Just for Today ..... Daily Commitment Thread- Start of a new year!
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OConnell5483 wrote: »Well, I have a phone interview tomorrow, so that will be interesting since I have not interviewed in over 20 years! LOL! It will either make me more excited to try something new, or it will drive home the fact that I have it good where I am and to quit my bellyachin'.
* Prepare for phone interview
Good Luck!!! I like your attitude. I went through something similar (first interview in years, not a phone interview) when I hated my new boss at a previous employer. Before the interview, I knew I was perfect for the position, and couldn't wait to resign for a new job. My attitude was, anyplace but here. Then I went through the interview and really didn't like some of the things I'd be dealing with. I realized I had it pretty good where I was, and I needed to learn to deal with boss issues. When the interviewer called to say I made the short list, but hiring had been temporarily frozen, I was happy to remove myself from the list. And I worked for that boss for another 15 years, without any murder charges.
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azulvioleta6 wrote: »When did this thread become "baby baby baby" all of the time? I am finding it extremely uncomfortable.
Anyone interested in a child-free just for today spin off?
Interesting. Personal relationships have a LOT to do with weight-loss, over-eating, and exercise motivation. It would seem that everyone should be open and supportive for all the joys and sorrows in life bc that affects someone's ability to stay committed. I feel like posting a "To-Do List" doesn't always completely motivate people. I truly thought this was a motivational group of people to encourage everyone to keep going. We are all trying to make life changes into a healthy lifestyle but that doesn't exclude life when it happens. My life revolves around my husband AND my children!!4 -
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azulvioleta6 wrote: »When did this thread become "baby baby baby" all of the time? I am finding it extremely uncomfortable.
Anyone interested in a child-free just for today spin off?
Interesting. Personal relationships have a LOT to do with weight-loss, over-eating, and exercise motivation. It would seem that everyone should be open and supportive for all the joys and sorrows in life bc that affects someone's ability to stay committed. I feel like posting a "To-Do List" doesn't always completely motivate people. I truly thought this was a motivational group of people to encourage everyone to keep going. We are all trying to make life changes into a healthy lifestyle but that doesn't exclude life when it happens. My life revolves around my husband AND my children!!
Personally, I have zero maternal bones in my body. But I don't mind the baby talk. I think each person is on his or her own journey here. Life and family, however that's defined, are part of each person's journey and how one deals with food, eating, etc. And we are all here to support each other in that journey.3 -
cschmitz110515 wrote: »azulvioleta6 wrote: »When did this thread become "baby baby baby" all of the time? I am finding it extremely uncomfortable.
Anyone interested in a child-free just for today spin off?
Interesting. Personal relationships have a LOT to do with weight-loss, over-eating, and exercise motivation. It would seem that everyone should be open and supportive for all the joys and sorrows in life bc that affects someone's ability to stay committed. I feel like posting a "To-Do List" doesn't always completely motivate people. I truly thought this was a motivational group of people to encourage everyone to keep going. We are all trying to make life changes into a healthy lifestyle but that doesn't exclude life when it happens. My life revolves around my husband AND my children!!
Personally, I have zero maternal bones in my body. But I don't mind the baby talk. I think each person is on his or her own journey here. Life and family, however that's defined, are part of each person's journey and how one deals with food, eating, etc. And we are all here to support each other in that journey.
@MLHC1 and @cschmitz110515 - I so agree with you both. Losing weight involves so much, and I had hoped this to be a thread of encouragment, support, etc. But losing weight is so much more that just controlling what we eat -- it involves our entire life. When I have something emotional going on, I tend to eat. And to be able to come on this thread, express my feelings instead of grabbing something I should not be eating, has helped me so much, and I hoped it has helped everyone on here to do the same. But there are good things in our lives as well, and it is fun to share those things. I can also understand @azulvioleta6 being uncomfortable, and I am sorry for that. But .... this is part of life, and part of what we all share - not only sorrows but joys as well. I know I was on here talking about my sons divorce, and the encourgement and words I received have helped me so much to understand. This is such a wonderful supportive group, and I call all of you my friends, and thank you all for sharing this journey with me. This is what this is all about -- each of us getting healthy, not only physically, but mentally as well.
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OConnell5483 wrote: »@Bex953172 Any new name ideas?
Non as of yet!
It’s my partners birthday today so been preparing for that!azulvioleta6 wrote: »When did this thread become "baby baby baby" all of the time? I am finding it extremely uncomfortable.
Anyone interested in a child-free just for today spin off?
I guess we all have become friends, and that is why there is so much dicussion about a variety of topics. But .... I do also agree with you. This is suppose to be a thread encouraging healthy living and weight loss or maintainence. Maybe we can all work a little harder at keeping it that way (myself included)?
Yeah it’s just because we’re all friends, it’s only natural to want to share news. You all also talk about jobs a lot and interviews and promotions and I don’t even work so not got much input on that side of things but still offer whatever I can as support.
Tbh everyone else still posts daily goals. And their achievements and we still help and support that. I think I started one recently with @OConnell5483 but think I’ve only written down week 1!
although I am drinking more than normal, not the amount I should be though. 3 -
cschmitz110515 wrote: »azulvioleta6 wrote: »When did this thread become "baby baby baby" all of the time? I am finding it extremely uncomfortable.
Anyone interested in a child-free just for today spin off?
Interesting. Personal relationships have a LOT to do with weight-loss, over-eating, and exercise motivation. It would seem that everyone should be open and supportive for all the joys and sorrows in life bc that affects someone's ability to stay committed. I feel like posting a "To-Do List" doesn't always completely motivate people. I truly thought this was a motivational group of people to encourage everyone to keep going. We are all trying to make life changes into a healthy lifestyle but that doesn't exclude life when it happens. My life revolves around my husband AND my children!!
Personally, I have zero maternal bones in my body. But I don't mind the baby talk. I think each person is on his or her own journey here. Life and family, however that's defined, are part of each person's journey and how one deals with food, eating, etc. And we are all here to support each other in that journey.
@MLHC1 and @cschmitz110515 - I so agree with you both. Losing weight involves so much, and I had hoped this to be a thread of encouragment, support, etc. But losing weight is so much more that just controlling what we eat -- it involves our entire life. When I have something emotional going on, I tend to eat. And to be able to come on this thread, express my feelings instead of grabbing something I should not be eating, has helped me so much, and I hoped it has helped everyone on here to do the same. But there are good things in our lives as well, and it is fun to share those things. I can also understand @azulvioleta6 being uncomfortable, and I am sorry for that. But .... this is part of life, and part of what we all share - not only sorrows but joys as well. I know I was on here talking about my sons divorce, and the encourgement and words I received have helped me so much to understand. This is such a wonderful supportive group, and I call all of you my friends, and thank you all for sharing this journey with me. This is what this is all about -- each of us getting healthy, not only physically, but mentally as well.
Totally agree, if I didn’t have the support I had here I would of quit at the end of feb (remember when I got that 6week long cold guys ) and it threw me off completely.
Without my friends on here I would not be here now and it’s nice to know I have someone to turn to when things get muddled in my head. (Which happens a lot!)5 -
Wed
1. log all food
2. try to eat healthier, since I was over on tuesday. Stick with only veggies and meat - no bread I am doing SO good -- and the cravings are so much better. I bought blue bunny low fat fudge bars for when I want some ice cream. The nice thing is that they take a long time to eat, so I only eat one
3. drink water - 2 glasses with each meal. Success at this today. I am really hoping this will become a daily habit.
4. mow grass Was planning on only mowing the front, but it all needed it. Loving this weather!
5. get to the gym
6. lay out gym clothes for thursday morning - This has become a habit now for me, so I probably will stop posting, except incase I forget it reminds me.
7. drink water in the evening Going to do that tonite while I sew
8. go and help a friend with a craft for bible study
9. get quarterly taxes done
10. work on quilt - will begin this when I get home
JFT, Thurs
1. log all food
2. concentrate on 2 glasses of water with each meal
3. eat only planned foods.
4. help hubby with pc boards
5. work on quilt
6. finish sewing up doggie beds so this weekend I can drop them off at the humane society (I use leftover small fabric scraps and make doggie beds)
7. get started on chemo hats. I am so far behind on this - have not made her any since june
8. go to sewing club meetings - but do not eat the free cupcakes and cookies they always have there. Eat dinner before I go. Remember how I will feel after I eat those -- and that good feeling will only last a minute, then I will feel terrible. So don't give in
9. get back on here tomorrow - be accountable
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OConnell5483 wrote: »
Well, I have a phone interview tomorrow, so that will be interesting since I have not interviewed in over 20 years! LOL! It will either make me more excited to try something new, or it will drive home the fact that I have it good where I am and to quit my bellyachin'.
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Wishing you luck tomorrow!!!2 -
Well today has turned out to be good. I managed to get regular meals (smaller portions) in today and rested until 1:15 pm. I accomplished more than expected today so hopefully that's a sign that my food poisoning episode is ending. I managed to make a small grocery trip, do laundry, helped my son with a history biography poster, made dinner and I even made homemade chocolate chips cookies for my hubby and kids. The cookies are to show them my appreciation for picking up the slack while I've been sick
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I do not like drama - I have enough of that in my own life
I love this thread and the friends I have made--- it is what has kept me going this past year. I am so close to my goal weight (11 more pounds to go), but I know with the holidays, I need to be accountable - and I need a thread like this.
I will continue to remain on this thread as long as it is active, but I have decided to also start another thread - simply called just ONE DAY AT A TIME.
I have noticed that we are not getting very many new people anymore.
Part of that could be because we all know each other so well, which is nice, but I also don't want to discourage anyone that might want to join. I had hoped, and still hope, that this will help anyone wanting to get healthy and to develop new habits.
So here is a link to the new thread I am starting. .
Just thought this new thread would also attract more people that might want to participate.
http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10608307/one-day-at-a-time#latest3 -
azulvioleta6 wrote: »
Joys and sorrows my *kitten*. Nobody wants to see photos of my hysterectomy and tumor removal splashed across the page while they are eating breakfast. Nobody cares about the sorrows.
I care about the sorrows. I’m sorry you had to go through that. I had bilateral mastectomies 6 years ago, so I know a bit about loss and sorrows. And I care about every one of you....Good and bad.
@joan6630 I will post on both with you but I’m not leaving this one. I love this group! ❤️3 -
I do not like drama - I have enough of that in my own life
I love this thread and the friends I have made--- it is what has kept me going this past year. I am so close to my goal weight (11 more pounds to go), but I know with the holidays, I need to be accountable - and I need a thread like this.
I will continue to remain on this thread as long as it is active, but I have decided to also start another thread - simply called just ONE DAY AT A TIME.
I have noticed that we are not getting very many new people anymore.
Part of that could be because we all know each other so well, which is nice, but I also don't want to discourage anyone that might want to join. I had hoped, and still hope, that this will help anyone wanting to get healthy and to develop new habits.
So here is a link to the new thread I am starting. .
Just thought this new thread would also attract more people that might want to participate.
http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10608307/one-day-at-a-time#latest
So what's the distinction between the two threads?
Personally I really value being able to share what's going on in my life. For me, like most people, what I eat (and drink...) is highly dependent on how I'm coping with other stuff.
Being able to share that, and get help with that, is really valuable to me.
Is this the plan for this thread to be for the sharing of life stuff and the other one to be more weight-loss focus?
I'd like to stick in the life stuff thread, but I'll go where the majority of this lovely group of people go!3 -
Ok, so yesterday was a bit of a fail...
Boyfriend and I are doing a wine tasting course on Wednesdays. You get to try 7 wines and 2 cheeses each week. They're all small quantities so don't add up to that much.
However.... somehow yesterday I ended up getting a little bit tipsy and decided it was a good idea to go to the supermarket on the way home to buy a couple of the wines we'd been trying - to practise tasting at the weekend. Somehow this escalated into buying another bottle of wine to start that evening as well as a packet of cheese which we ate the entirety of before bed.
The moral of the story? DON'T GO SHOPPING AFTER WINE TASTING!
I think that will have to be a regular commitment on my Wednesday list....
So, yesterday's commitments didn't go so well...
- Log everything I eat
- No snacks except ryvita
- Be in the green
- 30+ minute lunch break
- Meditate
- Don't procrastinate or be perfectionist - get tasks done efficiently
- Listen to music to boost mood
- Leave work at 5 for evening class
Today could be challenging. I have a big task to do which I'm really not looking forward to and which could be quite stressful.
I think I'm going to try something new today. If I feel the urge to go and snack, I will do something else first to calm/ de-stress me. Examples: listen to a happy song, look at Gran Canaria pictures on the net (going there in a few weeks), do a quick meditation, make a nice cup of tea.
Let's see how this goes...
Today's commitments -
- Log everything I eat
- No snacks except ryvita
- If feel the urge to snack, do something else (see above)
- NO ALCOHOL
- Be in the green
- 30+ minute lunch break
- Meditate
- Don't procrastinate or be perfectionist - get tasks done efficiently
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@OConnell5483 Good luck for your interview! Am sure it will go well - thinking of you!3
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azulvioleta6 wrote: »
I find that extraordinarily sad.
There are thousands of mommy groups and threads on MFP. I don't mind people talking about things outside of diet and fitness in this space, but if you want to post photos of the inside of your uterus (yuck!) and talk incessantly about reproductive issues WITHOUT POSTING ANY JUST FOR TODAY GOALS, then maybe you should go somewhere else. The topic is completely taking over this very useful tool. It's just way too much.
Joys and sorrows my *kitten*. Nobody wants to see photos of my hysterectomy and tumor removal splashed across the page while they are eating breakfast. Nobody cares about the sorrows.
There are a plethora of groups and threads in these forums which specialize on daily or weekly goals. Equally, there are a plethora of groups which specialize on just talking amongst friends. Many of them started with a specific topic in mind but developed. There are "former Weight Watchers users" that welcome people who never tried WW now. I am in a weekly goal group where people share holiday pictures.
Amazingly, over the general "goal" of those groups and threads, people become friends, start to care about each other and talk. Most of my friends I met in some context that was not "looking for friends". My favourite coworker sits on the desk opposite of me all day. Sometimes we talk about work. Sometimes we talk about our boyfriends. I was there when she split up, I was there when she met her now husband, I was there at their wedding as a translator. All because we met as coworkers one day.
I cannot relate to all of the problems and dramas people have in this thread. I would love to have a child, but I am not sure if that is possible with my current career and partner. I am younger than many here. I work a lot, so often I get jealous at the things other people have time for. I get jealous at how often some of you eat out, at them spending time with their pets and families (I live alone and in a long distance relationship). I would like to volunteer, pick vegetables and cook big batches of food out of it, cuddle with my dog and husband, visit great new food places in town. I can't. Sometimes it makes me sad, but I am still happy for those who can.
I also have struggles deep inside me, things I cannot find the courage to talk about. Sometimes it bursts out of me, often it does not. I don't blame anyone to not know about my struggles that I don't share. Sometimes people here come with so many problems and I am already having a bad day. I want to yell "I am horrible too, just because my problem is different, it does not hurt me less." But I realize nobody here ever said "that is not a problem" or "stop whining, my life is worse". Even though I guess my problems are actually smaller compared to other, even though they probably cannot relate well to what I go through because it is so far away from their life, they are here to comfort me, motivate me, cheer me on. I am super thankful for this.
Maybe this thread has developed far from what it used to be. But that is how life goes. I don't think splitting the "just for today" goals from the talking would be better, as we often do refer to the goals, do explain why we did not reach one or how we manage to do so incredibly good on another. This is what gets us talking.
This is probably the place in my life right now where I am faced with the most drama, and still, it is some kind of safe haven for me. Because we handle each other's drama well. We don't make it our drama, but we are there for them if they need it. I would be very sad if there is any drama coming up between the people here. This is not what this thread is for.
I am sorry about your hysterectomy. I am sorry that it happened before you had the chance to have the child you seem to want. I would have been listening if you had chosen to talk about it. I would have let you whine if you needed to or discussed options of adoption if that was making you feel better. I would have asked how you feel when you get silent during a specific time that is hard for you. But you decided to not share that with me. That is totally fine. But please do not blame people for triggering you, when they had no idea they would. That really is not fair. I know that Bex lost a child. I take care not to trigger her, especially when I get the feeling she is feeling down already. I know that some people here regularly put up goals that they regularly do not meet. Some of these goals sound "easy" to me and I cannot relate how you cannot meet them when you are aware of the problem. But I also know that I never meet my protein goal, which is easy for others. I don't even put this up as a plan because I currently have no idea how to do it. You can criticise me for "hiding" a goal. But I could also criticise people for "never meeting a goal". But because we are here to motivate each other we do not. Sometimes I read things here where I think "How on earth could you do/not do/agree to that?" or only "What did you just write?!? I can't believe it". I choose not to comment usually unless I feel personally involved. Other peoples lives are other peoples choices. And I think a lot of people here do exactly the same. A lot of the times when we do not agree, we do so in a way that will not hurt the others. So we can keep our friends. Because nobody is perfect.
I will always be there for my friends. Many have children now. I envy them. They whine about not getting enough sleep. I remember how they cried in my arms when one miscarried and the other had a stillborn. I think "Why are you not just thankful you have a husband and two children now. I was there for you in the bad times, now you are making what you wanted back then into a bad thing. I have neither a husband nor a child. What do you think I feel?" But they are my friends. I wipe ice cream of their children's mouths when we go out for a walk. I spend hours in children's clothing stores when we go shopping. I invite them over, kids and all, just so we can spend time with each other. I have rarely spent five minutes alone with some of them since they had kids. I keep my sorrows away from them to not stress them out more. But I do not blame them for their life having different ups and downs than mine. If I stop sharing with them what is their life I will lose them as friends. Their friendship is more important to me than the little pangs of hurt some topics give me. The community in this thread is also important enough to me that I obviously wrote a novel nobody should have to read, just because I really do not want this to go down silently.
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I do not like drama - I have enough of that in my own life
I love this thread and the friends I have made--- it is what has kept me going this past year. I am so close to my goal weight (11 more pounds to go), but I know with the holidays, I need to be accountable - and I need a thread like this.
I will continue to remain on this thread as long as it is active, but I have decided to also start another thread - simply called just ONE DAY AT A TIME.
I have noticed that we are not getting very many new people anymore.
Part of that could be because we all know each other so well, which is nice, but I also don't want to discourage anyone that might want to join. I had hoped, and still hope, that this will help anyone wanting to get healthy and to develop new habits.
So here is a link to the new thread I am starting. .
Just thought this new thread would also attract more people that might want to participate.
http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10608307/one-day-at-a-time#latest
You realise you don’t have to do that just because of what azul said.
Like you I value being able to share my life.
You all genuinely care about me.
I know there’s not many people joining although just 3 weeks ago lots did!
We’re all welcoming to them and support their goals and offer advice still, we all know what this board is for initially.4 -
azulvioleta6 wrote: »azulvioleta6 wrote: »When did this thread become "baby baby baby" all of the time? I am finding it extremely uncomfortable.
Anyone interested in a child-free just for today spin off?
Interesting. Personal relationships have a LOT to do with weight-loss, over-eating, and exercise motivation. It would seem that everyone should be open and supportive for all the joys and sorrows in life bc that affects someone's ability to stay committed. I feel like posting a "To-Do List" doesn't always completely motivate people. I truly thought this was a motivational group of people to encourage everyone to keep going. We are all trying to make life changes into a healthy lifestyle but that doesn't exclude life when it happens. My life revolves around my husband AND my children!!
I find that extraordinarily sad.
There are thousands of mommy groups and threads on MFP. I don't mind people talking about things outside of diet and fitness in this space, but if you want to post photos of the inside of your uterus (yuck!) and talk incessantly about reproductive issues WITHOUT POSTING ANY JUST FOR TODAY GOALS, then maybe you should go somewhere else. The topic is completely taking over this very useful tool. It's just way too much.
Joys and sorrows my *kitten*. Nobody wants to see photos of my hysterectomy and tumor removal splashed across the page while they are eating breakfast. Nobody cares about the sorrows.
Yes there is thousands of groups but my friends are HERE.
Loving your little stab at me there. You realise I don’t care what you think.
I even asked everyone if they wanted me to post bumpies etc and they all agreed or said they didn’t mind.
Tbh you’re acting like when someone loses a baby or has fertility issues and then their best friend gets pregnant and they just can’t be happy for them.
I don’t expect you to be happy for me or anything but come on. Grow up just a little. This is LIFE. People get pregnant, people want to share it with their friends.
I’m sorry you can’t have kids but it doesn’t mean everyone’s going to tiptoe around you just to not upset you. I’m not even gonna pretend I know what that must feel like because I have no clue.
But being bitter about it and everyone else is not a good look for you.4 -
Oh and Azul, if it’s “way too much” and because I’m not “posting JFT goals” you’ve got some
Massive problem then maybe you should be the one to leave.
The only person with a problem here is you.
And tbh you know you’re upsetting the rest of the board so maybe just stop now.2 -
skymningen wrote: »azulvioleta6 wrote: »
I find that extraordinarily sad.
There are thousands of mommy groups and threads on MFP. I don't mind people talking about things outside of diet and fitness in this space, but if you want to post photos of the inside of your uterus (yuck!) and talk incessantly about reproductive issues WITHOUT POSTING ANY JUST FOR TODAY GOALS, then maybe you should go somewhere else. The topic is completely taking over this very useful tool. It's just way too much.
Joys and sorrows my *kitten*. Nobody wants to see photos of my hysterectomy and tumor removal splashed across the page while they are eating breakfast. Nobody cares about the sorrows.
There are a plethora of groups and threads in these forums which specialize on daily or weekly goals. Equally, there are a plethora of groups which specialize on just talking amongst friends. Many of them started with a specific topic in mind but developed. There are "former Weight Watchers users" that welcome people who never tried WW now. I am in a weekly goal group where people share holiday pictures.
Amazingly, over the general "goal" of those groups and threads, people become friends, start to care about each other and talk. Most of my friends I met in some context that was not "looking for friends". My favourite coworker sits on the desk opposite of me all day. Sometimes we talk about work. Sometimes we talk about our boyfriends. I was there when she split up, I was there when she met her now husband, I was there at their wedding as a translator. All because we met as coworkers one day.
I cannot relate to all of the problems and dramas people have in this thread. I would love to have a child, but I am not sure if that is possible with my current career and partner. I am younger than many here. I work a lot, so often I get jealous at the things other people have time for. I get jealous at how often some of you eat out, at them spending time with their pets and families (I live alone and in a long distance relationship). I would like to volunteer, pick vegetables and cook big batches of food out of it, cuddle with my dog and husband, visit great new food places in town. I can't. Sometimes it makes me sad, but I am still happy for those who can.
I also have struggles deep inside me, things I cannot find the courage to talk about. Sometimes it bursts out of me, often it does not. I don't blame anyone to not know about my struggles that I don't share. Sometimes people here come with so many problems and I am already having a bad day. I want to yell "I am horrible too, just because my problem is different, it does not hurt me less." But I realize nobody here ever said "that is not a problem" or "stop whining, my life is worse". Even though I guess my problems are actually smaller compared to other, even though they probably cannot relate well to what I go through because it is so far away from their life, they are here to comfort me, motivate me, cheer me on. I am super thankful for this.
Maybe this thread has developed far from what it used to be. But that is how life goes. I don't think splitting the "just for today" goals from the talking would be better, as we often do refer to the goals, do explain why we did not reach one or how we manage to do so incredibly good on another. This is what gets us talking.
This is probably the place in my life right now where I am faced with the most drama, and still, it is some kind of safe haven for me. Because we handle each other's drama well. We don't make it our drama, but we are there for them if they need it. I would be very sad if there is any drama coming up between the people here. This is not what this thread is for.
I am sorry about your hysterectomy. I am sorry that it happened before you had the chance to have the child you seem to want. I would have been listening if you had chosen to talk about it. I would have let you whine if you needed to or discussed options of adoption if that was making you feel better. I would have asked how you feel when you get silent during a specific time that is hard for you. But you decided to not share that with me. That is totally fine. But please do not blame people for triggering you, when they had no idea they would. That really is not fair. I know that Bex lost a child. I take care not to trigger her, especially when I get the feeling she is feeling down already. I know that some people here regularly put up goals that they regularly do not meet. Some of these goals sound "easy" to me and I cannot relate how you cannot meet them when you are aware of the problem. But I also know that I never meet my protein goal, which is easy for others. I don't even put this up as a plan because I currently have no idea how to do it. You can criticise me for "hiding" a goal. But I could also criticise people for "never meeting a goal". But because we are here to motivate each other we do not. Sometimes I read things here where I think "How on earth could you do/not do/agree to that?" or only "What did you just write?!? I can't believe it". I choose not to comment usually unless I feel personally involved. Other peoples lives are other peoples choices. And I think a lot of people here do exactly the same. A lot of the times when we do not agree, we do so in a way that will not hurt the others. So we can keep our friends. Because nobody is perfect.
I will always be there for my friends. Many have children now. I envy them. They whine about not getting enough sleep. I remember how they cried in my arms when one miscarried and the other had a stillborn. I think "Why are you not just thankful you have a husband and two children now. I was there for you in the bad times, now you are making what you wanted back then into a bad thing. I have neither a husband nor a child. What do you think I feel?" But they are my friends. I wipe ice cream of their children's mouths when we go out for a walk. I spend hours in children's clothing stores when we go shopping. I invite them over, kids and all, just so we can spend time with each other. I have rarely spent five minutes alone with some of them since they had kids. I keep my sorrows away from them to not stress them out more. But I do not blame them for their life having different ups and downs than mine. If I stop sharing with them what is their life I will lose them as friends. Their friendship is more important to me than the little pangs of hurt some topics give me. The community in this thread is also important enough to me that I obviously wrote a novel nobody should have to read, just because I really do not want this to go down silently.
That was a great novel! You could publish that
Don’t worry about being careful what say around me. I know life is just life.
I always tell you all when I’m having a bad day anyway so if i do say something odd then you know it’s just me having a bad day 4 -
Yesterday:
1. Stick with my pre-logged food. had to add a snack because I was a little too good and had too many calories left.
2. Get through my water cup 3 times. 4 times!
3. Get 5000 steps in. We're having lunch at the park today so that should help. 6500!
Today:
1. Stick with plan and exercise enough to get it back in the green.
2. 5000 steps.
3. Don't be late for daycare dropoff because you procrastinate in the mornings.
4. Get the house cleaned up for your 11:30 meeting.
5. Go for a walk this evening.4 -
JFT: drink water
Log food intake
30 min/ 10,000 steps3 -
brittk2013 wrote: »Yesterday:
1. Stick with my pre-logged food. had to add a snack because I was a little too good and had too many calories left.
2. Get through my water cup 3 times. 4 times!
3. Get 5000 steps in. We're having lunch at the park today so that should help. 6500!
Today:
1. Stick with plan and exercise enough to get it back in the green.
2. 5000 steps.
3. Don't be late for daycare dropoff because you procrastinate in the mornings.
4. Get the house cleaned up for your 11:30 meeting.
5. Go for a walk this evening.
Nice one!
I’ve never had too little calories that I could treat myself! you’ve got some nice achievable goals!
How many lbs are you hoping to lose 2 -
azulvioleta6 wrote: »When did this thread become "baby baby baby" all of the time? I am finding it extremely uncomfortable.
Anyone interested in a child-free just for today spin off?
I guess we all have become friends, and that is why there is so much dicussion about a variety of topics. But .... I do also agree with you. This is suppose to be a thread encouraging healthy living and weight loss or maintainence. Maybe we can all work a little harder at keeping it that way (myself included)?
@azulvioleta6 you're right. It is about health & weight loss. And I agree with @Joan6630. It would be the same if someone was focusing on politics, I would probably drift out of the group. I love that we're evolving into a close knit group but I also don't think I could have emotionally handled the "detailed baby posts" back when I was struggling to get pregnant. I purposely disconnected from the baby culture to protect myself from the pain. I'm still very happy that we have expectant moms in our group. A spin off may be something to consider. Hoping my tone in this post comes across from a place of kindness and not a thread bully 2 -
My massage is now OFF- the washer officially died. I had to purchase a new one yesterday so THAT is my reward for tracking & trying to eat healthier. LOL
Drink water 9 CUPS- seems like I've regressed. Focus.
Aiming for 198lbs by Sunday-remind myself that if I can learn to take this weight off slowly, I'll have learned what it takes to keep it off.
Track meals today.
Walk dog in neighborhood.
Minimal volunteer work today.
Listen to something inspirational while walking.
Journal.
Made homemade cake last night for DH birthday. It turned out excellent, I had a slice and scale is up 2 lbs. I will share the cake over the next 2 days and than whatever's leftover is tossed. I love icing!
Meditate Calm App today.
Going to school/parent film called Screenagers about the effects of devices on our children. Trying to talk my 13 yr old into going. We'll have an early supper.
Struggling w/unhealthy afternoon snacking. Need to prep veggies for this. Will try drinking a protein drink around 2pm. Seems like from 2-5:30 I'm looking for anything to snack on and prone to unhealthy choices.
Remind myself-Do not let go of the reigns and be a passive observer of your life.
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slittlemeister wrote: »Ok, so yesterday was a bit of a fail...
Boyfriend and I are doing a wine tasting course on Wednesdays. You get to try 7 wines and 2 cheeses each week. They're all small quantities so don't add up to that much.
However.... somehow yesterday I ended up getting a little bit tipsy and decided it was a good idea to go to the supermarket on the way home to buy a couple of the wines we'd been trying - to practise tasting at the weekend. Somehow this escalated into buying another bottle of wine to start that evening as well as a packet of cheese which we ate the entirety of before bed.
The moral of the story? DON'T GO SHOPPING AFTER WINE TASTING!
I think that will have to be a regular commitment on my Wednesday list....
So, yesterday's commitments didn't go so well...
- Log everything I eat
- No snacks except ryvita
- Be in the green
- 30+ minute lunch break
- Meditate
- Don't procrastinate or be perfectionist - get tasks done efficiently
- Listen to music to boost mood
- Leave work at 5 for evening class
Today could be challenging. I have a big task to do which I'm really not looking forward to and which could be quite stressful.
I think I'm going to try something new today. If I feel the urge to go and snack, I will do something else first to calm/ de-stress me. Examples: listen to a happy song, look at Gran Canaria pictures on the net (going there in a few weeks), do a quick meditation, make a nice cup of tea.
Let's see how this goes...
Today's commitments -
- Log everything I eat
- No snacks except ryvita
- If feel the urge to snack, do something else (see above)
- NO ALCOHOL
- Be in the green
- 30+ minute lunch break
- Meditate
- Don't procrastinate or be perfectionist - get tasks done efficiently
- Only look at emails at selected intervals
LOL-you had me at cheese! I can't drink w/o partaking in snacking. But it sounded fun.3 -
@skymningen I read your novel! Very touching & well said. I guess there's no "perfect way" to handle these things other than to show support and compassion to one another. It's like Thanksgiving with the intoxicated Aunt that you have to look past....there are some days on this post that I will be that Aunt, and I'm sorry for that.
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I LOVE THIS GROUP!!
I hope this can all get by us, and we can continue helping each other.
I'll post later - its always hard for me to post during the day - but I consider you all friends and hope no one leaves this group.4 -
Just finished reading all the updated posts. Like many others that contribute regularly JFT, I love how this thread is supportive and has evolved. I consider all of you my friends, and I care about your sorrows as well as joys. Some share more than others, and that's ok. I share more at times than other times. It's helpful knowing about challenges others face, because sometimes I can empathize and be supportive. Sometimes I can adapt something for myself (Calm app from @Saragirl2). I cannot relate to everyone's struggles, and sometimes I am silent when that happens. No matter what, I will always be supportive and respectful. As mentioned previously, weight-control is so much more than what we eat. If it were easy, I'd list everything weight and non-weight related JFT and mission accomplished!
@skymningen I read every word of your novel. It was very eloquent and insightful. Thank you. Hugs to you.3
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