WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR OCTOBER 2016
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Found a small digital scale today that I didn't know I even had. Looks like I will get to see how well I have been judging portions.
Worked outside most of the day cleaning up flower beds and moving hanging plant cages from the deck into the garage for the winter. Planted a funny little pine tree out back that is called a 'Green Penguin Pine' because its shaped like a little green penguin. I hope it makes it. I usually don't plant trees or bushes in the fall but one of the local plant nurseries was closing today till next Spring and everything was deeply discounted. This little guy was dirt cheap.
Charleen in Colorado (It's too warm and too dry here. Looking for winter and snow)4 -
Gayle I will e-mail the tribute to you when I finish the final tweaks in a day or two. I have a couple friends I want to read it to and see if they have anything to add. Coffee sounds great.3
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Heather: I'm in an earlier time zone than home and it is two hours earlier here than there. I have home time on my watch and local time on my phone. I didn't have any noticeable trouble coming here so I doubt that the change to standard time will be a problem. If I had to report to a job at a specific time, I would likely have a different attitude. :bigsmile:
Rita: Gorgeous photo! :flowerforyou:
I did yoga with my two year old grandson this evening. We had a grand time. I love my daughter and my grandchildren but I can hardly wait to go home. I miss my husband, our dog, and our regular routine. There are four more days until I fly home. As you can see, I'm counting the days. I will get to see the grandchildren all dressed up for Halloween and might get to go along for trick or treat. I need to ask about that.
Katla temporarily in Illinois
Heather posted a quote similar to this that I wanted to use, but I couldn't recall it quite right. I went online and found this one.
"So many of us believe in perfection, which ruins everything else, because the perfect is not only the enemy of the good; it's also the enemy of the realistic, the possible and the fun."
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Thanks Karen for the word of the day - pedantic. I had to look it up - sounds like an anchor around your neck. My sympathies
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Lenora - forgiving someone doesn't mean you are never going to be angry with them again - believe me I know. Even though I told my son that I had forgiven him for the mess he left the boys and I in doesn't mean I don't get angry when something happens with the boys that I know is because of what their mom and dad have done to them. Letting go of it takes practice - I personally have to stop and ask God for help and I know it's not going to happen overnight.
In regards to CaringBridge - when my sister had her first operation for pancreatic cancer my DBiL started a CaringBridge journal for her. For 5 yrs we (her family and friends) followed her through the good times and bad times of her illness. She had well over a hundred followers and my wonderful DBiL read her every word that we all sent to her. When she passed away I told my DBiL that their journal should be published to help others live gracefully and joyfully while they fought their cancer.
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Gloworm Add my kudos to the chorus. Your grandchildren are truly blessed.
Penny LOL! Yeah, those Samsungs are hot right now. I hear they are having a fire sale!
Cheri Glad you are safely back home!
Heather Yeah, I did have to work, as my husband and I separated when my son was about 3. I had several options, including welfare, school, and work. I accepted free lunches for my son for 4 years while I went to school, but no welfare, frugally living on child support and money my grandmother left me. We made it through 4 years of school on $400/mo child support which covered the rent, and money my grandmother left me for all other expenses for the 4 years. I budgeted $200/mo for gas, auto maintenance, food, clothes, books, pediatrician visits, etc. Took out loans for tuition. I had about $150 left and large loan balances when I started working. Now I have a comfortable life and make a good salary, but can't stop working quite yet, as there is still a mortgage and a car payment. My partner does not make a high salary. It's a shame, because she has an important job that just doesn't pay very well.
"Nothing is impossible, the word itself says 'I'm possible'!" -Audrey Hepburn
Wonderful day yesterday. I cajoled my grandson into coming over for the afternoon, along with my granddaughter (who needs no convincing). I mentioned in my last post that my grandson doesn't like to come over because I limit his screen time. We played Legos and looked at his Pokemon cards, and talked about his difficulties at school. I told him how much I hated 4th grade, and how awful my teacher was, and how it made me stronger in the long run. And after awhile he said, "I'm glad I came over, Grammy." Music to my ears! Couldn't believe it! In the meantime, granddaughter was busy making homemade dog biscuits with my partner. Then we put on Halloween costumes and went to a party at my partner's son's house for kids. They painted and decorated pumpkins. Grandson found another Ninja and did some eye narrowing and posturing, then had a mock sword and Ninja star fight. Then we went to Italian dinner with Grandpa, and grandson went with Grandpa to stay all night. Granddaughter stayed here. The dogs are in heaven. They love her more than they love me! It warms my heart.
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Morning, my peeples...
Thanks for all the positive comments re: changing my job to part time or removing myself altogether. It's amazing to have support both online and off. I've been giving it a lot of thought--and hope it doesn't wreck an old friendship, but am willing to take the risk. I ended up glad I didn't talk to my boss on Friday. It was her birthday weekend, and her husband took her down to Austin for the weekend. They've been having their struggles, as well, in their marriage, so it was good to see a Facebook pic of them smiling and together. Unusual of late.
The good part, at least for me, is that either part-time or walking away, I get what I need and want--less pressure, and room to do what I must for myself. My own health is more important than the paper--and I lost sight of that over the last six months. If I were able to do anything by halves, my life would be much more placid. Boring, but placid!
And, on that note--the small farmstead is still the goal. If the warehouse sells, it will move the timing up, but even if it doesn't, we will be able to get there, just slower than we had hoped. Patience is not my strong suit, but it won't kill me. I've bought a web address, homesteadiness.com. It's not live yet, but it will be. My first thought was to call it 3rdlife.com, or thirdlife.com, as that's what it seems like to me, my 3rd great adventure, but of course someone already owns that, as well as 3rdlifesacharm, and variations on that. Still deciding on the name, but writing like mad, which feels amazing.
Speaking of which, I have an opinion column to write for the paper, so off I go.
Love y'all,
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Karen - My marriage broke up in 1994. My ex was good at stepping up with voluntary support, but we agreed between us to sell our house and split the capital so we could each have a home. We were very lucky to be able to each buy a small, mortgage free apartment. It was a bit of a squeeze for me and my youngest, but we managed. The elder one went to uni and used my ex's as his base.
I was lucky that my ex stuck to his obligations. He even continued paying me a tiny amount once my youngest had left uni, when my support should have stopped. I got by with part time teaching, my income from writing and private tuition. It was very tight and I lived month to month. The summer holidays were long and I lived on deposits students had given me for future classes.
I had no mortgage and no car. Sometimes I was kept awake at night worrying about money.
My ex later settled a lump sum on me in return for me not claiming on his pension. I did manage to save that money, which gave me a cushion, but I never touched it. It gave me more peace of mind.
Time to write was always my priority, but it hurt when people said "Oh, you're so lucky to have the time" I was making big sacrifices, living in a tiny apartment and not spending any money. I often did not leave the apartment for days in a row. It was hard feeling powerless.
Then I met DH and he offered to marry me so that I could retire from all my part time jobs and enjoy life and travelling with him. I accepted. I am now fast spending that hard saved money!! Looks like more might be going on the move. My rationale is that I am now 67, I have had cancer and my needs will get less, not more, as I age. It is a gamble, but I lived on nothing once before and I can do it again.
KJ - I buy the tarragon fresh and freeze it. I find it goes beautifully with chicken, eggs and mushrooms. The Tarragon Cream dish is a classic.
Joyce - Edie didn't have a lot of hair and her mum swept what there was of it up into a mohican. Bea was born with lots of hair.
Today I intend to rescue the stuffed toy dog called Johnny from the dump pile. I have decided to wash it and send it to my elder son who is depressed and has resigned from his job. I hope it will bring him comfort. Apart from it being a gift from his beloved granny, he was the joint hero of my ex's bedtime stories, "Johnny and George, the Dog Detectives". I will put it in a pillow case and then in the washing machine.
Love to all, Heather UK xxxxxxx5 -
Good morning all! Happy Sunday! Ended up doing "inside" work yesterday, as the weather was rainy and windy. I got my November and December daycare calendars and newletter planned/written and printed. I sorted through my craft supplies and organized the crafts for November and I got my house cleaned. Grocery shopping and banking were done early in the morning. So...today is the day I will have to go out and get the trees/flowers ready for winter. I also need to hit the laundromat with the bedding. Both DYS and I have been sick the past few weeks, and although the sheets have been changed and washed I really want to get the comforters and blankets cleaned. Nothing feels better than getting into a freshly washed bed, comforter and all. The smell and feel is almost luxurious.
Heather, Lisa, Karen - listening to you all describe times in your life when you existed on very little, reminds me of my life pre-marriage and for the few years after getting married. I was homeless for a short time before I was married. Lived out of a suitcase. When DH and I married he was used to living off credit cards, which got us into a WHOLE lot of trouble. Bankruptcy changed the way we lived drastically. I have vivid memories of shopping for the week of Thanksgiving with only $30 for a family of five. Since then we have always lived paycheck to paycheck, until very recently. We are just now beginning to be able to save a little each week. Anyway...like you, Heather, I have been down and out before; so the thought of that happening again doesn't scare me the way it scares my DH.
Heather - I am so glad you rescued Johnny and I bet your DS will be very happy to have him and remember the adventures they shared.
Margaret - I forgot to mention that I think you did a lovely job on the memorial to your mom. Love and hugs to you
Gloria - Love your words on forgiveness. I have a BIL (my DH's twin) who has been a poison pill to us for many years. Needless to say, I forgive him for the words and things he has done; but DH and I both feel that doesn't mean that we need to associate with him in our leisure time. DH's other brothers don't understand why we won't attend "date night" or "game night" when he is present. (All of the brothers and their wives get together once a month or so). Luckily, he doesn't attend these often. But, the other brothers don't receive the 100's of emails, texts and phone calls that we do. Blah! Sorry, I don't mean to keep going on. ANYWAY, I can forgive all of this. (I really think he suffers from bi-polar or some sort of depression/anger issue) BUT DH and I have decided we just can't keep letting him be a part of our social circle.
Rita Gorgeous picture and what a fantastic memory to share with your mom!
Well, have to jump in the shower and get my day going! Love and hugs to all who need them! KJ (Kelly)2 -
Morning Ladies~
I am feeling much better, not 100% but ready to take on the day.. my DSIL is having a pumpkin carving party and she is going all out.. I am going over to that and then doing a grocery shop...I am looking to eat better,as I have not for a long long time.. without the extra freezer space I am missing my frozen veggies, as every time I get fresh ones I dont get to cook them when I want them.. have to get better at that..
Sounds like alot of us went through the same things.. when I left Rich I got an apt 2 bedroom , it was cute and when I had the kids I slept on the couch,,,then I met Tom.. I was working to jobs just to keep my head above water.. and it was tough.. Tom would come over on the nights I had the kids and would babysit them until I got home, and the head gasket went on my van and I still had 2-3 yrs to pay on the loan. Bless him he paid 2,000 to get it rebuilt .. he was wonderful in the beginning... boy how the times have changed lol.. he does show his love in other ways, he doesn't ever tell me anymore, but I know he still cares for me..2 -
Good Sunday morning! Just marking my spot for now.2
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Good Morning Ladies! I've had a hectic time since last October....got laid off my job, found a new one where I can work from home 2 days a week (Yeah!), lost my faithful Doberman companion Storm, welcomed a new companion Weimariner Blue, got married, worked with DH through a 4 month illness (he's much better now), started a new business creating embellished glass vases, and now am comitting time to getting my body back to where it was last year or even better. Looking forward to checking in regularly next month.
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Tere: It is so good to see you again! Welcome back. Congratulations on your marriage! :flowerforyou:
Alison: I'm glad you can see that Tom still cares for you. My mama always told me that actions speak louder than words. I'll add that words can easily lie but actions are right out there to be seen for what they are. (((HUGS)))
Karen in VA: You have made a triumph of your life and I am happy for you. I love this quote and am planning to add it to my list for future use. Thank you for it. Nothing is impossible, the word itself says 'I'm possible'!" -Audrey Hepburn
The household is waking up around me and I am hoping there is coffee. No school this morning so I wonder how we will spend our day. DD is still recovering from surgery so it may be fairly quiet. I won't mind.
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Happy Sunday Morning to All
Tere ~ What a buy month you have had. Congrats on your marriage and wishing you much success on your new business venture.
DnL and Grands are dropping by after church and I am fixing breakfast for lunch! Will be so good to see them outside of baseball. LOL
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Heather- happy to hear Johnny is still a part of the family. The stories of him must have been wonderful for your boys.1
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Lisa - I read about your working life and I totally get it. That awful spinning in your head when you've been working furiously – not for hours but for days or weeks. The horrendous emptiness when the s**t is finally out of your hands and you're all revved up with nowhere to dump the excess adrenalin. The Scylla and Charybdis of having a steady job with a paycheck attached, or being your own slavedriver to make sure you can bill somebody for something.
Yep. I get it, sistah. I read your posts and think: There despite the grace of God go I, darn it.
Thank you all for listening.
Heather - I'm rather touched that you decided to rescue Johnny. I see similar struggles in my future. It makes me feel better to know I'm not alone in being indecisive.
Heather, Lisa, Karen, and Kelly - Yep! Me too! When my husband and I were starting our family, we were really poor. Okay, we lived in Sweden, where the system takes pretty good care of people, but we were both new to the country and had no idea what we were entitled to. So we got by for years on one student subsidy and the lowest possible child allowance. It wasn't until our kids left home twenty years later that we started feeling comfortably off. I learned a lot about how to get by on a shoestring during those years, so I could do it again if I had to. But I sure don't want to!
Hubby's been away for nearly two weeks now (China, Italy, mainland Norway). He's supposed to come home on Tuesday but it isn't 100% certain he'll be able to. The IT department at his employer had his computer in for updates to tighten security and now he can't even log in. :noway: Of course if he can't use it there's little likelihood that hackers can get in, but I hope that wasn't what the IT department intended. (You never know!)
Anyway, IF he gets his computer back on Tuesday morning, he'll be home Tuesday afternoon. If not, he won't get home until Thursday, because there are no flights up here on Wednesdays in the winter. And I leave for a week of teaching in Stockholm on Friday. :sad:
I've made myself a to-do list with all the stuff I'm supposed to do. (Duh!) Sure is fun crossing things off that list! I even added something I'd already done, just so I could cross it off.
Okay, break over. Back to the grind...
/Penny at the North Pole Breathe, Penny, breathe...2 -
Penny LOL again! I add things to my to-do list I've already done, too! 1
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Just got back from walking my dogs. The walks are as much for me as for them. Thought I'd post a pic of my walking buddies!
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Tere, welcome back...congrats on your marriage....hope we see you every day 2
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Tere - Can I add my WELCOME BACK to all the other welcome backs.:flowerforyou: A lot has been going on for you.
Johnny came out of the washing machine looking quite perky, so now he is in the airing cupboard. I will post a pic when I have brushed him.
Love Heather UK, who has at last cooked the chicken supremes prior to freezing them. DELICIOUS smells. Tick! I also have done my roots. Tick! :laugh: I also replaced the main oven light. It has never worked since we moved in. Tick!
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Morning again, my dears,
Been working furiously trying to quell the paper snowstorm that is my home office, and am seeing light at the end of that tunnel FINALLY! Just business receipts to enter, and I'm done... but I thought I'd take a break and talk to y'all.
One of the things that's on my busily spinning brain at the moment is how much we spend for wants, and for comfort... as a species, as I think it's utterly endemic to the human condition. My husband and I spend hundreds, if not thousands a year, merely so we won't be inconvenienced. And I think part of it is our definition of "comfort." It varies so widely from person to person--and now that I'm thinking about saving every single penny we can for the near future, if not for the rest of our lives, it's got me thinking about it.
For instance, the DH bought me a Keurig coffeemaker, which I have enthusiastically used. At $11 a box for 18 cups of coffee, that's 61 cents a cup. And I drink at least three cups a day, sometimes four. As you can see, the thought of giving up coffee never enters my mind, but that's OK. Stick with me. A 30-oz can of Folgers supposedly makes 240 cups of coffee... about one-tenth the cost per cup, at $16 per can, as it's not quite 7 cents per cup. Here's the kicker - you can use one of the little cup filters in the Keurig and use regular coffee in the Keurig maker. Which gives you the convenience of the one-cup-at-a-time maker, but the cost of regular coffee. The equation essentially works out to the fact that I can spend $1.83 to $2.44 a day on coffee, or I can spend 21 to 28 cents. The savings over 365 days = somewhere between $580 to $740 a year. That's groceries for a month, if not two!
I haven't had to think like this since Corey and I were digging out from under his and my debt load the first few years we were married. We wiped out $115,000 in debt (mostly his) in the first two years, and took another couple years to pay $25,000 in student loan that had been hanging over my head since 1998. We're debt-free except for the warehouse, which we've always looked at as an investment, one that will hopefully pay off in the new year. But we have not been frugal, we've been relaxed, with one signal, of course, being him buying me a Keurig, or we'd have one heck of a nest egg. Time to get frugal, my chickens.
Off to the races... finish up with these business receipts, then time for brunch with the hubby.
Love y'all,
Thanks for listening to my wandering brain spouting,
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Tere congratulations on your marriage!1
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Just in from my daughter's wedding weekend. What a great time. Have to get back into reality tomorrow.1
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Oh Peachy Carol! I can smell the leaves and hear them rustling... Thanks!
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lisa way to go on finding the coffee hack to save $$. I love finding those ways to shave off even more from the monthly expenses. We've been mindful and finding ways to save as well. I rely on an app to track everything, really helps me from impulse buying.
Just got an app to get $ back on groceries called checkout51 and will let you all know how much $back I can earn.
Had a productive weekend and have earned my nap,zzzzzz
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Charleen – DH and sons have planted trees and DYS has also taken acorns and planted them and both had done well. We really were surprised that the acorns he planted actually came up and now they are taller than we are. Roughly 15 years old. He probably should have planted the various types of trees along one side of our driveway a little further apart; but, at least they are not crowding one another … just close. They were planted as small trees; and, are now easily 20 or more feet tall; and their trunks are about 10” in diameter. We have a beautiful cypress tree in our back yard that was planted as a small tree; and, it is so beautifully shaped, too. Last year, when it needles started turning brown; I got upset because I thought it was dying. DH laughed and said, ‘no, it loses its needles every year; and this is the first time you’ve noticed’? Well, DUH, yeah!
Glo – I guess I really thought if we could come to some ‘agreement’ about behavior; and, forgiveness given … I sort of expected that ‘the past’ would stop being thrown in my face all the time or that her feelings of jealousy about the other DnL would stop being brought up all the time. I guess I just find it difficult to believe in forgiveness, when this has become a ‘constant’. But, I will try to place it in God’s hands and go from there. He is my strength.
I have not checked [color+strawberry]CaringBridge to see how DBnL’s night was; but, I am sure by now the MDs have come in to check on him. He will be in the hospital for at least another 2 weeks, more or less; then getting him back to the Atlanta area will need to be dealt with. I doubt seriously that they will allow him to fly (other than to be airlifted by a helicopter). I think their oldest daughter will be flying back and then driving down and driving them back when the time comes. DS had not even wanted to leave long enough to go take a shower; she has been at the ICU 24/7 since early Friday AM. Hopefully, nieces can talk her into doing so. But, I do understand where she is coming from. He has been awake; recognizes them, talking and even joking with the surgeons. The surgeons told DS that his blood clot was the biggest, most extensive clot that any of them in the practice had ever seen; but, for him to be awake, talking and joking and recognizing his family is a great sign.
I know when I was in the hospital in order for my MD to tweak all my medications, my counselor was one of only two ‘grief counselors’ in the entire state. He helped me to learn how to ‘grieve’ for those things that had occurred in my life that was hindering my process of becoming a 'normal’ person as compared to how I ‘felt about myself’. When I got ‘out of the hospital’ I typed him a 35-page letter telling him all the things that I had ‘come to grips with’. He sent a copy of it to my MD and now he knows how things have affected me. One of the things he asked me was ‘try to go back as far as you can remember and see if you can tell me when you first felt that something in your life was different’. I’ve had signs of being ‘bipolar’ since my early teens for sure; but, I was also a very determined child. Maybe even defiant at times. But, my parents were both very patient people and they did everything possible to encourage the ‘good’ in me. I could never ‘thank’ them enough to make sure that I had an ‘art teacher’ from the time I was 7-years-old. I love it and lived for it. I just did not like ‘art school’ where it was shoved down my throat 5 days a week, 8 hours a day; not counting homework and projects. For years I had packed up my art stuff and forgotten about it. When we were moving, DH found the box and asked me why I wasn’t doing anything with it. I still do not want to think that I have to do it for a living. I paint and draw for pleasure, at my leisure. I have been commissioned for a few things; but, most of what I do, I do for my family.
Karen in Virginia – Our 3 granddaughters by our DOS (live next door); the oldest one is off at college; she calls us 2x a week. DYGD comes over almost every day; but, DMGD only comes ‘if’ oldest DGD is home and comes over; but, I think she feels like she can’t come over or if she does she might be ‘accused’ of ‘playing one side against the other’. I’d NEVER tell her to do something that her parents have told her not to do or otherwise. She is just at that age, I guess (15); but, one thing that she won’t do is ‘drive’. The grandmother of their Mama’s BF stopped picking them up; because DnL#1 has cussed the friend out 2x in as many weeks. I know why the first time; then they ‘kissed and made up’; but, I don’t understand the last time and I won’t ask. I know that I will get only my DnL#1’s side of the story; and, she doesn’t want me to play the “Devil’s Advocate” … she is always right; everybody else is ‘wrong’. Not worth doing. I’d be the one to come home ‘mad’. Haven’t yet met DMGD’s new boyfriend, who is a Senior at school; but, she has fallen ‘hard’. When she gets ready, then she will introduce him to us. DnL#1 really ‘likes’ him; but, I sure hope that she doesn’t try to ‘make friends’ with him or his parents on any ‘social networking site’ and I rue the day they ever break up. When DOGD broke up with her first real boyfriend, DnL#1 called him AND his mother and ‘cussed them out’. This embarrassed her ‘step-daughter’ and I, personally, think that teenagers need to go through things without their parents’ interference so they learn how to handle things the next time around. She’s now been dating her boyfriend who is a year older and a class ahead for 4 years.
I have to laugh at this DMGD’s boyfriend because he will say, ‘I love you’! whenever DMGD says it to her parents when they are walking off. DMGD asked her Dad why he won’t say “I love you” to her boyfriend? He told her that he had not even said “I love you” to her older sister’s boyfriend … and has no reason to do so, unless he puts a ‘ring on her finger’. LOL! I find this a little funny because she (DOGD) is a product of a very young marriage. I know she’ll never ‘go there’ … she has lived and seen what it is like to be a child in a marriage that did not last 2 years.
Lisa – I think that DH and I are in our 3rd lifestyle. I no longer work; and he works; but, really needs to slow down. I just do not want his ‘slowing down’ to be something that is ‘forced on him’. I think about my DBnL#1 and know that ‘his lifestyle’ will come to an abrupt ‘change’ and it isn’t going to be easy for him. He was always so active since his retirement; playing tennis several times a week, and just going and coming as he pleased. Now, after his stroke, he won’t be driving for a long time, if ever again, he won’t be playing tennis or doing the stuff he had always done. He told sister, yesterday that he was ‘frustrated’ (being in the bed all the time and tied down to many, many machines; and, having others making decisions for him). DH and I were talking yesterday about 20/20 hindsight. We had both noticed that when we were going to and from and while we were at the beach with them; that he seemed to be overly ‘agitated’ or would get ‘angry’ over little things. I think the Thursday, a week before, they had diagnosed him with something – brain wise – that had the same symptoms as having a mild stroke. But, they only kept him overnight and said that making the trip was not a problem. Of course, DS called them; and, when the time comes for them to go home, they will be ready to see him immediately.
Heather – When my sister got a divorce; alimony was set up as a ‘settlement’ instead of ‘alimony’ so sister was not the one who had to pay taxes on it. It stopped when she hit early retirement age; but, then she could still collect on his Social Security which gave her a little more than if she had collected on hers. She got first shot at the amount; because she was older than his 2nd wife (for her amount to collect on him). They’d been married roughly 35 years. Apparently, the UK doesn’t have social security or anything like that.
KJLaMore – I agree with you, nothing is better than freshly washed bedsheets; I also make my bed every day after getting out of it; makes me have the feeling that I am getting into a fresh bed. Also, helps make my house look clean, not cluttered. Sorry that you and your DYS have been sick … hopefully nothing that puts you into bed and not getting out. Do you have help with your daycare? I’d think you’d probably need someone, if you were to be sick enough to have to go to bed.
I have this ‘angel’ with a clear body; and, I’ve cut up credit cards; so that it is a constant reminder to never get to the point of depending on them. I have 2 and DH has (maybe) 3; one of his has a very low credit limit; and, he only uses them for certain things; but sparingly. We always keep one of them low, in case of emergency. I have one that I had all my other credit cards charging me high interest and had them all transferred to one that for a period of time was charging no interest; and, even when it did … was lower than the average of the others. Of course, it is pretty close to limit, so I don’t charge on it … other than just enough for the bank not to close it for ‘lack of use’, then I have a Belk’s card and I buy my clothes with it. The shocker was that the bank man did not make it clear that to transfer the balances, there was a small fee to do this. I bought 2 tops the other day; and, they were having a ‘pre-sale’; and, while I hated not being able to bring them home then; what is one more week and a few dollars off going to hurt? We have lived paycheck-to-paycheck several times in our married life; now, we are way more comfortable and don’t spend nearly what we had been spending. For once, DH will pull out ‘cash’ instead of a credit card. He really hates using his credit cards now. YEAH!!!!
DH and I have started having a ‘date night’ once a week, we generally go ‘out to eat’ and/or pick up a few items we need here and there. I don’t think DH will EVER invite the kids along or even take them out to eat and pick up the bill because of how DnL#1 has treated us lately; it has gotten a lot worse since DYS got married. So we keep our ‘opinions’ to ourselves; because we don’t want to interfere with DOS and DYS’s relationship. DYS has stopped calling his OB just to ‘chat’ because he has always been so ‘negative’ lately … more so than normal. All of us are just ‘flabbergasted’ at what he seemingly is willing to put up with, in his wife’s behavior around us, and others. DYS has always been the one to initiate the calls to OB; and, he said, that it should be 'both ways'; but, hasn't been. I know that I don’t want to be around her, even at the knowledge of knowing this means that I won’t be around my DGDs who give us a lot of love and pleasure. I’m NOT her real "Mama", so she can leave her "Drama" with her ‘own’ Mama. I doubt that they’ll ever separate; but, DH says they (DOS and he) will go places and DOS will ‘turn heads of a lot of women’. I just do not ‘think’ that he has ever ‘fallen in love’ like his YB has. Took DYS a long time to find a woman that he wanted to spend the rest of his life with. DOS and his first girlfriend got married because DOGD was ‘on the way’. Even though I had told DOS that he did not ‘have’ to get married, he could legitimate baby and still have child support to pay, and also get ‘child visitation’; but, I guess he felt like he was ‘doing the right thing by her’. Even her own Daddy tried to talk him out of it. When DYS fell in love, it ‘hit him like the ton of bricks’ that I had told him it would when he found the ‘right’ one, it’d do; and, it did!
DH has the 'joke' that has always been an 'inside' joke ... of 'that's what the girl at the picnic said/says'; I finally realize that it had become a way of saying ... 'get me OUTTA this situation'!!!!! I'm surprised that the person he says this in front of has not picked up on it. Yeah, it is DnL#1.
I have a sheet of paper that shows what 'normal people' see as colors; red, purple, pink, orange, yellow, green, and blue (8); then it shows what 'artists' see which is about 30 different colors. I'm going to try to see if the [color=] is by a 'normal' person or by an 'artist'. Yeah! It recognized, most of what 'artists' see.
Got to go check CaringBridge.org to see how DBnL#1 did overnight.
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