Why request friends if you're not going to interact?
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Hi there! I'm totally doing this alone and I don't have 1 friend to interact with on here....my only contact is my MIL & her account is inactive until the new year. I log in daily and I will totally support and encouragement you if you'd like to connect. I think a "get healthy" buddy would be beneficial. Hope you have a great day!!0
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I get a fair amount of requests and accept them all. The only people I delete are beach body spammers.
I don't expect anything from my MFP friends. If 1000 more people request, I will say yes to them too.
There is also a time zone issue - when I am up and about, many people are asleep so when I look at my feed, it is a very small window on the lives of the people I am connected to.
I like and comment on a handful of things a day. That is all I have the bandwidth for and I assume others are in the same boat and am fine with one of my posts getting less than five comments or likes.0 -
I usually only reply or like stuff that's on the first page. I don't usually click the "see more" option.
I don't really send out friend requests anymore0 -
Two questions ...
If you decline someone, do they get a message saying, "You have been declined!" ... or just nothing?
Same with deleting people. Do they get a message, "So-and-so has deleted you!" ... or nothing?0 -
Maybe I'm just in a mood tonight, but I think some people just like to collect friends, and it doesn't matter who they are. My thought is that people get themselves pumped up over getting a lot of comments or likes, so the more people the better. Reminds me of Facebook and just "friending" anyone and everyone so you can say how many you've accumulated....
I accept all requests, and I "like" or comment on every one. If some time goes by and I get no interaction back....buh-bye. Deleted. Lurking is perfectly fine. Not commenting is fine. But simply leaving a "like" to let someone know you acknowledge their posts/accomplishments takes one second.0 -
natboosh69 wrote: »I have to admit I'm a lurker. I accept all friend requests and I do have a quick scan through the news feed but never comment on things. I'm not being rude, I just genuinely don't have anything to say to statuses like 'Caved and had some chicken wings today' or 'Smashing it in the gym!'. I also find it pointless commenting on a post to say well done when there's already 20 'well dones' from other posters.
I always appreciate it if people post words of support or encouragement, but they make no difference to my success or motivation.
However I still accept all friend requests because why not? I don't have any personal info except my weight so makes no difference to me. I also never respond to PM's either unless I am specifically asked a question.
This as well as another post I agreed with. Some people make this a way bigger deal than it needs to be. I do nuke people who end up being MLM shills, though.0 -
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Oh good ... I might go in and decline a bunch then.
I prefer that people send some sort of message if they are going to request my friendship, or at the very least that their profile gives me some indication that they might be a "match" ... as in, having similar goals and interests or something.
I also have about half a dozen friends who are nearing the 6-month with no log-in point ... and I think I'll delete them when they reach that point. If they haven't logged in within 6 months, they're probably done and gone.
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How do you keep track who comments on which statuses? Do you keep a spreadsheet?
Does clicking *like* count?
Catching up to find out!0 -
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TheBeachgod wrote: »natboosh69 wrote: »I have to admit I'm a lurker. I accept all friend requests and I do have a quick scan through the news feed but never comment on things. I'm not being rude, I just genuinely don't have anything to say to statuses like 'Caved and had some chicken wings today' or 'Smashing it in the gym!'. I also find it pointless commenting on a post to say well done when there's already 20 'well dones' from other posters.
I always appreciate it if people post words of support or encouragement, but they make no difference to my success or motivation.
However I still accept all friend requests because why not? I don't have any personal info except my weight so makes no difference to me. I also never respond to PM's either unless I am specifically asked a question.
This as well as another post I agreed with. Some people make this a way bigger deal than it needs to be. I do nuke people who end up being MLM shills, though.
I don't think people make it bigger than need to be. Having different approaches to how you utilize mfp is valid especially if they are not forcing those beliefs on others. Those that don't care about communication with friends should and will find others that feel the same way. Those that do care about interaction will find those friends.
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Cranquistador wrote: »How do you keep track who comments on which statuses? Do you keep a spreadsheet?
Does clicking *like* count?
Catching up to find out!
I notice who comments because I have a small number of friends. Whenever I find that I have a "friend" that never responds to me or others or never comments on posts, then I delete. There is no magic number that I use to determine if they are interactive enough, just those that are completely mute get the boot.0 -
christinev297 wrote: »I usually only reply or like stuff that's on the first page. I don't usually click the "see more" option.
I don't really send out friend requests anymore
The "show more" option is such a pain. I hate clicking it because it's so slow to load on my phone. And when you comment on a post after that show more option, then your screen resets back to the first few posts and you have to click the "show more" option again to see the posts at the bottom of the feed again. If I wasn't so anal on commenting on all posts I'd do as you do too.0 -
It's not rude... I have a pretty big FL so I accept here and there but not much anymore unless we have had a great connection in the forum or through a mutuals friends wall.I have too many people on the list to keep up with, so I quit trying. There really are a handful of people whose stuff I like to see and I miss it because the "feed" or whatever it's called is cluttered with stuff I don't want to see.
It just seems rude to not accept requests, so I accept them all and never interact. I post almost nothing, ever. It's not the way I want it. I'd like a smaller list of people that I do interact with.
I'm always saying, "One of these days, I'm going to go on a deleting spree!" but I never do. Maybe that time is near. Reading this makes me think I really should.
Otherwise I would have 1000 friends... Just due to length of time I've been here!
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NurseCrystalB wrote: »Hi there! I'm totally doing this alone and I don't have 1 friend to interact with on here....my only contact is my MIL & her account is inactive until the new year. I log in daily and I will totally support and encouragement you if you'd like to connect. I think a "get healthy" buddy would be beneficial. Hope you have a great day!!
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I'm always saying, "One of these days, I'm going to go on a deleting spree!" but I never do. Maybe that time is near. Reading this makes me think I really should.
Yep, I did it last year and haven't looked back. I'm friend-free and happy to be. I chat with whoever I want on the main forums and open groups and that's enough for me. I liked almost all my friends when I kept a list but there were a few lurkers who were completely silent and that did creep me out a bit.
Mostly it was me who was the inactive friend though. I tried to keep up with the woo hoos!, and the way to gos!, and the excellent progress! and the congratulations! and the that looks so yummy! narratives but I got tired and could no longer keep up with that. Also I found it stressful.
After awhile I just didn't want to see a hundred daily updates of people who completed their diary for the umpteenth time, who logged in for the 57th consecutive day, who burned 800 calories on the eliptical or who burned 5 calories farting into a sofa cushion while posting stupid zombie references from gory, violent TV shows I never watch.
I also didn't understand only wanting to converse on a "wall" or a "feed" with the belief that it is somehow an exclusive, members only club - invisible to the rest of the site, since I don't think any website conversations are really private anyway.
Then again, I don't have a Facebook account or any other social media account- which I think is where the friend list idea was copied from anyway...
Bottom line is, who are these online friends anyway? Anonymous avatars who appear and disappear in the blink of an eye. And nothing more than words on a screen, ultimately. I like to keep that reality check.
It might be that way for you, but it's not that way for everyone. I have made some lifelong friends here that have evolved into non screen interaction... Like tough mudders, and Sunday brunch. (Okok brunch is in the werks)0 -
47Jacqueline wrote: »I agree. And additionally, I wonder why someone with 174 friends on MFP is still adding more.
Why? Just because you have a preference doesn't mean someone else feels the same way.
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So true could not have said it better myself!!!!0
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Well I can say I interact with my FL and have grown familiar with quite a few of them over the years BUT I also have commitments outside of the feed, as do my friends. If someone writes something on my wall or messages me I respond but the majority of my FL is self sufficient and long time members so most of us don't really bother with the superfluous "WTG! Good job!" etc on what has become habitual; such as logging streaks or finishing diaries. We tend to support each other when it comes to more personal tribulations or if we are seeking advice be it regarding lifting, nutrition etc. More often than not we are there for each other when we need it. I like low maintenance friends...not unlike real life.
Different strokes for different folks.0 -
Insofar as size of FL and whether I delete a contact or not, If I accept your messageless FR and then go out of my to way to introduce myself to you on your wall, you better dang well reciprocate. Clicking the stupid like button is meaningless.0
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nakedraygun wrote: »Insofar as size of FL and whether I delete a contact or not, If I accept your messageless FR and then go out of my to way to introduce myself to you on your wall, you better dang well reciprocate. Clicking the stupid like button is meaningless.
If I friend request you without a message, you better accept without talking about me on your wall first with the wrong freaking name.
Jus' sayin'0 -
I don't have time to put a bunch of 'likes' or support messages on people's posts on my feed. I don't necessarily know when they closed their diary if they are happy with the calorie count. It's possible they might be bulking and calorie count was under, liking that would not make sense.
I have a few close friends I will post messages back and forth with regularly, but everyone else, I don't worry about. My diary is open if they'd like to look at it, and my posts are there for them to read.
I accept very few friend requests, and I delete friends who are inactive longer than 8 days.0 -
Beast_Mode_Engaged wrote: »Cranquistador wrote: »How do you keep track who comments on which statuses? Do you keep a spreadsheet?
Does clicking *like* count?
Catching up to find out!
I use folders in my email for each friend to put each email mfp sends me when they comment or reply. Then I add them up at the end of the week. I email the results to Santa.
Which list am I on?0 -
PrizePopple wrote: »Cranquistador wrote: »nakedraygun wrote: »Insofar as size of FL and whether I delete a contact or not, If I accept your messageless FR and then go out of my to way to introduce myself to you on your wall, you better dang well reciprocate. Clicking the stupid like button is meaningless.
So you like to give as well as receive.
Awww yeah. Imma have to send some FR's out now.
I can haz Moscato?
*pats the couch next to her*
I'll even make some brownies!0 -
PrizePopple wrote: »PrizePopple wrote: »Cranquistador wrote: »nakedraygun wrote: »Insofar as size of FL and whether I delete a contact or not, If I accept your messageless FR and then go out of my to way to introduce myself to you on your wall, you better dang well reciprocate. Clicking the stupid like button is meaningless.
So you like to give as well as receive.
Awww yeah. Imma have to send some FR's out now.
I can haz Moscato?
*pats the couch next to her*
I'll even make some brownies!
[...something about straining the butter]
Yes please0 -
PrizePopple wrote: »PrizePopple wrote: »Cranquistador wrote: »nakedraygun wrote: »Insofar as size of FL and whether I delete a contact or not, If I accept your messageless FR and then go out of my to way to introduce myself to you on your wall, you better dang well reciprocate. Clicking the stupid like button is meaningless.
So you like to give as well as receive.
Awww yeah. Imma have to send some FR's out now.
I can haz Moscato?
*pats the couch next to her*
I'll even make some brownies!
[...something about straining the butter]
Yes please
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PrizePopple wrote: »PrizePopple wrote: »Cranquistador wrote: »nakedraygun wrote: »Insofar as size of FL and whether I delete a contact or not, If I accept your messageless FR and then go out of my to way to introduce myself to you on your wall, you better dang well reciprocate. Clicking the stupid like button is meaningless.
So you like to give as well as receive.
Awww yeah. Imma have to send some FR's out now.
I can haz Moscato?
*pats the couch next to her*
I'll even make some brownies!
[...something about straining the butter]
Yes please
Brownies? Yes puhleez...
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PrizePopple wrote: »PrizePopple wrote: »PrizePopple wrote: »Cranquistador wrote: »nakedraygun wrote: »Insofar as size of FL and whether I delete a contact or not, If I accept your messageless FR and then go out of my to way to introduce myself to you on your wall, you better dang well reciprocate. Clicking the stupid like button is meaningless.
So you like to give as well as receive.
Awww yeah. Imma have to send some FR's out now.
I can haz Moscato?
*pats the couch next to her*
I'll even make some brownies!
[...something about straining the butter]
Yes please
NPH on a unicorn!? Poggle you're the best...
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