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the wage gap1
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Miss_Chiev0us_ wrote: »My daughter, I thought we were done with this but she's being bullied again. She showed me messages she recieved and it really breaks my heart. People can be so cruel. Wish I felt better to be a better mom this week. I also wish she could follow my footsteps and leave social media aside a bit.
Somehow I missed this until I started reading your replies.
Watching one of your children hurt, has got to be the biggest heartache of having kids.
And because everybody is on social media, it spreads fast and furious and people(most anyways) do not give a fig how the other person feels. So many go right along with it in fear of getting singled out themselves. Now place all that freedom into the hands of teenage girls who know what buttons to push to begin with. We've all seen it in the news, how terrible it's gotten in some instances. It's frustrating, maddening, cruel and heartless. I don't care what institution promotes zero tolerance, IMO it's not possible.
My dd's first true love dumped her and she hurt like you wouldn't believe. Well, then the a-hole got back together with her(despite all our caution and fears of what might happen again). And it did. it was the worst possible couple of years for my dd, end of high school, adjustment into big city college, her 'friends' talking all over social media about her and how overly dramatic she was being. She hung onto that feeble attempt at connection until he found somebody else plastering all over FB of course; She finally figured out she needed to block the jerk and all their jerk friends so she could start recovering and healing, getting on with her life.
All that to tell you that I sincerely hope you can convince her to let go of the negative social media and block the cruel kids. They have a target and probably won't stop. BUT your dd, if she's anything like you, has the wisdom and fortitude to look forward to better times, closer friends, and figuring out her priorities. Kids(and adults too) attack others so they can feel better about themselves; we all know that. As long as she knows she's got you in her corner, she'll stay strong and realize she's her own authentic and good person, someone who will feel more empathy towards others for lots of different reasons. She'll become like Mr. Healthy on MFP, who I remember telling us he used to take the underdogs(quiet/shy ones?) under his wing through school(or something like that) 
As big of a problem as it feels to a young girl, to see and hear terrible words about her, her future has very little to do with her preteen/teenage years. As long as she can sort out the more important matters of heart, family, and health, she'll come out of it (mostly)unscathed.
Rambling now.
But hang in there mom, it's difficult to witness as a mom but also a learning experience for children.
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A good night's sleep makes SUUUUCH a difference...6
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People without power & water in cold weather4
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twitchandshout wrote: »People without power & water in cold weather
I was just talking about that with my mom yesterday. So sad 💔 they closed the homeless shelter here and every day I worry about where those people are sleeping now. Wish I could help the all!1 -
Miss_Chiev0us_ wrote: »twitchandshout wrote: »People without power & water in cold weather
I was just talking about that with my mom yesterday. So sad 💔 they closed the homeless shelter here and every day I worry about where those people are sleeping now. Wish I could help the all!
why would they close a homeless shelter in the dead of Winter?
looking to cull the herd?
politicians (by and large) are heartless *kittens*6 -
Is it a normal thing parents do when vacationing to a different country that they leave their toddlers sleeping in the hotel by themselves while they go off and do their own thing at night?
I’d be too paranoid, like what if they wake up trying to find me, roam around and accidentally fall in the pool and drown.. I always think about the worst scenario.
The madeleine McCann story 😒4 -
Is it a normal thing parents do when vacationing to a different country that they leave their toddlers sleeping in the hotel by themselves while they go off and do their own thing at night?
I’d be too paranoid, like what if they wake up trying to find me, roam around and accidentally fall in the pool and drown.. I always think about the worst scenario.
The madeleine McCann story 😒
I would be way too paranoid also, I would be anywhere but especially in another country.2 -
Miss_Chiev0us_ wrote: »My daughter, I thought we were done with this but she's being bullied again. She showed me messages she recieved and it really breaks my heart. People can be so cruel. Wish I felt better to be a better mom this week. I also wish she could follow my footsteps and leave social media aside a bit.
I'm sorry T. That's difficult for you both. You being there for her and supporting her will mean so much to her. Whenever I told my parents I was being bullied (physically and verbally) they told me to suck it up. So I really admire you for showing her that support and compassion. I hope the bullies get a big dose of karma somewhere along the line, but mostly I hope your daughter doesn't internalise those words and knows her worth. Sending hugs 🤗4 -
ExpressoLove11 wrote: »Miss_Chiev0us_ wrote: »My daughter, I thought we were done with this but she's being bullied again. She showed me messages she recieved and it really breaks my heart. People can be so cruel. Wish I felt better to be a better mom this week. I also wish she could follow my footsteps and leave social media aside a bit.
I'm sorry T. That's difficult for you both. You being there for her and supporting her will mean so much to her. Whenever I told my parents I was being bullied (physically and verbally) they told me to suck it up. So I really admire you for showing her that support and compassion. I hope the bullies get a big dose of karma somewhere along the line, but mostly I hope your daughter doesn't internalise those words and knows her worth. Sending hugs 🤗
She's at school today and called me on her lunch break and everything seems to be fine. I also called the school this morning so they are aware of what happened. Kids don't realize how much words and actions can hurt. I know for myself, I'm still hurt by things I've been told so I hope it doesn't stick to her too long. I'll continue to be there for her and make her feel the best she can about herself. She has blocked everyone that has bullied her and she does have a good group of friends ❤8 -
I just read somewhere that making kids shovel snow is child abuse according to them🤦♀️😆 I know I had to work my *kitten* off as a kid and never had anything handed to me on a silver platter.2
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Miss_Chiev0us_ wrote: »ExpressoLove11 wrote: »Miss_Chiev0us_ wrote: »My daughter, I thought we were done with this but she's being bullied again. She showed me messages she recieved and it really breaks my heart. People can be so cruel. Wish I felt better to be a better mom this week. I also wish she could follow my footsteps and leave social media aside a bit.
I'm sorry T. That's difficult for you both. You being there for her and supporting her will mean so much to her. Whenever I told my parents I was being bullied (physically and verbally) they told me to suck it up. So I really admire you for showing her that support and compassion. I hope the bullies get a big dose of karma somewhere along the line, but mostly I hope your daughter doesn't internalise those words and knows her worth. Sending hugs 🤗
She's at school today and called me on her lunch break and everything seems to be fine. I also called the school this morning so they are aware of what happened. Kids don't realize how much words and actions can hurt. I know for myself, I'm still hurt by things I've been told so I hope it doesn't stick to her too long. I'll continue to be there for her and make her feel the best she can about herself. She has blocked everyone that has bullied her and she does have a good group of friends ❤
It’s been something like 40 years since I was a target of bullying. It can have long-term effects. I’m glad you’re on it. 💕4 -
Miss_Chiev0us_ wrote: »ExpressoLove11 wrote: »Miss_Chiev0us_ wrote: »My daughter, I thought we were done with this but she's being bullied again. She showed me messages she recieved and it really breaks my heart. People can be so cruel. Wish I felt better to be a better mom this week. I also wish she could follow my footsteps and leave social media aside a bit.
I'm sorry T. That's difficult for you both. You being there for her and supporting her will mean so much to her. Whenever I told my parents I was being bullied (physically and verbally) they told me to suck it up. So I really admire you for showing her that support and compassion. I hope the bullies get a big dose of karma somewhere along the line, but mostly I hope your daughter doesn't internalise those words and knows her worth. Sending hugs 🤗
She's at school today and called me on her lunch break and everything seems to be fine. I also called the school this morning so they are aware of what happened. Kids don't realize how much words and actions can hurt. I know for myself, I'm still hurt by things I've been told so I hope it doesn't stick to her too long. I'll continue to be there for her and make her feel the best she can about herself. She has blocked everyone that has bullied her and she does have a good group of friends ❤
I feel this so acutely. My child has recently come out and changed their name and pronouns, which is hard for many many people to handle. The amount of teasing, mistakes, intentional ignorance, and outright hatred they have endured... It's heartbreaking watching them come home in tears over and over.
The school is trying, the teachers are trying, many friends are trying, but there are many many who are using homophobic slurs, insults, and intentional misuse / mocking.
As a parent, it is so devastating seeing the pain that others can inflict (intentionally or otherwise) on our kids... And feel pretty powerless to help.
Big hugs to you momma, and to your child. Sometimes people really really suck. ❤️8 -
I Keep thinking about his the snow in Texas is reeking havoc.
At first I thought it was funny how everyone was like “omg snow!” cause you know, Canadian here from a very cold Canadian city.
And then I was annoyed, “like okay, it’s freaking snow get over it”.
And now I’m like “this is serious”. People don’t have central heating? I cannot fathom that. My furnace has been my BFF this frigid month. And then hearing about some of the things people are doing to stay warm (running cars inside with doors closed) or the damage it’s caused. I’m shook and saddened by it. Stay safe folks! Layer up if you’re cold, turn off your water to stop pipes bursting (or run your taps slowly), and look out for eachother! 💛5 -
I have enough leftover calories today to either have some alcohol... or have another coffee with some cream... but I can't decide which I'd rather have.1
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Is it a normal thing parents do when vacationing to a different country that they leave their toddlers sleeping in the hotel by themselves while they go off and do their own thing at night?
I’d be too paranoid, like what if they wake up trying to find me, roam around and accidentally fall in the pool and drown.. I always think about the worst scenario.
The madeleine McCann story 😒
I hate this 😥, I go on holiday with my kids it's all about them. Our favourite thing is playing cards on the balcony of an evening. Not drinking or socializing without them. That's what girls trips are for 😅
It’s so irritating knowing that she probably would’ve been ok if her parents just kept her by them. She was only 3, god only know how much trauma she had to endure during her kid napping.1 -
Yoshiboobs wrote: »I'm never done looking at cat pictures and real life cats. It never stops being cute.
Amen sister, cats are the best.1 -
KosmosKitten wrote: »I have enough leftover calories today to either have some alcohol... or have another coffee with some cream... but I can't decide which I'd rather have.
Coffee! I'll make some as well.1 -
Is it a normal thing parents do when vacationing to a different country that they leave their toddlers sleeping in the hotel by themselves while they go off and do their own thing at night?
I’d be too paranoid, like what if they wake up trying to find me, roam around and accidentally fall in the pool and drown.. I always think about the worst scenario.
The madeleine McCann story 😒
I hate this 😥, I go on holiday with my kids it's all about them. Our favourite thing is playing cards on the balcony of an evening. Not drinking or socializing without them. That's what girls trips are for 😅
It’s so irritating knowing that she probably would’ve been ok if her parents just kept her by them. She was only 3, god only know how much trauma she had to endure during her kid napping.
I recently listened to this crime story on a podcast and was shocked to hear they would go to a local restaurant nearby with Friends for drinks. Its sad...a regret im sure they have a difficult time living with1 -
Kashmir_314_ wrote: »That moment when something happens in your life and you immediately want to reach for the phone and call your Mom.
Then you realize she's no longer there 💔
I feel that. ❤️
I do that all the time, but with my father.8 -
Kashmir_314_ wrote: »That moment when something happens in your life and you immediately want to reach for the phone and call your Mom.
Then you realize she's no longer there 💔Deadman_Diggingup wrote: »Kashmir_314_ wrote: »That moment when something happens in your life and you immediately want to reach for the phone and call your Mom.
Then you realize she's no longer there 💔
I feel that. ❤️
I do that all the time, but with my father.
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Kashmir_314_ wrote: »That moment when something happens in your life and you immediately want to reach for the phone and call your Mom.
Then you realize she's no longer there 💔
Yep.
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Kashmir_314_ wrote: »That moment when something happens in your life and you immediately want to reach for the phone and call your Mom.
Then you realize she's no longer there 💔Deadman_Diggingup wrote: »Kashmir_314_ wrote: »That moment when something happens in your life and you immediately want to reach for the phone and call your Mom.
Then you realize she's no longer there 💔
I feel that. ❤️
I do that all the time, but with my father.
Love you both ❤ big hugs1 -
IslandGal3 wrote: »Miss_Chiev0us_ wrote: »ExpressoLove11 wrote: »Miss_Chiev0us_ wrote: »My daughter, I thought we were done with this but she's being bullied again. She showed me messages she recieved and it really breaks my heart. People can be so cruel. Wish I felt better to be a better mom this week. I also wish she could follow my footsteps and leave social media aside a bit.
I'm sorry T. That's difficult for you both. You being there for her and supporting her will mean so much to her. Whenever I told my parents I was being bullied (physically and verbally) they told me to suck it up. So I really admire you for showing her that support and compassion. I hope the bullies get a big dose of karma somewhere along the line, but mostly I hope your daughter doesn't internalise those words and knows her worth. Sending hugs 🤗
She's at school today and called me on her lunch break and everything seems to be fine. I also called the school this morning so they are aware of what happened. Kids don't realize how much words and actions can hurt. I know for myself, I'm still hurt by things I've been told so I hope it doesn't stick to her too long. I'll continue to be there for her and make her feel the best she can about herself. She has blocked everyone that has bullied her and she does have a good group of friends ❤
My daughter went through this. It was hell. No child should go through this.
I'm glad she had a better day. ♡
In a way I am kind of happy she's only physically in school 2 days per week since the pandemic started, the other days are online. At least she doesn't have to see those people every day.3 -
Kashmir_314_ wrote: »Wondering why I only want to go out when I know I'm stuck inside
I'm the same way !!!1 -
Kashmir_314_ wrote: »Wondering why I only want to go out when I know I'm stuck inside
Are you actually a cat?
Seems like a very cat thing to want.1 -
kamala1012 wrote: »Kashmir_314_ wrote: »Wondering why I only want to go out when I know I'm stuck inside
I'm the same way !!!Kashmir_314_ wrote: »Wondering why I only want to go out when I know I'm stuck inside
You can, just dress warmly !3 -
My mom called me a while ago and asked if I wanted her to bring me breakfast and coffee. I told her I wanted a egg breakfast sandwich with lettuce and tomato no meat and this is what I got 🤦♀️😆 no egg, just lettuce and tomato
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How I'm tired of the snow and winter.1
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KickassAmazon76 wrote: »Miss_Chiev0us_ wrote: »ExpressoLove11 wrote: »Miss_Chiev0us_ wrote: »My daughter, I thought we were done with this but she's being bullied again. She showed me messages she recieved and it really breaks my heart. People can be so cruel. Wish I felt better to be a better mom this week. I also wish she could follow my footsteps and leave social media aside a bit.
I'm sorry T. That's difficult for you both. You being there for her and supporting her will mean so much to her. Whenever I told my parents I was being bullied (physically and verbally) they told me to suck it up. So I really admire you for showing her that support and compassion. I hope the bullies get a big dose of karma somewhere along the line, but mostly I hope your daughter doesn't internalise those words and knows her worth. Sending hugs 🤗
She's at school today and called me on her lunch break and everything seems to be fine. I also called the school this morning so they are aware of what happened. Kids don't realize how much words and actions can hurt. I know for myself, I'm still hurt by things I've been told so I hope it doesn't stick to her too long. I'll continue to be there for her and make her feel the best she can about herself. She has blocked everyone that has bullied her and she does have a good group of friends ❤
I feel this so acutely. My child has recently come out and changed their name and pronouns, which is hard for many many people to handle. The amount of teasing, mistakes, intentional ignorance, and outright hatred they have endured... It's heartbreaking watching them come home in tears over and over.
The school is trying, the teachers are trying, many friends are trying, but there are many many who are using homophobic slurs, insults, and intentional misuse / mocking.
As a parent, it is so devastating seeing the pain that others can inflict (intentionally or otherwise) on our kids... And feel pretty powerless to help.
Big hugs to you momma, and to your child. Sometimes people really really suck. ❤️
i'm so sorry to hear this! kids are so cruel. and things seem so much more difficult these days than when we were growing up...1
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