Ladies . . . how many dates?

yelliezx

I like the guy I'm seeing right now quite a lot and next time we hang out will be date number 6. I think date number 6 will be the one! :P It all depends though! I like to form a connection before feeling comfortable enough to do that kind of thing. I change my mind a lot so if I still want to have sex with him by date 6, he must be pretty awesome.

ILoveTheBrowns

ohh sex.......how i miss you my sweet friend

Achrya

120 days from the first date, at minimum.

Not even joking.

Seriously? But isn't sex kind of an important part of a relationship. What if you wait six months and you guys are really awkward and stuff and it's horrible?

Then we'd break up, obviously. I have no problem putting a man out to pasture if the sex is horrible and I've never had trouble telling a guy to gtfo is he has a problem handing out for four months.

I ain't got time for bad sex or men who aren't willing to put in a few months to get to know me.

just curious, no judging, but you would wait 120 days, fall for someone and have them fall for you only to put them to the pasture, if the sex sucks? Am I correct? Again, not judging, just trying to figure out if that's what you are saying.

Yes. It happened once. Met a nice guy, we dated for about 6 months, we gave it a go, it was awful on a few different levels, so I broke it off. Life is entirely too short to put p with bad sex, in my opinion. Relationships are built on lots of things, and I believe a satisfying sex life should be one of them. I don't believe in putting up with things that don't make you happy and if your partner can't make you happy on a physical level then part of 'compatibility' equation is clearly missing.

At this stage I'm happily married. My husband and I went to the movies, to mini golf, and dinner over a one week span then I left the state and we dated long distance (no sex) for almost a year. I came out to Hawaii to visit for a week, and give him a test run, and thankfully things were great. Had they not been I could have finished my visit and come home; instead I moved in.

120 days from the first date, at minimum.

Not even joking.

Seriously? But isn't sex kind of an important part of a relationship. What if you wait six months and you guys are really awkward and stuff and it's horrible?

Then we'd break up, obviously. I have no problem putting a man out to pasture if the sex is horrible and I've never had trouble telling a guy to gtfo is he has a problem hanging out for four months.

I ain't got time for bad sex or men who aren't willing to put in a few months to get to know me.

Edit: So yeah, sex is very important. I'm a big fan of it but it's far from the only thing. I'm not, as someone else stated, a vending machine where you put in food/movie tokens and get laid.

What is it about 6 months? s that how long yu feel it truly takes to get to know a person?

I would think that I'd like to know if a relationship has legs within the first month or so.

Yes, basically. I like to know a man, who he is, what he's about, his goals and aspirations before I sleep with him. My method isn't for everyone, not am I saying we should all close up shop unless X amount of time is put in, I'm saying that for me this is how I choose to handle my love life.

I suppose I'm very aware of the things that sex can lead to, however accidental. I need to know that if things go sideways (this broke, the pill failed, blahblah) where he stands and what he's prepared/no prepared to do. It is my view that you can't know that within a month.

Justme030

I'm not having sex until marriage.

Adini, I will boyfriend you so hard!

I will ask you out for coffee and even talk to you while looking at your face and not looking at all the hot waitresses

Then, oh you better be prepared for my next brutal move because after the coffee, I will ask you out for a dinner and movie. Oh yeah, you know how hard I would be boyfriending you when theres dinner and a movie involved!

I will wine and dine you all night. I will wine and dine you so hard that you might even wanna... ask me to take you home.

And then.

Oh thats when the magic begins.

Then, I will drop you off because you're tipsy and so I will take you to your home and go my own way and wait for your phone call.

BAM! You just got boyfriended. HARD!

PS. This hardcore boyfriending will involve me forgetting I even have a cellphone!

Back off dude.

I'm already taking her to Red Lobster.

GUIZE SRSLY!!!
we're at olive garden right now enjoying all you can eat soup and breadsticks....

LOL

PoopieMonster

WOW. This post isn't creepy or anything. What are you, some kind of creep?

Mainebikerchick

Depends on how HOT you are.....:bigsmile:

_Waffle_

I enter, my cue in hand. I did not plan on coming this evening.

Easy! Children might end up reading this.

taunto

WOW. This post isn't creepy or anything. What are you, some kind of creep?

You know, if you're gonna try and troll, at least pick a better username

redhead1910

oy... if a woman has any type of self esteem, they won't on the first date - UNLESS they're just in it for the "put out"... I think a few of us have been there...

but for a woman that wants a relationship, depends on how many times you see her.

say you see her twice a week, after a month and a half 2 months which is about 10-14 dates.

I should edit: there has to be monogamy involved and a relationship status set in stone!

Slut shaming...?

whierd

First date both times. But knew them for at least a month before the first date.

bloominheck

When it;s monogamous and you know it.

Clap your hands!

Actually LOL ...clever! I'm sorry what are we waiting for? :ohwell:

Morninglory81

I enter, my cue in hand. I did not plan on coming this evening.

Easy! Children might end up reading this.

18 or older.....
This post is pg13 at most:blushing:

CallMeCupcakeDammit

Seven years have passed and I am now the mother of two beautiful boys. I often think back on the night that changed the direction of my life. I am grateful my husband had the audacity to challenge my rules.

I almost did a tl;dr, but I dr, and it was awesome! :flowerforyou:

Sublimely_Self_Righteous

I only have sex on a first date if I pay the Craigslist escort.


Wait, what?

CrankMeUp

I dont know.

pastryari

I'm not having sex until marriage.

Adini, I will boyfriend you so hard!

I will ask you out for coffee and even talk to you while looking at your face and not looking at all the hot waitresses

Then, oh you better be prepared for my next brutal move because after the coffee, I will ask you out for a dinner and movie. Oh yeah, you know how hard I would be boyfriending you when theres dinner and a movie involved!

I will wine and dine you all night. I will wine and dine you so hard that you might even wanna... ask me to take you home.

And then.

Oh thats when the magic begins.

Then, I will drop you off because you're tipsy and so I will take you to your home and go my own way and wait for your phone call.

BAM! You just got boyfriended. HARD!

PS. This hardcore boyfriending will involve me forgetting I even have a cellphone!

Back off dude.

I'm already taking her to Red Lobster.

GUIZE SRSLY!!!
we're at olive garden right now enjoying all you can eat soup and breadsticks....

Omg. Lmao Taunto, Cros, & Skull, you guys are killing me over here.

AlsDonkBoxSquat

Let's see . . . I don't count my husband because we've known each other so long that when we got together this time I was like "if we're dating again, you're marrying me *kitten*, or we're going down in a fiery blaze of crazy" he was like "okay" then we had sex. So, it really was dependent on how long I knew the guy before we hit the dating thing and how attracted to him I was.

Morninglory81

Seven years have passed and I am now the mother of two beautiful boys. I often think back on the night that changed the direction of my life. I am grateful my husband had the audacity to challenge my rules.

I almost did a tl;dr, but I dr, and it was awesome! :flowerforyou:

Thanks it is my love story

MrsBobaFett

Sex *Runs away giggling*

MightyDomo

Honestly I try to wait until I know there is chemisty, know the person better and see if it is a good or bad choice before I go right ahead and do anything. I like to know what I am getting myself into lol.