Ladies . . . how many dates?
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I like the guy I'm seeing right now quite a lot and next time we hang out will be date number 6. I think date number 6 will be the one! :P It all depends though! I like to form a connection before feeling comfortable enough to do that kind of thing. I change my mind a lot so if I still want to have sex with him by date 6, he must be pretty awesome.0
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ohh sex.......how i miss you my sweet friend0
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120 days from the first date, at minimum.
Not even joking.
Seriously? But isn't sex kind of an important part of a relationship. What if you wait six months and you guys are really awkward and stuff and it's horrible?
Then we'd break up, obviously. I have no problem putting a man out to pasture if the sex is horrible and I've never had trouble telling a guy to gtfo is he has a problem handing out for four months.
I ain't got time for bad sex or men who aren't willing to put in a few months to get to know me.
just curious, no judging, but you would wait 120 days, fall for someone and have them fall for you only to put them to the pasture, if the sex sucks? Am I correct? Again, not judging, just trying to figure out if that's what you are saying.
Yes. It happened once. Met a nice guy, we dated for about 6 months, we gave it a go, it was awful on a few different levels, so I broke it off. Life is entirely too short to put p with bad sex, in my opinion. Relationships are built on lots of things, and I believe a satisfying sex life should be one of them. I don't believe in putting up with things that don't make you happy and if your partner can't make you happy on a physical level then part of 'compatibility' equation is clearly missing.
At this stage I'm happily married. My husband and I went to the movies, to mini golf, and dinner over a one week span then I left the state and we dated long distance (no sex) for almost a year. I came out to Hawaii to visit for a week, and give him a test run, and thankfully things were great. Had they not been I could have finished my visit and come home; instead I moved in.120 days from the first date, at minimum.
Not even joking.
Seriously? But isn't sex kind of an important part of a relationship. What if you wait six months and you guys are really awkward and stuff and it's horrible?
Then we'd break up, obviously. I have no problem putting a man out to pasture if the sex is horrible and I've never had trouble telling a guy to gtfo is he has a problem hanging out for four months.
I ain't got time for bad sex or men who aren't willing to put in a few months to get to know me.
Edit: So yeah, sex is very important. I'm a big fan of it but it's far from the only thing. I'm not, as someone else stated, a vending machine where you put in food/movie tokens and get laid.
What is it about 6 months? s that how long yu feel it truly takes to get to know a person?
I would think that I'd like to know if a relationship has legs within the first month or so.
Yes, basically. I like to know a man, who he is, what he's about, his goals and aspirations before I sleep with him. My method isn't for everyone, not am I saying we should all close up shop unless X amount of time is put in, I'm saying that for me this is how I choose to handle my love life.
I suppose I'm very aware of the things that sex can lead to, however accidental. I need to know that if things go sideways (this broke, the pill failed, blahblah) where he stands and what he's prepared/no prepared to do. It is my view that you can't know that within a month.0 -
I'm not having sex until marriage.
Adini, I will boyfriend you so hard!
I will ask you out for coffee and even talk to you while looking at your face and not looking at all the hot waitresses
Then, oh you better be prepared for my next brutal move because after the coffee, I will ask you out for a dinner and movie. Oh yeah, you know how hard I would be boyfriending you when theres dinner and a movie involved!
I will wine and dine you all night. I will wine and dine you so hard that you might even wanna... ask me to take you home.
And then.
Oh thats when the magic begins.
Then, I will drop you off because you're tipsy and so I will take you to your home and go my own way and wait for your phone call.
BAM! You just got boyfriended. HARD!
PS. This hardcore boyfriending will involve me forgetting I even have a cellphone!
Back off dude.
I'm already taking her to Red Lobster.
GUIZE SRSLY!!!
we're at olive garden right now enjoying all you can eat soup and breadsticks....
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WOW. This post isn't creepy or anything. What are you, some kind of creep?0
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Depends on how HOT you are.....:bigsmile:0
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I enter, my cue in hand. I did not plan on coming this evening.
Easy! Children might end up reading this.0 -
WOW. This post isn't creepy or anything. What are you, some kind of creep?
You know, if you're gonna try and troll, at least pick a better username0 -
oy... if a woman has any type of self esteem, they won't on the first date - UNLESS they're just in it for the "put out"... I think a few of us have been there...
but for a woman that wants a relationship, depends on how many times you see her.
say you see her twice a week, after a month and a half 2 months which is about 10-14 dates.
I should edit: there has to be monogamy involved and a relationship status set in stone!
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First date both times. But knew them for at least a month before the first date.0
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When it;s monogamous and you know it.
Clap your hands!
Actually LOL ...clever! I'm sorry what are we waiting for? :ohwell:0 -
18 or older.....I enter, my cue in hand. I did not plan on coming this evening.
Easy! Children might end up reading this.
This post is pg13 at most:blushing:0 -
Seven years have passed and I am now the mother of two beautiful boys. I often think back on the night that changed the direction of my life. I am grateful my husband had the audacity to challenge my rules.
I almost did a tl;dr, but I dr, and it was awesome! :flowerforyou:0 -
I only have sex on a first date if I pay the Craigslist escort.
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I dont know.0
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I'm not having sex until marriage.
Adini, I will boyfriend you so hard!
I will ask you out for coffee and even talk to you while looking at your face and not looking at all the hot waitresses
Then, oh you better be prepared for my next brutal move because after the coffee, I will ask you out for a dinner and movie. Oh yeah, you know how hard I would be boyfriending you when theres dinner and a movie involved!
I will wine and dine you all night. I will wine and dine you so hard that you might even wanna... ask me to take you home.
And then.
Oh thats when the magic begins.
Then, I will drop you off because you're tipsy and so I will take you to your home and go my own way and wait for your phone call.
BAM! You just got boyfriended. HARD!
PS. This hardcore boyfriending will involve me forgetting I even have a cellphone!
Back off dude.
I'm already taking her to Red Lobster.
GUIZE SRSLY!!!
we're at olive garden right now enjoying all you can eat soup and breadsticks....
Omg. Lmao Taunto, Cros, & Skull, you guys are killing me over here.
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Let's see . . . I don't count my husband because we've known each other so long that when we got together this time I was like "if we're dating again, you're marrying me *kitten*, or we're going down in a fiery blaze of crazy" he was like "okay" then we had sex. So, it really was dependent on how long I knew the guy before we hit the dating thing and how attracted to him I was.0
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Thanks it is my love storySeven years have passed and I am now the mother of two beautiful boys. I often think back on the night that changed the direction of my life. I am grateful my husband had the audacity to challenge my rules.
I almost did a tl;dr, but I dr, and it was awesome! :flowerforyou:
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Sex *Runs away giggling*
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Honestly I try to wait until I know there is chemisty, know the person better and see if it is a good or bad choice before I go right ahead and do anything. I like to know what I am getting myself into lol.0
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How YOU doin?Depends on how HOT you are.....:bigsmile:
I once made a guy wait 14 years. Oh wait, we were friends for 14 years before I slept with him :laugh: Even then, when we started dating, I didn't put out for 4 months. But, 4 months isn't a magic number, it just happened that way.
I put out on the first date for a klondike bar 0 -
I enter, my cue in hand. I did not plan on coming this evening. I worked the closing shift at the Thruway and just want to go home. I am late, the pool matches have already begun. We are facing a team I do not know.
I see him. He is at the table lining up a shot. His eyes are intense, I can not look away. His movements are fluid and controlled, each stroke hits it's mark. I am lost in his game, my breath is matched with his. My senses are alive with an animal desire that is consuming my reason. I want him! I am now a jaguar on the hunt. He stands no chance for I knew how to peruse this prey.
His match is over, I congratulate him on his win. I now have his attention. I step up to the table to display my talent. My opponent is of no concern to me. The game I am playing is not on the felt. I lose my match but he is interested.
We are talking and I learn we share a common pain. His wife of four years has just left him. I easily convince him that a mindless release is the medicine he needs. He says "I have been out of the game for so long that I do not even know how to begin to hit on a woman let alone close the deal." He is making it so easy to seduce him. I tell him the blunt truth, a method that has never failed me, I say "I have been divorced for six months and I want nothing more from you than a night of passion. I just want to satisfy a selfish need. I will make this real easy for you. I will drive you home, when we get there if you ask me in you will get laid. It is just that easy!" He is now mine.
We are in my car and I can sense he is excited and uncertain. I feel powerful, confident,and in control. We are stopped at a red light. I turn to look at him and say "We should at least kiss before we go any further." He leans in and our mouths meet in a clumsy kiss while I try to pay attention to the traffic light. The light turns green and we are driving again. I turn into his drive way, kill the engine, turn to him and say "This is where you make your decision."
He quickly invites me in and offers me a drink. I turn to him and smile, saying "I did not come here for a drink!" I now move to the open bedroom door and make my intentions clear one last time. He needs no more encouragement and instantly covers the distance to me. We come together as if we have known each other for a life time. We satisfy our physical needs. Spent we lay in each others arms enjoying the afterglow of intimacy. I fade in and out of sleep for an hour. All of the sudden I realize there is a closeness that I feel in this strangers arms. A contentment I have not felt in a long time. I need to leave now!
I get up and dress moving brusquely trying to shut out that unwanted feeling. I am at the door ready to leave. I say "It was fun. Thank you." He says " That's it? Can I have your number? Can I see you again?" I am frozen in place. I think to myself: Who is he to change the rules of my game? I want nothing more than this one night. Why am I giving him my number?
Seven years have passed and I am now the mother of two beautiful boys. I often think back on the night that changed the direction of my life. I am grateful my husband had the audacity to challenge my rules.
^^This is awesome. I almost didn't read it as well but I'm glad I did.0 -
One or two unless I don't find them attractive.
Then it's about 5 or 6.
got to say, if I don't find them attractive, I'm not putting out or going on dates. Unless you mean physically attractive, wait, if I find your personality cool but not physically attractive, that's called friends.
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Seriously tho, who wouldn't. Love them Klondikes....:smooched:0 -
First date both times. But knew them for at least a month before the first date.
but, um, tim??? this post was for the laaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaadies.
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My current relationship started as friends with benefits, the FWB situation I ended when I started seeing some one that only lasted 2 months and when that ended I gave my FWB a call and it took him less than a week to ask me to be his girlfriend after the previous relationship ended. He recently told me that he liked me from the beginning but he was too shy to say anything about it and he thought he didn't want to be in a committed relationship witch is what i was looking for. Then I when I was involved in the other relationship he wished he said some thing sooner, it was hard for me at first to accept his feelings because i was focusing not having feelings for him and that's exactly what he went and did. But today we are happy together.0
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^^This is awesome. I almost didn't read it as well but I'm glad I did.
Just goes to show you never know where things will take you.0 -
I enter, my cue in hand. I did not plan on coming this evening. I worked the closing shift at the Thruway and just want to go home. I am late, the pool matches have already begun. We are facing a team I do not know.
I see him. He is at the table lining up a shot. His eyes are intense, I can not look away. His movements are fluid and controlled, each stroke hits it's mark. I am lost in his game, my breath is matched with his. My senses are alive with an animal desire that is consuming my reason. I want him! I am now a jaguar on the hunt. He stands no chance for I knew how to peruse this prey.
His match is over, I congratulate him on his win. I now have his attention. I step up to the table to display my talent. My opponent is of no concern to me. The game I am playing is not on the felt. I lose my match but he is interested.
We are talking and I learn we share a common pain. His wife of four years has just left him. I easily convince him that a mindless release is the medicine he needs. He says "I have been out of the game for so long that I do not even know how to begin to hit on a woman let alone close the deal." He is making it so easy to seduce him. I tell him the blunt truth, a method that has never failed me, I say "I have been divorced for six months and I want nothing more from you than a night of passion. I just want to satisfy a selfish need. I will make this real easy for you. I will drive you home, when we get there if you ask me in you will get laid. It is just that easy!" He is now mine.
We are in my car and I can sense he is excited and uncertain. I feel powerful, confident,and in control. We are stopped at a red light. I turn to look at him and say "We should at least kiss before we go any further." He leans in and our mouths meet in a clumsy kiss while I try to pay attention to the traffic light. The light turns green and we are driving again. I turn into his drive way, kill the engine, turn to him and say "This is where you make your decision."
He quickly invites me in and offers me a drink. I turn to him and smile, saying "I did not come here for a drink!" I now move to the open bedroom door and make my intentions clear one last time. He needs no more encouragement and instantly covers the distance to me. We come together as if we have known each other for a life time. We satisfy our physical needs. Spent we lay in each others arms enjoying the afterglow of intimacy. I fade in and out of sleep for an hour. All of the sudden I realize there is a closeness that I feel in this strangers arms. A contentment I have not felt in a long time. I need to leave now!
I get up and dress moving brusquely trying to shut out that unwanted feeling. I am at the door ready to leave. I say "It was fun. Thank you." He says " That's it? Can I have your number? Can I see you again?" I am frozen in place. I think to myself: Who is he to change the rules of my game? I want nothing more than this one night. Why am I giving him my number?
Seven years have passed and I am now the mother of two beautiful boys. I often think back on the night that changed the direction of my life. I am grateful my husband had the audacity to challenge my rules.
Good read.
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I don't have a rule for how many dates. My past longer term relationships (1-3 years) it all happened pretty fast, after a few dates. Saying that, I haven't been on a date in 3 years... :ohwell:0
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How YOU doin?Depends on how HOT you are.....:bigsmile:
I once made a guy wait 14 years. Oh wait, we were friends for 14 years before I slept with him :laugh: Even then, when we started dating, I didn't put out for 4 months. But, 4 months isn't a magic number, it just happened that way.
I put out on the first date for a klondike bar
Klondike bars are pretty awesome. I remember there used to be a planters peanut one that was just out of this world....for that I might have put out on the first date. But they've been discontinued since I was like...14, so. /shrug0
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