WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR OCTOBER 2016
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Heather: I would love a situation like your current home. I like living in a small town near enough to a big city. In our case, having easy access to good health care is vital because of DH's autoimmune diseases. Having good local neighbors and friends is also important. My daughter moved away from me, and that broke my heart in the first place, and continues to do so. Yoga is also a highlight of my life.
I would also do well to get rid of stuff. It doesn't seem to happen on its own, and I'm not stepping up for now.
Virginia Shannon: Think of this as an ongoing experiment. You're the person doing the experiment, and you're also the subject of it. As you keep trying things, you'll find the right balance that keeps you improving without overdoing it.
Carey: I'm glad you're feeling better. I hope your eyes continue to improve and we see you more often. :flowerforyou:
Yoga today. Yay! Beyond that, I'm not sure what we'll be doing. DH wore himself out with his new leg brace yesterday & is moving slowly this morning. As the interested observer, I am thrilled with it. He moves so much better than he has in years. I will be able to be more active if he pushes himself just a bit every day. I hope & pray he will do that. He's become more passive than I like to see over the last few years.
Katla in Beautiful NW Oregon
Heather posted a quote similar to this that I wanted to use, but I couldn't recall it quite right. I went online and found this one.
"So many of us believe in perfection, which ruins everything else, because the perfect is not only the enemy of the good; it's also the enemy of the realistic, the possible and the fun."
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Heather, our experience with our last move was that it was not too hard to find a house that we would like to buy (and could afford) but selling the house we lived in was a challenge because so few houses were selling and selling prices were very low. We decided to stay in the moment and focus on the decluttering and packing chores that we wanted to do. The day we got a good offer on our house, I had the spare room littered with piles of papers and photos I was working on clearing out and I was almost disappointed that I'd have to stop the project and get on with moving. The day we accepted the offer, we found out that a house we liked in the neighborhood we liked, had the price lowered so we could afford it. This all happened because we relaxed and took it easy and stayed focus on the things we could control. While you are in your current house decluttering, someone is deciding to sell the house you want at the price you want....you just don't know it yet.Virgina,keep experimenting with exercising and you'll find the plan that works for you...then you can make it a habit. I am feeling better today and may feel like dressing in real clothes and accompanying Jake to Costco and the library. I slept pretty normally last night with a pain pill at 6:30 PM and another at 5:30 after 7,000 steps yesterday. Barbie 4 -
afternoon ladies~
I have been in the thick of it since 8:30 this morning when I spoke to Ruth..they took her to see Ray at the hospice..he is now non verbal but can hear,I have there next door neighbors phone number so I called him, He has been unbelivable in all he has done for Ray.. a true angel.. but they didn't know where he was , his brother didn't know so I contacted them both and now they know..
they have a lawyer in place for Ray and have cremation set up, but other than that is anyones guess.. I have to work until noon on Saterday, this is when I wish one of the 2 girls would step up and let me go up early but that wont happen...so will have to drive 3 1/2 -4 hours up there, Ray will be my first stop, then to see Ruth and by then will need a shower and to go to sleep. early morning and I will be up and have to go to the house and see if I can find her some clothes - she is a size 3x-4x and trying to find anything that will fit her now is an undertaking as she only has the one leg and is in bed most of the time... will speak with Gene and his wife , then back to see Ruth and before leaving the Cape go say my goodbyes to Ray.. I have so many very fond memories and he was a very talented artist with pen and ink..0 -
Alison - Sending you my best wishes for everything you have to do this weekend.
Barbie - So glad normal life is sneaking up on you. :bigsmile:
Heather UK, still basking in the warm feeling of a trip to the dump.
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Heather I love throwing things out!! I get a thrill every time I clean out a drawer or closet or box! DH and I dream of living in an ultramodern modular home. There is a California company called Blu homes that is very eco friendly and has a small footprint. We could never afford to have one built for us, but would love to purchase one already built some day. A girl can dream! NYKAREN1
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Katla - My home is lovely, but I am like a fish out of water in this rural village. Our neighbours are largely uncommunicative, and one side is a pain in the neck, there is no shop, we are very different politically from the locals and we are 10 miles from the nearest hospital with a difficult, urban journey and very little, expensive parking. My doctor is a driving distance away.
I only have a couple of friends from the yoga group who don't socialise much outside the weekly class, despite my best efforts. The WI has been a bit of a damp squib. We are not church goers where most of the socialising goes on. I would love a community of more like minded people. I loved living in London and felt that was my community. We only moved because the apartment block I lived in was subject to noise issues and we could not afford a house in London. I meant to live in Winchester as a good compromise, but the house we were moving into fell through. Brighton/Hove was my first choice back then, but was too far from DH's football. He doesn't go to football now, but his cricket is a problem. We thought we would find a community here, but no luck. The pubs are just restaurants and there is no hub to the village.
Good, I am persuading myself we are doing the right thing.
Heather UK
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Heather - Are you able to part with any of your possessions by giving to your sons or family members? Kind of like the things that maybe you would bequest them after you die, but instead give them up early so you can watch them enjoy and use them? Or maybe, could there be some creative storage solutions in your new place? Benches or footstools that double as storage inside/underneath? Under bed storage? Perhaps a chest at the foot of the bed? I love a good purge, like you! Last spring break I went through my son's room (with him) and then I tackled our basement storage with my dh. My things are really down to clothes in my closet and a couple bins of books. DH has a closet and a half, two work benches and FOUR bins of sweaters from the '80's!! FOUR!! I threatened him that the next time I purge, I am doing it while he is gone and those sweaters are going, going, gone!1
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Heather, it sounds like you need to move your house to another neighborhood! LOL About a week or so when we took our little trip to see the grand kids, we stayed at the hotel we always stayed at. Well last week Charlie couldn't find a pair of pants he likes to wear and remembered he left it in the closet at the hotel In that particular suite, they had an actual closet. All the other times we have been there it has been a rack in the bedroom. So I called them and htey had been sent to the laundry and would hold them for our daughter to pick them up. The pair of pants.....they had been given to him by my Dad after he waas to big to wear them. Dad died in 1998! The seater and shirt are equally as old. It is so hard for him to throw away an item of clothing if it fits him. The pair he had on last night has a permanent imprint and almost showing his small comb in the back pocket. With his Parkinsons he has so much difficulty getting his billfold out of his back pocket, he has always dressed with his shirt tucked in but with his ileostomy it is now untucked. He has solutions for all of this. Throw your clothes away and get elastic waistband, use suspenders under his shirt, etc. Or maybe do the wild idea of occupational therapy to learn how to live with your disabilities instead of just getting really mad. MEN!
Finally got my appointment with the neurosurgeon. The referral was called Oct.4 and appointment Nov 1st. Now if they had just let me know right away that it would be a month I would have accepted it and just asked to be put on a cancellation list. But they waited 2 weeks to let me know of the appointment.
Got to get my Christmas cantata rehearsal CD in and practice it. I can't got o choir practice tonight and sing like I haven't practiced it at all. So this is kind of like cramming for an exam. Learn the songs in one day.
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Good Afternoon Ladies,
Marcelyn, my one armed friend, I’m so impressed that you will do the marathon, with or without your arm strapped down. You go girl.
Heather, that is great that your difficult friend won’t be on the trip in November. I’m sorry for the reason but just glad she won’t be there to bug you.
Penny, we will be thinking of you while you are working your tushie off. Sorry for the turn of events but I feel sure you will handle things. ((((Hugs))))
Allie, I hope things improve at work for you and all concerned. You are wise to try not to worry and take one day at a time. (later) So sorry about your dear friend, Ray. I do hope you get to go spend some time with him this weekend. (((Hugs)))
9LKnoles, welcome. You just join by posting, like you did. We appreciate it if you would tell us a bit about yourself to help us get to know you. It’s also nice to sign each post with the name you want to be called and a location, general or specific. This is a great place for support and information so come often.
Connie, welcome to you as well. We will gladly support you and good for you on doing something now before it got out of hand.
CarolGA, it’s too bad your mom wasn’t up to going out for her BD. She looks great. Could ya’ll not all come back to the nursing home for a celebration? At least you tried.
Virginia, welcome. Please come often and post often so we can keep up with your progress. Only when asked, I’ve been known to get out my boots for a swift kick when someone feels they need it. Your walking and Elliptical times sound great to me.
Pip, you did tell Knowles about the $500 check to join but you forgot to tell her to make it out to me. Come on, lady, git with it! LOL
Actually, I love the picture and feel the same way about it.Wickglamgirl wrote: »Like my new pic? I find it depressing and inspiring at the same time
Debbie, welcome. We are happy you dropped in and you can ask questions any time. I’m sure some of these very smart ladies will have some suggestions for you.
Heather, Boo Hiss on getting a cold. I hope it goes quickly! That was a nice gift that DH’s DD sent. Hopefully after you get moved you won’t have such expensive taxi rides if you even still have to take taxis. Feel better soon!!!!
Gloria, I hope the best for the interview. You probably did better than you think but I know what you mean when we feel a bit off our game.
KateUK, sorry your weather turned yucky. Exactly what season are you in there? I could Google it but easier to ask you residents. Lol
Betty, thanks for checking in.
Kay, I gave up diet soda over a year ago and I have to say I’m shocked that I don’t miss it. I now, occasionally have one and I can’t tell any difference when I do and when I don’t. I just know it’s better for me and I used to drink a lot!
Joyce, first of all I don’t look at the sunrise most days, even when I’m up. When I stay at the beach it’s just more common since I love looking out at the water, but I don’t see those beautiful sunrises that often. I guess that’s what makes them so special. I hope your new CPAP works out great, hair and all.
Janetr, I was wondering about MichellNC also. I’ll message her and let you all know.
Katla, so happy your DH’s new leg brace is an improvement. Why do we all overdo when we get something like that? Lol
to any Newbies that I missed. Come often and join in the chat. This thing works!! Please sign your post with what you want to be called. It makes it easier for us to respond to you. Also a location is great, be it specific or general. We are happy to have you join us.
I got behind but have now read all the posts. I love being part of your lives. I’ve laid low since the Monday night Moose meeting after my busy weekend. The weather has been beautiful! The area is still cleaning up from Hurricane Matthew and the town near me is evacuating many neighborhoods due to continued flooding. Some of the rivers are just now at their highest points and going places they don’t belong. Many places here also were without power for 5 days so we were very blessed.
Sending love and good thoughts to all of you and I hope you all have a Happy and Healthy Day!
Words I live by:
Savor. I have to slow down and savor every bite.
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Opportunity. Each day offers new opportunities for good health and happiness if we just look for them and choose them.
I Love you,
DJ
Myrtle Beach, SC
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Hi all
Been good foodwise today but no exercise as I like to workout in the morning and had to go to town. Weather improved today but that's UK for you no 2 days the same
DJ - It is Autumn here but we have had some nice summerlike days
Hope you all have a good day it's nearly bedtime for me. Will do my workout tomorrow and then have an appointment with Physio re my back pain (it doesn't affect me when I exercise, weird I know)
Kate UK
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Nature's paint brush we are in peak fall colors. We live just down the street from an 880 acre park.
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Heather: I would love a situation like your current home. I like living in a small town near enough to a big city. In our case, having easy access to good health care is vital because of DH's autoimmune diseases. Having good local neighbors and friends is also important. My daughter moved away from me, and that broke my heart in the first place, and continues to do so. Yoga is also a highlight of my life. Like you, I would do well to get rid of quite a bit of stuff. It doesn't seem to happen on its own, and I'm not stepping up for now.
Virginia Shannon: Think of this as an ongoing experiment. You're the person doing the experiment, and you're also the subject of it. As you keep trying things, you'll find the right balance that keeps you improving without overdoing it.
Carey: I'm glad you're feeling better. I hope your eyes continue to improve and we see you more often. :flowerforyou:
Yoga today. Yay! Unfortunately I left my mat at home and borrowed one that stretched and slipped all over the floor so I had to go without. I did okay. After yoga we got the fishing boat out of storage and took it to the boat mechanic to be winterized. DH wore himself out with his new leg brace yesterday & was moving slowly this morning but seems to be moving better as the day goes along. As the interested observer, I am thrilled with his progress. He moves so much better than he has in years. He will be able to be more active if he pushes himself just a bit every day. I hope & pray he will do that. He's become more passive than I like to see over the last few years.
Katla in Beautiful NW Oregon
“Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.” Thomas A. Edison
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Hi all. I've been looking for a group to join. It's been tough. There are a lot of nasty people on this site. Can't find anything nasty here, so I'll give it a try. I live in NJ. I'm 57 years old, married mother of 3, with 2 grandchildren. My daughter is getting married next week and I have been trying to lose some weight for the past year. Since I came back to MFP the end of August, I'm down 6 pounds. 48 lbs. to go. I guess that's something. I have a lot of stress (husband lost job last January) and I take care of my grandchildren everyday, running them back and forth to preschool. I can't seem to get a handle on dropping the weight this time. I lost a lot with WW in 2004, but it's almost all back. Hopefully I can connect and get moving again.2
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Kate edamame makes great hummus. Also if you just type canned edamame recipes into your search window you will get a number of choices of what to do with them. I've never had the canned ones but they are served in Japanese restaurants here in their shell and we just pop them out and eat like peanuts.
I need to get something off my chest that's been bothering me lately and then someone - Becca - can sweep it away. There have been times that people have in my mind been judgemental of other people (not judgemental of people on our site but people who are not on here). An example is talking about what someone looks like in the clothes they are wearing or discussions about what someone is eating when they 'shouldn't' be eating it because they obviously need to lose weight. Is there anyone of us here who didn't wear something that was probably not becoming on us due to our weight as we continued to expand, or didn't eat something that wasn't good for us? Heck there are a lot of us here who slide back to old habits and do it again. We don't know their stories. Maybe the person wearing the clothes that might look better on a slimmer person has nothing else to wear or maybe they are coming from a gym. Maybe the person eating that hot fudge sundae didn't eat anything else all day to save up for the splurge. But even if none of these scenarios are correct - who are we to judge them? We all have our own crosses to bear and on this site we support each other. Maybe one thing we could all take from the acceptance and love of our fellow sisters is to go out into the world and accept others as they are. I myself need to remember to lead by example instead of being so critical.
There is a wonderful touching story on the internet written about a woman who felt like everyone was judging her due to her size when she went to the track to run. In the end the truth was that they were in awe of her dedication and persistence.
"You can't judge my choices without understanding my problems." Author unknown
Love you all - Gloria in WA4 -
Hello, Lithe Lasses!
Another day, another pound of Puffy. *sighs* HATE that Puffy Princess. But, I am feeling confident today, anyway... I am wearing my new sweater – an A-line with an asymmetrical hemline in forest green. It pairs marvelously with my black leggings... Not much else of any note to mention, today... Got up, went to the gym, came to work. End of story.
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Kay – I commiserate, for sure. Both with the HVAC, and the noodle arms... I have been trying to do some arm work at the gym. I got baby biceps!
But the first few hours after doing those presses and pull downs... *sighs*
Joyce – I understand not stooping – but sometimes, you need to shock those men into behaving. Once in a very great while, you just have to stand your ground. For me, that usually involves some yelling... your way is probably better; but not everyone responds to calm and rational.
Sad but true. Good luck with your “cramming.”
Gayle – Hello!
Janet – I am sure Michele is fine, and that she will be back.
Katla – Hope you and DH can find a MH that doesn’t make you ill. So glad to hear the brace is helping. And I know just what you mean about the passivity... my DH has become much less of a “firecracker” than he used to be. Being helpless and dependent for a long time was not good for him, at all.
Heather – Everybody wants to nest at the holidays – this, too, shall pass. Besides, who doesn’t want to be nearer to those ADORABLE children at Christmas time? Think of the visits to Santa, the cute Christmas jumpers, all those other marvelous Holiday things... Proximity is a wonderful thing. Hope your knee loosens up, soon. And OH yes... I love getting rid of stuff... but DH is a bit of a hoarder, so he is resistant. *sighs*
NYKaren – Thanks, Hon. I am not stressed about the scale. I already know that the Puffy One arrives at her whim, and stays for as long as she pleases. I also know that eventually, the *kitten* gets bored and goes away – taking a few pounds with her. I feel for your Dad. But at least in the 70’s it was just a few select industries... now, it’s all-pervasive. It’s RARE to have a job that you really love, that doesn’t stress you out. I try not to think about it, too much, either. It just depresses me. As I said, Que Sera, Sera. Hope that scratchy throat goes away!
Allie – Sorry about Ray. “Family” is a matter of the heart – more than the blood. I know you will take care of your own. (Hugs!) Wish I could help with the clothes for Ruth... I have loads of 4x just sitting around. PM me... maybe I can ship a box to where Ruth is or something. I have plenty of bed-appropriate clothing and would love a good excuse to send it off to someone who needs it.
Carol – It’s super-hot in TX, too. Who would have thought we would actually NEED the AC in October?
Lenora – There is an old phrase that I am sure you have heard... “Kill her with kindness.” No matter what she says, no matter what she does – be polite. Ignore her madness. Forget about whether or not what she does is “right.” Be sweet to her, as much as you can. Eventually, she will be shamed into behaving better. It takes a great deal of stubbornness and some time – but somehow, I think you might have what it takes...
Virginia – Let me preface by saying that I am a major advocate for exercise. I find it to be the most important part of this whole process – at least for me. So, I am biased... And I have experienced the stiffness and such... but, I am finding, after a LONG time, that when I stand up, my knees are whining less – and if I don’t sit for too long, I have a lot less of the stiffness. Now, 8 miles a day isn’t really required... lol. You will find your own sweet spot. I have been doing about 30 – 45 minutes a day on the elliptical since May – so maybe six months from now, perhaps less for you, your knees might whine, less, too... Not sure how much of the lessening of pain is from sustained exercise, and how much is from just being lighter – but, it does get better. Keep it up!
Carey – Hope your eyes stay better! I know my DH had serious computer issues when he took his Lisinopril during the day... he said it made him feel like the computer was trying to suck him in... Obviously, the blood pressure was affecting his vision. He started taking it before bed, and Viola! Computer issues over. Have you changed your medications, lately?
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Pip - *waves*
Mary – Hope you are having a marvelous time! Let us know when you get home.
Barbie – SOOOO glad you are feeling better. And HURRAY for 7000 steps. Do your legs feel much better? Or are you still sore from the surgery?
KJ – Hope you are feeling better, Sugar. And I am so there with you on the DH stuff... obviously yours and mine are brothers from another mother... lol. The man has two giant garbage bags full of socks... Who DOES that?
DJ – Now don’t be silly, Hon. You KNOW those checks are supposed to be made out to me. I got a fence to build! And I don’t miss the soda, either. I had to give it up, because after lapband, anything carbonated was like swallowing knives, but I got over my Diet Pepsi addiction pretty quickly and have never looked back. I am most pleased that the storm didn’t cause you much grief.
Kate – back pain is tricky stuff... it only hurts when you do “this.” I used to get horrible back muscle issues when I first started exercising – because I wasn’t doing any abdominal work. All my elliptical, bike, etc, was making my back muscles work and tighten up – with abdominal muscles like flabby noodles, it was like my back was trying to make a fist all the time and it hurt like heck. Once I started doing my daily crunches on the abdominal machine, I never had a problem with it, again. Hope yours is as easy to fix.
Margaret – Beautiful photos! I love the Fall colors... we get them around December in TX... lol.
MountainMomma58 – Welcome! We try to avoid Nasty, as a general rule... We are all grown, and we all understand how it feels to be treated like sub-class citizens – so we try to behave – and generally succeed. As to weightloss success – you have to find the little changes that you can make – never to change back! Even a tiny change can have some results... and if you never “change back” then you never regain the weight. At least that is what has worked, for me. Down 100 lbs with the lapband about ten years ago – and down another 30 lbs by making more small changes now. See my note above to Virginia on my exercise bias. I had a practical example of how the smallest amount of exercise can affect you... I had a job where I parked in the garage and walked – less than a city block – from my car to the office. For a variety of reasons, my DH started driving me to work – and he dropped me off RIGHT at the door. I gained ten pounds! EEK. That walking back and forth to my car had been keeping those ten pounds at bay. So, any little thing that you can add, or change, can make a difference. Good luck!
Gloria – Oh Honey – I eat stuff I probably “shouldn’t” every day. But, I don’t believe in “forbidden foods” or “fat free” or anything that isn’t just regular food like regular people eat. (Exercise is my friend.) We each have our own method of doing things and not every path is for everyone. And I am someone who tends to feel that anybody who doesn’t like what I am eating can Bite Me... I am trying to build a healthier relationship with food, here... But that is just me. LOL. And, yes, we should all be the better angels... that is what we try to do, here, every day. ((Hugs!)) Alas, we cannot chastise the haters...that only goads them to further hating. We must lead by our Sweet Loving Examples.
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Dinner out of the freezer, tonight... we have an Eggplant Parmesan in a box that is fairly edible. And I am not quite back on track for preparing marvelous meals in the crockpot, since my vacation and the HVAC prep... perhaps next week.
Be well, my Sisters... Hugs for Everybody!!
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There is never, ever, ever an excuse or "reason" in anger get physical with another human being. Enough said.
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