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  • Cajunbby93
    Cajunbby93 Posts: 125 Member
    kinetixtrainer2 wrote: »
    “For Everything There Is a Season”

    It’s been a long *kitten* season

    SAMSIES. Adulting is overrated.
  • Cajunbby93
    Cajunbby93 Posts: 125 Member
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    My bestie reposted this a little while ago online. I don’t think they don’t want to protect and provide. It’s in their dna. I think some of them are on powertrips. I think some men don’t realize their partners are just as exhausted as them because a women may not have a physically demanding job and they do. Some of them have childhood trauma or relationship trauma and it makes it hard for them to see past that. Anyway. That had my thoughts provoked for like 20 minutes.
  • cowsfan12
    cowsfan12 Posts: 6,126 Member
    Cajunbby93 wrote: »
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    My bestie reposted this a little while ago online. I don’t think they don’t want to protect and provide. It’s in their dna. I think some of them are on powertrips. I think some men don’t realize their partners are just as exhausted as them because a women may not have a physically demanding job and they do. Some of them have childhood trauma or relationship trauma and it makes it hard for them to see past that. Anyway. That had my thoughts provoked for like 20 minutes.

    If a woman find herself with such a man - why stay and pitch about it - why not peal the band aid off and move on - maybe they want to be the one to fix him?? Or maybe it’s due to how they’ve witnessed relationships play out - either way the human condition is fascinating right ?
  • cmsienk
    cmsienk Posts: 18,831 Member
    edited October 2023
    Cajunbby93 wrote: »
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    My bestie reposted this a little while ago online. I don’t think they don’t want to protect and provide. It’s in their dna. I think some of them are on powertrips. I think some men don’t realize their partners are just as exhausted as them because a women may not have a physically demanding job and they do. Some of them have childhood trauma or relationship trauma and it makes it hard for them to see past that. Anyway. That had my thoughts provoked for like 20 minutes.
    I'm so glad I can't relate to this sweeping generalization ("a whole era of men")
  • Cajunbby93
    Cajunbby93 Posts: 125 Member
    cowsfan12 wrote: »
    Cajunbby93 wrote: »
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    My bestie reposted this a little while ago online. I don’t think they don’t want to protect and provide. It’s in their dna. I think some of them are on powertrips. I think some men don’t realize their partners are just as exhausted as them because a women may not have a physically demanding job and they do. Some of them have childhood trauma or relationship trauma and it makes it hard for them to see past that. Anyway. That had my thoughts provoked for like 20 minutes.

    If a woman find herself with such a man - why stay and pitch about it - why not peal the band aid off and move on - maybe they want to be the one to fix him?? Or maybe it’s due to how they’ve witnessed relationships play out - either way the human condition is fascinating right ?

    Some people are definitely fixers. I think some people want to believe in the potential that a person has. Maybe it wasn’t always like that and it started happening more and more over time and by the she realized what was happening and she said something the other person got used to getting away with the bare minimum and isn’t interested in anything more than the minimum.
    The human condition is very interesting.
  • Wascally_Wabbit
    Wascally_Wabbit Posts: 65 Member
    cmsienk wrote: »
    Cajunbby93 wrote: »
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    My bestie reposted this a little while ago online. I don’t think they don’t want to protect and provide. It’s in their dna. I think some of them are on powertrips. I think some men don’t realize their partners are just as exhausted as them because a women may not have a physically demanding job and they do. Some of them have childhood trauma or relationship trauma and it makes it hard for them to see past that. Anyway. That had my thoughts provoked for like 20 minutes.
    I'm so glad I can't relate to this sweeping generalization ("a whole era of men")

    It's a pretty wide net, how'd you get so lucky?
  • _Brigit
    _Brigit Posts: 48 Member
    Cajunbby93 wrote: »
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    My bestie reposted this a little while ago online. I don’t think they don’t want to protect and provide. It’s in their dna. I think some of them are on powertrips. I think some men don’t realize their partners are just as exhausted as them because a women may not have a physically demanding job and they do. Some of them have childhood trauma or relationship trauma and it makes it hard for them to see past that. Anyway. That had my thoughts provoked for like 20 minutes.

    I agree with your bestie. Just let her know there are still some good men out there. You just need to know what to look for and what to avoid.
  • itchmyTwitch
    itchmyTwitch Posts: 4,019 Member
    edited October 2023
    I synced my phone to the gym stereo & now I can’t leave cuz a hardcore gymmie is in the middle of a truly badass timed workout
  • Cajunbby93
    Cajunbby93 Posts: 125 Member
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  • itchmyTwitch
    itchmyTwitch Posts: 4,019 Member
    Cajunbby93 wrote: »
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    It’s ok. I’ll spot you
  • Books_n_butter
    Books_n_butter Posts: 102 Member
    Cajunbby93 wrote: »
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    Felt
  • Cajunbby93
    Cajunbby93 Posts: 125 Member
    itchmyTwitch wrote: »
    Cajunbby93 wrote: »
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    It’s ok. I’ll spot you

    So what your saying is we’re gunna have so much fun!
  • itchmyTwitch
    itchmyTwitch Posts: 4,019 Member
    Cajunbby93 wrote: »
    itchmyTwitch wrote: »
    Cajunbby93 wrote: »
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    It’s ok. I’ll spot you

    So what your saying is we’re gunna have so much fun!

    Abso kitten lutely
  • itchmyTwitch
    itchmyTwitch Posts: 4,019 Member
    Sometimes I am hungry for my meal but chewing feels like a lot of work
  • itchmyTwitch
    itchmyTwitch Posts: 4,019 Member
    I once had a boyfriend who could do this thing where I would cross my arms & he would lift me up & sort of bend & shake & my back would crack in the most wonderful way. I did not properly appreciate that
  • Cajunbby93
    Cajunbby93 Posts: 125 Member
    My neighbors teenaged son keeps running away. Like wtf is going on in that house. They sent him to
    Boot camp he ran away from boot camp..
    I wanna be like yo. Get your kid some therapy or something. Because punishment isn’t working. Obviously he’s struggling with something deeper.
  • PlentyofProtein00
    PlentyofProtein00 Posts: 3,669 Member
    itchmyTwitch wrote: »
    Sometimes I am hungry for my meal but chewing feels like a lot of work

    I can relate. Thats why I do soup
  • itchmyTwitch
    itchmyTwitch Posts: 4,019 Member
    PlentyofProtein00 wrote: »
    itchmyTwitch wrote: »
    Sometimes I am hungry for my meal but chewing feels like a lot of work

    I can relate. Thats why I do soup

    Yes! I had spicy red lentil soup for supper
  • Books_n_butter
    Books_n_butter Posts: 102 Member
    jbs116 wrote: »
    I don’t really care that I’m fat. What does bother me immensely is that my eating is out of control. All this work… all these years… and sometimes I feel I’m back at the beginning having no control and no idea why I’m using food as a comfort despite the whole thing being uncomfortable.

    Thank you for letting me journal here.

    This! I feel this so much.

  • itchmyTwitch
    itchmyTwitch Posts: 4,019 Member
    edited October 2023
    jbs116 wrote: »
    I don’t really care that I’m fat. What does bother me immensely is that my eating is out of control. All this work… all these years… and sometimes I feel I’m back at the beginning having no control and no idea why I’m using food as a comfort despite the whole thing being uncomfortable.

    Thank you for letting me journal here.

    I feel like exercise is so much easier than not over eating. I never really stopped working out but somehow I lost the thread of how to control my diet. Now I am back in the groove, but it still worries me because this is a weight loss phase and I’m not sure I ever learned how to maintain.

    I do find it comforting that so many of us have gone through something similar. Not just comforting, but also inspiring and motivating. It also makes us much more real and relatable rather than just an image that must be maintained.

    Captains log, earth date 10.14.2023.
  • jbs116
    jbs116 Posts: 758 Member
    Books_n_butter wrote: »
    jbs116 wrote: »
    I don’t really care that I’m fat. What does bother me immensely is that my eating is out of control. All this work… all these years… and sometimes I feel I’m back at the beginning having no control and no idea why I’m using food as a comfort despite the whole thing being uncomfortable.

    Thank you for letting me journal here.

    This! I feel this so much.

    I knew I was not alone in this and that is comforting, but I also hate this is familiar to you as well.
  • jbs116
    jbs116 Posts: 758 Member
    itchmyTwitch wrote: »
    jbs116 wrote: »
    I don’t really care that I’m fat. What does bother me immensely is that my eating is out of control. All this work… all these years… and sometimes I feel I’m back at the beginning having no control and no idea why I’m using food as a comfort despite the whole thing being uncomfortable.

    Thank you for letting me journal here.

    I feel like exercise is so much easier than not over eating. I never really stopped working out but somehow I lost the thread of how to control my diet. Now I am back in the groove, but it still worries me because this is a weight loss phase and I’m not sure I ever learned how to maintain.

    I do find it comforting that so many of us have gone through something similar. Not just comforting, but also inspiring and motivating. It also makes us much more real and relatable rather than just an image that must be maintained.

    Captains log, earth date 10.14.2023.

    I appreciate you sharing a bit, itchmy. I have so much more to say about all this. I love your second paragraph. The idea that you simply need to control your eating, change your habits, count your calories, etc with no attention given to the reasons we overeat is the default of the “fitness” industry… especially this place.
  • itchmyTwitch
    itchmyTwitch Posts: 4,019 Member
    Why can’t I find an open Starbucks or any coffee shop for that matter?
  • cmsienk
    cmsienk Posts: 18,831 Member
    edited October 2023
    itchmyTwitch wrote: »
    Why can’t I find an open Starbucks or any coffee shop for that matter?
    I've had this same problem. I usually ask a hotel valet driver
  • itchmyTwitch
    itchmyTwitch Posts: 4,019 Member
    IslandGal3 wrote: »
    One of the last things my dad cooked was a pot of chili. I remember picking up all the ingredients for him. How good it smelt cooking. After he passed, I took the container of leftovers out of his freezer, and brought it home with me. It’s cold, and raining today. I pulled the chili out of my freezer. I’ve teared up a few times when I look at it. Chili is what’s for dinner.

    ❤️
  • BriansTrident
    BriansTrident Posts: 483 Member
    How something beautiful such as this exists.

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  • eatpolerepeat
    eatpolerepeat Posts: 143 Member
    IslandGal3 wrote: »
    One of the last things my dad cooked was a pot of chili. I remember picking up all the ingredients for him. How good it smelt cooking. After he passed, I took the container of leftovers out of his freezer, and brought it home with me. It’s cold, and raining today. I pulled the chili out of my freezer. I’ve teared up a few times when I look at it. Chili is what’s for dinner.

    🤗❤️
  • eatpolerepeat
    eatpolerepeat Posts: 143 Member
    BriansTrident wrote: »
    How something beautiful such as this exists.

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    Oh my 🤤

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