WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR FEBRUARY 2016
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GRITSandSLUTS wrote: »Becca – I’m with you … I am beginning to introduce ‘real’ food into my diet; and, finding that it has NOT been so difficult to do. I’m not craving things like fast food, such as cheeseburgers and such; but, they look way too good to me. Ordered a Mediterranean hummus and veggie wrap at Publix; and could only eat 1/2 of it. A little too much oil; so, only ate 1/2th of it. Good, but, different. I love hummus and spinach and feta cheese, etc.; but, think if I had made it myself - would not have added so much oil and probably used a small wrap to make it. Knew I could not eat the entire things, other half for supper tonight (or lunch tomorrow). Will probably share left-over fried rice that DH brought home yesterday. Looking all the time about portion control and making sure that I track everything into my mouth on MFP. Weighed 158.5 at yesterday’s weigh-in and dropped 1 more point on my BMI. Two more points to go! Then we will sit down and talk about what I want to weigh that will keep me within that BMI point scale of 'normal range'. Top or bottom of scale. I’ve got a goal that I am working for … fit into my size 10’s and getting my jeans re-altered if possible. IF they can be altered again. Tailor told me a month ago, when they started sagging on me; to bring them back when I got to my goal weight and then he’d take them up again - or see if they could be taken up more. I’ll also get a ‘free’ facial – thanks to my CMWLP. So looking forward to that!
Great that you are finding the encouragement you are from DH and DS – that makes it so much easier. I will share with husband a few chips; and, he’ll dole out as many as I say I want to have (under what the package shows as a serving) – getting usually less – so I don’t go over my allotted calories for them day. I savor the taste by eating them very slowly. I’m a spinacholic myself; and will steam a package of them along with mixed mushrooms … and eat just about all of it.
Got to go into town and get a check, then hopefully BF and I can go out to eat; but, she had a Dentist appointment this AM, so she might have to have a quick one, if she can go, at all.
Chow! Not on food - that might be bad for you!
Lenora
Great job with lowering your BMI! I definitely look at food in restaurants differently. I have that measuring mind, and I draw a line in the food. Before I finish eating, I catch the waitress and ask for a container. Then I put half in it. Then I can continue scarfing happily, knowing I won't over-eat my portion.
Once I actually cried when I was out of spinach. I was on Jenny Craig mind you, and I was really hungry, and cranky. And I cried.
Becca
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Lenora, hit the home page, then go up top to Checking in....no worries. :-)0
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Once I actually cried when I was out of spinach. I was on Jenny Craig mind you, and I was really hungry, and cranky. And I cried.
Becca
melodramatic in
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Gee Becca,
I'm glad you clarified that you were hungry and cranky. LOL.....
But honestly, I get it like everyone on this board does.
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Thanks, Becca, for the heads up. I get so confused sometimes; especially, after last week and part of this weekend. Went back to GYN, this time he did do a pelvic/rectal exam and said that I was a little constipated; but not compacted. Instructed me to go buy a bottle of Magnesium Citrate; drink it, and then at night use my Miralax (as directed) until I go back in mid-March for my cystoscopy. The magnesium citrate was very lemony; not much of it, but it worked. Called PycheMD and hopefully the nurse who I was very 'short' with last week will put my message on his desk; but, also mailed a letter to him about Bill wanting me to call him before I did anything about the dosage of my Geodon. I wish his old nurse was there - not that I would get a response any earlier.0
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Hi gals,
I have been exchanging emails with Michele, and with her permission am sharing parts of our emails so you will know what is going on…..
From Michele:
I had that Skype session with Bryan. To say that it didn't go well is a big understatement. In his email to me he said that he wanted to have an adult relationship. He blamed me for lots of things in his past, but really they were things that I had no control over. Like he blames me because he was SEVERLY overweight in high school. He says that my asking him things like "where are you going" "who will you be with" and "when are you coming home" made it so that he couldn't have a social life. I basically said to him that I was sorry that he was in pain, but the past is the past and can't be undone, perhaps going forward his therapist could help us with our relationship. Can you just imagine the therapy that a child who comes home and announces that he's going out and the parents just say "ok" will need? They don't care who their child is with, if there will be anyone there, when the child is coming home -- they just don't care.
Well....I couldn't figure how she could help us with our relationship unless she knew me, so I assumed that this Skype session would be a sort-of "getting to know you" one. Boy, I couldn't have been further from the truth! I was lectured on how a child needs this and a child needs that. What does this therapist think -- that I'm going to have another child??? Then Bryan proceeded to blame me for things that I had no control over, like his being so overweight. The fact is that someone will not lose weight (or stop smoking or stop using drugs) until they're ready to. And he wasn't ready until his second year at Elon. But I was told how he lost it himself (well, he wasn't home, so what was I to do?. I was blamed for the fact that I never offered to come see him. Well...we gave him and his wife tickets to the US which we would pay for in full, but he never took us up on them. From the pictures of the apartment he has that he sent us, it looks to me like that apartment is pretty small...so are we supposed to stay in a hotel?
It was VERY stressful....so much that I think that the stress brought on the seizure I had. Stress can bring on a seizure. I'm right now getting myself back on track, I am logging just haven't read any posts since last Tuesday (when it happened). went to the MD and he's going to put me on an anti-seizure med. I am not to drive for 6 months basically to see how my system deals with this drug.
I'm supposed to Skype with him and his therapist again next Tuesday. I really want Vince to be there. I admit that I was feeling very very uncomfortable without him being there this time, and I do wish he had been in retrospect. I am not going to do this again.
Bryan seems so very vulnerable right now. I'm not sure why, I always thought of him as being more independent. Like I said, I'm getting myself back on track, I know that I'll have a lot of posts to catch up on. I'm hoping that later this week or the weekend will give me time when I can at least skim over them.
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I do appreciate everyone's concern. That touches me greatly. After it happened, Jess called multiple times a day and was going to come down last weekend. I told her that she'd planned to come down next weekend, that she shouldn't pressure herself. Vince is taking great care of me. Actually, he's going to be my chauffeur for the next 6 months.
I go to the MD Thursday to get the stitches removed. I am trying to look on the bright side of this seizure thing. Hey, I fractured my cheekbone but that's causing my cheek to be so swollen that I can't wear my glasses so (pity here) I can't see the dirt to clean it. Isn't that a shame???? lol Another positive is that the fracture is making my teeth sensitive so therefore I don't want to eat a lot. The bad thing is that I can't bite down on things like an apple. But I can eat the apple if it's cut up. You know me, I'm someone who is always on the go, so having to be at home for a long time is not going to be easy on me. Now Vince has no problem at all staying home days on end. Not me......he'll get a reintroduction to having to go food shopping. This will also mean that I'll need to preplan things (like what I'll need in the house), I can't just run out to the store. But this too shall pass......
Absolutely you can share on the forum what's happening. I was HOPING to start reading posts. But today was the first day I took the Lamictal. One of the side effects is abdominal pain and another is diarrhea. Did I ever have abdominal pain! I kid you not, I don't remember it ever being so bad since I gave birth. I had to go for my injection of Prolia (for the osteoporosis), I almost didn't make it to the bathroom. Explosive diarrhea. I know, TMI probably. At least I cleaned the toilet and the floor!
Thank everyone for their concern. It's so great to know that there are so many people who are concerned about me. My own son may not be -- but strangers are.
Michele
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Kim.... Thank you! Michele... thinking about you!0
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Joyce, is your caps lock on? That may be why your passwords are not working.0
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Michelle ~ So sorry to hear what you have been going through. Praying that things will get better for you.0
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Michelle~ ;Love ya.. and hope your on the mend soon xoxox0
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Been a rough couple of emotional days so eating has been an issue. Wish I could just move forward but with the cruise looming on the 20th I feel I am stuck in hell. Will we work it out will we just throw it all away. How will it be spending 7 days with someone who does not know if he wants to spend the rest of our lives together or part ways. I am an emotional mess and my body is paying for it. No exercise very little food or sleep. God why can't I be stronger?
Thanks for letting me vent.
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Michele, could it be that the standards in the country he lives in (sorry I can't remember) are totally different than in the US? and that is what the guidelines the therapist is going by?
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Anne - that is a corner that no one would want to be in. Is there any way you could get out of the crusie? Sell it to a friend, get a refund??? sell it on ebay/craigslist.... OR buy him out and take a girl friend? I don't know anything about this - just seems like a yucky situation.
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Michelle, sometimes when a 'child' ... I am assuming that he is more of an adult; needs to grow up himself; and, therefore you don't have any control over him, or his choices. Hardest thing to do is step back and give him his room. Then tell him that until or unless he is willing to understand and abide by your rules ... he is on his own. Sounds like a big overgrown baby who does not take responsibility for his own acts or tries to justify his behavior by blaming you. As long as our boys were in HS; they lived by our rules. I don't think it is unconceivable for you to know where he is, who he is going to be with; and, set a curfew. But, it seems that kids now a days think they should have full rein over themselves. Not true; and, if you continue allowing him to badger you ... you are the one giving in. Of course, we did not have that much trouble out of our kids. They were allowed to make mistakes and for those, they took full responsibility for. Even when my sisters and I (and our spouses) came home ... if we went out our mother asked us where we were going and what time we'd be home. We did it because we knew she would not be able to sleep until we got home. As teenagers we had to call out to her that we were home; she'd say 'ok' (unless we broke curfew - then she was standing it the hall telling us that we had lost our driving privileges and that we would not go out the next weekend. She was fair with her discipline and she did not 'forget' it either. Neither did we. I think kids need to know their boundaries as long as they are living with you. Blame games should never be tolerated; as you say, it's in the past - forget it. Dredging up the past won't make it go away.
We were finally able to get our youngest one to stop driving while drinking, he just to had to call us and tell us where he was. Even as an adult, he doesn't hit the bar scene any more and if he is too drunk he will stay with the friends he has gotten drunk with or he will sleep in his car and drive home the next day. Now that he is married, he doesn't drink much anymore and usually he is with others and there is a DD or the sofa or a bed.
You need to take care of yourself. I know that 'stress' can make me have a seizure; one thing I have learned is what my stressors are ... one being my DDnL#1 (unfortunately). I take Dilantin and Lamictal as well as Geodon (which along with my Seroquel acts like an anxiety pill); but, it is a form of seizure meds. The 6-month driving restriction is 'law' ... you are not supposed to drive for 6 consecutive months from the last seizure. In a period of 24 months; 18 of them were 'no driving'. It was hard to figure out who and how I could know that I could get to agree to take me back and forth for MD appointments and my DH did all the grocery shopping and running of errands. For YOUR sake, step back and let your child take responsibility for his actions. You cannot keep them from 'crashing and burning' if that is what they are hell-bent to do. It's sad; but, they need to learn what the consequences for their actions are ... most time very unpleasant.
My BF tried to bail out her grandson, she raised from when he was a toddler; but, when he started stealing from her to pay for his drug habit, she allowed him to stay 'in jail'. That was sobering (but at the age of 17); they confined him to solitary; you would have thought he would have learned; but, he did not. She keeps saying that she is going to throw him out; but, then he goes to her sisters' houses until they get tired of him, too. He is not going to change; and, he would always find a way to turn the tables on my BF. She's gotten tougher on him and has told him that he has a month to get a job; and, move out. It is a difficult job; but, letting them know that you will no longer allow him to 'use you' and that is what it sounds like he is doing. IMHO.
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Thanks for all the stories about arthritis--as you can imagine things are getting to the grumpy and beyond stages around here. Trying to offer support without " mothering " too much. Trying to take it one day at a time. Hopefully the PT will have some good advice.
Michele, one of my relatives had a few seizures and was restricted for six months, but had no more of them and was allowed to get back behind the wheel. So if it is not epilepsy you might be just fine. You know my heart goes out to you!
Kinses, I am in awe of your 50 laps!
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tryingtolive1 wrote: »Been a rough couple of emotional days so eating has been an issue. Wish I could just move forward but with the cruise looming on the 20th I feel I am stuck in hell. Will we work it out will we just throw it all away. How will it be spending 7 days with someone who does not know if he wants to spend the rest of our lives together or part ways. I am an emotional mess and my body is paying for it. No exercise very little food or sleep. God why can't I be stronger?
Thanks for letting me vent.
Anne in Wisconsin
Anne, you vent away as much as you need to. Be gentle with yourself. Lean on people. You will get through this, whether the two of you are together or not.
Kristan
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tryingtolive1 wrote: »Been a rough couple of emotional days so eating has been an issue. Wish I could just move forward but with the cruise looming on the 20th I feel I am stuck in hell. Will we work it out will we just throw it all away. How will it be spending 7 days with someone who does not know if he wants to spend the rest of our lives together or part ways. I am an emotional mess and my body is paying for it. No exercise very little food or sleep. God why can't I be stronger?
Thanks for letting me vent.
Anne in Wisconsin stay in the moment.....don't think about things other than what you are doing at this exact moment.....also consider adding meditation to your day...you can walk through this with dignity, value, and worth, and enjoy the cruise. 0 -
Swam 50 laps this morning. Now am sitting by the fire taking it easy. I'm closing in on a few jobs with final interviews next week, so I'm feeling optimistic. I haven't had time to get bored yet and think I could get used to not working. 5 more years!
Kimses in MA very impressive exercise....enjoy your time of not working before you get the job you're meant to get.
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fanncy0626 wrote: »Stronglifts Workout
Squats-1X5X 65/75/85/95/105/115, 5X5X 120
Sumo squats-5X5X105
0HP-1X5X 45/50/55, 5X5X 60
BP-1X5X 65/70/75, 5X5X 80
BR-5X5X 85
DL-1X5X 150
I have to laugh at myself for not being able to add correctly! I thought I was going to increase my weight on the squats today to 125 and after I was done I realized that I needed to add five more pounds! I guess that it has to be my goal for next time now.
Mary from Minnesota I love reading about your weight training....it inspires me to hear that you continue regularly....I have added two pounds to my lifts by using my adjustable wrist weights. I am adding weight gradually but what I'm doing is challenging and I've kept to a regular schedule for two weeks.
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Michele- Thinking of you and sending huge (((hug))).0
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Hello everyone! I hope you all had a great day. I'm so sorry to hear about Michele! She is one who I always considered to be pretty indestructible. I hope she's not in too much pain. It has to be awful! Along with all the rest of what's going on. Poor thing!
My son came to the studio today and glazed one of the yarn bowls I threw on the wheel, and added an I love you on the bottom. Then he ran out of oxygen and I rushed him to the supply store to get his bottles refilled. It was really scary. I wanted to take him to the hospital, but he begged me not to. We got the oxygen and he recovered pretty quickly.
My step-grandson has been sick and missed a few days of school. Today when I took them to school he was coughing a lot. I pulled a roll of lifesavers out of my purse and gave them to him to serve as cough drops. When I picked him up he thanked me and said they really helped, so I stopped at the store and got him more for tomorrow. He's such a good kid. I hate to see him not feeling good. And the cough always seems to hang on forever. The little kids haven't caught it yet. Every morning I ask them, who feels fabulous today? And they all say I do, I do! But today the little ones were telling me that Austin does NOT feel fabulous today.
Today at the studio I cut one of my fingers on a cardboard box. No biggie, just annoying. Then tonight I cut a finger on the other hand when I was making dinner. I guess I felt unbalanced and needed a bandaid on the other hand to even things out.
Well, we just had a dog fight, so I'm taking Spot in the bedroom away from Molly. Have a great night!
Sylvia
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The reason most people fail instead of succeed is that they trade what they want the MOST for what they want at the MOMENT.
Strategy is stronger than willpower.
Stats for today:
16,000 steps
151 minutes of dog walking
89 minutes riding the exercise bike
weight training---added 2 pounds to my lifts
line dance class I heard from the nurse at the neurologist's office that all my blood tests were negative which should sound like good news but doesn't answer the question of what's causing the pain, tingling, and numbness in my legs....I'll see the doctor tomorrow. Barbie from beautiful NW Washington
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stats for the day:
ride hm 2 gym- 12.02min, 14.7amph, 153mhr, 2.9mi = 116c
spin- 42min, 88ar, 112aw, 10-15g 148mhr, 18.2mi = 354c
ride gym 2 dome- 6.59min, 12.1amph, 136mhr 1.4mi = 78c
ride dome 2 hm- 18.20min, 8.6amph, 149mhr, 2.6mi = 189c
total cal 7370 -
Barbie - thanks! You are doing awesome! I also used my wrist and ankle weights to increase by a pound at a time. Slow and steady is a great way to go.
Kimses - I'm glad you are enjoying your time off and have a lot of job possibilities!
Sylvia - scary. I'm glad he was able to recover quickly. Great story about the lifesavers.
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Thanks for all the support and advice ladies. As far as getting money back or paying him out for his is not an option this late in the game. He called tonight and asked me to come over to help with cruise stuff. Asked me to come over tomorrow to finish up. Then said maybe I could bring the dresses I am taking over this weekend so we can figure out what we are wearing on formal nights etc. Then maybe go to mall to use Godiva cards we have. Who knows what he is thinking. All confusing one behavior one day another the next.
I ate dinner tonight so that was a big plus. He bought pizza.
Venting done for the night.
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The reason most people fail instead of succeed is that they trade what they want the MOST for what they want at the MOMENT.
Strategy is stronger than willpower.Stats for today:
16,000 steps
151 minutes of dog walking
89 minutes riding the exercise bike
weight training---added 2 pounds to my lifts
line dance class I heard from the nurse at the neurologist's office that all my blood tests were negative which should sound like good news but doesn't answer the question of what's causing the pain, tingling, and numbness in my legs....I'll see the doctor tomorrow. Barbie from beautiful NW Washington
No information is frustrating. I hope your visit with the doctor is productive and you get some answers that you can feel good about. 0
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