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Celibacy for a set amount of time

strozmanstrozman Member Posts: 2,629 Member Member Posts: 2,629 Member
Thinking I might try this to clear my head. Any high sex drive people in here ever voluntarily go celibate for any significant amount of time (6 months-1yr)? And I mean voluntarily because you have a few options, not just some awkward FA, deployed, never tries or a person that is scared of rejection.

If so how did you not become angry and mean during that period?

Your thoughts gents and lasses?
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  • sindirella21sindirella21 Member Posts: 60 Member Member Posts: 60 Member
    But it's exercise. I'm pretty sure I'd end up ripping someone's face off after about 2 weeks.
  • InfoomaousTeteInfoomaousTete Member Posts: 1,385 Member Member Posts: 1,385 Member
    Are you talking just joint efforts or are you restricting self ventures as well??

    Because hell to the NO!
  • JessicaJS23JessicaJS23 Member Posts: 1,863 Member Member Posts: 1,863 Member
    My ex boyfriend was going through a lengthy legal battle to win custody of his kids and he informed me that he was going to remain celibate so he could focus at the time. It was frustrating for me but I respected it. He lasted about 3 months. Once he knew things were going to go in his favor it was game on again. Me having to lay there every night and behave myself wasn't so bad. I focused on things like how to use subliminal messages to make him cave ;)
  • InfoomaousTeteInfoomaousTete Member Posts: 1,385 Member Member Posts: 1,385 Member
    But it's exercise. I'm pretty sure I'd end up ripping someone's face off after about 2 weeks.

    ^This!! I've been in a faithful and monogamous relationship for 24 years...minus medically induced time off...I don't think I could even make it two weeks! He married a highly sexual person, I don't think he's minded all these years...haha.
    Me having to lay there every night and behave myself wasn't so bad. I focused on things like how to use subliminal messages to make him cave ;)

    Lol, at least you were proactive and way stronger than I could have been, so kudos to you!
  • JessicaJS23JessicaJS23 Member Posts: 1,863 Member Member Posts: 1,863 Member
    strozman wrote: »
    Thanks for the replies. I seem to get cranky with a week off. Just thinking out loud. Wondering if others had tried the same thing to stop cluttering their life with people who aren't good for them.

    That sounds like a good reason to do it. It's probably like giving up anything else where the first few weeks are difficult but it's smooth sailing after that.
  • JustMissTracyJustMissTracy Member Posts: 6,389 Member Member Posts: 6,389 Member
    I've gone a year here and there, but not usually due to self discipline, more because I was single and picky. Been living in sin with hubby for more than 20 years now tho, and I wouldn't even dream of putting either of us through that...lol..There have been times when one of us was sick for more than a week or two, and those were miserable, lonely weeks without lovin!! WHY would you want to? If you want to have control over self, don't eat the ice cream, DO get up early and workout...but for the love of all that is beautiful, DONT give up sex!!!!
    edited May 2016
  • strozmanstrozman Member Posts: 2,629 Member Member Posts: 2,629 Member
    strozman wrote: »
    Thanks for the replies. I seem to get cranky with a week off. Just thinking out loud. Wondering if others had tried the same thing to stop cluttering their life with people who aren't good for them.

    That sounds like a good reason to do it. It's probably like giving up anything else where the first few weeks are difficult but it's smooth sailing after that.

    I seriously doubt I'll be able to make him more than a month. I just don't know what else brings so much chaos into my life. Maybe I'll try meditation or something before I jump on the celibacy thing
  • JessicaJS23JessicaJS23 Member Posts: 1,863 Member Member Posts: 1,863 Member
    I've gone a year here and there, but not usually due to self discipline, more because I was single and picky. Been living in sin with hubby for more than 20 years now tho, and I wouldn't even dream of putting either of us through that...lol..There have been times when one of us was sick for more than a week or two, and those were miserable, lonely weeks without lovin!! WHY would you want to? If you want to have control over self, don't eat the ice cream, DO get up early and workout...but for the love of all that is beautiful, DONT give up sex!!!!

    Some people tend to put a lot of emotion into it even if they aren't meaning too and when your carrying on with people who aren't the best for you it can leave you feeling bad. So I'd say give it up like anything that might be toxic to you until you can control it and are happy with it.
  • JessicaJS23JessicaJS23 Member Posts: 1,863 Member Member Posts: 1,863 Member
    I've gone a year here and there, but not usually due to self discipline, more because I was single and picky. Been living in sin with hubby for more than 20 years now tho, and I wouldn't even dream of putting either of us through that...lol..There have been times when one of us was sick for more than a week or two, and those were miserable, lonely weeks without lovin!! WHY would you want to? If you want to have control over self, don't eat the ice cream, DO get up early and workout...but for the love of all that is beautiful, DONT give up sex!!!!

    Some people tend to put a lot of emotion into it even if they aren't meaning too and when your carrying on with people who aren't the best for you it can leave you feeling bad. So I'd say give it up like anything that might be toxic to you until you can control it and are happy with it.
  • alltheabove198alltheabove198 Member Posts: 2 Member Member Posts: 2 Member
    Yeah,After being used for sex I refuse to have sex with any man unless we are in a serious relationship. Before I watched porn several times a day, casual sex. At some point it feels so empty, I'm so much happier when I'm celibate.
  • jgkoutrjgkoutr Member Posts: 8,105 Member Member Posts: 8,105 Member
    I went w/o for two weeks..didn't go well...out of frustration slept w ex
  • tessalynn37tessalynn37 Member Posts: 80 Member Member Posts: 80 Member
    Everyone enjoys sex, but it's not going to kill you if you don't have it. I know exactly what you are talking about and I think you should try celibacy for a while. Maybe if you go without it for a while it will become more meaningful for you once you start having it again.
    Just focus your time and thoughts on other things. Don't let sex define who you are or complicate your life. :)
  • strozmanstrozman Member Posts: 2,629 Member Member Posts: 2,629 Member
    Well. Celibacy was kind of forced tonight. Ended up going for lots of drinks and the girl I was with passed out when we got back to her place. Easy 2nd night of celibacy.
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