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  • LanaCabana537
    LanaCabana537 Posts: 3,986 Member

    Welcome to Connie!!!

    Good morning Sara - the photo of Miss Tillie is terrific. She is adorable!

    My body must have gotten rid of some salts and treatment steroids? Today the scale was 229.0, down from the scary 233.0 of a few days ago.

    Ladies, so far I have not gone walking down here (North Carolina). Must find inserts for the New Balance and get out there!

    *tossing bag and hat onto favorite chaise*

    BBL

    Lana
  • LanaCabana537
    LanaCabana537 Posts: 3,986 Member

    I need to post stats.

    245.6 Highest ever
    229.0 Today
    208.6 Serial Starters lowest weight
    175.0 Goal

    Lana
  • LanaCabana537
    LanaCabana537 Posts: 3,986 Member

    Where is everybody?

    So, I just went for my first real walk in many weeks, not counting schlepping around in Manhattan: I was able to walk 1.5 miles (hilly area) in 40 minutes. It was very hard, and I was out of breath any time going up a hill.

    We will see how I do tomorrow....

    Lana

  • LanaCabana537
    LanaCabana537 Posts: 3,986 Member

    Missy ~~
    What type of work do you do that you have such long hours? When I worked up until recently, I worked some stupid-long hours getting a show ready to open. So I know what you are going through. Missing the gym is one thing, but missing time with family during the holidays is a real bummer.

    Lana
  • Tilliesmommy1
    Tilliesmommy1 Posts: 5,392 Member
    Good evening,

    Lady who took dog's picture also took pictures of a family our department adopted for Christmas and I made sure to fill out a form for the photographer so that she got credit for her kindness.

    Waiting for dinner to cook. Will take dog out and then crash for the rest of the night.

    Fudge under Lana's Palm Tree?? My cousin sent me a small box of candy for the holidays, so I will leave some peppermint bark next to the fudge.
  • LanaCabana537
    LanaCabana537 Posts: 3,986 Member

    Sara - mmmm.......peppermint bark!

    Missy - Don't be hard on yourself. It's not good for you. Give yourself lots of positive self-talk! You deserve it. It's important for YOU to have expectations of yourself. Your family is allowed to care about you but not to be negative or "have expectations". I'm not saying it very well, but I want to say that you should take care of yourself and please yourself and do your life at what pace is best for you. In the end, only your opinion matters. Sorry I have fuzz-brain and can't support you with clearer language, but I hope you can find my positive encouragement in this blob of a paragraph. Hugs~~

    Lana
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  • Tilliesmommy1
    Tilliesmommy1 Posts: 5,392 Member
    Missy - my degrees did not materialize into the career the professors said would happen (they are paid to say that so you will stay in school!!) so you are not the only one. If your job has potential to move up and around, then it is worth thinking long term. I have a job so I can do what I love which is knit/crochet and read history books.

    Those shifts would exhaust me, so do them while you are young. One thing make sure to eat the best you can and get the most sleep you can. Can you put some of that OT aside or get yourself a reward?
  • Tilliesmommy1
    Tilliesmommy1 Posts: 5,392 Member
    Love your title Yoursingingrealtor - you join by posting when you can and we often have questions of the day or week (holidays have kind of swept them to the side), so they will be back. Set small realistic goals for yourself and let us know how you are doing.
  • ASalner
    ASalner Posts: 496 Member
    Tuesday

    Sorry for the late post. Drama with my oldest son (breakup/depression) caused a bunch of chaos this morning. I felt sick all morning and then stress-ate later. Sweets and bread. Thinking I'm going to fall asleep on the couch pretty soon. The stress just wore me out. Trying not to let the chaos today put a damper on our Christmas and trip to my parents'. Talked with DS and he agrees he needs to see a counselor/therapist when we get back. Meds alone are not cutting it. He's doing a lot of soul-searching about his future...is he at the right college, what does he really want to do? But he has no energy to really think about it and research it. Yet his mind is always working = anxiety and worry. I told him we are here to support him and love him unconditionally. If he wants to leave the 4 year university and pursue a technical 2 year degree, I'm fine with that. But he has to figure out what he wants to do.

    Tomorrow is my final day of work until after the new year! Ate a decent supper tonight and worked on laundry. Packed a few things for the younger kids. There will be a lot more packing and cleaning to do before Thursday night.

    Focusing on good breakfast and snacks tomorrow morning. Unsure what supper plans will be. Lunch may be a potluck with DH at his work (which is my former work).

    Lana - great job with your walking! Keep it up!

    Missy - I'm just finishing my A.A. degree and honestly, I'm supposed to be starting on my upper-level courses in the fall but really don't need the Bachelors for my current job. It's hard to balance life and schooling. But I'm only doing it if I want to - and that's what you should do. Not to meet anyone else's expectations.

    On a bright note, my back felt a lot better today!

    Have a good evening!
    Annie



  • ASalner
    ASalner Posts: 496 Member
    Lana - also, BRAVO for checking the scale and posting your stats!
  • Tilliesmommy1
    Tilliesmommy1 Posts: 5,392 Member
    WEDNESDAY

    Good morning,

    Annie - is the DS girlfriend the present oriented one?? Did DS already buy her a present? Can he return it and donate $$ to charity?? Glad he is seeing the value of a counselor in the near future. One more day for you - I hope it goes fast.

    Lana - glad the scale is going down again. Any walking is better than none.

    Cafe has chinese chicken salad today, so one less thing to do in the morning.

    Won none of the prizes this week at work for decorating - but at least I participated and that is seen by mgmt.

    Will lurk from work. Oatmeal is ready and I prefer it hot. Dog out later last night so she let me sleep in - actually neighbor woke me up..... just roll my eyes.

    Wishing all a great Mid week. Wave to all who follow.
  • LanaCabana537
    LanaCabana537 Posts: 3,986 Member

    Good morning Ladies~~
    Welcome to YSRealtor~~

    The kitchen sink faucet has to be replaced! Yikes. Time to go to Lowe's.

    Annie - This is your son's first semester at college. Very few young people go to school knowing exactly what they want to do with their lives professionally. So many folks expect (perhaps rightfully so) that a college degree will net a certain job. Few people see the benefit of simply going to school and getting a good education..
    Every student must take either liberal arts courses or general science courses to round out their bachelors degrees; can DS just get all his bases covered for the first year and then hit the "major" classes starting next year? There is a lot of pressure on him now. Hugs~~

    And Missy, you mention PhD. Do you come from a family with a lot of PhDs, and everyone expects the next generation to also become "Doctors"? I know of one such family down here in Chapel Hill, who consider one of their nieces to be not quite up to snuff because she has yet to finish her masters at age 45 and she is pressured still to keep at it. So she works works full time and then has to hit the books in all of her free time--because of "family expectations". Between UNC and Duke, there are so many academics running around tooting their titles I have to get out the Anti-Brag Spray if I run into a cluster of them. Thank heavens in the professional theater, only talent and skill matter; degrees mean nothing for most of us.
    Missy-- if you don't meditate or do any mindfulness practice, please look into it. You can learn to meditate in less than 15 minutes. Being mindful is a little thing to practice. Look for it online. Mindful.org It can help find little moments of peace and awareness sprinkled throughout your busy-busy days to give you some sense of mental space and security--just like adding a little salt and pepper. More hugs~~

    This was supposed to be short. Ha!

    And big warm hugs to Sara and everyone who stops by later on....

    Lana
  • ASalner
    ASalner Posts: 496 Member
    Wednesday

    Ah! My last day of work before vacation. Not sure if I want the day to be busy or quiet.

    I checked the scale and it was NOT GOOD. I am 1.8 lbs over what I want my "max weight" to be. :( So much for maintaining. I know why my pants feel so tight. Guess I've been fooling myself - thinking I'm not sneaking too many treats. I know I haven't been getting my steps in. I feel very down on myself this morning that I have re-gained nearly 10 lbs from my lowest weight a couple of years ago. Why, why, why???!!! But not wanting to stay in the pity party. I will turn this around with faithful tracking and more exercise!

    Sara and Lana, yes, this is girlfriend who is all about the gifts. I know she has had her own issues with depression and eating disorders in the past (and probably continuing). It sounds like they have not been getting along so well and DS asked for a break, which she didn't like and ended up breaking up with him. But I know they are still texting and he told me "it's not over". Sigh. I told him I think he needs to work on himself and figure himself out before he's putting energy into a relationship, especially when his depression and anxiety seem to steal all of his energy. But he seems to "need" a girlfriend. There are a lot of issues here and I wish I could fix them for him but he has to do the work. And he's got to stop scaring people with icky late-night texts that speak of self-harm. I am hopeful that seeing a psychologist or psychiatrist will help him learn to not only cope but to take control of his illness. I have dealt with anxiety and depression in the past (and probably still do, to an extent) and I had to learn how to stop my thoughts from continuing or dwelling where they didn't need to be. I have shared that with him in the hopes he might try to do something similar. And I have asked him to call me or his dad, day or night, if he needs to talk vs. sending out texts. (Which in this case, and another case, got forwarded to me.) And I know some of this is simply a young adult not knowing what he should be doing, where he should be going, not knowing what life should look like because it's all so different now that what it was in high school. I wouldn't go back to that age, that's for sure! Praying for calm and peace for him.

    Lana - sorry to hear about your faucet. We have one vehicle on the fritz and are trying to wait to have it repaired until the college can look at it. It would save us a ton of $$$. So, we are limping by sharing 2 cars between 3 people while DS is home on break. I think I'm going to check out Mindful.org, as well.

    Praying a lot for my own calm and peace, as well.

    I'm going to turn on some Christmas music and see what I can get done today.
  • Tilliesmommy1
    Tilliesmommy1 Posts: 5,392 Member
    edited December 2016
    I got an MSW to match my mother (she has an MA) and my mother was right in one thing - nobody can take your education away from you. That being said - take your time and do it on your own terms. at work shhhh.....
  • Tilliesmommy1
    Tilliesmommy1 Posts: 5,392 Member
    My christmas presents this season was getting that car out of my name and a 93% on this month's audit today. I told the auditor who laughed.
  • djkshdfd
    djkshdfd Posts: 443 Member
    I am looking to start once AGAIN but I really need the community support I had the last time I was successful. I'm looking for that here. I might just need to mentally treat this like I've never lot weight before. Become totally new to the process to get myself going again. I am 5'9" 150lbs female looking to lose 20 lbs ultimately...even if it's slow.
  • Tilliesmommy1
    Tilliesmommy1 Posts: 5,392 Member
    welcome djkshdfd - slow and steady is the best way to lose weight! stop by and post when you can.

    Ready to curl up with dog and get warm.

    Annie is DS in college coming with you to GA? That might be a nice change of scenery for him if he does. Hope your last day at work went well.

    We exchange Secret Santa presents tomorrow and a finger food pot luck - I am bringing rice cakes that are teriyaki flavored and one that tastes like rice krispy treats (Korean so lower in sugar).

    Week is grinding to a stand still at work and that I dont tell the Diva 2 seats away from me to get her head out of her ascot is an example of extreme restraint. Will take some of the "keep the world away" spray with me to work tomorrow..... found under Lana's Palm Tree .

    How is the sink project going Lana?

    Wishing all a great evening.
  • ASalner
    ASalner Posts: 496 Member
    Last day of work was great! Perfect amount of work + some time to chat. Lunch out with DS and DH, so diet not-so-hot with a patty melt and a few fries. Supper was better = bacon wrapped chicken and vegetables. But I did break down and have one piece of lefse tonight. I have resisted it all season long but as I'm not sure we can get it in Southern Georgia, I picked up a package as a treat for my family. Working on getting more water in tonight.

    Working on laundry and packing tonight. Trying to decide what to pack for myself as things feel tight. Will finish tomorrow along with cleaning up the house. Would like the house to look decent for in-law's who will check on our cats. Also, would like to come home to a clean house. We are closing on our re-finance at 1 p.m. and dog also goes to the place she will be boarded while we are away. Should also pay a couple of bills before we go.

    Sara, yes - DS in college is coming along on our trip. I think he's excited to get away. We all need some Vitamin D. It's sounding like the weather will be pretty decent and we may spend Christmas Eve out on Saint Simon's Island seeing Santa!
  • arniedog74
    arniedog74 Posts: 2,086 Member
    Is there still some "keep the world away" spray under the palm tree? I could use a whole case, I believe...

    Work is just stress to the max... and, realizing people's true colors is depressing...I hate to be this way, but at this point, I don't think I will offer to help anyone, again...

    Got some very upsetting news at hairdresser, last night.. made for a rough evening...

    Well, it's far past my bedtime... need to try and get some rest... Good night to all... Hugs
  • Tilliesmommy1
    Tilliesmommy1 Posts: 5,392 Member
    THURSDAY

    Good morning,

    Neighbor has late hours anyway but I got to take dog on extra "pit stops" . Not a neighbor I would miss.....

    Dawn, sorry you are hit from two different sides of your life. The basket under Lana's Tree is waiting - I also had them put "sunshine" spray in which is citrus based which helps with the blues. As for helping people, count me in - I went to get my pictures taken from coworker and that did turn out, but the "charity shop" sign over my cubicle says closed, no help less drama. Will ask Cboys about a "go away with your drama" spray - which will have such a heavy perfume smell (one of your liking) that it drives away all the clingy scents of the coworkers. That should keep the Cboys busy until after work when the foot massage tables come out.....

    Annie - your trip sounds like the escape your family needs. Hope you get to see Santa on Saint Simon's Island.

    Lana - any cute handymen?

    Oatmeal is ready and clock is ticking. Will take the "go away with your drama" spray to work as we have Secret Santa and holiday pot luck :p .

    Will lurk from work. Wave to all who follow.
  • LanaCabana537
    LanaCabana537 Posts: 3,986 Member

    Dawn - what was the news at the hairdressers? You can tell us, or did I miss it?

    Sara - I must say that I have got the cutest plumber in the world. I will try to post a photo of him later. He is totally Cabana Boy material.
    However, yesterday while we were out running errands--on DH's agenda and Do List--DH, completely self-centered, did not include the Lowe's stop for faucet in his mind as to what had to be done.
    When he gets pissy, I don't jump counter him any more. Not at this stage of marriage finishment and impending separation and divorce.
    The worst thing that can happen is, long after DH has gone out to Las Vegas, I can take the bus to Lowe's buy a faucet and have Mr. Handsome install it.

    Annie - One thought: I think you said DS is on some head-med(s)? It' is hard with teens and elderly to find the right med or med combo. Maybe his prescriptions could use some tweaking. Also, some talk therapy for him at the town with the university? Hoping for the best for him. We can never tell other people this, but I agree that it would be better to have the old girlfriend out of the picture for a while, so that he does not have this very strong outside influence while he is finding his mental balance.

    Happy Holidays to anyone who stops by to visit. Waves to Sam and Missy and Liz and any old friends~~

    Must get in shower: Not so cute HVAC man should be here in 20 minutes. Must put my wig on!

    Lana
  • arniedog74
    arniedog74 Posts: 2,086 Member
    Thank you so much Sara...I always try to help out and truly expect nothing in return... but, when I want to spend a little extra time with my family at Christmas, No can do... Just tired of the one way street.. done whining... Will be you under Lana's Palm Tree this evening... have a good day...
  • LanaCabana537
    LanaCabana537 Posts: 3,986 Member
    My christmas presents this season was getting that car out of my name and a 93% on this month's audit today. I told the auditor who laughed.

    Sara - I'm inferring that 93 on this month's audit is a good score? --seems this happens every month? Wow.
    That's annoying! Well then, CONGRATULATIONS, and yes--good Christmas presents for you!!!

    Lana
  • djkshdfd
    djkshdfd Posts: 443 Member
    Thank you for the warm welcome. I'll try to post some status on here for accountability. Yesterday I didn't go over my calorie goal and although I went for the Christmas fudge at the office today I should still be on track with my goals :)
  • Tilliesmommy1
    Tilliesmommy1 Posts: 5,392 Member
    edited December 2016
    I dont always do that well on my audits and that score qualifies at year end for possible bonus, so yes it is a good score to get as often as possible. I also just found out the asian market I go to is open for Christmas day and so that might be an option for eating, just something to ponder.
  • ASalner
    ASalner Posts: 496 Member
    Thursday

    So nice to get an extra hour of sleep before having to get up and send the kids off to school. It was Christmas sweater day for my DD and pajama day for DS. :) Made them happy to go to school!

    Checked in for our flight. Mostly packed. Last load of laundry is in the dryer. Now doing some other cleaning and straightening up. Have to run some errands this afternoon.

    I am really so mad at myself for re-gaining weight again. Grateful I haven't outgrown any clothes...but why do I keep doing this? I was down to 147 this summer and now back up in the mid-150s. And my goal is 140 - which I have never reached since I was a much younger person! I just feel like I look horrible. So glad my mom doesn't like pictures so other than selfies, this may be a picture-less Christmas. I do my best to look nice in spite of my weight and round face. Just wanted to go into this Christmas a trimmer version of myself. Trying not to feel hopeless. I know I can lose the weight again. Just wish I could find the consistency to keep it off. I hope after the holidays we can start having our QOTD, etc., and really start buckling down!

    Have a great day!

    Annie


  • Tilliesmommy1
    Tilliesmommy1 Posts: 5,392 Member
    Good evening,

    Lost post doing research, darn.

    Missy that is one cute dog - is that "his couch"?

    Annie - holidays are hard enough, enjoy and relax as much as possible. New year and buckling down will happen soon enough.

    Lana - hoping the time when DH is "doing" Vegas will give you a rest and you can take care of plumbing business.

    Secret Santa gave me a wonderful gift and I made sure to thank her in person as well as in the group event we had. Can of peanut brittle will have to be rationed, it is already open.

    Dog walk soon and then brain goes into low gear.

    Cboys are making vials of "holiday magic" spray - creepy people turn into elves until Christmas and you are surrounded by your favorite holiday smell. They just brought out the foot massage stools under Lana's Palm Tree so there is no waiting.

    Wishing all a good evening.
  • arniedog74
    arniedog74 Posts: 2,086 Member
    gemwolf110 wrote: »
    My husky is dreaming of sugar plum fairies and Christmas toys. He is wishing for it to be Christmas. He's one awesome dog.
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    Love it!
  • arniedog74
    arniedog74 Posts: 2,086 Member
    Potluck at work, tomorrow...I was not asked to participate... nor was I asked to sign Christmas card for boss... this is the caddyness I deal with... they planned the lunch, when the girl no one likes (I am her only friend) will be there...I can only assume, because we are friends, they didn't feel the need to include me. I am seriously contemplating leaving for lunch... even if I have to walk across the street to the pricey cafe...I don't like to be this way... they bring out the worst in me..