WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JUNE 2017
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Katla and Jenn, one day I want to see Vancouver. I have some cousins that live in Seattle. Now mostly all of her pictures are of nature such as waterfall, lighthouses, sunsets, whales, etc. but she is a natural photographer and it is make soon there so enticing. Today at lunch both my sister agreed that when our husbands died, that will be a trip we take. These cousins are twins in a family of 7 kids and they frequently have family reunions output there s that would be a perfect time. I am framing. One of her pictures to give my sister as a gift.
I hope you all had the kind of Father's Day celebration that you wanted to. I know we had a fantastic time, just my sister and her DH! Their son and his DW! Charlie and I and Michelle. It was also the celebration of the burning of their mortgage. He is an accountant and has refinanced their home so many times my poor sister thought they would never own it. He is a wonderful accountant but it took him a long time to find a job. There are so many people out there that want their accountant to fix their books. Jeff just won't do that so he was with fired or he quit quite often. He has now been in his present position for a long time and has stepped down from manager to an employee because just like most us is approaching 70, my sis is on her 2nd cancer and he wants more quality of life.
We had a real nice service this morning. As I have said before, our preacher doesn't preach on themes, he goes through the Bible, chapter by chapter. Today just happened to be the definition of a family. So many different kinds of family and I am glad that MFP created a forum such as this that we could have this sisterhood. It is quite the family. The choir sang 'As for me and my house, we will serv the Lord'. I have always thought of that song as a wedding song but when you sing it, it is about a family. Or a church family, or a close group like us. No, we all don't worship the same God here but he have a commitment to help each other in the loving way that the song says to.
We are going. To contact the landscaper tomorrow and sign a contract. He is about 2 months our for work wouldn't begin until like late August or September. I remind Charlie, don't we women have to do that quite frequently, that we have over the minimum that he stated he wanted in the back to have both and bac k yard done. So we will have that done. There was on,y one item we can scratch off his list. He wanted to divert our guttering 45 degrees, dig a trench in the yard and put a pop up drainage in the front yard. For one thing I don't understand it and another thing, when the contractor put the guttering downspout where he did it, we wanted it facing that way to go down into the driveway. I don't know the names of these plants but we saw some plants at Wally World today that are perrinials that Charlie liked. Beautiful variagted leaves in night purple and green colors. When Charlie finds a plant he likes, I better think hard in getting it! Speaking of plants and Charlie, I have only recieved them once from him and that was at the birth of Christina. He felt so proud of himself. He gave me a cactus! But it was in a. Ice little pot, notice little so the cactus was little. We still use the vase/pot on his dresser as a place to put things in that come out of his pockets at night. He is very proud of that gift. I have never asked or hinted I wanted a flower from him.
LIsa, yet a mother wonderful talent?
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That was a lot of reading to catch up again but I did.
Michele - So sorry to hear about your cousin. Life is so unpredictable.
Allie - Do Not trust a word that man utters. The sooner you get him out, the better.
Pip - Awesome! Congratulations to you and Kirby.
Bear Lady Weez! - congratulations on losing 10 lbs.
Camping was good other than being a little chilly at times. We took Keira. I think she had a good time. We did puzzles, coloured, painted rocks, explored, walked along the river, watched squirrels and birds. It was a nice bonding time.
Pulled out my journal and realized I haven't written since last August. It was nice to just put down some words and feelings. I have always journalled and it has helped me many times. Last August was spreading my friend's ashes and Steven's taking of his own life. I need to journal to help with my balance issue.
Spent quite a bit of time taking photos. I also read. I loved listening to the birds, squirrels and rushing water.
Good night
-Sharon in Lethbridge
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morning ladies~ another evening of not sleeping well..
I think he is going to see an attorney this afternoon.. he is getting very brazen he had his cell phone in the family room, and I was in my bedroom, went into the master and saw him texting , when he saw me coming he put his phone down in the chair.
think I might spend a few hundred bucks on a private eye, to take pictures of him leaving work with the girlfriend..to expensive to have him follow them up to New Hampshire..and Maine
will ask my attorney but would love to put a note in his luggage saying have a great weekend you just nailed your coffin..
dropping off the last of the paperwork I can get to her this morning..2 -
Morning! Had a wonderful visit with Rori including a nice walk around the grounds of her conference center
(sticky hot but neither of us got bitten by mosquitos) followed by a Terrific meal at a restaurant in the little town I work. I had a veggie burger and rori had delicious fish tacos, and we both said no thank you to dessert, we were fierce! I've included a pic of a really delicious mango salad we shared. Rori will post our selfi of us walking in the woods. She is one great lady and I'm happy we've connected.
It's wrap up, cleanup week for me, gotta pack up 3 school classrooms and tie up the loose ends. Hope the heatwave breaks soon. Stay cool everyone.
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Did an hour of extreme strength DVD today. Originally I was planning to go to the Y to do some HIIT so now it looks like I'll probably do my HIIT at the hotel tomorrow.
Sharon - thank you very much for your thoughts
NYKaren - how wonderful you and Rori met up. Isn't she just a wonderful gal? Great looking salad. Was that some kind of Chinese noodle in there?
Denise just posted on Facebook about how she can't wait to get married and how she's looking forward to the cake topper that I got her. Little does she know that I got it mainly as a joke for Pete from the Salvation Army. Not like I'll tell her, either.
Going to get some things ready before we leave.
Michele in NC
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Sermon series at church is eat, move, sleep, pray. I missed the eat one because we had tremendous storm come through last Sunday. I heard the move one yesterday. I like the series because it preaches how important it is to take care of yourself. One of my friends at church filled me in on the eat.
Enjoyed Father's Day just had a simple cookout.
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Thank you all for the kind words and encouragement. We had a cookout yesterday for Father's Day and I did have a sliver (and I do mean a sliver) of my sister's chocolate pie, But I didn't eat dinner and stayed within my calories.
My weight this morning is down 13 lbs from my doctor's visit 2 weeks ago so I am happy about that.
DH has another injection this morning so I am off to do that.
Hope you all have a great day.
P.S. Lisa, love the art work, my daughter would go crazy over the treble clef picture.6 -
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Machka: I am really out of this loop. I don't know what a VPN is, either. Your poutine looks like a mix of nuts & dried fruit. It also looks quite yummy.
Sharon: I'm glad you were able to put words down in your journal. Writing is an important part of you.
Both of our kids remembered that yesterday was Father's Day and called their dad. I completely forgot and feel awful about it. No card, no special meal, nothing. I am ashamed of myself and sad that I let my wonderful DH down.
Katla in beautiful NW Oregon
"Normally I'm quite normal . . ." The Gods Must be Crazy
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Katla- don't be hard on yourself, you can always make today or tomorrow his very very very special day! I am sure you know how to do that! Breakfast in bed…
Mary from Minnesota3 -
Stronglift Workout B
Squats-1X5X 55/65, 5X5X 75
OHP- 1X5X 45, 5X5X 50
DL- 15X 115
Kettlebell Swing
GobletSquats- 3X5X35
Russian Kettlebell Swing- 14X7X35
June move your @$$ Challenge
I am going to mow the upper part of our lawn today and plant a lot of flowers! The flower shop at 50% off then another 50% off so I have my work cut out for me!3 -
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Made my DH Sweet Italian Chicken Sausages with spaghetti and meat sauce. Stayed within my calorie limit! Have to to for a prescription checkup tomorrow and hoping my weight will not be more than it was last Fall.
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Katla - Over here it is the children who should be making a fuss of their dads, not their wives! :noway: DH believes it is just a commercial conspiracy by the card companies (he is right) so even his daughters don't get in touch. I certainly did nothing special for him. I save that for the two anniversaries we celebrate and his birthday.
Hot again here. DH went big store shopping, bless him. I stayed in the cool and prepped dinner, made yoghurt and did a few chores. The gardening work is starting tomorrow (!!!!!)
so this evening I want to pick the dill, arugula and coriander that is in one of the beds they are taking out. Also plant the rosemary. DH has a lot of gooseberries and blackcurrants to pick, though they are only replacing the wood around that bed. I hope with minimal disruption. I don't know what they are going to make of the shed full of junk when they come to remove the shed tomorrow! I hope they can just leave it in situ.
I have put my front fuschia in the shade for now - it doesn't like being baked against the wall in the afternoon.
At the moment I am typing this lying on our bed with the exercise room fan blasting cool air at me. Well, the air isn't cool, but I feel cooler.
Nice.
Reading a book called BEHAVE, by a brain scientist about why we do what we do. Interesting.
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Happy Monday!
Heather – we don’t make a big deal of Father’s Day at our house either – takes the pressure off DH to get ME something for Mother’s Day from the animals and agree that it’s another commercial holiday – we don’t really do Valentine’s Day either. The critters gave him kisses and he was happy with that.
Michele – has Vince always been into drums and making music? My DH really got into it after he retired, trying to recapture his youth I guess and spent time playing the drums (he also walled off part of his shop) until he broke his back. His claim to fame was playing the drums in a local teen band that opened for Freddy Cannon at some fair over 50 years ago, lol. He is a good guitar player and several nice ones, but the arthritis in his hands has taken a toll.
The big news here is Amazon buying Whole Foods and what that will do to Walmart. So many neat little grocery stores closed in our area when Walmart came in about 15 years ago, they just couldn’t compete. One of the last hold-out grocery stores that sold a lot of organic and specialty foods including great fresh meat has announced they are going out of business so are now in “20% off everything” mode. I loaded up on Bragg’s organic Apple Cider Vinegar on Saturday and may get more since it keeps for years.
I consider Walmart a necessary evil.
Found this photo on FB this morning. Just yesterday I took the light dumbbells and ankle weights off the counter in the potting shed to make room for heavier weights. Don’t want to get rid of them – they may come in handy some day if I am recuperating from an injury.
It's going to be warm (80's) and humid today...."sultry" for here. So far we've been lucky it hasn't been a cooker here in the Pacific Northwest like in so many other areas.
Have a great week!
Lanette
SW WA State
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I am not having the best day. I forgot it was Father's Day & didn't even get DH a card. He asked for tuna casserole for dinner and I didn't get that done, either. He's sad and so am I.
Katla the sad, embarrassed, & mad at myself
Don't beat yourself up friend! He's not your father. Some holidays don't work out as planned. Make the tuna casserole when you can, make up a silly card, and just let the sad embarrassed, and mad feelings go. Hugs!
Becca
Where any day can be fathers day in your own mind and in
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Hi ladies. Well we had quite the weekend...2 tornadoes on Friday night. We spent most of the weekend without power and had a huge maple tree broken in half. So I spent a lot of the weekend cleaning up! Hope you all survived the bad weather too! Meg from Omaha where the college world series goes on!4
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Machka: I am really out of this loop. I don't know what a VPN is, either. Your poutine looks like a mix of nuts & dried fruit. It also looks quite yummy.
VPN stands for Virtual Private Network and lets you browse the internet without being identified ... to some extent. I would venture a guess that most of us do not use a VPN and so therefore everything we type here is public to everyone ... to pretty much everyone in the world. I could do a Google search and locate what someone here said months ago. (And this insistence on using our real names and locations makes this particular thread even more public and traceable than others) Being public isn't necessarily a problem if we're discussing poutine and exercise but could present issues if lawyers are involved in some way.
T-O-R puts up even more of a barrier than VPN and allows people to access things which they wouldn't otherwise be able to access and also to hide their identity while they are doing that.
Poutine is chips (french fries) smothered in gravy and cheese curds.
You gain 5 lbs just looking at it. In this case they added chorizo sausage which was a nice touch. And that's ketchup in the little side dish ... I'm not so fond of that part.
And regarding Father's day ... it is in September in Australia. So you've got a second chance for it! 6 -
I wanted to put my two cents in about holidays. Over the years I have gotten used to a gift of a hug for Mothers Day, or my birthday. When its Fathers Day, or my husbands birthday I send notes to sons reminding them, and when they lived at home I would have them make a card. The day before fathers day I told my 18 yr old to write something heartfelt for him. Oh my gosh, you'd think I had asked him to travel to the moon naked or something! While he was steaming on the couch eating breakfast and slowly imploding, I had asked him about a function on my tablet....OK then he hit his scalp with his fist like a crazy person... I calmly told him to sit over where I was sitting and proceeded to talk him about the dos and donts of responses. Plainly put, I told him that he takes in information, and when I ask him to do it, like putting a card together, its not worth stressing over. I told him that he will always be told to do things all his life. Hitting himself with his knuckles isn't a response that is acceptable, nor does it match the task at hand. I told him I never wanted to see that happen. I told him, I wasn't asking much of him, just a view words on a page. I am thinking that over the years dealing with his fathers illness, and putting his emotions in the back of his mind, it has stunted his emotional growth a bit.
But what I am getting at is that I do all the reminding, but when its MY day it is not reciprocated. Yesterday, husband was wanting this or that, and I have to not think about no special thing from either husband or son on my day. A hug, and I did have a nice day though. Feeling like a spoiled kitten whining I know...what feelings do you all have about holidays? Can you relate to this?
Becca
Oregon
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janetr7476 wrote: »Karen VA - wish I could get someone to cut my hair like that
Janetr OKC
Janetr Girl, come on up to Richmond and visit me. I'll take you to Lynne and she will give you an awesome cut for $28!
Karen in VIrginia
p.s. I like your hair the way it is...
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Becca ~ You sound so wise in the way you talked to your son. I wish I could do that.5
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Good morning.
Becca (and all talking about Father's Day and other "special days").
When I was growing up all of the "commercial" holidays were important. I remember my mother making pink heart shaped pancakes for breakfast on Valentine's day. We had beautiful Easter baskets and treats on Easter. We picked flowers, made May baskets, and hung them on our neighbors' door knobs on May Day. So you can imagine that Father's Day and Mother's Day were also a very big deal. We would never have even thought about missing any of these holidays.
Fast forward, and everything has changed. And I don't like it. I made a big deal about Mother's Day for my mother, and invited her and my niece and her daughter to have a nice dinner about an hour from where they live (about two hours from us.) When my husband asked me what I wanted to do for Mother's day, I told him, and he said, "Well, I'm not sure I can make that, but you go ahead." Huh? As it turned out, he did go. I bought flowers for my niece and my mother, drove my family up to the restaurant, paid for all of us to have a delicious buffet. My mother did give me an unwrapped gluten-free cookbook that she bought at a discount place, so that was nice. (Although I did panic after I got home that it wasn't actually intended for me, that she was just showing it to me, and that I had actually ended up stealing it from the restaurant/shop, but I verified by the price tag on it that it didn't belong to the restaurant.)
Anyway, I was throwing a big pity party for myself after we got home Mother's Day afternoon. My husband did end up going out later on Mother's day and bought a plant for me, and my little guy gave me a card he had made at school. But it was still a little underwhelming.
So Father's day comes along, and my youngest son and I decided that we would take my husband hiking (because that's what he loves most to do). I didn't buy him a card or anything, but after church, we went to Jersey Mike's to get sandwiches (I got mine in a tub), and we drove up the Santiam Hwy to check on the construction of our greenhouse (what my husband specifically said he wanted to do), then went hiking in the Willamette National Forest. We went to an amazing water fall . . .
(Not my picture, but this is where we hiked to), and he was so happy. I felt so satisfied that I'd actually done something that pleased him.
After the hike, we drove back into town, stopped to get them something to eat at DQ (!!! -- I ate a gf energy bar that I had in the car), and he started complaining that none of his adult kids were calling him. They never did.
I have reminded them in the past, and that didn't seem to make much difference, so I didn't contact them this year. I mean, they know it's father's day. Two of them are fathers. I tried to explain that not everybody thinks it's a big deal, and to try to let it go.
But then I said, what I really believe, that yes, it's commercial, but I also don't think it's a bad idea to set aside one day a year to tell the people we love that we appreciate them. Sure, we should do it every day, but we don't. At least I don't. I told him that J (my youngest son) and I appreciate him and all he does for us and that we were happy to take a day to let him know specifically that we love him and think he's terrific. My son was there listening because I wanted him to know how important it is.
(His ex-wife did text him a Happy Father's day note -- she always remembers his birthday too, when none of the kids do.
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Sorry this got long, but I woke up really upset this morning. I'm trying to let it go, but as I've mentioned before, he doesn't really have any friends, his kids can't even bother to contact him on his birthday or father's day. I am feeling really overwhelmed that he doesn't have anybody but me. It just reminded me how much pressure that puts on me to be all and everything, and I can't do it. I fail all of the time. (Which is why, I guess, I was so satisfied to see him happy for a few minutes at the waterfall.) Feeling really emotional today.
TLDR: I think holidays are important.
Felicia
Willamette Valley, Oregon
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Becca ... I do relate to the holiday thing ... women just seem to take on the role of managing all of the holidays. Without Mom orchestrating, holiday "memories" probably wouldn't happen.
I also didn't do anything for my husband for Father's Day ... he's not my dad ... but I did remind my sons. Neither did anything for him besides wishing him a nice day. I made a dinner I know he enjoys because everyone was home. I asked my husband not to do anything for Mother's Day and see if the boys would do anything. I mean really, one's 19 and the other 30! Both remembered with very simple gifts and that was just fine by me.
Now ... out of the blue yesterday ... my husband looked at me and said "at church today ... you were the prettiest of them all." I dang near died laughing and suggested he get his eyes checked! But he insisted it was true. I think I'll keep him!
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Karen in VA LOL Thanks. I guess as long as my hair is short and I don't have to mess with it, it doesn't make much difference to me.
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Popping on to say Hi! I was on this morning and started to post, but get this! All- A.L.L. of my kids arrived early this morning. We are talking between 45 minutes to ten minutes EARLY! No phone call from parents (not one parent!) asking if it was okay to drop off early! I swear to GOD, I think they planned it in some twisted attempt to make me crazy! Needless to say, I did post a message to them all after I fed their kids breakfast and let them know that it was NOT okay to do that. Geez, as if a ten and a half hour day isn't long enough! And that is just with kids in my house, that doesn't count the set up time and the clean up time. My work day is more like 12 hours long. Anyway, I am here. Lost my post. Grrrr... Now I will catch up on the most recent posts and see if I can remember who I replied to this morning and go from there. The good news, the day is almost over! Oh! And I got my Challenge workout done at lunchtime/naptime for the kids! Challenge Day 19: 70 jacks, 160 squats, 110 crunches, and rest day for plank.6
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Hi ladies. Well we had quite the weekend...2 tornadoes on Friday night. We spent most of the weekend without power and had a huge maple tree broken in half. So I spent a lot of the weekend cleaning up! Hope you all survived the bad weather too! Meg from Omaha where the college world series goes on!
Meg - glad your house wasn't damaged by the tornadoes! Sorry to hear about the maple and the cleanup and loss of power....glad it's back on.
Do you have a storm cellar by the way? Pretty scary when the winds blow!
Lanette
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I think the special days are really for the young. My DnL is so good about making sure her children are raised knowing about holidays and participating. She has been great at inviting my DH and I for family events. It seems like the older I get, I just get too anxious about getting the house and food ready so I am glad she is doing it.
Carol in GA0
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