WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR OCTOBER 2015

terri_mom

Happy Wednesday ! ! !

DJ – would you believe DH and I had the exact same conversation again last night about the cheese? Like he can’t open the freezer and take out some cheese. Well, I took it out, banged it on the counter and said “here’s the cheese”. He ate a few tacos last night. What a nut ! He also bought that ding-a-ling kid of mine 3 new bowling balls and a 2 ball tote (so now my 15 y.o. son will have 7 bowling balls). When High School bowling season starts, I will donate 2 of the “old’ balls to the inner-city school that is in our conference. I better not hear anything next month when I buy the Embroidery Machine.

Becca – More Hugs ! ! ! I’m so proud of you. Keep that addiction at bay, and stick with us. Give your DH a hug from me.

Sharon – Do you have (or did I already miss it) a recipe for quinoa for breakfast? I frequently have old fashion oatmeal, but I like variety. Thanks!

Kim – Hugs and best of luck ! ! !

Joyce – so sorry about the trouble with your car battery. I’m glad it wasn’t something more expensive.

Sharon – what is it with men and their cheese? Mine doesn’t even like “stinky or runny” cheese like Heather. Mozzarella, American, or Cheddar are the only options. Weird !

Allison – I admire your strength. During the split with my ex, the therapist I was seeing called it resilience. Stay resilient my friend. Hugs ! ! !

Heather – the birthday weekend sounds amazing, and it sounds like you have a plan B if any slight inconveniences arise. Hugs ! ! !

Beth – Hugs for your “not great” week, and for your son.

Today is the day DD sees a lung specialist. First they thought she had a blood clot in her lungs, then they told her she has an auto-immune disease they just didn’t know which one, then they told her she has swollen lymph nodes inside her lungs. She has an inhaler like people get if they have asthma, yet she keeps smoking. We’ll see what comes of it. I think she’s just still depressed about the end of her engagement, and not getting the “love” she needs from her dad, and I can’t give it to her from 200 miles away except through the phone.

15 minutes on the bike already this morning. Will try for at least 10 again during lunch. The RA flare has not left my elbow, so I am not yet back on the handbike, but hopefully soon. Tonight I have to run to the radio station to pick up the $50 Quaker Steak & Lube gift card I won, then a quick supper and off to Parent/Teacher conferences. They ask us to bring the kids along. It is "open house" style, so we sit in a lot of lines (well, I sit, because I drag a chair along with me). I was hoping to go to Big Lots, but I guess it can wait until next Wednesday.

My Dad just e-mailed me that he won Milwaukee Bucks tickets for this Saturday, so 2 of us get to go to the game. Sweet ! I hope DS picks me (but maybe I could just hang out at a coffee shop if he wants to take a friend instead).

Hugs for Everyone ! ! !

Terri in Milwaukee

davidson1933

Day 3 of low carb and would love to join your over 50 group.

dreamwriter

Allison - Lawyers will advise you to stay in the house unless the abuse is a real threat.....then get out as quick as you can. Are your stomach woes linked to Tom's behaviour?

Heather - Your husband's weekend will turn out wonderfully after all the work you have put into it. A steam train ride seems like great fun. Wishing you good weather and lots of laughter for that weekend.

Beth - The sun shining helps with a lot of things. Have a better day.

Terri- Embroidery machine? Do you have projects waiting for it?
I hope they figure out what is really wrong with your daughter's lungs. Don't you just wish you could stop smoking for her? It's hard watching our children go through tough times.
You asked for a quinoa recipe. Here is the the Total 10 one. I have another some place if this isn't to your liking.
1/2 c. prepared quinoa
1 c. unsweetened vanilla almond milk
1 tsp. cinnamon
1/2 c. frozen berries of your choice
Directions
Combine ingredients microwave for 30 seconds or until hot (It takes mine about a minute and a half)

Hope you like it.

Back to my early riser time and hoping to keep it. Going to fix myself some eggs and off to work I go.

-Sharon
Today is a good day.
I am grateful for
-the sunrise
-I have food to eat
-Dog kisses (Whoa! enough now)
-A husband who takes care of all flat tires
-Adorable, intelligent, caring, loving and attractive grand children (Yes, I know that last bit is shallow)

fanncy0626

Good morning ladies! I am in town visiting my daughter and DM. Then Thursday I will be packing and getting ready for our trip to Colorado on Friday. We hope to drive up to pikes Peak and do some hiking. Last night my daughter took me on a cross country bike trail walk and it was killer! I kept up with her even though she has a Half stride longer than I do.

Have a great day everyone!

Mary from Minnesota

grandmallie

morning again~
I am hoping it will not come to lawyers..stomach issues not from him... feeling better today.
DFIL didnt like his waffles or quiche and spit it out on himself..that was fun to clean up.. did eat his wheaties
then went to see my DB,came home and finished laundry and then getting grocery list together..

mollywhippet

Becca - oh, how I understand! I too am addicted to computer stuff and waste many, MANY hours every day doing nothing but playing mahjong and freecell, reading the news (about 10 times a day), checking for e-mail, and stuff like that. My life has really suffered because of it, too. I've only recently discovered facebook, and am not good at it yet. I don't post often but yesterday I discovered I had accidentally "shared" a post about a political issue that I don't even agree with. Not sure how that happened. I didn't even notice until one of my liberal ladies friends commented on it. I was mortifiied! It took me hours to find the right button to remove it. Just hoping it's finally gone and not just hiding somewhere. So, I won't be posting (or sharing) on facebook for a while. I spend at least an hour a day on this thread, but I think of that as my therapy. Once I decided to quit playing mahjong, so I deleted the apps from my tablet and phone, deleted the bookmark from my desktop and tried really hard. All went well for about 12 hours. Then the apps came back. So, you are not alone.

I had a horrible scare yesterday. When I dropped off my oldest DGD at school she told me that she did not have choir practice because of parent-teacher conferences, so she would get out at the regular time. Her dad is the one who picks her up, so I asked her if he knew and she said she gave him the note telling about it. Just to be sure he remembered, I tried to call him. No answer. I tried at least 12 times during the day to call him and he never answered. I knew he had been feeling lousy, so assumed he was sleeping. At 3:00 I still had not reached him, so I drove by his apartment and both his car and his crazy drunken wife's car were both there. So, I went to the middle school to pick her up, then rushed to the elementary to get the other two.

When I got them home to the apartment, he still was not answering his phone. The door was locked and he didn't answer the door. I banged on it so hard that the building manager stuck her head into the stairwell and asked if everything was all right. I said he wasn't answering his door and she rushed to her office to get the key. In the meantime, he finally opened the door. I swear, it seemed like he didn't even know who we were. He just looked at me, then looked at the kids, and had a blank look on his face. I thought for all the world that he was stoned! It was just like the old days when he was on drugs. Well, after a few seconds, things started to clear up and he said "oh, sorry. I was sleeping." I wasn't sure I felt good leaving the kids with him at that point, but he said he was OK and seemed quite put out about all the fuss. He never once questioned why Adrienne was with us instead of at the middle school. If I hadn't gone to get her she would have been all alone outside the school for who knows how long. It's not like the elementary school where the teachers wait outside for the kids to be picked up. And she is so immature, she wouldn't know what to do.

So, this morning was a little tense at his apartment. It's like he's mad at me!

So, I have a ton of stuff to get done today and had better get started. Have a great day!

Sylvia

GRITSandSLUTSandWINOS

Hi to all, thanks for your comments about my dropping out of the 'obese' category! It really, really made me feel good! I even wore long pants to be weighed in - that might have been at least an extra 1/2 pound there; but, I won't concern myself with that. Just too cool to weigh the shorts I have been wearing.

I'm glad that the Prozac is working for you . . . I was suffering from the throws of being up one minute, down the next; and was put on Prozac and that made me from 'swinging' into a situation of 'crash and burn'. But, it made it so that I got diagnosed properly with Bipolar Disorder and then went on Lithium; after that I got Lithium Toxicity which just about killed me. I finally found a PsycheMD 'out-of-town' because all that are around here are 'stupid'. At least, he actually listens to me and I can call him 24/7 if I feel like my meds are whacked out or if I think I need my medications 'tweaked', which most of the time he can do that over the phone and it will help stabilize me and then I can get up to see him. I won't go to the local hospital for much of anything; especially when it comes to my 'mental health'. Really, really bad experience. I'm also with ya for hating being on a fence and trying to stay which most call 'stable'. It just does not feel that way to me; I prefer to be a little on the 'manic' side of the fence because that is what 'feels' normal to me. If I am 'on the fence' or on the 'depressed' side of the fence; I feel like Hell and can't get anything accomplished.

I've got to get my house ready for Thanksgiving; and about all I have done is get my bookshelf all dusted off with all the tchotchkes dusted off and everything put back in place. I really think it will take me working like a horse to get it done, like I did last year. I did it all in 2 days and was surprised that I did not have any help doing it. I do remember sweating like a horse and my husband telling me several times to 'take a break'; but, it was clean when I finally got through with it. A weekend shot; but, it was worth it. I can't hide too much under either bed; because that is where most of the 'hunting stuff' goes such as all the clothes, etc.

We are still looking for a 'puppy' to add to our family since our JRT died this past April. WOW! Some breeders are 'very' proud of their dogs. A JRT is totally out of our budget. I guess we were spoiled when we got Shorty from my BnL. Only had to pay for what he had in her - the procedure so that his dog could get pregnant and all the shots and wormings. Then we had to have her spayed. She lived for 16+ years. I have found them to be advertised from $900 to $1900. A breeder took the time to explain to me why they are so expensive if you get onw from a 'good' breeder and what to expect and look for. Tried 'beagles' because we had that breed for approximately 10 years before she died. I guess if you get any dog that is a purebred is going to be too expensive for us. I have gone to the local Humane Society; but, they rarely get 'puppies' and they would not allow me to get any dog out of their cage to take them to a quieter part of the facility in order to see if the dog was a barker just for the sake of barking; or in they were 'barking' saying 'Let me out of here, please adopt me and let me outta here'! I've gone by several vets' offices to see if they had anything that would be suitable, nothing so far and I won't buy a dog from a pet store either. I want to meet the people I am getting the puppy from and pick out my own puppy. I know what to look for, in a pet for companionship. I don't want a biter or one that is too aggressive and don't want one that shies away from being held. Now we are looking at Rat Terriers; and I have emailed a breeder in east Georgia to find out if their dogs are more in line with what we want and what we can afford. Probably a no-go on that, too. Going to ask DYS to look out in Louisiana for a dog like his "Lily". He calls her a "Mountain Feist"; but, when I look that up, it always take me to "Rat Terrier sites". Although there is a dog that is a 'Mountain Feist'. Lily is well behaved, comes inside some, doesn't seem to be bothered with fleas, and isn't a 'barky-barky' dog like a Chihuahua or other 'little' dogs are usually. His wife bought a little mixed breed; but, it is a Shitz Sui married to a Chihuahua, and while he is really cute, he is sort of a 'barker' for attention. Also, he is pretty much a house dog, mainly because of his size, although he doesn't think he is a small dog. Our JRT did not 'think' she was a little dog either. Sad, that we haven't been able to find a dog. Louis is going to see if DYS will be 'on the lookout' for a dog that we can afford that is a small- to medium-sized puppy to an adult. We might have to settle for a 'mixed' breed; but, even then - we don't want one bred with a Chihuahua or Lab or Pit-bull. Apparently all 3 of these dogs will bred with 'anything'. Makes you wonder how they can do that.

mollywhippet

Grits, mixed breeds are wonderful, in my opinion. They are so unique. Nobody else in the world has a dog quite like Bruno or Spot. And I truly believe that mixes are much smarter than purebreds. At least that has been my experience. Our purebred whippet, Molly, is dumb as a box or rocks, but Bruno and Spot (Bruno in particular) are both very smart. Of course, Bruno has a lot of Jack Russell in him, and they are known to be very smart as a breed. Almost any dog will bark under certain circumstances. I feel really sorry for the ones that have been so cruelly "trained" not to bark or have to wear those electroshock collars to keep them quiet. They bark to express joy, fear, or greetings. But that said, I don't care for the yippie-yappie little dogs that bark all the time, either. We have found that we like dogs about 30 pounds or so. A good sized dog, not too small, but they can still fit on your lap in a pinch. You might try Petfinder.com. That's where we found Bruno.

I once had a dog named Susan who was a mixed breed pound puppy. My son picked her out from a litter at the pound for his 10th birthday. That was the best dog I have ever had. She was so smart she was almost human. She was a medium sized dog, but still could be good protection if necessary. One morning I drove my son to school, then stopped at the drug store to get a newspaper out of the machine. (I was job hunting) A man approached me and asked for money. I told him that I didn't have any, just what I brought for the newspaper, and I had left my purse at home. He moved toward me and said in a very scary voice that he could just follow me home and get some money. I opened my car door and Susan flew out of the car like her tail was on fire, barking so fiercely at that man that even I was scared of her. She never barked once until that door was opened, but she was watching and knew what to do. After he jumped back in his truck and took off, she calmly jumped back in the car and said, "OK, I'm ready to go now."

When I met my hubby, she fell deeply and madly in love with him and he with her. That's how I knew he was a keeper. She died about 15 years ago at age 19 and I miss her still. Hubby and I were just talking about her last night, and how she would be annoyed with these two crazy boys we have now.

OK, see what I mean. I'm wasting time again.

Good luck finding the perfect dog. Life without a dog is just too sad to imagine.

Sylvia

Katla49

Sharon: I love the idea of choosing our attitude. I will remember and use it as often as possible. :flowerforyou:

Alison:

Tazgirl: Welcome back.

Heather: Your celebrations are amazing. I am in awe and hope you have a wonderful time. The train ride sounds like great fun. :flowerforyou:

Sylvia: You are a stellar grandma. Your son was likely embarrassed and grumpy because of dropping the ball for his DD. :ohwell:

Grits: Good luck on your puppy search. DDIL has a beagle-jack that she rescued from the pound. He's been healthy and loyal. Good luck on your search. :flowerforyou:


Thank you to all for the wise advice yesterday regarding DD's situation. Barbie's words were especially helpful and I've put things into a much more positive perspective. I was having a self-pity party at a time when DD is trying her best to handle serious health problems during pregnancy, and financial problems. :embarassed: I'm moving from jealousy to the realization that she is lucky her DMIL can help. I still have a ways to go but I'm better than I was. I wish she was moving here, but the truth is I haven't got room in my house for her family and DH's health problems are more than enough challenge for us at this time. :ohwell: :flowerforyou:

Katla in Beautiful NW Oregon

“Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.” Thomas A. Edison

October Goals :
1. Log every bite and swallow.
2. Cardio exercise at least 3 days a week. Work on flexibility and back strength.
3. Have fun every day.
4. Drink at least three glasses of water daily, preferably more!
5. Eliminate alcohol.
6. Monitor sleep. Try to average 7 or more hours of sleep nightly.

GRITSandSLUTSandWINOS

In GA, if there is a domestic violence call, usually the police, if called, will ask if either has a place to go, more specifically, the man. Unless, of course, the house, apartment, etc., is in 'his' name and then the wife is asked if she has a place to go. Depending on the answer(s) they will ask the one who is the most abusive of the two to leave anyway, no matter what. Then in a "Rule Nisi" [temporary hearing usually set when one party goes to file for a divorce] hearing the Judge will decide who gets to stay in the house/apartment and again, that depends a lot of whose name is on the contract/lease. This is a 'temporary hearing' until a settlement agreement can be worked out between them. Once when my former DnL was married to my DOS, she got drunk and disorderly and kicked him, so he held her hands out straight in front of him, so she could not kick him again. She called the police and he called me all upset because he was afraid that 'if' he got locked up, he'd lose his job. I told him that 'she' had a place to go, she could go to her parents' house and NOT to agree to leave or else he'd have to pay rent for her until 'heaven only knows how long'. He had bite marks and other evidence that she was more 'at fault' than he was. She was drunk as a skunk and pregnant to boot. Of course, her parents were not 'happy' with her; and she also was not allowed to take his car; which was the only one they had at the time which he bought before they married. Her parents had to come pick her up and the police stayed there until they got there. She finally cooled off and came back after a couple of weeks; but, it was never the same between them. They ended up getting divorced with DOGD was about 18-months old. It broke my heart because it meant that he only saw her on weekends and on Wednesdays; but, she'd bring her over to our house for me to watch her a LOT; even though I had had a really bad (almost fatal) car accident about that time and really should not have been watching her. Now, she does not have custody of any of the 3 children she's had (all by different men). I'm still not sure that she is divorced from her 2nd husband (middle child's father).

pipcd34

morning peeps -

miriamwithcats = hope u feel better

annr - you have to respect the fact that your husband talked to you about his concerns instead of giving you attitude and not knowing what he's pissed about. give him a thumbs up for me. i can understand where he is coming from but just DON'T FORGET ABOUT ME! :0)

GODMOMKIM - may your computer rest in peace, my thought are with you and the family.

jmok01 - thanks :0) i try, you'll get there.

dreamwriter - lolol about the body snatchers catching your sis.

grandmallie - u r a rockstar! my thoughts are always with u!

tazgirl1960 - welcome back

cynthiat60- HIIII!!!!!!!!! hope your hubby feels better, that was sweet of him to sanitized the knobs, what a guy!

davidson1933 - welcome, love your profile pic!

fanncy - u know y u were able to keep up w/her right? cuz YOU ROCK!

grit - welcome to overweight status!! yeayyyyyyyyyyy!! we've had pure breds, golden retreivers and yogi a black lab, father an english lab, mom an american. but with that, pure breds have thier issues but that's what we want. yogi is turning out to be very smart and when i start running again, a good running dog. good luck in your search. they do have sights where you can enter your criteria and your lifestyle and based on what u enter, it picks the best kind of dog for you.

shoulder hurt unusually bad last night. went to my last spin class this morning. starting next week, I spin at home and Kirby goes back to work. the spin bike that i'm borrowing won't have a mile, gear, average rpm or average watt meter to note so i'll just b spinning and marking the length of time and calories burned

type to ya later

margaretturk

Sylvia (((Hugs))) Frustrating about son. Something was off in your son. What is was is not clear. Hope he is doing better. You do not need that kind of stress.

I am taking it easy the last couple of days and will do so today, too.
MNMargaret

DamitJanit

Call me crazy but I love to see other people happy and succeeding .

Good Morning Ladies,

Miriam, so sorry you have picked up a bug. I hope it doesn’t get worse and you get better real soon.

Becca, that “thing” you showed the picture of is very pretty. That’s the kind of thing I try to walk past very quickly in the store. Lol In reading your posts the past two or three days, I’m wondering if I missed something that you posted earlier? Have you given us any information on why you are needing to rebuild trust? I’m not asking for anything that you haven’t already shared, but if you did I must have read it when I was napping or something. Anyway, good luck with your new plan on the internet. I not only have no desire but no time to read other threads as I spend more time on this one than I should. Wish I was a faster reader.

MicheleNC, way to go on modifying the workout that you found. I am just always so impressed with what you do and it always seems to have a great variety. Thanks for the prayers for all the flood victims. I feel very blessed.

Joyce, I hope the family Christmas situation gets solved soon. It’s ashamed to have such stress over something that should be a wonderful time. On the diapers, can you not just buy some to get him started or would that cause a problem? Sorry about your car battery but how wonderful to have a good Samaritan come to your rescue. It is always refreshing to see that there are good people left in this world.

Sharon, good for you on riding to your sisters. Laffin’ about your DH and cheese. Good grief! Sorry for your DH that he felt ignored on his BD. Things like that can be so upsetting.

Allison, I try not to say much about Tom other than you deserve better, but I can’t keep my mouth shut any longer. You do so much for him. If he keeps saying he is finished with the marriage maybe you should suggest that you two live as roommates for a while. That of course would mean that he do his own laundry and cook his own meals. I vote along with everyone else in that you need to at least talk to an attorney to find out how to protect yourself. I know you want to make your marriage work but I still have to ask if you are happier in it than you would if you were alone? If you did end up alone, do you want it to be there or in Florida?

Terri, I still can’t believe how many bowling balls your guys have. When we lived in Milwaukee we bowled a lot and I had one. In fact I didn’t know anyone with more than one ball. How times have changed. I mean, that was only 40+ years ago. Lol

Heather, I hope the worst of the family stress is behind you and DH. I’m sure the celebration will be a huge success.

Davidson, welcome. Please tell us about yourself to help us get to know you. This is a very supportive and informative group of ladies. We also ask that you sign each post with the name you want to be called and a location, general or specific.

Sylvia, my heard sank just while reading your post. Thank goodness DS was okay but what a scare. What I don’t understand is how he can justify being mad at you, like any of it was your fault. I agree that “pound puppies” are the best. We’ve had a number of mixed breeds over the years and each one was better than the one before. (I’m sure that wasn’t because we were learning to be better owners?)

Katla, so glad you took Barbie’s words to heart and have a different outlook on DD’s move. I’m sure she’d rather be moving in with you, but like you said, you simply don’t have room and it’s great that her DMIL has reached out to help.

Pip, I can’t believe Kirby is back to work already. How time flies. Sorry for the pain. Are you over doing it?

to any Newbies that I missed. Come often and join in the chat. This thing works!! Please sign your post with what you want to be called. It makes it easier for us to respond to you. Also a location is great, be it specific or general. We are happy to have you join us.

What a beautiful day in SC. The sun is actually shining. It is chilly this morning but supposed to be in the low 80s the next two days. After a solid week of rain, this is a welcomed change.


I hope all of you have a healthy and happy day.

Words I live by:
Savor. I have to slow down and savor every bite.
and
Opportunity. Each day offers new opportunities for good health and happiness if we just look for them and choose them.
I Love you,
DJ
Myrtle Beach, SC

grandmallie

well,just got finished mowing the lawn, is a beautiful fall day out, and it's some exercise..
going in at 1-6 5 hr day at least at the paying job...
tomorrow is a much needed haircut and then back and wait for the pellet stove to come and be delivered..
will feed DFIL early and then after they deliver stove or maybe before will grocery shop. this is the unpaid day off..
December vacation cant come fast enough..

NO_Excuses_515

Well, I’ve gotten way behind on posts again. Will try to catch up and add a few comments later.

NSV – Had a physical with my doctor on Monday. Cholesterol is 180; blood pressure is 100/60; all other bloodwork came back normal except that my bad cholesterol is 106 and should be under 100. As I continue to exercise more and eat healthier, that should come back into normal range. Now I need to schedule a mammogram, or the boob squishing test as my daughter calls it.

I’ve recently ended up with two fitness trackers – a Withings Activite Pop which I purchased and a Jawbone UP2 which the company sent me as a replacement for my broken Jawbone UP24. I’m testing these out and I’ll either keep one and give one to my daughter or I’ll return one and keep the other. I know… first world problems, right?

My cute baby foster kitties were losing weight when they first came to my house. That’s not unusual when they are first placed in foster since it’s a new environment. But, happy to report that all four gained weight this morning!

miakoda40

Becca in Oregon- I am sorry to see that the time you spend on MFP has been causing concerns for your DH, but I can understand why. I am very glad that you found a potential compromise that will make him comfortable but still allow you to stick with us. I would miss you if you had to drop out altogether. However, family and trust is important so do what you must to keep your life on track.

That chocolate may not be healthy for your body, but occasionally your spirit need chocolate. Everything in moderation.

Carol in NC – Congrats on taking 3 steps towards a new job. I’m so glad to see you are feeling better.

Katla in Beautiful NW Oregon – I’m glad to see you are starting to feel better about your DD’s move.

No Excuses – Congrats on the good report from your doctor! That is terrific!

Mia in MI

October goals:
Continue to honestly log food every day
Weigh and measure all food that I prepare at home
Get at least 15 min per day of aerobic exercise
64 oz. water (or what counts as water for my program) daily

Word for the month - PERSEVERE

fanncy0626

Pip - I hope your pain goes away! I didn't feel too much like a rockstar last night, I got a major crap that went from the inside of my leg from my knee all the way up in curved around to my butt! I went in and drink a quarter cup of pickle juice and almost immediately it went a way! I heard that that was a remedy for cramps but I never tried it before. I feel much better today.

Mary from Minnesota

grandmallie

Mary- re-read what you wrote, I almost peed myself

miriamwithcats

Mary, I swear by pickle juice after a hard workout- in my garden! I crave it and I am not as sore. It replaces electrolytes that you lose sweating. I pay attention to cravings after my first pregnancy. I was craving red meat and tomatoes- could not get enough! My blood pressure was really low- worrisome low. I happened to be reading a nutrition book and it said that the nutritional treatment for low blood pressure was... protein and Vitamin C!! Of course, sugar and chocolate cravings do no count!

I am not coughing as much as yesterday by far, but managed to pull a muscle in my side coughing yesterday! It is really painful when I move so am spending a lot of time lying on a heating pad with the muscle stretched out.

Linda, so glad the kitties are doing well. I may very well have a new kitty. The last thing I need. It was stuck in a tree across the street and the neighbor girl asked me to get it down. It is pure white, with a yellow eye and a blue eye. White cats with blue eyes are genetically prone to be deaf. It is a gene that causes the inner ear to deteriorate after birth. Cats with one blue eye have a lesser chance, but it is still 40%. Sometimes they are deaf only on the blue eye side. This one appears to be deaf in both. It is very sweet and rather passive when held. Anyway, with two girls in my house it is hard to get rid of one once it is rescued, even if it was only supposed to be temporary. They worry someone will take it, and let it outside where it is very vulnerable.

I am very upset with my sister today. Actually with her husband. He is greedy and resents helping support the girls. I get less than $500 a month from her for their expenses, but he is now saying that once I adopt them, then they lose their tax write off so they won't be able to help out! You cannot raise two kids on $500 a month, $6K a year! Much less on disability income ($1400/month). He says this a week after they were considering buying a new house that cost over half a million! He has his priorities all wrong in my opinion. And she goes along with it! I should just send the girls down to them for a few months, see how they manage. She is the VP of a hospital and he was an accountant at a hospital. They have lots of money- live in a gated community, plays golf every day, drive new cars every other year. ARGH. My son had anticipated this happening, but I poo pooed him. He is a better judge of character, I guess.

GRITSandSLUTSandWINOS

mirianwithcats - for Heaven's sake; how did you get the girls in the first place? What were your sister and brother-in-law thinking? Children are not like a baby doll you get and give away or put up for adoption unless you (meaning 'they') are abusive and the court takes them away and then tells the parents 'you'll have to pay something towards their upkeep'. With good jobs and living the "Life of Riley". They need a 'wake-up call' and maybe taking the girls back to them would be 'it' (even if it is at the expense of the girls for a while). My BF had that done with her grandchildren; the mother was (at the time either single or just in a new relationship) and she had taken them for the summer for a friend of hers to 'take care of them' or 'have them there to play with her children'). Don't know the specifics; but, when it came time for the children to be enrolled in school this friend suggested that if they were not picked up, she would turn them over to DFACS and have them put in 'foster care'. She was not going to raise them. When my BF found out about it, she and her soon-to-be husband went up and got them. Bi-racial children; but, they did everything for them to assimilate them into a Caucasian household; even finding black teachers and/or coaches to help them and she also got the oldest one (a 'red') to a hair-stylist that knew something about how to handle her hair. They kept the boy's hair buzzed; and the middle one had soft hair like she did, so that was no problem for her. Their grades went from failing to passing to better than that. The next school year (after daughter had married) she took them back to her. It broke her heart; but, the daughter had matured a whole lot in the 15 months or so they kept them. Now they are all 'happy' and doing well; even though since they went back to live with their and her husband, she has had another child and a set of twins. Like having 2 sets of children. About 10-11 years difference in the youngest of the first 3 and the oldest of the second set of children.

Children are a 'gift' and God will remember how they were treated when He gave them to them. I'm guessing that you took them so they would not have been put into the 'foster care' system; but, on $1400 a month? How do you even pay for the necessities in life for yourself and your son and a multitude of cats apparently? I'd go with your son; it can't be easy on him to see you try splitting your time between your 'own' child and that of your 'sister's'. He needs your attention . . . not them (even IF you think you are doing the right thing). Sure thing, if they get adopted that means their parents will not have to pay anything. I think I would go to a lawyer (most will give you 'free' advice for the first visit) and find out if being their 'guardian' would be something that will still make it so that your 'sorry@$$ed sister and BnL have to still pay for you to keep them; what would be the chances if the Judge gave you more, etc. If you took them to prevent them from being put into the 'foster care system' then God Bless You. I can't imagine that you'd have much use for your sister and BnL. I know I would not. The only way I would have taken my sisters' children to raise would be because they had died and the children had no where else to go. Maybe I have 'missed' your story on why and how you got them in the first place - so my comments are made based solely on your last post.

GRITSandSLUTSandWINOS

I'll probably get 'bomb-barded' for that, too.

miriamwithcats

these are my sister's grandchildren. The parents lost privileges for drug (meth) and alcohol abuse, neglect, domestic violence, etc. I just got the parental rights terminated, after having the girls for over two years, so I could adopt them. My sister has been paying my out of pocket expenses which I keep about $500/ month. Her husband just realized that when I adopt them they lose the dependents on their taxes (I don't have to file with only SSDI income). Probably has saved them tens of thousands in taxes. They were spending over $150K a year on airfare alone when she was working in Texas but living in SC. She recently got a job in SC so is no longer traveling. My sister's husband (her second) does not want his leisure lifestyle impacted by taking the girls himself, and he has begrudged every penny she has sent me. Now, just a week after bidding on a half mill house, he says they "cannot afford" to give the girls $500 a month. I just wrote her and told her the adoption is off. That I will not adopt the girls without a written contract signed by both of them. I do have a lawyer, and have gone through the Dept of Human Services adoption classes and investigation. They okayed me to adopt but it was based on my sister paying the out of pocket costs. I would not be okayed without that. What a mess- greed is such a sin.

pipcd34

damnit - kirby will b bk to wrk saturday. maybe overdoing at wrk w/typing, gotta back off a bit i think

fanncy - pickle juice does help. so does magnesium pills and salt pills. glad u r feeling better

miriamwithcats - bummer 2 hear about the $$ issues with your sis n her hub.

wessecg

I am so looking forward to my weigh in tomorrow. There is a possibility that I will be in the 170's again. Since I was 181 4 days ago, and I have been perfect the last few days, I am hoping to see 179.8. Then I could say I went from the 190's to the 170's in 30 days!!! Cross your fingers.

BJ - Welcome back.

Michele - do you have exercise recommendations for getting rid of my gut (I never had one before). Crunches won't work since the ribs I broke 2 years ago still hurt.

Joyce - just curious, how can a house be "too big" for an event?

Grit - how do I tell if I'm obese or just overweight? Is there a chart? Also, have fun puppy hunting. I lost my dog earlier this year and got the most perfect puppy in the world. Here's a picture of her when she was small. She is 9 /12 months and 95 pounds now.

cityjaneLondon

Miriam - Families, eh? ! ! ! ! ! Big hugs ((((HUGS)))) You have such a generous heart.

I had a lovely lunch with my friend. Managed to avoid most of the fries that came with the steak and used the trick of just dipping the prongs of my fork in the peppercorn sauce.
In order to compensate a bit DH and I went for the short walk round the lanes, so that made 756 calories for the day in all, as I had done my machines first thing. Did feel a bit "fluey", but nothing serious. Had 20 mins nap on the sofa which seems to have done the trick. :laugh:
I've even got a couple of hundred calories left. Will probably spend a hundred of it on cheese.

Heather UK

pipcd34

wesseg - awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww

GRITSandSLUTSandWINOS

miriamwithcats wrote: »

these are my sister's grandchildren. The parents lost privileges for drug (meth) and alcohol abuse, neglect, domestic violence, etc. I just got the parental rights terminated, after having the girls for over two years, so I could adopt them. My sister has been paying my out of pocket expenses which I keep about $500/ month. Her husband just realized that when I adopt them they lose the dependents on their taxes (I don't have to file with only SSDI income). Probably has saved them tens of thousands in taxes. They were spending over $150K a year on airfare alone when she was working in Texas but living in SC. She recently got a job in SC so is no longer traveling. My sister's husband (her second) does not want his leisure lifestyle impacted by taking the girls himself, and he has begrudged every penny she has sent me. Now, just a week after bidding on a half mill house, he says they "cannot afford" to give the girls $500 a month. I just wrote her and told her the adoption is off. That I will not adopt the girls without a written contract signed by both of them. I do have a lawyer, and have gone through the Dept of Human Services adoption classes and investigation. They okayed me to adopt but it was based on my sister paying the out of pocket costs. I would not be okayed without that. What a mess- greed is such a sin.

Maybe the million dollar plus home they have a bid on is like half of SC - under water. He's the pain in the royal @$$; and I'm like you - I would not keep them without a written contract. What would THEY do with their own grandchildren? Surely, they should have been the first ones in line to get them since it was her child having the drug issue (if there was not a more suitable sibling that could have done so). I know, even though my grandchildren live next door, my oldest son's and his wife's Wills are written in such a way that his brother (my youngest son) would take them or maybe it is that her brother and sister-in-law would take them, can't remember. Only remembered telling them they needed to make sure that whoever they named agreed to doing so; and to name someone else to be in charge of any money they would get from life insurance especially since they either had children or might have children. Someone they'd have to be accountable to for whatever money they are spending on them. It's like having to justify what you do with your SSD income to the Social Security Office on a yearly basis. Or at least my husband has to do it for me, since he is my guardian. I was retired/disabled on a mental health disability (Bipolar Disorder). I still pay my own bills out of my own checkbook although he and/or my son are on my checking accounts - they don't write checks against them, but, they could if they needed to. Your BnL sounds like a 'royal' D***@$$

terri_mom

Sharon – Thanks for the recipe. I can do that, and will certainly cook the quinoa this weekend for breakfast next week. I’m so excited ! ! ! // Whatever was wrong with my DD awhile ago is gone. She was just told that he had bronchitis awhile back and she is fine now. Hopefully the specialist convinced her to at least cut back on the cigarettes. // My DS and DH are in so many sporting events (mostly bowling tournaments) and $25 per shirt to have their names embroidered is expensive, and I am convinced I could do it myself, so I’m going to buy myself a small machine for home, so I can put their names on their shirts myself. I can sew almost anything, so I’m certain that I can handle their names.

Sylvia- I’m so happy that you are available for your Grandkids. Hugs and Prayers for all ! ! !

Grits – I don’t have any pets now, but as a child we always just found them at Humane Society locations. Sometimes it would take months, waiting for the right connection. I think they were always mix breeds. I hope the right dog soon finds you.

Sylvia – Your response to Grits is beautiful. I love the story of Susan protecting you. I had a Llasa Apso (SP?) from a random Minnesota farming farm, that was VERY protective of me and DD. Once, when someone was trying to break into our house, that person cut the screen from the window in the kitchen, so that dog, Mickey, jumped onto the kitchen table and broke right through that kitchen window, scared off the burglar, yet never left the yard. // I agree that little kids and pets are some of the most sensitive to true personality, and a remarkable way to choose a friend or partner.

Katla – It is such a hopeless feeling when our kids need us (or at least we think they do) but we are miles or hours (or any physical or emotional distance) apart. You are allowed your pity party. I’m so happy for everybody who was helped by Barbie’s wise suggestions. Kudos to Barbie ! ! !

Mary – Congrats on your hike. That’s a great NSV. But I’m not surprised, as you are in such great condition with your stronglift ! Keep up the great work ! ! !

DJ – I don’t even pretend to understand why a person needs so many bowling balls. I am told that one is for long patterns, one is for medium patterns, one is for short patterns, one is for dry lanes, and one is for picking up the 10 pin (7 pin for lefties). But I just don’t really know what any of that means. // Have you ever been to Holler House? DS works there now, and I have still never been in the place. I hope to go there next week, when DH’s brother and sister-in-law come to the area for their 2 boys’ bowling events (one bowls for Winona State University and the other bowls for University Wisconsin Whitewater). The family that owns Holler House is so nice that they either pick up DS, or just keep him after Saturday morning league is finished. Then they take him back to their house for pizza and basketball, then later bring him home. I need an excuse to show up. But I understand that every woman has to throw a bra onto the hooks hanging from the ceiling, so I better go to Goodwill first, and get a cute bra.

No_excuses – congrats on the results of you Physical.

Allison – Thanks ! ! ! Now I’m sitting at my desk laughing like an idiot ! ! ! Mary, thanks for your typos, too.

Miriam – Hugs for your girls and the entire situation. “you can’t fix stupid”.

I have to log off my computer so IT can fix a problem, and I'm not done reading and typing. I will try to get back at it soon. If not, Hugs for Everyone ! ! !

GRITSandSLUTSandWINOS

wessecg wrote: »

I am so looking forward to my weigh in tomorrow. There is a possibility that I will be in the 170's again. Since I was 181 4 days ago, and I have been perfect the last few days, I am hoping to see 179.8. Then I could say I went from the 190's to the 170's in 30 days!!! Cross your fingers.

BJ - Welcome back.

Michele - do you have exercise recommendations for getting rid of my gut (I never had one before). Crunches won't work since the ribs I broke 2 years ago still hurt.

Joyce - just curious, how can a house be "too big" for an event?

Grit - how do I tell if I'm obese or just overweight? Is there a chart? Also, have fun puppy hunting. I lost my dog earlier this year and got the most perfect puppy in the world. Here's a picture of her when she was small. She is 9 /12 months and 95 pounds now.

There must be a chart, I'm sure. MD could probably know. I know it had to do with my fat%. I just weighed in at 172lbs yesterday. I'm sure it is based on your bone structure, height, etc. My nurse/MD has a special scale that measures all that, so they know how much weight I am carrying in my torso, arms and legs. I'm just thrilled! I've only gained one pound during the time between mid-May and yesterday and that was after a weekend at the beach. Went to Louisiana for a week and ate like a Queen and still lost weight. By that time, I think I was pretty good at judging portion control sizes, too. Whenever I go 'out to eat' the first thing I do is cut my entrée in half and the ask for a 'doggie bag'. No shame in doing that - you're paying for it whether you eat it, take it home and/or throw it out, or the restaurant throws it out. I was concerned about my belly, too - it has gone down quite a bit; but, she told me that it is probably going to be the last thing to go because of the fat content. So right now I am not too worried about it and I do exercise. I can't do too many crunches because I broke the rib right under my left breast and it catches and then makes me 'feel' like I am having a 'heart attack'.

Vickil57

Happy Wednesday, I have had the last 4 days off and it was great! This morning I see I am over 240 posts behind. I will do my best to catch up. I did get a lot done on my time off and spent time with one DD and several of the DGC. Weigh in this morning was not good and not going to let that get me down. It's a new day. Temps are down in the 60's and 70's and I am loving it. Have the windows open and feels like Fall. We leave on our trip to AK on the 20th and I am getting excited. Sounds like another couple and then a lady friend will be going with us. We are going to Hatflied for a CMA rally. It will be celebrating 40 years.

Last Friday evening we had our monthly CMA meeting and I made sure no one nomated me for next year. I have been an officers for the last 3 years and we need some new blood in the leadership.

Janetr--Happy be-lated Birthday.

Allison--It is so nice of you to go to church with your dad, after all that happened with the pastor. Sorry to hear about DH, sounds like he a very unhappy man and it's his own making.

Chris--Congrates on stepping out of your comfort zone for your friends. I need to work on that one also. I have a friend that had surgery last week and I was thinking of taking over something for a meal. I will do that tomorrow after work. Thanks,

Katla--Sorry about your DD moving, is this just until the baby is born? Can you go out there when it is time for the baby? How did the mattress test go?

Becca--Sounds like it is going to a good visit with your sons. Enjoy!

Sharon--Sending hugs and prayers.

Mary--Sorry to hear about DH and the games the ex plays. My DH has two ex wifes and I have had to deal with them for over 30 eyars. One did all she could to keep us away from the kids and we kept taking her to court and the judge finally told her that if she missed one more visitation she would go to jail for 30days. I just kept telling myself it would get better when the kids were grown. Well one DDlives with her mom, so when we see her we have to deal with the ex. So I feel for you.

Well I am up to the top of page 10 and time to get something done and get ready to get off work in half an hour.
I have to run by the cable office and pay a bill. When DH gets off we have an appointment with the chiropractor. I did find out today I got a .29 cent raise for my yearly review. Not complaining, I still have a job.
Ladies take care and thank you for being here.
Blessings, Vicki GRAND ISLAND, NE

October Goals
1. Weigh less at the end of the month then at the beginning.
2. Log every bite.
3. Stress less, Pray more
4. Enjoy everyday. Look for the positive.