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TeacupsAndToning wrote: »caco_ethes wrote: »I’ve been wondering about this for a few days. Why do we tell people how we feel about them? Do we want to make them feel good? Is it because we want to know if they feel the same way? Do we not feel completely honest unless we tell? Are we trying to influence them to feel similarly? Is it a gesture of vulnerability to demonstrate trust?
I think that people are naturally inclined to want acceptance from others and the easiest way to know if you have someone's approval is to ask them for it - whether what you're asking if it someone wants to be your friend, if someone likes you, etc.
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_seahorses5ever wrote: »caco_ethes wrote: »I’ve been wondering about this for a few days. Why do we tell people how we feel about them? Do we want to make them feel good? Is it because we want to know if they feel the same way? Do we not feel completely honest unless we tell? Are we trying to influence them to feel similarly? Is it a gesture of vulnerability to demonstrate trust?
That's a good question. I think you're making yourself vulnerable by opening up and telling someone how you feel so they must mean a lot. I think partly it's because we need to know if the other person is on the same page and mostly because we really hope they are.
I decided that I think for me I feel compelled to tell them because to not tell them would feel dishonest. Not like I’m lying to them I guess but like I’m not being real.
But then I’m the kind of person who tells people when I’ve dreamed about them too, and it’s scared a few people off.3 -
You know what you are? It rhymes with the burst.0 -
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How I'm trying to get a job without anyone else's help or connections but nobody wants an undergraduate young woman working for them unless she's a smiley server or hostess at a restaurant or 2 years+ experienced in data entry at an office or a cpr/fa certified babysitter like okay those things aren't difficult at all but I don't want to be making pebbles for the work I do I've already gotten a few interviews in but how are you supposed to get the job if you're not a bright shining star?? Yes I know how to correctly form sentences and paragraphs but this is how I spill1
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pinkkittyayh wrote: »How I'm trying to get a job without anyone else's help or connections but nobody wants an undergraduate young woman working for them unless she's a smiley server or hostess at a restaurant or 2 years+ experienced in data entry at an office or a cpr/fa certified babysitter like okay those things aren't difficult at all but I don't want to be making pebbles for the work I do I've already gotten a few interviews in but how are you supposed to get the job if you're not a bright shining star?? Yes I know how to correctly form sentences and paragraphs but this is how I spill
Have you ever pumped gas?1 -
I need to move somewhere without snow!!!1
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To stir or not to stir
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caco_ethes wrote: »I’ve been wondering about this for a few days. Why do we tell people how we feel about them? Do we want to make them feel good? Is it because we want to know if they feel the same way? Do we not feel completely honest unless we tell? Are we trying to influence them to feel similarly? Is it a gesture of vulnerability to demonstrate trust?
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Clever_User_Name wrote: »slimgirljo15 wrote: »To stir or not to stir
You know you're gonna stir lol
:laugh: well yeah.. it was kind of rhetorical Shhh you know me too well.0 -
Ohhhtayyyy wrote: »I need to move somewhere without snow!!!
The whole continent is frozen right now.1 -
kinetixtrainer2 wrote: »Ohhhtayyyy wrote: »I need to move somewhere without snow!!!
The whole continent is frozen right now.
95f here wanna come over and warm up ?1 -
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Clever_User_Name wrote: »caco_ethes wrote: »I’ve been wondering about this for a few days. Why do we tell people how we feel about them? Do we want to make them feel good? Is it because we want to know if they feel the same way? Do we not feel completely honest unless we tell? Are we trying to influence them to feel similarly? Is it a gesture of vulnerability to demonstrate trust?
Maybe it's a product of the information age. Everyone needs to know everything all the time. That may also compel them to share everything all the time. I feel the biggest difference between now and even 20 years ago is constant, instant information. Even personal.
That’s true. My sister shares every little thing she does on Snapchat stories. I’m constantly threatening to strangle her if she posts videos of my kids because her privacy is set to ‘stalkers welcome’.
What I find even more strange is that some people feel that you owe it to them to tell them how you feel. My mom used to get pretty hurt that my dad didn’t communicate his feelings very easily.3 -
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Man, I hate giving performance reviews. I wish I could just give all my rockstars big *kitten* bonuses and raises without worrying about budgets.2
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TeacupsAndToning wrote: »WorkerDrone83 wrote: »Man, I hate giving performance reviews. I wish I could just give all my rockstars big *kitten* bonuses and raises without worrying about budgets.
Do you call all of your employees rockstars?
You sound like such a dad.
Only when they deserve it. Sometimes they're sluggers or aces.1 -
I'm beginning to wonder if going to Meet Ups are worth losing sleep over. Getting home at 10:30 sucks.0
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TeacupsAndToning wrote: »WorkerDrone83 wrote: »TeacupsAndToning wrote: »WorkerDrone83 wrote: »Man, I hate giving performance reviews. I wish I could just give all my rockstars big *kitten* bonuses and raises without worrying about budgets.
Do you call all of your employees rockstars?
You sound like such a dad.
Only when they deserve it. Sometimes they're sluggers or aces.
What about champs??
Oh, I forgot about that one. I would never really call anyone any of those to their faces. They're all older and wiser than I am.0 -
caco_ethes wrote: »I’ve been wondering about this for a few days. Why do we tell people how we feel about them? Do we want to make them feel good? Is it because we want to know if they feel the same way? Do we not feel completely honest unless we tell? Are we trying to influence them to feel similarly? Is it a gesture of vulnerability to demonstrate trust?
One of the main reasons I tell people how I feel (if it's a good feel) is because everyone has internal struggles. If I can add even an ounce of happiness to someone else's day why wouldn't I?
The reason I tell people how I feel if it's not so good of a feel is because nothing will change if you keep your mouth shut. There are a million examples of this, but silence doesn't bring about change.
Also, I love you
Aww, I love YOU!
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What am I going to do with all of this popcorn now?1
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I need a hobby.0
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what are your choices?0
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