Celibacy for a set amount of time
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Ashley___916 wrote: »I was voluntarily celibate for 2+ years. I was in a *kitten* place in my life and needed to take control. It was hard at first but after a about 6 months, it became easier. I had a high sex drive and it was incredibly difficult to pass up the opportunities that were given. After about a year, it was mostly second nature. It was frustrating to have my control tested... but in the end, it really helped me learn that I have control over my life and the things I do and that I can do anything I set my mind to with the right amount of willpower. I would promote it to you if you think it's something that would help you... but it's certainly not going to be fun.
Control is what I'm seeking. Although I worry the number of opportunities will fade
If anything the number of meaningful opportunities will increase. The less meaningful will always be there, only a few shots of tequila away.
Let's go out1 -
Ashley___916 wrote: »I was voluntarily celibate for 2+ years. I was in a *kitten* place in my life and needed to take control. It was hard at first but after a about 6 months, it became easier. I had a high sex drive and it was incredibly difficult to pass up the opportunities that were given. After about a year, it was mostly second nature. It was frustrating to have my control tested... but in the end, it really helped me learn that I have control over my life and the things I do and that I can do anything I set my mind to with the right amount of willpower. I would promote it to you if you think it's something that would help you... but it's certainly not going to be fun.
Control is what I'm seeking. Although I worry the number of opportunities will fade
If anything the number of meaningful opportunities will increase. The less meaningful will always be there, only a few shots of tequila away.
Let's go out
I don't drink tequila
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Ashley___916 wrote: »I was voluntarily celibate for 2+ years. I was in a *kitten* place in my life and needed to take control. It was hard at first but after a about 6 months, it became easier. I had a high sex drive and it was incredibly difficult to pass up the opportunities that were given. After about a year, it was mostly second nature. It was frustrating to have my control tested... but in the end, it really helped me learn that I have control over my life and the things I do and that I can do anything I set my mind to with the right amount of willpower. I would promote it to you if you think it's something that would help you... but it's certainly not going to be fun.
Control is what I'm seeking. Although I worry the number of opportunities will fade
If anything the number of meaningful opportunities will increase. The less meaningful will always be there, only a few shots of tequila away.
Let's go out
and im not a lambo
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Any high sex drive people in here ever voluntarily go celibate for any significant amount of time (6 months-1yr)?
Done that three different times in my life, starting back in my early 20's, once in my mid 30's, and once when I was just over 40. Duration ranged from almost 2 months to over 7 months.
I will just say, the biggest force in the world that most people do not reckon with is their own sexuality. Of everything it is the hardest to deny and understand, and it causes more issues, confuses, and distract people from their true paths more than almost everything a person deals with. For me, it was important to understand it for myself.
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Ashley___916 wrote: »Ashley___916 wrote: »I was voluntarily celibate for 2+ years. I was in a *kitten* place in my life and needed to take control. It was hard at first but after a about 6 months, it became easier. I had a high sex drive and it was incredibly difficult to pass up the opportunities that were given. After about a year, it was mostly second nature. It was frustrating to have my control tested... but in the end, it really helped me learn that I have control over my life and the things I do and that I can do anything I set my mind to with the right amount of willpower. I would promote it to you if you think it's something that would help you... but it's certainly not going to be fun.
Control is what I'm seeking. Although I worry the number of opportunities will fade
If anything the number of meaningful opportunities will increase. The less meaningful will always be there, only a few shots of tequila away.
Let's go out
and im not a lambo
@ashley_916 is that a hard no? I don't want you to drink tequila just yet. And I don't need a lambo, as long as she's high quality2 -
Any high sex drive people in here ever voluntarily go celibate for any significant amount of time (6 months-1yr)?
Done that three different times in my life, starting back in my early 20's, once in my mid 30's, and once when I was just over 40. Duration ranged from almost 2 months to over 7 months.
I will just say, the biggest force in the world that most people do not reckon with is their own sexuality. Of everything it is the hardest to deny and understand, and it causes more issues, confuses, and distract people from their true paths more than almost everything a person deals with. For me, it was important to understand it for myself.
I like this. Thanks for the story, especially including the age you tried this at0 -
Ashley___916 wrote: »Ashley___916 wrote: »I was voluntarily celibate for 2+ years. I was in a *kitten* place in my life and needed to take control. It was hard at first but after a about 6 months, it became easier. I had a high sex drive and it was incredibly difficult to pass up the opportunities that were given. After about a year, it was mostly second nature. It was frustrating to have my control tested... but in the end, it really helped me learn that I have control over my life and the things I do and that I can do anything I set my mind to with the right amount of willpower. I would promote it to you if you think it's something that would help you... but it's certainly not going to be fun.
Control is what I'm seeking. Although I worry the number of opportunities will fade
If anything the number of meaningful opportunities will increase. The less meaningful will always be there, only a few shots of tequila away.
Let's go out
and im not a lambo
@ashley_916 is that a hard no? I don't want you to drink tequila just yet. And I don't need a lambo, as long as she's high quality
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I want to thank each of you for what appears to be honest and open conversation. It's a subject people have to think about in their lives.0
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JeromeBarry1 wrote: »I want to thank each of you for what appears to be honest and open conversation. It's a subject people have to think about in their lives.
No problem Jerome!!!0 -
JessicaJS23 wrote: »JeromeBarry1 wrote: »I want to thank each of you for what appears to be honest and open conversation. It's a subject people have to think about in their lives.
No problem Jerome!!!
Marsha, Marsha, Marsha why is it always about you @jessicajs230 -
May give you time to put full focus into yourself. There would have to be self-fulfillment though. I personally would go crazy.0
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I was voluntarily celibate for 2+ years. I was in a *kitten* place in my life and needed to take control. It was hard at first but after a about 6 months, it became easier. I had a high sex drive and it was incredibly difficult to pass up the opportunities that were given. After about a year, it was mostly second nature. It was frustrating to have my control tested... but in the end, it really helped me learn that I have control over my life and the things I do and that I can do anything I set my mind to with the right amount of willpower. I would promote it to you if you think it's something that would help you... but it's certainly not going to be fun.
Control is what I'm seeking. Although I worry the number of opportunities will fade
Ehhhhh you're still a hottie I can't imagine it's going to fade like you think! Best of luck with whatever you decide!
@kace_kayak thanks for the compliment, but I'm 40 and I can't imagine that they won't lol
Don't worry about being 40...lol....40 is the new 25!! I'm almost 47 and my guy still gawks and climbs all over me AL THE TIME....men still stare, some guys even try to peek at me in the car from their trucks..yes the compliments slow down a bit, but it doesn't go away, it just changes.. (not being conceited here whatsoever, I just want you to realize, just because we're getting older, our sexuality is still there, and people's attractions to us is still there too)lol. When you do get into a real relationship, instead of casual hookups, the quality of your sex will EXPLODE....I can almost promise you that. xo1 -
nope...can't do it. lol0
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Couldn't do it! My life would be crappy without good sex and good wine.0
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I was celibate for 16 years. Best 16th birthday party ever.6
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Will it be productive? For me it's every 2 to 3 months, my wife lost her sex drive after eating wedding cake (what the hell do they make it with???).
After well over a decade of anger and frustration (married 26 years) I learned that to be a better husband I needed to suppress that part of me and I learned to do that well but it has left me with the feeling that I'm not a whole person since a significant part of who I am needs to be "in the closet" and I don't see how that can be productive.3 -
2011rocket3touring wrote: »Will it be productive? For me it's every 2 to 3 months, my wife lost her sex drive after eating wedding cake (what the hell do they make it with???).
After well over a decade of anger and frustration (married 26 years) I learned that to be a better husband I needed to suppress that part of me and I learned to do that well but it has left me with the feeling that I'm not a whole person since a significant part of who I am needs to be "in the closet" and I don't see how that can be productive.
Nothing about that sounds healthy for you... ;/
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No.
Just no.
It counts towards my cardio.
Again, no.1 -
I went without for a year in my mid twenties! My nickname became 'long time boy'...why? Too much aids speculation at the time so I sat on the shelf until the so-called experts sorted their *kitten* out. I guess I dared myself and tested my will.1
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I'm celibate until I meet someone with long-term potential, which is impossible, so forever. Too much bad mojo when things get out of hand with the wrong person. .2
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