Serial Starters
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Good morning. I'm getting spoiled by my first week results. Oh, when the reality sets in; how I will suffer
Dawn (? Arniedog74), if she does suddenly rebound into opposite behaviors, she will need a serious intervention. That does not mean she will get one, of course. I will keep her in my prayers. I see students making really bad, self-destructive and sometimes dangerous decisions all the time. It is so hard to watch. Kindness goes a long way in helping them find their way back to people who can help in the aftermath. They know I don't agree with their choices, but I respect their right to make mistakes and once they know my opinion, I don't bring it up again. Again, hard to watch at times. Lots of check-ins and convos on other topics, just building the relationship for when they might need it.
Sun's up here and the high will be above freezing. That's a win around these parts at this time of year. Have a great day, y'all.
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arniedog74 wrote: »Missy- great to see you and, your pups! My co workers Dad is her only family we know. He does try to tell her to eat more. The more people tell her this, the angrier she gets. And, the more she tries to find someone to defend her. I honestly had my chance to.say something, today. I only said, “we worry about you” I have a feeling, she is eating more than she is admitting. I’m just going to keep my thoughts to myself. Her trainer is going on vacation for 2 weeks and she’s wanting to skip the gym. Maybe, she will take a bit of a break....
Hoping she takes a break to and that your comment makes a light bulb go off in her head to tell her to slow down or rethink.1 -
Good morning!
Missy - OMG i love your doggos They are beautiful! Also your meal plan - can I hire you?
Maureen - congrats on the weight loss!
Tracy - I see alot of self reflection in your post about lack of progress. That is a step in the right direction. You got this! One day/one step - treat yourself kindly!
Sara - bummer about a good neighbor leaving. Hopefully the next one is as good!
Waves to Lana, Holly, Dawn, Kathryn, Runa(been thinking about you...) and all others who hopefully are peeping in on thread and are doing well!
CW 189.6
HW 207
GW 1802 -
MONDAY
Good morning
(I post the day to make it easier to scroll back and it keeps the day in my head - sort of)
I am hoping to go to church meeting - to get out of the house, to meet new people and to ask about better neighborhoods in our suburb my neighbor would like to move but doesnt know the area...... So I will take my knitting and my coffee mug and the meeting is an hour.....
Kept GSC (Girl Scout Cookies) in container, one of the crowd has ulcer issues and I will not eat them in front of her.
Taxes are tomorrow!! I will pay a lot for not much work, but I will know I didnt make yet another mistake.
7k walking and lots of stairs yesterday -
Wave to all who follow.3 -
I swam my mile today. Exhausted now. Wish my weak knees let me walk further.of course if I could get my brain in gear and lost some weight it would be easier to walk. Imagine that!? I really like checking in this community. Keep the joy and encouragement coming.3
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Ugh. 2020 is not being kind so far. Last week, police were called to do a welfare check on my step-sister when she did not answer calls from her husband who was out of town for work. They found her deceased. Still waiting on autopsy. I cannot attend memorial due to being ill this week. (It is in Missouri, 7 hours away) My dad has described the step-family situation there as a "clusterf***" and said he does not want myself, my sister, or my younger brother to come.
I am in the office this week, even though I am sick because a key employee put in his 2 week notice. Plus we have a looming deadline and it seems I am only one who can complete the specific work. I am exhausted. Being sick this week has made staying within my calorie budget easy enough. Weight has gone up instead of down though, most likely due to the high sodium content of all the soups I have been eating. I am sick and tired of being sick and tired. DH has even commented that I do nothing but sleep all the time lately.
On brighter side: thyroid dr not pushing for surgery. I have been to other drs for DNA testing to help determine how my system metabolizes different anti-depressants. That will help them decide which to try first. I am also seeing a psychotherapist about the depression and fighting my insurance to get a medication one of the specialists said would be good for me. (without insurance its $900 per month)
On an even brighter note, I will have a new granddaughter in August. This will be grandbaby number 3 and she breaks the family "curse" of all boys! So she will be spoiled beyond belief, I'm sure!
CW: 170.5
HW: 216
GW: 1503 -
brennerjlb wrote: »Good morning!
Missy - OMG i love your doggos They are beautiful! Also your meal plan - can I hire you?
Maureen - congrats on the weight loss!
Tracy - I see alot of self reflection in your post about lack of progress. That is a step in the right direction. You got this! One day/one step - treat yourself kindly!
Sara - bummer about a good neighbor leaving. Hopefully the next one is as good!
Waves to Lana, Holly, Dawn, Kathryn, Runa(been thinking about you...) and all others who hopefully are peeping in on thread and are doing well!
CW 189.6
HW 207
GW 180
Thank you
lol It's so easy, frozen veggies are key and perdue chicken roasters! I'm finally getting back into the swing of things with my diet. My work is doing a spring challenge to eat more fruits and veggies...think it is just what I needed to get my motivation back in gear. I weighed myself on my fitbit scale and it said I lost 2 more pounds...WW is tomorrow night so will see! I've been so good with not eating the candy at my desk and any ice cream. 2 -
Tilliesmommy1 wrote: »MONDAY
Good morning
(I post the day to make it easier to scroll back and it keeps the day in my head - sort of)
I am hoping to go to church meeting - to get out of the house, to meet new people and to ask about better neighborhoods in our suburb my neighbor would like to move but doesnt know the area...... So I will take my knitting and my coffee mug and the meeting is an hour.....
Kept GSC (Girl Scout Cookies) in container, one of the crowd has ulcer issues and I will not eat them in front of her.
Taxes are tomorrow!! I will pay a lot for not much work, but I will know I didnt make yet another mistake.
7k walking and lots of stairs yesterday -
Wave to all who follow.
Phew, tax season, GSC's are needed. I somehow managed to get my taxes done early. Good job with the steps!I swam my mile today. Exhausted now. Wish my weak knees let me walk further.of course if I could get my brain in gear and lost some weight it would be easier to walk. Imagine that!? I really like checking in this community. Keep the joy and encouragement coming.
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hickchic67 wrote: »Ugh. 2020 is not being kind so far. Last week, police were called to do a welfare check on my step-sister when she did not answer calls from her husband who was out of town for work. They found her deceased. Still waiting on autopsy. I cannot attend memorial due to being ill this week. (It is in Missouri, 7 hours away) My dad has described the step-family situation there as a "clusterf***" and said he does not want myself, my sister, or my younger brother to come.
I am in the office this week, even though I am sick because a key employee put in his 2 week notice. Plus we have a looming deadline and it seems I am only one who can complete the specific work. I am exhausted. Being sick this week has made staying within my calorie budget easy enough. Weight has gone up instead of down though, most likely due to the high sodium content of all the soups I have been eating. I am sick and tired of being sick and tired. DH has even commented that I do nothing but sleep all the time lately.
On brighter side: thyroid dr not pushing for surgery. I have been to other drs for DNA testing to help determine how my system metabolizes different anti-depressants. That will help them decide which to try first. I am also seeing a psychotherapist about the depression and fighting my insurance to get a medication one of the specialists said would be good for me. (without insurance its $900 per month)
On an even brighter note, I will have a new granddaughter in August. This will be grandbaby number 3 and she breaks the family "curse" of all boys! So she will be spoiled beyond belief, I'm sure!
CW: 170.5
HW: 216
GW: 150
I'm so sorry to hear about your step-sister, sending hugs and prayers to you and your family. Hope you also get better soon! Got a lot being thrown at you!
And congratulations on the news of your new granddaughter to come! She'll definitely be spoiled being the only girl. My step-sister to be is having her first child and its a girl, so my mom and soon to be step-dad are very excited.1 -
hickchic67 wrote: »Ugh. 2020 is not being kind so far. Last week, police were called to do a welfare check on my step-sister when she did not answer calls from her husband who was out of town for work. They found her deceased. Still waiting on autopsy. I cannot attend memorial due to being ill this week. (It is in Missouri, 7 hours away) My dad has described the step-family situation there as a "clusterf***" and said he does not want myself, my sister, or my younger brother to come.
I am in the office this week, even though I am sick because a key employee put in his 2 week notice. Plus we have a looming deadline and it seems I am only one who can complete the specific work. I am exhausted. Being sick this week has made staying within my calorie budget easy enough. Weight has gone up instead of down though, most likely due to the high sodium content of all the soups I have been eating. I am sick and tired of being sick and tired. DH has even commented that I do nothing but sleep all the time lately.
On brighter side: thyroid dr not pushing for surgery. I have been to other drs for DNA testing to help determine how my system metabolizes different anti-depressants. That will help them decide which to try first. I am also seeing a psychotherapist about the depression and fighting my insurance to get a medication one of the specialists said would be good for me. (without insurance its $900 per month)
On an even brighter note, I will have a new granddaughter in August. This will be grandbaby number 3 and she breaks the family "curse" of all boys! So she will be spoiled beyond belief, I'm sure!
CW: 170.5
HW: 216
GW: 150
Tough start to the year, all around. I am so sorry about your step-sister; that's very sad. And your situation, with illness and work and thyroid and depression. I know you will be so much better off when all the pieces are put together as best as they can be, but how hard it must be to keep pushing on. I admire your grit. I hope your employer(s) understand what they have asked of you and the price you are paying. If not, they may not be worth your devotion to duty.
I hope you start getting answers soon and that at least your sleep will help your body fight better and you will feel better. Good luck.
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Kathryn
So sorry to hear about your step-sister. 😞
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Kathryn- soo very sorry. Hope things start looking up, soon... not being able to rest when you're sick is so tough (even though I always try) Congrats on the new grandbaby... how exciting! Hugs0
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Good morning. The temp is 39 right now--that's warm for this early. So glad to see such harbingers of spring.
I had a bad night. Pup ate cupcakes my daughter left out on Tues night, then had agility class and too many rich treats. We were up hourly for potty walks. I know I will be looking for short cuts around the draggy, low-energy feeling I will have all day. Ugh. I just won't let food be one of them.
My scale must be needing a new battery or something. I was at 221.8 yesterday, 228.8 today. I know the later is probably much more realistic, but I am baffled by the fluctuation if the scale isn't the problem. I did have salty popcorn as a treat last night, but it didn't cause this type of fluctuation last time. Oh, well; not to worry. Either way, I'm still down at least 3 lbs from last week
I hope you all have a good day.
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*** THURSDAY MARCH 5TH ****
Good morning all~~
I need to go through posts from the past couple of days. There's a lot of material there, plus doggie photos!
Lana
251.2 today
258.8 highest
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Don't be too hard on yourself about the Chinese. It's mostly the salt for the weight issue. Drink lots of liquids when you can. Not so much on the plane. Hope you had the strength to do what needs to be done with DH. Don't know the particulars but I was married to an alcoholic for 35 years so I can relate to emotional scars. For me it is part of my relationship with food. You have a good support group here. But make good choices for YOU. Have a good day folks.
Holly and All~~
Thank you for the hopeful words. DH left me 3 years ago and moved out to Las Vegas while I began bilateral breast cancer treatment in NYC (we also have a house in North Carolina, where I am now). Then he jerked me around with words about getting back together, even recently. Then he came east in Feb. to have a tumor removed at Sloan Kettering, and then I accidentally found out about his nine-month affair with yet another woman, after swearing to me that he had no none. And he lied to her about being in NYC alone--never told her I'd be there with him supporting him throughout it all. Pathology came out benign. He decided he wanted to be with me, not her going forward. Then this past Sunday he changed his mind and doesn't know what he wants.
I'm going out to Las Vegas on March 17th to get some tax work done with him, and then I will move forward with a divorce.
I need to be done with him.
Now I just need a magic potion to stop missing, wanting, and loving him.
I have a therapist, and we are working on it.
Lana
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Glad to see you are all here and doing well.
I failed to lose and, in fact, have steadily gained since my last post. My trip is next week and I am 30 lbs heavier than I had hoped to be. (for the newbies, I previously had 6 weeks to lose 25 lbs)
I am fully aware of the choices I am making and seem to be currently unable to choose healthy food. I have determined that I no longer want to garner attention. Historically, being fat makes me invisible. Deeply ingrained behavior has taken over leading to this failure.
Here's hoping spring will bring a renewed sense of energy and purpose. Taking a break from focusing on myself and intend to focus on cleaning and organizing my living space as soon as I can get a moment from my other obligations.
Everyone here inspires me every day. Please continue to inhabit this Cabana forever, friends!
Dear Tracy~~
I want badly to support you and help you find a peaceful mind that will help you choose some healthy foods, etc. I am at a loss for the right advice and words.
Sara always says to take baby steps, and she is absolutely right.
Maybe you can take on just one or maybe two little healthy habits to get you turned around in the right direction. And even if you can't yet turn it around, you can transition a little bit from your current path.
Drink your water, and eat your fruits and veggies.
Sending you big, big hugs~~
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LanaCabana537 wrote: »
Dear Tracy~~
I want badly to support you and help you find a peaceful mind that will help you choose some healthy foods, etc. I am at a loss for the right advice and words.
Sara always says to take baby steps, and she is absolutely right.
Maybe you can take on just one or maybe two little healthy habits to get you turned around in the right direction. And even if you can't yet turn it around, you can transition a little bit from your current path.
Drink your water, and eat your fruits and veggies.
Sending you big, big hugs~~
Lana
Dear Lana,
Your encouragement means so much to me, especially knowing your own struggles.
I am attempting to steel my resolve at this moment. Found out that a very dear friend of mine died in January and I did not know anything about it. She leaves a beautiful 16-year old daughter with special needs and an elderly husband. Their only other family is her brother. My heart is breaking for them.
Although I have no one dependent on me and nothing significant to live for, I suppose it is my human duty to stick around long enough to see if I will ever be useful. Good health seems to be a necessity for sticking around, therefore, I'd best get to it.
Here's to better days ahead for all of us.
CW 192
SW 222
GW 145
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Good morning,
Dog insisted I go out with her, lady in car making exhaust brought us back in until I have breakfast.
Tracy - your words sound very familiar to my own and I recognize the struggle, it is why I am on medical leave until April. I would love to be able to tell my current job to "kiss off" and I may have to resign so that I wont get fired I am not there yet. You do work with your lodge, I started doing work for a church I just joined. My reasons list includes better biochemistry so I can stop taking my psychotropic meds - so like you I will be what I eat. Let us know how we can help you.
Lana - what I love about your post is that you are moving forwards with the help of your therapist. People will jerk you around if you let them and take your last $$ because they are so selfish. It is hard to put ourselves first if we are not used to it. Question is how to you get used to it??
More questions than answers today I do apologize. Please keep us posted and I will send good thoughts.
Today is tax day - the place I am going I am told is expensive so I hope I actually get some money back from taxes.....
Neighbors mother stays in her room all day - but we have coffee in the afternoon which adds 30% more walking. Small steps just like our health changes!!
Will be back to post after taxes for hopefully a good update, I need money for some chocolate!
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Lana, you will always love him on some level. However his treatment of you is not healthy. My husband has been deceased 14 yrs. It wasn't all bad but harmful to many. Don't rely on your feelings. Hopefully you have a good therapist to help you deal objectively. I truly feel your pain. Lean on your friends for support. That is why they are here.1
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Tracy, Lana, and Sara, you all seem to be in tough places right now, for different reasons. I admire the wisdom and grit each of you has shown on this thread; it is impressive. I am at an easy point in my life, but it has not always been that way, and I know I didn't have the grace you've shown here. I hope you are each finding moments of peace and pleasure in each day until your struggles are resolved.2
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I don’t have any words of wisdom or advice....hugs and love to everyone Thank you all for being you
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Tax update, sorry so late.
Feds I owe a huge $2.00 and I got a state refund - I had to pay for my tax prep, but my mistakes have been too many in the past I am afraid of an audit (I cant even balance my check book and I am not kidding it is a family joke - hahahahaha
I have not checked but I will get an ecredit for Walmart that I can use so it cuts down the total price of going to this tax place. I have to have someone help me to make sure I get the ecredit card correctly so I can use it at the store and dont "mess" it up.
So I bought 2 pieces of cake (honey cake and pistachio cheese cake) both of which I will have again and split with the neighbors mother over coffee.
Dinner tonight is mini bagel with ricotta cheese - late for me but I need something in my stomach before meds and lights out.
Wishing all a good night.2 -
Got carried away and time to curl up with Miss T
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Tilliesmommy1 wrote: »
Got carried away and time to curl up with Miss T
Love these thank you for sharing!1 -
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Happy Friday and good morning to All~~
Sara - Thank you for the inspirational quotes. I appreciate them big-time!
I think that I am going to punt on the 9AM walk with the ladies. I want to walk alone, at my own pace around noon. I know that the "company" is healthy, but I don't want to walk and talk, and this is a talking group. Plus I'm out of shape, and if I walk with them, I might hurt my feet, which has happened before....
So I tell you this to make me accountable for that noon walk.
*tossing beach bag and sunglasses onto favorite lounge chair for later*
Lana
251.8 today
258.8 highest
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Lana, you will always love him on some level. However his treatment of you is not healthy. My husband has been deceased 14 yrs. It wasn't all bad but harmful to many. Don't rely on your feelings. Hopefully you have a good therapist to help you deal objectively. I truly feel your pain. Lean on your friends for support. That is why they are here.
Holly,
Yesterday I had a long talk with my best friend from college, and she is better than my therapist in some ways. She learned from HER therapist that Feelings are not Facts. This really hit home with me yesterday. So to hear you say to not rely on my feelings really clicked.
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Tracy wrote:
"I am attempting to steel my resolve at this moment. Found out that a very dear friend of mine died in January and I did not know anything about it. She leaves a beautiful 16-year old daughter with special needs and an elderly husband. Their only other family is her brother. My heart is breaking for them.
Although I have no one dependent on me and nothing significant to live for, I suppose it is my human duty to stick around long enough to see if I will ever be useful. Good health seems to be a necessity for sticking around, therefore, I'd best get to it.
Here's to better days ahead for all of us."
Tracy -
So very sorry to hear about your friend and those she leaves behind. Very tough stuff.
I understand your feelings -- my sister and my friends call it the feeling of a lack of sense of purpose. So, you are not the only one--I talk to my sister and a lot of friends about how do we cope when we have no one close around us? No immediate family to care for, in a lot of our cases no job to go to..... We can flounder around and wonder why bother living at all.
We are aware though that one of the best ways to counter this feeling is to give to other people, to volunteer, to contribute, to help others. I think that you are involved with your lodge?
So hang in there dear. Stay with us, and it is quite likely that we will all find our way!
Love and hugs,
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Good morning.
Lana, I'll be checking in later to see if you did that walk. Noon your time is 11 my time, so I'll give it a couple hours. Now you know someone will be "watching."
Negative student energy ran high in here on Wednesday, and then a number of kids self-selected to stay home yesterday, so it was very low energy. Fridays can go either way, so we will see. . . The sun is out and I always feel just a tad bit more positive and hopeful when I've had some sun on my face for the day.
Have a good one, folks.
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TGIF
Hello all. got caught up.
Lana and Tracy sending you extra special hugs. Sending everyone of course hugs!
Lana - you are taking care of your eating - the scale numbers look great. On your walk - ENJOY! sometimes silence quiets those feelings. Sometimes it does not.
Sara - glad your taxes worked out. I have not done mine - do mine through Turbo usually. I am hearing complaints that middle income folks are getting hit by paying in or much lower refunds. I try not to get a big refund, but I will be crabby if I have to pay
Like the Feelings are not facts. Very true!
I was weak yesterday so I will requote for myself at least: I will be happier being healthy in the long run than if I satisfy this temporary desire to eat Cant really say my desire to eat is temporary LOL
Have a great Friday - do one thing for yourself.
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