WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JUNE 2017

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  • KetoneKaren
    KetoneKaren Posts: 6,411 Member
    edited June 2017
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    janetr7476 wrote: »
    Karen VA - wish I could get someone to cut my hair like that :)

    Janetr OKC

    Janetr Girl, come on up to Richmond and visit me. I'll take you to Lynne and she will give you an awesome cut for $28! :)

    Karen in VIrginia

    p.s. I like your hair the way it is...

  • OregonMother
    OregonMother Posts: 1,592 Member
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    Good morning.

    Becca (and all talking about Father's Day and other "special days").

    When I was growing up all of the "commercial" holidays were important. I remember my mother making pink heart shaped pancakes for breakfast on Valentine's day. We had beautiful Easter baskets and treats on Easter. We picked flowers, made May baskets, and hung them on our neighbors' door knobs on May Day. So you can imagine that Father's Day and Mother's Day were also a very big deal. We would never have even thought about missing any of these holidays.

    Fast forward, and everything has changed. And I don't like it. I made a big deal about Mother's Day for my mother, and invited her and my niece and her daughter to have a nice dinner about an hour from where they live (about two hours from us.) When my husband asked me what I wanted to do for Mother's day, I told him, and he said, "Well, I'm not sure I can make that, but you go ahead." Huh? As it turned out, he did go. I bought flowers for my niece and my mother, drove my family up to the restaurant, paid for all of us to have a delicious buffet. My mother did give me an unwrapped gluten-free cookbook that she bought at a discount place, so that was nice. (Although I did panic after I got home that it wasn't actually intended for me, that she was just showing it to me, and that I had actually ended up stealing it from the restaurant/shop, but I verified by the price tag on it that it didn't belong to the restaurant.)

    Anyway, I was throwing a big pity party for myself after we got home Mother's Day afternoon. My husband did end up going out later on Mother's day and bought a plant for me, and my little guy gave me a card he had made at school. But it was still a little underwhelming.

    So Father's day comes along, and my youngest son and I decided that we would take my husband hiking (because that's what he loves most to do). I didn't buy him a card or anything, but after church, we went to Jersey Mike's to get sandwiches (I got mine in a tub), and we drove up the Santiam Hwy to check on the construction of our greenhouse (what my husband specifically said he wanted to do), then went hiking in the Willamette National Forest. We went to an amazing water fall . . .
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    (Not my picture, but this is where we hiked to), and he was so happy. I felt so satisfied that I'd actually done something that pleased him.

    After the hike, we drove back into town, stopped to get them something to eat at DQ (!!! -- I ate a gf energy bar that I had in the car), and he started complaining that none of his adult kids were calling him. They never did. :disappointed: I have reminded them in the past, and that didn't seem to make much difference, so I didn't contact them this year. I mean, they know it's father's day. Two of them are fathers. I tried to explain that not everybody thinks it's a big deal, and to try to let it go.

    But then I said, what I really believe, that yes, it's commercial, but I also don't think it's a bad idea to set aside one day a year to tell the people we love that we appreciate them. Sure, we should do it every day, but we don't. At least I don't. I told him that J (my youngest son) and I appreciate him and all he does for us and that we were happy to take a day to let him know specifically that we love him and think he's terrific. My son was there listening because I wanted him to know how important it is.

    (His ex-wife did text him a Happy Father's day note -- she always remembers his birthday too, when none of the kids do. :neutral: )

    Sorry this got long, but I woke up really upset this morning. I'm trying to let it go, but as I've mentioned before, he doesn't really have any friends, his kids can't even bother to contact him on his birthday or father's day. I am feeling really overwhelmed that he doesn't have anybody but me. It just reminded me how much pressure that puts on me to be all and everything, and I can't do it. I fail all of the time. (Which is why, I guess, I was so satisfied to see him happy for a few minutes at the waterfall.) :disappointed: Feeling really emotional today.

    TLDR: I think holidays are important. :smiley:

    Felicia
    Willamette Valley, Oregon
  • KetoneKaren
    KetoneKaren Posts: 6,411 Member
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    Peach1948 wrote: »
    Becca ~ You sound so wise in the way you talked to your son. I wish I could do that.

    I second what Carol said about the way Becca talked to her son.

    Karen in Virginia
  • janetr7476
    janetr7476 Posts: 4,001 Member
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    Karen in VA LOL Thanks. I guess as long as my hair is short and I don't have to mess with it, it doesn't make much difference to me.

    Janetr okc
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 16,746 Member
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  • SophieRosieMom
    SophieRosieMom Posts: 3,439 Member
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    megblair1 wrote: »
    Hi ladies. Well we had quite the weekend...2 tornadoes on Friday night. We spent most of the weekend without power and had a huge maple tree broken in half. So I spent a lot of the weekend cleaning up! Hope you all survived the bad weather too! Meg from Omaha where the college world series goes on!

    Meg - glad your house wasn't damaged by the tornadoes! Sorry to hear about the maple and the cleanup and loss of power....glad it's back on.

    Do you have a storm cellar by the way? Pretty scary when the winds blow!

    Lanette

  • Peach1948
    Peach1948 Posts: 2,473 Member
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    I think the special days are really for the young. My DnL is so good about making sure her children are raised knowing about holidays and participating. She has been great at inviting my DH and I for family events. It seems like the older I get, I just get too anxious about getting the house and food ready so I am glad she is doing it.

    Carol in GA
  • klanders30
    klanders30 Posts: 2,569 Member
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    Beth DH knows what he is talking about, I say take the compliment and bank it for a rainy day.

    Kelly I would charge parent's time and a half for those early dropoffs or late pickups for that matter1

    Supposed to have a tornado heading our way this afternoon, more likely torrential thunderstorms, so I will be driving DD back and forth to work today.

    Food planning going well, gonna get myself to the gym in between errands this afternoon.

    NYKAREN
  • bwcetc
    bwcetc Posts: 2,781 Member
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    Kelly ... a brochure from the funeral home ... I just choked on my late lunch!! Too funny!!
  • skuehn48
    skuehn48 Posts: 2,899 Member
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    Hello All: Went to the YM this morning and got my exercise done. I have been doing well with food today. I see the doctor tomorrow morning and am hoping to get off of the trazodone. It is making me dizzy, gives me a headache, leaves me groggy for most of the day and makes me moody. I wanted to cry today in the middle of yoga class and I have no idea why other than that medication.

    Pip - Congratulations to you and KIrby.

    Lisa - Hope all of your paintings sold.

    Ginger - I loved that sign except that would definitely not waste my money on Twinkies.

    Meg - Glad you and yours are safe. It is sad to lose a large tree though.

    Everyone take care, Sue in WA
  • trisH_7183
    trisH_7183 Posts: 1,486 Member
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  • SophieRosieMom
    SophieRosieMom Posts: 3,439 Member
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    Becca - I think the gals are right, it's been up to the moms to orchestrate holidays. And it's not like it used to be. I used to get my feelings hurt because DH (and other family members) didn't even think to send a card/email/thank you for holidays and gifts sent. (None of them live close by) I guess it's just not important to them so I've pretty much stopped doing it.

    Luckily, I have friends and loved ones near that fill the gap.

    You should be a child psychologist, lol. Your explanation to your son about the importance of writing a few words to his dad was very good. Are your other sons good about calling when they can? I don't think guys "get it" as a general rule. And once Owain is away from home, I bet he'll miss mom & dad and be more attentive.

    And your explanation to your son about pornography not for his age bracket... :D I don't know how else a person could handle it without threats. He's such a smart kid and reasoning was probably your best chance.

    Oh, by the way....I used the insurance money from the diet wagon to buy Little Debbies. >:)

    Lanette
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 16,746 Member
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    stats for the day:

    **wahoo hrm not recording, low battery on phone**

    bike ride hm 2 gym- 12.33min. 132mhr, 14mph, 2.9mi = 123c
    apple watch- 115c
    SPIN CLASS- 40min, 84ar, 107aw, 10-16g, 16.5mi = 320c
    bike ride gym 2 dome- 5.06min, 16.4amph, 1.3mi = 52c
    bike ride from puyallup 2 sumn station- 12.23min, 14.7amph, 3mi=125c
    walk station 2 wk- 7.47min, 3.9ap, .5mi = 49c
    wahoo him worked for the 2 below:
    walk wk 2 sta- 7.01min, 4.0ap, .4mi = 59c
    apple watch- 49c
    bike ride dome 2 hm- 16.45min, 9.4amph, 152mhr, 2.6mi =. 167c
    apple watch- 144c

    total cal 895

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