Lessons I’ve learned on MFP (Chit Chat/Fun & Games):
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This might sound mean...but gals need to lay off the clinginess. It's the internet. You don't get to "claim" crushes.
A lot of people who are flirting on here are just having a bit of fun... Chill. My cool guy friends keep having to deactivate to avoid one or a couple clingy chicks. I've also received threats from girls bc I "stole" their MFP crush (when, in reality, I've been close friends with said guy for over a year O_o)
Not that it doesn't go the other way too (guys get too clingy with girls)...
Basically it comes down to: people need to stop taking the internet so seriously O_o6 -
This might sound mean...but gals need to lay off the clinginess. It's the internet. You don't get to "claim" crushes.
A lot of people who are flirting on here are just having a bit of fun... Chill. My cool guy friends keep having to deactivate to avoid one or a couple clingy chicks. I've also received threats from girls bc I "stole" their MFP crush (when, in reality, I've been close friends with said guy for over a year O_o)
Not that it doesn't go the other way too (guys get too clingy with girls)...
Basically it comes down to: people need to stop taking the internet so seriously O_o
Yup..
Because. Internet.1 -
This might sound mean...but gals need to lay off the clinginess. It's the internet. You don't get to "claim" crushes.
A lot of people who are flirting on here are just having a bit of fun... Chill. My cool guy friends keep having to deactivate to avoid one or a couple clingy chicks. I've also received threats from girls bc I "stole" their MFP crush (when, in reality, I've been close friends with said guy for over a year O_o)
Not that it doesn't go the other way too (guys get too clingy with girls)...
Basically it comes down to: people need to stop taking the internet so seriously O_o
But it's real!!!!!
Damn you for bursting my bubble1 -
This might sound mean...but gals need to lay off the clinginess. It's the internet. You don't get to "claim" crushes.
A lot of people who are flirting on here are just having a bit of fun... Chill. My cool guy friends keep having to deactivate to avoid one or a couple clingy chicks. I've also received threats from girls bc I "stole" their MFP crush (when, in reality, I've been close friends with said guy for over a year O_o)
Not that it doesn't go the other way too (guys get too clingy with girls)...
Basically it comes down to: people need to stop taking the internet so seriously O_o
Always knew you were a smart girl Jen
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This might sound mean...but gals need to lay off the clinginess. It's the internet. You don't get to "claim" crushes.
A lot of people who are flirting on here are just having a bit of fun... Chill. My cool guy friends keep having to deactivate to avoid one or a couple clingy chicks. I've also received threats from girls bc I "stole" their MFP crush (when, in reality, I've been close friends with said guy for over a year O_o)
Not that it doesn't go the other way too (guys get too clingy with girls)...
Basically it comes down to: people need to stop taking the internet so seriously O_o
So what if it's the Internet. It's human nature. This argument would put all dating sites out of business too. The Internet is a viable way to connect with people. If you connect with someone here or in a library or the supermarket or work...whatever...it is human nature to want to believe it is a unique and special connection. And often times one does take it seriously. And btw I'm not talking about the rate me forum. I'm talking about truly interacting with someone and forming some sort of relationship. It is disappointing regardless where and how you met them to become disillusioned.1 -
Gots2Bfitter wrote: »This might sound mean...but gals need to lay off the clinginess. It's the internet. You don't get to "claim" crushes.
A lot of people who are flirting on here are just having a bit of fun... Chill. My cool guy friends keep having to deactivate to avoid one or a couple clingy chicks. I've also received threats from girls bc I "stole" their MFP crush (when, in reality, I've been close friends with said guy for over a year O_o)
Not that it doesn't go the other way too (guys get too clingy with girls)...
Basically it comes down to: people need to stop taking the internet so seriously O_o
So what if it's the Internet. It's human nature. This argument would put all dating sites out of business too. The Internet is a viable way to connect with people. If you connect with someone here or in a library or the supermarket or work...whatever...it is human nature to want to believe it is a unique and special connection. And often times one does take it seriously. And btw I'm not talking about the rate me forum. I'm talking about truly interacting with someone and forming some sort of relationship. It is disappointing regardless where and how you met them to become disillusioned.
I can totally understand how it would be just as upsetting to find out that you've been led on, on - or off the internet.
The problem is that on the Internet and especially on websites that aren't designed for such purposes, there are very few safeguards in place to stop such things happening.
It's a tough thing to call because you can't stop having emotions but you have to be realistic with where you put your faith in people and how easily (using 'you' broadly, not 'you' per se).2 -
I'm not going to quote you. But, I mean, if you didn't take it so seriously...you wouldn't get disappointed and disillusioned.
And tbh the same goes for online dating. If girls didn't take that so seriously (expecting every guy they interact with to be perfect and/or to be their future SO) people would have a lot more fun with it.
Just saying...I've never been that upset over anything that happened on MFP. I've also never been that disappointed over anything that happened in the process of dating. Why? Because I don't take shet so seriously.
It's a great, drama free way to live. More people should give it a try
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This might sound mean...but gals need to lay off the clinginess. It's the internet. You don't get to "claim" crushes.
A lot of people who are flirting on here are just having a bit of fun... Chill. My cool guy friends keep having to deactivate to avoid one or a couple clingy chicks. I've also received threats from girls bc I "stole" their MFP crush (when, in reality, I've been close friends with said guy for over a year O_o)
Not that it doesn't go the other way too (guys get too clingy with girls)...
Basically it comes down to: people need to stop taking the internet so seriously O_o
Are you for serious?! People actually get that crazy with clinginess that people have to deactivate? Wow lol
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I'm not going to quote you. But, I mean, if you didn't take it so seriously...you wouldn't get disappointed and disillusioned.
And tbh the same goes for online dating. If girls didn't take that so seriously (expecting every guy they interact with to be perfect and/or to be their future SO) people would have a lot more fun with it.
Just saying...I've never been that upset over anything that happened on MFP. I've also never been that disappointed over anything that happened in the process of dating. Why? Because I don't take shet so seriously.
It's a great, drama free way to live. More people should give it a try
I love you Jen
I've given up trying to explain this, but you've articulated it perfectly. Life is far too short to take MFP of all things so seriously. I just don't get it! Oh and about the stalker, clingy women-I've experienced the flip side of that and it is NOT a good look on men or women. It's made me seriously consider friend requests and the motivation behind them. I refuse to add new friends that I haven't interacted with in some fashion. The crazy is strong in these forums sometimes. 1 -
This place really attracts some despicable human beings who think being abusive yo others is a way to build themselves up. It's pathetic as much as they are pathetic and I am happy for the block feature which I made use of as recently as a few minutes ago.2
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This place really attracts some despicable human beings who think being abusive yo others is a way to build themselves up. It's pathetic as much as they are pathetic and I am happy for the block feature which I made use of as recently as a few minutes ago.
Very true...lol I've received my share of bs messages. I laugh while deleting them and blocking the idiots. (Thanks for helping me with that btw) lol1 -
I've also received threats from girls bc I "stole" their MFP crush (when, in reality, I've been close friends with said guy for over a year O_o)
Basically when catty/clingy girls message me, I've started sending them this link:
I'm also going to start using it for 1/2 the "relationship advice" threads O_o
(It might seem mean, but I like to think of it as tough love for the fellow female population)5 -
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I've also received threats from girls bc I "stole" their MFP crush (when, in reality, I've been close friends with said guy for over a year O_o)
Basically when catty/clingy girls message me, I've started sending them this link:
I'm also going to start using it for 1/2 the "relationship advice" threads O_o
(It seems mean, but I like to think of it as tough love for the fellow female population)
Awesome. Lol luckily I've never been accused of stealing someone's man. I only get the creepy dudes who stalk me and want to send me pics of their little Richards.1 -
jenjencin78 wrote: »I've also received threats from girls bc I "stole" their MFP crush (when, in reality, I've been close friends with said guy for over a year O_o)
Basically when catty/clingy girls message me, I've started sending them this link:
I'm also going to start using it for 1/2 the "relationship advice" threads O_o
(It seems mean, but I like to think of it as tough love for the fellow female population)
Awesome. Lol luckily I've never been accused of stealing someone's man. I only get the creepy dudes who stalk me and want to send me pics of their little Richards.
I accept the pics of their little Richards. I even tell them that their Richards look huuuge. But, that's mostly for my entertainment...
I don't necessarily recommend it as a stalker prevention strategy. 3 -
jenjencin78 wrote: »I've also received threats from girls bc I "stole" their MFP crush (when, in reality, I've been close friends with said guy for over a year O_o)
Basically when catty/clingy girls message me, I've started sending them this link:
I'm also going to start using it for 1/2 the "relationship advice" threads O_o
(It seems mean, but I like to think of it as tough love for the fellow female population)
Awesome. Lol luckily I've never been accused of stealing someone's man. I only get the creepy dudes who stalk me and want to send me pics of their little Richards.
Ugh I was "given" someone's guy once. I was like wtf?!?!? He and I are friends...she's had several incarnations here. That was the weirdest thing that ever happened.1 -
Don't connect emotionally to any one
Better chose friends who belong or slightly related to your background I mean place, culture
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jenjencin78 wrote: »I've also received threats from girls bc I "stole" their MFP crush (when, in reality, I've been close friends with said guy for over a year O_o)
Basically when catty/clingy girls message me, I've started sending them this link:
I'm also going to start using it for 1/2 the "relationship advice" threads O_o
(It seems mean, but I like to think of it as tough love for the fellow female population)
Awesome. Lol luckily I've never been accused of stealing someone's man. I only get the creepy dudes who stalk me and want to send me pics of their little Richards.
Ugh I was "given" someone's guy once. I was like wtf?!?!? He and I are friends...she's had several incarnations here. That was the weirdest thing that ever happened.
That is bananas! Lol I try my damndest to avoid drama on here at all costs. The only way to do that is keep some healthy distance from the gossip. I'm generally out of the loop but I've come to prefer it!2 -
Gots2Bfitter wrote: »Other lessons: this site is a great place to get your heart broken if you let yourself think you're special
Gonna unzip my lips on your comment above, because I absolutely have experienced different in life, and parts of the "magic" recipe to accepting that each of us is truly unique and truly special--out of 6.5 billion--like snowflakes and sand and diamonds is having faith in ourself to recognize and accept how truly amazing each of us are. Like all recipes some mixes have spoiled or missing ingredients--some people enjoy being down on themselves and twist it into aggression against others.
@Gots2Bfitter we don't need anybody else's validation... Your username tells me you already know that though, and there is no guilt anyone should feel about giving or receiving a compliment. Just from the little bit I see of you in the threads, You ARE a remarkable, and sweet Lady--ONLY YOU can believe otherwise or MAKE it UNTRUE
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Bruce is such a sweetheart 2
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SojournerThirteen wrote: »Gots2Bfitter wrote: »Other lessons: this site is a great place to get your heart broken if you let yourself think you're special
Gonna unzip my lips on your comment above, because I absolutely have experienced different in life, and parts of the "magic" recipe to accepting that each of us is truly unique and truly special--out of 6.5 billion--like snowflakes and sand and diamonds is having faith in ourself to recognize and accept how truly amazing each of us are. Like all recipes some mixes have spoiled or missing ingredients--some people enjoy being down on themselves and twist it into aggression against others.
@Gots2Bfitter we don't need anybody else's validation... Your username tells me you already know that though, and there is no guilt anyone should feel about giving or receiving a compliment. Just from the little bit I see of you in the threads, You ARE a remarkable, and sweet Lady--ONLY YOU can believe otherwise or MAKE it UNTRUE
You're a sweetheart thank you0 -
Oh dear need not feel betrayed this photo was 50 years before one of mine
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Sorry to be so bitter or weird, all....truth be told I've been hurt on here. More than once. Sometimes lessons are hard to learn. I get what y'all are saying but I'm human and have emotions. And maybe I've been naive or overly trusting or whatever you want to call it. I obviously haven't been as wise as others but I am now much more guarded thanks to experience. Anyhow, it is what it is8
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Gots2Bfitter wrote: »Sorry to be so bitter or weird, all....truth be told I've been hurt on here. More than once. Sometimes lessons are hard to learn. I get what y'all are saying but I'm human and have emotions. And maybe I've been naive or overly trusting or whatever you want to call it. I obviously haven't been as wise as others but I am now much more guarded thanks to experience. Anyhow, it is what it is
Hey, it's ok. Just keep learning from experiences, healing from bad experiences, feel your feelings about it (that's human), and try to move on to better things. Fill your life with stuff that keeps you busy and brings you happiness, and soon you will forget about all of this. 2 -
BinaryPulsar wrote: »Gots2Bfitter wrote: »Sorry to be so bitter or weird, all....truth be told I've been hurt on here. More than once. Sometimes lessons are hard to learn. I get what y'all are saying but I'm human and have emotions. And maybe I've been naive or overly trusting or whatever you want to call it. I obviously haven't been as wise as others but I am now much more guarded thanks to experience. Anyhow, it is what it is
Hey, it's ok. Just keep learning from experiences, healing from bad experiences, feel your feelings about it (that's human), and try to move on to better things. Fill your life with stuff that keeps you busy and brings you happiness, and soon you will forget about all of this.
Thank you for being understanding and kind2 -
Learn and don't repeat the cycle. Other than face to face (and even that's not fail safe) don't trust people on the internet you don't really know. E- Friends is fine , but don't reveal too much about yourself until you've gotten beyond words on a screen and occasional skype events. While the Internet is amazing it's also a place you can find yourself in bad situations.3
You're a young looking, hottie now. Who am I going to take to Bingo? I feel so betrayed 
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