How to become that skinny friend who eats what they want and dont gain weight
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Great discussion!0
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BTW - OP - I agree with you. The childish attacks are really ridiculous. But this is the internet and you have to have a think skin. I personally ignore it.
Good luck.
BTW - I still haven't found the video I was looking for. I bet I'll stumble across it a year from now and then I won't be able to find this thread.
Yes exactly .Thanks dewd2 you are cool ill follow ypu
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JessicaMcB wrote: »Move around a lot.
Doesn't Freelee the Banana Girl have a calorie intake of like, 6k cal a day or something crazy like that? But she sprints and jogs and walks from sunrise to sundown every day of her life, so.
See this is kind of part of the issue with the perception of effortless thinness. It APPEARS like her intake is that high because it isn't concretely quantified, but I highly doubt her daily maintenance intake is 6000 even with heavy activity.
For reference I only burned 6937 on the day of my 50 mile ultra including several kilometres of walking around Whistler AND I'm a tall broad. I really can't see Freelee putting in the level of physical effort that would be commensurate to a woman her height burning that much on the daily, idgaf what super banana powers she claims to have lol.
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PaulaWallaDingDong wrote: »PaulaWallaDingDong wrote: »suzannesimmons3 wrote: »PaulaWallaDingDong wrote: »
So you're like with them at work/school, dates, out and about, etc. or just when they are home?Because I live with one and I do see them all the time and have friends also who are like this
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Well the roomie doesn't work, and I'm guessing the OP does? So I'm thinking hidden cameras.
I'm thinking op.should spend more.time worrying about herself than her room mate.
Is it just me that thinks of single white female.here
Haha you are so immature .Who said it was my roomate ? And who said I was worried ?Seriously you guys on MFP need to be a bit more educated and maybe read over what I posted again
You said you live with the person. Your mom? Your wife? Sister? What difference does it make? I'm not sure why I assumed female, but if it's a guy, that's another reason they can eat more.
And it's not nice insulting people just because you're not getting the answers you're expecting. That's, erm, immature.
Where did I insult someone ? Immature is that the word you think is an insult.The truth hurts doesnt it but anyway I have the answer now so you dont need to waste your time arguing with some stranger on the internet that you will never know LOL
Yes, calling someone immature, especially where it's not warranted because YOU lack understanding on the topic and people are trying to HELP YOU understand, is definitely an insult. Quit projecting.
Oh really ? What about the comment you were laughing about with somebody else where they called me a "white single female' which I am not for your information.What if I so happened to be someone who lost a partner to death recently and you are there cracking immature jokes about someone you dont even know.Also why refer to someone as being 'white'.Why does it matter if someone is white or black ?
Oh Lord Almighty. Here's the quote:suzannesimmons3 wrote: »PaulaWallaDingDong wrote: »
So you're like with them at work/school, dates, out and about, etc. or just when they are home?Because I live with one and I do see them all the time and have friends also who are like this
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Well the roomie doesn't work, and I'm guessing the OP does? So I'm thinking hidden cameras.
I'm thinking op.should spend more.time worrying about herself than her room mate.
Is it just me that thinks of single white female.here
They were comparing your situation to the movie. It's nobody else's fault that you didn't understand it and found it offensive. It's not really your fault, either, if you're not familiar with the movie. Now you know.
Stop taking every statement as a personal attack. You came hear to learn, yes? So stop deflecting and pay attention.15 -
I see you posted this in Nutrition category...not the debate...so will respond to your question. I think it is genetics at their particular age at this particular time. Case in point, a few of my best girl friends were all naturally skinny when we were in teens and twenties, 30's. Couldn't gain weight for nothing even eating average of 4,000 calories of food a day. One gal was trying to gain weight focused on 4,000 cal/day. Some didn't care about her weight, average height, ate whatever they felt like. one gal was about 4'10" tall. So fast forward to we are all in our late 50s, early 60s. One gal who was trying to gain weight is now on Ensure and can't keep enough weight on even for a healthy range, the 4'10" gal is 'bottom heavy' for her size (not overweight, its just settled a li'l south), the other normal weight friends are still in that category of normal weight. Tho, none of us eat like we used to with the 4,000 cal/day or even 2,000 cal/day. We all eat a healthy normal diet. We eat till we are full and then stop. If we feel like "salad" we eat "salad"...if we feel like "pizza" we eat "pizza"..or whatever.
So, its genetics.
(for the record, I log it all cuz I'm a distance cyclist)0 -
TavistockToad wrote: »PaulaWallaDingDong wrote: »PaulaWallaDingDong wrote: »suzannesimmons3 wrote: »PaulaWallaDingDong wrote: »
So you're like with them at work/school, dates, out and about, etc. or just when they are home?Because I live with one and I do see them all the time and have friends also who are like this
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Well the roomie doesn't work, and I'm guessing the OP does? So I'm thinking hidden cameras.
I'm thinking op.should spend more.time worrying about herself than her room mate.
Is it just me that thinks of single white female.here
Haha you are so immature .Who said it was my roomate ? And who said I was worried ?Seriously you guys on MFP need to be a bit more educated and maybe read over what I posted again
You said you live with the person. Your mom? Your wife? Sister? What difference does it make? I'm not sure why I assumed female, but if it's a guy, that's another reason they can eat more.
And it's not nice insulting people just because you're not getting the answers you're expecting. That's, erm, immature.
Where did I insult someone ? Immature is that the word you think is an insult.The truth hurts doesnt it but anyway I have the answer now so you dont need to waste your time arguing with some stranger on the internet that you will never know LOL
Yes, calling someone immature, especially where it's not warranted because YOU lack understanding on the topic and people are trying to HELP YOU understand, is definitely an insult. Quit projecting.
Oh really ? What about the comment you were laughing about with somebody else where they called me a "white single female' which I am not for your information.What if I so happened to be someone who lost a partner to death recently and you are there cracking immature jokes about someone you dont even know.Also why refer to someone as being 'white'.Why does it matter if someone is white or black ?
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'Single while female' is a film...
Well they werent talking about a film when they were looking for attention.They posted who else thinks this person is a 'Single white female'
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How come some skinny people eat more than an overweight person and remain the same ?I see so many skinny people stuffing their face constantly and they stay the same all the time.I dont get it do you ? I would love to be one of those people lol
All these naysayers...
I just want to acknowledge that what you're witnessing does happen. I was one of those people in my 20s. I'm still one of those people, to a slightly lesser degree, now that I'm older. Observe, a day in the life of my 20s-self!
Breakfast:
Two sausage and egg breakfasts (from a fast food joint, so roughly ~600 calories each: 1200 calories total)
1 Snickers (~200 calories)
Orange juice ('cause that balances out everything and makes it healthy, right?)(~100 calories)
BREAKFAST TOTAL: 1500 calories
Lunch:
Jack in the Box Ultimate Bacon Cheeseburger (~900 calories)
Jack in the Box Seasoned Curly Fries (~400 calories)
Diet Coke (because...balance and negation...) (0 calories)
LUNCH TOTAL: 1300 calories
Dinner:
Mostly the same as lunch: 1300 calories
And then tequila shots with friends later in the evening! five shots at ~70/calories each= 350 calories
Followed by Denny's to soak up the alcohol: All American Slam ~900 calories
DINNER TOTAL: 2550
Oh, and there were also at least two venti mochas each day to help me stay awake and stuff. What's that? 700 calories total? So now we're at 3250.
And the building in which I worked had these really good chocolate chip cookies. I always had at least one of those. Add at least another 100, because they were big cookies.
So what are we looking at: 3350 calories a day? And not really working out? I mean, I'd run a few miles here and there, but that was about it. I still hovered at between a size 6 and 8 (4 in some brands!)
My secret? Luck. That's it. I got really lucky with my metabolism.
I mean, I think I've read that if you're some crazy kind of beast at the gym then your metabolism is always revving, but that wasn't me. I was just lucky.12 -
I feel ya! Been there my whole life. I don't think we really know all the reasons why yet, but I have read some interesting studies. The scientists are just starting to learn about the trillions of bacteria that live inside us. One did a study with two mice, where the intestinal bacteria was taken out of the fat mouse and implanted in the skinny one and vice a versa. The fat mouse got skinny and the skinny mouse got fat. So it's possible that gut bacteria has something to do with it. I also read an article that suggested that our endocrine system plays a role. The hormones insulin, is the fat storage hormone. Some people become diabetic from sugar and carbs, others don't. My take away is to figure out what works best for you and focus there. As unfair as it seems, you can't compare yourself against someone like that, or you will feel bad all the time. Oh and if you do find the answer, let me know! Good luck!
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Please note: I am going to move this section to debate now. The OP has had their question answered by several different view points and I feel from here for this discussion to continue it needs to be clear this has become a debate and I encourage people to cite their sources going forward (in this discussion) than only sharing anecdotal information.
For the OP and anyone else who has posted, please abandon this thread now if you aren't interested in a respectful, scientific based debate and discussion on the topics. Its completely okay if that isn't what or even how you are wanting to have this conversation but then move along because its now in debate.
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This line of thinking is so dumb.
My office had a Diwali party recently, I'm a huge fan of Indian sweets, so during the previous week I ran a large daily deficit and binged during the party and got the same type of comments. But if you look at the entire week I'm still at a deficit.5 -
Whales eat plankton which is low calorie, so this is why.ShaeTheSweetest wrote: »Im with you... hate those people! Haha my best friend is skinny as a rail. Hip bones sticking out and everything and she eats like a whale and hardly works out. WHY GOD WHY??
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I used to be that skinny girl who could eat whatever I wanted and didn’t gain an ounce. I was always very active, but even when my activity level dropped, I still didn’t weigh much regardless of what I ate. Some people are just born with a fast metabolism. That was definitely me. HOWEVER... it doesn’t last forever. Once I turned 35 or so, my metabolism slowed way down and now I have to work at it like everyone else. So take heart, one day the girl you are wondering about will wake up one day and say “what the heck happened????” Haha!1
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Here is a step by step guide:
1. Have a higher NEAT than average without even being aware of it. Be fidgety, and move around a lot.
2. Have a smaller appetite where eating whatever you want in whatever quantity you want does not exceed your maintenance calories too often.
3. Alternatively, be a social eater who eats a lot around others but totally forgets to eat when alone or nibble on a random thing with insginificant calories.
4. Make it so food isn't high on your priorities list. You like it to taste good but you rarely think about it outside of meal times.
5. Have fewer cravings episodes than the average person.
6. Have other people see and remember all the times you ate a lot but none of the times where you barely ate anything.
7. You remember all the times you ate a lot but few of the times where you barely ate anything.
8. Have people remember all the times you sat on your butt all day but not notice things you keep doing like tapping your fingers, playing with hair...etc, and forget all about the days where you moved nonstop all day.
9. You remember all the times you sat on your butt all day but not notice things you keep doing like tapping your fingers, playing with hair...etc, and forget all about the days where you moved nonstop all day.
10. Lose the desire and ability to eat beyond fullness, and dislike the feeling of being full. Have no problems leaving food on the plate, even if it's one bite, if you're already full.
11. Have times when you just "don't feel like it" when presented with food and don't feel compelled to eat food or dessert just because it's there or just because it was presented to you. Have no problems nibbling on a few pieces from a bag of something and putting it away.
12. Be more likely to forgo food when emotionally challenged than use it to cope.
13. Don't respond to every hunger cue and don't feel too bothered by it.
14. Automatically eat less because you are less hungry or have a weaker desire to eat after a calorie heavy day and/or move more without even noticing.
15. Have a health issue that alters absorption of food. You do not need to be aware of it for this to work.
16. Go shopping for a higher BMR, but don't get discouraged if you can't find one. While it certainly helps, it's not necessary for every case of "naturally thin" and it's extremely rare to have a BMR that explains the ability to eat a significantly larger number of calories.12 -
All those people who say they live with "one of those people that never gains weight"...
Just how long have you been monitoring their diet, weight, and exercise 24/7?
A week, a month?
Keep it up for 6 months or a year, THEN tell us they have massively fast metabolisms.
Until then, they're just overeating like anybody else.5 -
That skinny friend is either:
(assuming that said friend does little/no extra exercise and isn't doing anything to raise TDEE)
(1) Consuming far in excess of TDEE // Gaining weight
(2) Consuming Mildly in excess of TDEE // Slowly gaining weight
(3) Consuming at TDEE // Maintaining
(4) Consuming mildly under TDEE // Slowly losing weight
(5) Consuming under TDEE // Losing weight
Chances are that you don't monitor said friend all of the time, as proven by things like intermittent fasting or 5:2 - somebodies calories don't have to be consumed in a traditional fashion.
Physics dictates that those 5 options +/- exercise are literally the only way we are able to gain/maintain/lose.1 -
All those people who say they live with "one of those people that never gains weight"...
Just how long have you been monitoring their diet, weight, and exercise 24/7?
A week, a month?
Keep it up for 6 months or a year, THEN tell us they have massively fast metabolisms.
Until then, they're just overeating like anybody else.
And don't just ignore the days where they don't eat like you expect either.5 -
stevencloser wrote: »All those people who say they live with "one of those people that never gains weight"...
Just how long have you been monitoring their diet, weight, and exercise 24/7?
A week, a month?
Keep it up for 6 months or a year, THEN tell us they have massively fast metabolisms.
Until then, they're just overeating like anybody else.
And don't just ignore the days where they don't eat like you expect either.
Yes, I third this.0 -
My brother is one of these. His secret? He only eats once a day, and sometimes only ever other day. For whatever reason, he just doesn’t get hungry, and won’t eat unless somebody reminds him to. He’s been like that his entire life.
That’s my husband! He eats one normal meal a day 5 days a week (dinner), because I make it. No breakfast or lunch most days. Weekends he eats donuts, frozen tacos, desserts, and more caloric dinners. If I only went by what he does at home, he should be enormous. Instead he has a 32” waist.
And now to some people I’m that friend—I eat and drink a lot at parties. But I work put 1-2 HRs a day 6 days a week swim for 18k+ steps a day.
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I’m a little late on this one but my husband & his siblings are all thin. He doesn’t always eat the best but has a pretty good diet overall.
People think he’s naturally thin, I used to think so too, but it’s his lifestyle. Yesterday for example he came home and ate a burger, fries and large milkshake. The only other thing he ate yesterday was a yogurt cause he got so busy at work. He takes the stairs a lot where I take the elevator and walks to meetings all day while 99% of mine are on the phone.4
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