehended at birth.
It must be rough having so many reminders of Little Rodent Boy. I've always had two dogs so they have company when I'm not around and when I lose one there's never been any question about getting another one, I don't want the remaining dog to be lonely. And it's kind of diverting to think about a new puppy.
I've had pet rats and they're amazingly intelligent and affectionate little things, but their lifespan isn't very long, Same with guinea pigs. A friend of mine had one of the lop eared bunnies and it was very cute but didn't interact much. If I was to get any kind of caged animal, it would be a chinchilla... I've always liked them. I knew a woman who had several and would often bring one out and about with her, tucked into her jacket.
Tonight's confession: I am eating a yogurt that is almost two months past its best before date. There are three more from the same batch and I fully intend to eat those too. I'm too cheap to throw them out a buy new ones. They look/smell/taste fine... and I've done this many times before with no ill effects.
Hopefully I don't end up confessing to a bout of food poisoning in the next couple of days.
I had a chinchilla. They are wonderful little pets that can be letterbox trained for urine (they poop anywhere but their poop is little hard pellets so no big deal. They can learn their names and commands. They are best in pairs (I found this out after I had my one). I thought about getting a pair again but worried the cats might kill them.
Aren't chinchillas nocturnal? I remember when we were deciding on a pet before, we choose degu over chinchilla because we read that they sleep all day and are only up at night.....I did not think it would be much fun to have a pet that was sleeping all the time I was awake, lol.
Yes I believe he was but that didn't mean he was asleep all day. More like a cat. Would get more active in the middle of the night. He used to hang out with me watching TV all the time. Mind you we are talking 27 years ago so do your research as my brain is a sieve but given you work all day is it a problem if he starts to wake up in the evening?0 -
I feel for you. I did this last year and gained back every single pound I'd lost, plus two for luck, ending up at my heaviest ever.Susieq_1994 wrote: »Glinda1971 wrote: »Susieq_1994 wrote: »orangesmartie wrote: »pofoster21 wrote: »kellienw335 wrote: »orangesmartie wrote: »Why do I not feel the full signals? Why do I keep eating? Why do I undo all my hard work?
I have sat and eaten an entire vienetta, in less than 20 minutes. And I didn't even enjoy it that much, crappie chocolate flavouring. Also, the 8 or 10 caramel crispy bites I inhaled.
I suck and I'm never going to lose weight or climb mountains if I carry on like this
You do not suck. You are awesome! Tomorrow is another day!
I echo this! It's just one day at a time and we all slip. You are going to rock that mountain!
Thanks guys. I'm really struggling food wise at the moment
So am I. At this point I've been really worrying that I'll gain back everything I've lost (over sixty pounds, almost 30 kilos) if I can't somehow get whatever's messed up in my head fixed. :-/ I've already gained 10 kilos in the past few months... Even while struggling to stay "on the wagon"!
Hugs to both of you!!
You can do it! I have confidence in you both.
I agree!! Just keep getting back on that wagon! You've got this!
That's what I keep doing... It's probably the only thing that has stopped me from gaining back a LOT more than what I've gained. :-/ But my head feels so... Out of the game. I can't seem to get up any kind of motivation or willpower, and I just want to stuff my face half the time! Also, I'm having an unusual amount of hunger lately.
I can't explain why - it was almost like I had a detached interest in watching from outside my body to see what would happen. I weighed myself regularly and watched my weight go up, yet did nothing about it. I ate every single thing I wanted. And it wasn't even binges, just eating a lot of rich food, often.
This is how I know I HAVE to stay on the ball, or I'll be destined to always be heavier than I'd like.
Yep this is me. If I don't watch it this time I'll be right back where I started in no time. I have been up and down my whole life.0 -
Susieq_1994 wrote: »orangesmartie wrote: »pofoster21 wrote: »kellienw335 wrote: »orangesmartie wrote: »Why do I not feel the full signals? Why do I keep eating? Why do I undo all my hard work?
I have sat and eaten an entire vienetta, in less than 20 minutes. And I didn't even enjoy it that much, crappie chocolate flavouring. Also, the 8 or 10 caramel crispy bites I inhaled.
I suck and I'm never going to lose weight or climb mountains if I carry on like this
You do not suck. You are awesome! Tomorrow is another day!
I echo this! It's just one day at a time and we all slip. You are going to rock that mountain!
Thanks guys. I'm really struggling food wise at the moment
So am I. At this point I've been really worrying that I'll gain back everything I've lost (over sixty pounds, almost 30 kilos) if I can't somehow get whatever's messed up in my head fixed. :-/ I've already gained 10 kilos in the past few months... Even while struggling to stay "on the wagon"!
I've gained 2lbs in the last 2 weeks. All i can say is thank god for my gym routine, because i would've gained shedloads more. I need to get a grip on this food thing. Its really getting me down. All i can attribute it to is stress.
For another poster, who gave advice earlier (JPW?) thanks. I have those techniques. I am medically diagnosed as BED, so trying to keep it under control is a constant battle.
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Glinda1971 wrote: »I'm sure you all remember me mentioning that my hubby ordered 3 more swimsuits because out of the other 4 he ordered, only 1 fit. Well, those three came in today. Two are identical bikinis only one is light blue and navy, and the other is coralish with gray. I tried them both on and surprisingly, I didn't feel like a flat chested sea cow. No offense to sea cows.
I asked him which he liked better. He said both. I asked him again which one he thought I should keep. He said both because they both looked good. His exact words were something along the lines of you look hot in both and you should keep both.
The third one didn't work because the top and bottoms didn't match (that's what happens when you buy from Amazon). The top was black and white with red trim, but the bottoms were pink with black and white trim. I was disappointed because I loved the bottoms. Oh well.
I went from having zero swimsuits or covers, to having 2 bikinis, an adorable monokini, and 2 swimsuit covers. Pretty exciting.
Yay!!
Lots of variety for your trip.
It will be so nice. I don't think I've ever had multiple swimsuits before. I'm mildly excited about wearing them too. Not super excited about having to shave my bikini area however.
That's why I only wear swimming suits with skirts, lol. I'm 37 and I've never even trimmed anything down there, because loose hair freaks me out and I don't want to have to clean up the mess (ok and I'd have no idea how to do it anyway). Forget shaving or waxing, I always get horrible ingrown hair and I'll be damned if I even try it down there.
Speaking of swimsuits, I'm now very peeved because my period is a week late, which means I will probably get it right in the middle of our vacation next month. Our first real vacation in years... to the beach... and I don't do tampons.
Exfoliate, exfoliate, exfoliate. It makes a hell of a difference. You can get razors with electric trimmers on the end, use those to trim, if you just want to tidy. If you want to shave, go with the grain of the hair. Always use sharp/new razors, never use a razor which you've used to shave your armpits/legs.
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Are social services involved in both of these situations?Italian_Buju wrote: »orangesmartie wrote: »Italian_Buju wrote: »I confess that tonight I am irritated that my daughter's sister is coming here asking me for food (again), after spending all her (and her boyfriends) money on a dog they had for a week and had no business having at all.
On top of that, she just found out she is pregnant, and nobody except her and the boyfriend are happy about it. My daughter and I are both mortified....
She is 22, lives in a motel room, on assistance, and has a trustee to handle her money as she cannot even do that herself.....her boyfriend works full time at a fast food joint, and the second they get any money they are out blowing it. They do not have a pot to piss in, and now are gonna have a baby....
She is mentally slow, her mentality is that of about a 13 year old.....God help that baby, and everyone else that is gonna be affected by it.....
I'm really sorry you have to deal with this. It's almost exactly the same with my sister. I am dreading her new baby being born in October. I fully expect to be caring for it by Christmas
yes, social services are involved, particularly as they applied for the court order to remove her first child (Charlie) from her and place him with my mum and i. I just can't fathom the idea of caring for another baby right now.
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Italian_Buju wrote: »I also eat yogurt after its due date.....it stays fresh for WAY longer than people think, as long as it is sealed and not sour or moldy, it is fine to eat! "Best before" dates are really just sell before dates, and most things can be eaten well after that.....dry goods for over a year after that.....the only one to really pay attention to is fresh meat.....
This isn't the first time I've eaten stuff after its date... usually stuff that's sealed, as you say... as long as it looks and smells the same as it did before, I figure it's harmless. This is probably just the oldest dairy product I've had, lol.
Pretty common for me to have trouble using up something when I'm alone in the household half the time. And, hell, it says "BEST before" not "DO NOT EAT after" so I figure I'm just not eating it at its best, lol.
I often eat yoghurt months out of date, as long as its sealed, then passes the sniff and taste tests, then i'm good. Thats pretty much my approach to most food, except meat really.
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orangesmartie wrote: »Susieq_1994 wrote: »orangesmartie wrote: »pofoster21 wrote: »kellienw335 wrote: »orangesmartie wrote: »Why do I not feel the full signals? Why do I keep eating? Why do I undo all my hard work?
I have sat and eaten an entire vienetta, in less than 20 minutes. And I didn't even enjoy it that much, crappie chocolate flavouring. Also, the 8 or 10 caramel crispy bites I inhaled.
I suck and I'm never going to lose weight or climb mountains if I carry on like this
You do not suck. You are awesome! Tomorrow is another day!
I echo this! It's just one day at a time and we all slip. You are going to rock that mountain!
Thanks guys. I'm really struggling food wise at the moment
So am I. At this point I've been really worrying that I'll gain back everything I've lost (over sixty pounds, almost 30 kilos) if I can't somehow get whatever's messed up in my head fixed. :-/ I've already gained 10 kilos in the past few months... Even while struggling to stay "on the wagon"!
I've gained 2lbs in the last 2 weeks. All i can say is thank god for my gym routine, because i would've gained shedloads more. I need to get a grip on this food thing. Its really getting me down. All i can attribute it to is stress.
For another poster, who gave advice earlier (JPW?) thanks. I have those techniques. I am medically diagnosed as BED, so trying to keep it under control is a constant battle.
Same here, except I gained 10 in two weeks!! :-/ And to top it off, not an iota of exercise was done, either.
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pofoster21 wrote: »Susieq_1994 wrote: »Question for Susie: How's it worked out when Ramadan will be? I know it's coming up soon. Is it extra challenging when it falls during a month with long days? Right now it doesn't get dark until about 10pm, and dawn is super early - that's a really long day. Do people ever grumble?
Ramadan follows the lunar calendar. It's the ninth month of the lunar calendar, so it gets a little earlier every (Gregorian) year, by about two weeks. For the last several years, it's been falling in the summer, so it's definitely a harder time for fasting. This year it's expected to fall on the 18th, but it doesn't officially start until someone sights the crescent moon, marking the beginning of the new lunar month.
It's mostly challenging when it's HOT. In Saudi Arabia, we almost always have 12 hours of daylight and 12 hours of dark, so the time doesn't change significantly--but being thirsty in the middle of summer can be killer! As for the hours, a Muslim friend of mine who lives in Finland actually has to fast for 21 hours! Imagine trying to fit all of your calories into a three-hour window... But she says that she doesn't have a huge issue with hunger--most people tend to get more thirsty than hungry, because being dehydrated can sometimes kill your appetite.
Our fasting window will be from 3:20 AM until about 6:30 PM, which will gradually get earlier as the month goes on, because the sun is beginning to set earlier at this point. It usually gets earlier by about one minute every two days or so. It's not really very hard unless you get up really early--It'll be about a 10 hour fasting window for me.
As for grumbling, that's one of the main challenges of Ramadan. You're told to be especially kind, helpful, merciful, and respectful during the Holy month, as well as doing extra worship. Being a better version of yourself when you're hungry and thirsty is DIFFICULT. The smokers and caffeine addicts tend to be really nasty in Ramadan, but acting nastily or rudely takes away from the reward of your fast. Whining that you're hungry and thirsty is perfectly acceptable, though...;)
We have IT folks at work who follow this. I was always amazed at no eating or drinking. I could survive the food but I drink a TON. Going thirsty definitely makes me cranky.
Well, Ramadan is meant to be a challenge--You're forced to feel what the poor feel, the ones who have no food or clean water to drink at all. When you're actually feeling what they feel, it softens your heart towards the needy, because as others have said... Seeing starving people on tv halfway across the world just doesn't feel real to us sometimes. It's a bit of a wake-up call, to make people grateful that they don't have to live this way all the time.
There's also a massive reward for fasting in Ramadan--when done properly, a Muslim will exit the holy month as free of sin as the day he/she was born. But doing it properly isn't just about the fast. 0 -
i get pint of ice cream, take half a cup and immediately put water in the remaining ice cream jar to make sure I don't have more. PS...yes I tried throwing it in the garbage but technically if the lid is still on, you can take it out and have some more ;-)0
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I have gone to the movies alone so that I could eat a huge bag of candy in the darkness without being judged. Lol
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Spent over $100 on groceries, went to Taco Bell right afterwards.0
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Finally had my favorite brownie sundae yesterday. Haven't been to the ice cream place since a few days before I started here in September. The girl working the counter made it huge. FOUR scoops of vanilla bean ice cream. It is $6, but they give you so much product and the quality is great, so I don't mind paying it. It had to be at least 1,000 calories. No f*cks given. It was amazing and worth it. I'll take it over a half mixed, overpriced Blizzard from Dairy Queen any day.
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Susieq_1994 wrote: »pofoster21 wrote: »Susieq_1994 wrote: »Question for Susie: How's it worked out when Ramadan will be? I know it's coming up soon. Is it extra challenging when it falls during a month with long days? Right now it doesn't get dark until about 10pm, and dawn is super early - that's a really long day. Do people ever grumble?
Ramadan follows the lunar calendar. It's the ninth month of the lunar calendar, so it gets a little earlier every (Gregorian) year, by about two weeks. For the last several years, it's been falling in the summer, so it's definitely a harder time for fasting. This year it's expected to fall on the 18th, but it doesn't officially start until someone sights the crescent moon, marking the beginning of the new lunar month.
It's mostly challenging when it's HOT. In Saudi Arabia, we almost always have 12 hours of daylight and 12 hours of dark, so the time doesn't change significantly--but being thirsty in the middle of summer can be killer! As for the hours, a Muslim friend of mine who lives in Finland actually has to fast for 21 hours! Imagine trying to fit all of your calories into a three-hour window... But she says that she doesn't have a huge issue with hunger--most people tend to get more thirsty than hungry, because being dehydrated can sometimes kill your appetite.
Our fasting window will be from 3:20 AM until about 6:30 PM, which will gradually get earlier as the month goes on, because the sun is beginning to set earlier at this point. It usually gets earlier by about one minute every two days or so. It's not really very hard unless you get up really early--It'll be about a 10 hour fasting window for me.
As for grumbling, that's one of the main challenges of Ramadan. You're told to be especially kind, helpful, merciful, and respectful during the Holy month, as well as doing extra worship. Being a better version of yourself when you're hungry and thirsty is DIFFICULT. The smokers and caffeine addicts tend to be really nasty in Ramadan, but acting nastily or rudely takes away from the reward of your fast. Whining that you're hungry and thirsty is perfectly acceptable, though...;)
We have IT folks at work who follow this. I was always amazed at no eating or drinking. I could survive the food but I drink a TON. Going thirsty definitely makes me cranky.
Well, Ramadan is meant to be a challenge--You're forced to feel what the poor feel, the ones who have no food or clean water to drink at all. When you're actually feeling what they feel, it softens your heart towards the needy, because as others have said... Seeing starving people on tv halfway across the world just doesn't feel real to us sometimes. It's a bit of a wake-up call, to make people grateful that they don't have to live this way all the time.
Hmmm. That sounds really good and noble. One of those reminders that we could ALL use once in a while, to know how it feels to be less fortunate.0 -
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Agreed.Susieq_1994 wrote: »pofoster21 wrote: »Susieq_1994 wrote: »Question for Susie: How's it worked out when Ramadan will be? I know it's coming up soon. Is it extra challenging when it falls during a month with long days? Right now it doesn't get dark until about 10pm, and dawn is super early - that's a really long day. Do people ever grumble?
Ramadan follows the lunar calendar. It's the ninth month of the lunar calendar, so it gets a little earlier every (Gregorian) year, by about two weeks. For the last several years, it's been falling in the summer, so it's definitely a harder time for fasting. This year it's expected to fall on the 18th, but it doesn't officially start until someone sights the crescent moon, marking the beginning of the new lunar month.
It's mostly challenging when it's HOT. In Saudi Arabia, we almost always have 12 hours of daylight and 12 hours of dark, so the time doesn't change significantly--but being thirsty in the middle of summer can be killer! As for the hours, a Muslim friend of mine who lives in Finland actually has to fast for 21 hours! Imagine trying to fit all of your calories into a three-hour window... But she says that she doesn't have a huge issue with hunger--most people tend to get more thirsty than hungry, because being dehydrated can sometimes kill your appetite.
Our fasting window will be from 3:20 AM until about 6:30 PM, which will gradually get earlier as the month goes on, because the sun is beginning to set earlier at this point. It usually gets earlier by about one minute every two days or so. It's not really very hard unless you get up really early--It'll be about a 10 hour fasting window for me.
As for grumbling, that's one of the main challenges of Ramadan. You're told to be especially kind, helpful, merciful, and respectful during the Holy month, as well as doing extra worship. Being a better version of yourself when you're hungry and thirsty is DIFFICULT. The smokers and caffeine addicts tend to be really nasty in Ramadan, but acting nastily or rudely takes away from the reward of your fast. Whining that you're hungry and thirsty is perfectly acceptable, though...;)
We have IT folks at work who follow this. I was always amazed at no eating or drinking. I could survive the food but I drink a TON. Going thirsty definitely makes me cranky.
Well, Ramadan is meant to be a challenge--You're forced to feel what the poor feel, the ones who have no food or clean water to drink at all. When you're actually feeling what they feel, it softens your heart towards the needy, because as others have said... Seeing starving people on tv halfway across the world just doesn't feel real to us sometimes. It's a bit of a wake-up call, to make people grateful that they don't have to live this way all the time.
Hmmm. That sounds really good and noble. One of those reminders that we could ALL use once in a while, to know how it feels to be less fortunate.
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Thank god it's summer! Just found out my gym is closed from tomorrow until June 29th for remodeling!! I know I can jog outside but I have always been a gym goer- this just makes me sad
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Porcinette wrote: »I have gone to the movies alone so that I could eat a huge bag of candy in the darkness without being judged. Lol
Candy? Meh.
But I could totally consider doing that with a big container of movie theater popcorn. With butter.
You may or may not want to know you can make it taste like that at home without having to hide. Pop it in coconut oil and use clarified butter.0 -
Hope it all goes ok.FluffySandwich wrote: »My mom and brother should have landed in Montreal by now, and my grandparents are coming at 3. I'm nervous about seeing my grandparents because I NEVER do. I grew up closer to my mom's side of the family and never really got to know my dad's side, so I'm nervous and will probably act awkwardly around them.
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FluffySandwich wrote: »My mom and brother should have landed in Montreal by now, and my grandparents are coming at 3. I'm nervous about seeing my grandparents because I NEVER do. I grew up closer to my mom's side of the family and never really got to know my dad's side, so I'm nervous and will probably act awkwardly around them.
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ttcbelieve wrote: »i get pint of ice cream, take half a cup and immediately put water in the remaining ice cream jar to make sure I don't have more. PS...yes I tried throwing it in the garbage but technically if the lid is still on, you can take it out and have some more ;-)
But..but..you're ruining perfectly good ice cream
Next time send it my way! 0 -
Finally had my favorite brownie sundae yesterday. Haven't been to the ice cream place since a few days before I started here in September. The girl working the counter made it huge. FOUR scoops of vanilla bean ice cream. It is $6, but they give you so much product and the quality is great, so I don't mind paying it. It had to be at least 1,000 calories. No f*cks given. It was amazing and worth it. I'll take it over a half mixed, overpriced Blizzard from Dairy Queen any day.
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I don't blame you - especially when it's not your choice or your childorangesmartie wrote: »
Are social services involved in both of these situations?Italian_Buju wrote: »orangesmartie wrote: »Italian_Buju wrote: »I confess that tonight I am irritated that my daughter's sister is coming here asking me for food (again), after spending all her (and her boyfriends) money on a dog they had for a week and had no business having at all.
On top of that, she just found out she is pregnant, and nobody except her and the boyfriend are happy about it. My daughter and I are both mortified....
She is 22, lives in a motel room, on assistance, and has a trustee to handle her money as she cannot even do that herself.....her boyfriend works full time at a fast food joint, and the second they get any money they are out blowing it. They do not have a pot to piss in, and now are gonna have a baby....
She is mentally slow, her mentality is that of about a 13 year old.....God help that baby, and everyone else that is gonna be affected by it.....
I'm really sorry you have to deal with this. It's almost exactly the same with my sister. I am dreading her new baby being born in October. I fully expect to be caring for it by Christmas
yes, social services are involved, particularly as they applied for the court order to remove her first child (Charlie) from her and place him with my mum and i. I just can't fathom the idea of caring for another baby right now. If you do opt to take it on, what kind of supports are there?
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I'm sorry, I'm way behind (of course).noaddedsugarx wrote: »It's been the most traumatic day. I've mentioned here before about being a full time carer for my Grandma who suffers with dementia.
I can't help thinking somehow that this is my fault and I should have been watching her (I was in my bedroom getting dressed) even though she is always steady on her feet and hasn't had a problem with stairs at least recently anyway. If she doesn't recover from this I don't think I'll be able to forgive myself.
I'm sorry to hear about this. I hope everything is okay. It isn't your fault. You can't always be everywhere.you are awesome, pls don't let sh!tty co-workers make you feel different
Thank you! Same to you!Italian_Buju wrote: »Oh, it worked.....this is my little rodent boy, all snuggled into me while watching a movie a few weeks ago....
Thank you all for the kind words, it has been a long hard day...... More hugs to you. I'm super sorry for the loss... 0
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