Enlighten us about the creeps and their MO
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Just_J_Now wrote: »cherchezlafemme13 wrote: »Why is no one ever interested in my tender body tones?
"loosing fat should be motivating."
The reminds me of an account name of a friend of mine.. LooseyoBooty..
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Some (intentionally or not) put themselves out there in a way that makes them a target for that sort of thing. Maybe making a flirtatious comment to someone, and some creep sees it and foolishly decides they may be good for some nasty PM. Maybe a sexy profile photo will attract these types. For some reason there are people who get a charge out of sending what they full well know to be unwelcome messages, images and the like. I have never received any such message on this site specifically, but I have elsewhere. I do not respond on the rare occasion that I am chosen to be the target. I report, block, and move on. However in all of our speculation we have to understand that only the creeps understand why they inflict themselves on others.
Notice I did not say "he" or "she" in reference to the creeper or the one getting crept upon. That'a because there are some fairly filthy female creeps out there going after men.3 -
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jcstevens86 wrote: »HealthyAshes88888 wrote: »caco_ethes wrote: »beingmore1 wrote: »TeacupsAndToning wrote: »beingmore1 wrote: »_Deadman_Walking_ wrote: »jcstevens86 wrote: »TeacupsAndToning wrote: »jcstevens86 wrote: »monkeefan1974 wrote: »jcstevens86 wrote: »Yall trippin 4real lol....i get what yall sayin...a broad should be able to be what she wants dress how she wants and act how she wants...i agree 100%....but on a platform such as a social media site why would you portray yourself in a manner that makes it appear that you crave the attention you really don't want....am i wrong for thinking those pix shoulda been kept private for her man and not been put on social media?....
I think a lot of the problem is that people are quick to judge a book by it’s cover. I’ve posted bikini pics and been accused of trying to promote an IG account or just garner attention from guys when the reality is I’m not even on IG, am in a happy and fulfilling relationship already and just want to show on this fitness site the results of my hard work and determination. I had to overcome being obese and other health issues and I’m proud of my body now and hope to inspire others and show them what is possible. I understand that it’s human nature to immediately judge someone off a pic, but we also have the capacity to think beyond that and give people the respect they deserve. But then again, some people might actually be seeking creepy attention and complain about it anyway, everyone has their own reasons for doing things.
Look i get that i really do ....no different in that than me with my shirt off in a pic from the beach...all i was sayin is if you post a pic of you im just a thong on a social site expect the worst cause it will happen....its a free world for snyone to do as they please just dont complain whem the end result gets you what you knew u would get
It is a free world but receiving unsolicited dirty messages isn't always what someone wants.
Your right but why put yourself in a situation where you know thats what the outcome will be
You're beginning to sound like one of those "if she didn't want to be sexually assaulted, she shouldn't have dressed provocatively" types.... stop while you're ahead. People do what people do. Don't like it? Delete them. It's not complicated.
I see his point. He is saying why flaunt it if you don’t want comments. I think it’s fair to say, as I posted previously, yes a woman or man should be able to post pics without being considered “fair game”. However we all know that isn’t how it is on the internet. I believe he is saying since we all know this, why do some women post very provocative pics then act horrified to receive a creepy message? That is his point. I disagree with you telling him that it’s the same as saying it’s a woman’s fault for being dressed provocatively if she’s assaulted.
They might post them because they're proud of their body and an easy way to show off your body confidence is to post a photo.
I've posted photos of myself in bikinis and I will admit that I do want people to tell me that I look amazing but what I don't want to receive is messages from guys that tell me what they want to do with their dick.
Yes I know. In a perfect world you could post your bikini and just get supportive wonderful safe compliments. But we are both aware that it isn’t that way. So if you are going to post pics you are doing it with some risk and knowledge that you may get creepy messages. It’s not right but it’s not a surprise.
Nobody is saying it’s surprising. That’s the world we live in now. But I wouldn’t mind if instead of raising our daughters to understand this reality, we could also be raising up sons who are taught how to respect boundaries. Of course this won’t be changed overnight, but do we throw up our hands? I sure as hell hope not.
I'll be teaching my daughter to not post slutty pictures online. But that's just me.
Me 2...my daughter is taught morals and self respect and to carry herself in a classy manner at all times
My parents taught this too... and I was the perfect lil church girl. They'd sheet bricks if they knew what I've done now that I'm all growed up.3 -
LittleLionHeart1 wrote: »California geoduck clams. And how the hell would you cook these!!?? Just sick.
How am I ever going to love and look forward to chowing on fried clams ever again?
I know it. Me too. I was like, "what the *kitten*? People eat that." But then again I like the bbq eel at sushi restaurant. By the way your new pic is nice. 1 -
@beingmore1 wrote: »SomebodyWakeUpHIcks wrote: »@cherchezlafemme13 wrote: »Why is no one ever interested in my tender body tones?
Why am I visualizing the skin on the testicles of an 80 yr old man?
because thats what you see in the mirror every day?
No because my bleached starfish takes up most of the mirror.
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@cherchezlafemme13 wrote: »SomebodyWakeUpHIcks wrote: »@cherchezlafemme13 wrote: »Why is no one ever interested in my tender body tones?
Why am I visualizing the skin on the testicles of an 80 yr old man?
I’m sorry. I am not fake “ugly” enough to fish out a compliment from you?
You make good brownies?0 -
Tbh, I think the creepiest thing I have seen recently is a grown man asking what a bunch of women call their period.10
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MeeseeksAndDestroy wrote: »_Captivated_ wrote: »
I saw this verbatim from two other friends
So my message wasn't even special?!0 -
_Captivated_ wrote: »MeeseeksAndDestroy wrote: »_Captivated_ wrote: »
I saw this verbatim from two other friends
So my message wasn't even special?!
Sorry to burst your bubble, I saw it a few times too. I was crushed because my message was not as creative, he got longer and more creative as he went.1 -
LeGaCyGiAnT91 wrote: »@toned_thugs_n_harmony has the nicest thonged *kitten* I have ever seen
Awwwww.....creep!1 -
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Have someone take one when you're in the shower. #ContinuingCreepyTheme@lavinia_whateley_goals wrote: »Renaissance_Turtle wrote: »I've lost 106lbs, do my legs look ok?
@Renaissance_Turtle
our bathrooms are similar enough that i did a double take at yr pic
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beingmore1 wrote: »caco_ethes wrote: »beingmore1 wrote: »caco_ethes wrote: »I think most women who are new and post in the selfie thread right away get pounced on almost immediately.
Women who use an actual photo of themselves tend to get more. Probably because of the ‘everyone is a dude on the internet’ rule.
I got quite a few messages and FRs after I posted in the velfie thread. Maybe women who don’t shower or wear deo seem more approachable.
But I have noticed and others have said it too that if you post any kind of selfie, it’s like a siren.
I’ve seen several methods. The straight up ‘hey send me nudes’ or the outright compliments paired with an offer to talk suggestively. I lump those together because the motive is transparent. But there was one guy who wrote when I was fairly new and he was extremely friendly and flirtatious even after I said I was married and stuff. I found out later that he does it to every new girl and he scores a lot of nudes that way. So charm is the second way.
I have posted in the selfie thread. I've even posted cleavage shots back in the day. I honestly don't remember getting any extra creepy messages because of this. I am not a ten but I would't say I'm a zero either. Lets just face it, I've seen low 3's complaining about it and I'd say I rate in there somewhere. So, this leads me to my original question...how come some people get them and others don't?
I’m no ten either and I tend to post some really unflattering things about myself so that part is a mystery to me.
But like @RunHardBeStrong said, I think forum flirtiness is misread. I can be outrageous in the forums but it’s a joke, not who I really am.
I am not saying this is about you at all but.... do you think some of the creeps are targeting women that may seem a little more....how can I say it without sounding mean, since that isn't my intention...but maybe women who might not be getting attention IRL?
Some women here may not be getting and attention in rl but Im sure plenty do so I don't think creeps sniff out their neediness.
Same goes for flirting , it doesn't denote you aren't getting attention at home either.3 -
beingmore1 wrote: »jcstevens86 wrote: »beingmore1 wrote: »caco_ethes wrote: »beingmore1 wrote: »caco_ethes wrote: »I think most women who are new and post in the selfie thread right away get pounced on almost immediately.
Women who use an actual photo of themselves tend to get more. Probably because of the ‘everyone is a dude on the internet’ rule.
I got quite a few messages and FRs after I posted in the velfie thread. Maybe women who don’t shower or wear deo seem more approachable. But I have noticed and others have said it too that if you post any kind of selfie, it’s like a siren.
I’ve seen several methods. The straight up ‘hey send me nudes’ or the outright compliments paired with an offer to talk suggestively. I lump those together because the motive is transparent. But there was one guy who wrote when I was fairly new and he was extremely friendly and flirtatious even after I said I was married and stuff. I found out later that he does it to every new girl and he scores a lot of nudes that way. So charm is the second way.
I have posted in the selfie thread. I've even posted cleavage shots back in the day. I honestly don't remember getting any extra creepy messages because of this. I am not a ten but I would't say I'm a zero either. Lets just face it, I've seen low 3's complaining about it and I'd say I rate in there somewhere. So, this leads me to my original question...how come some people get them and others don't?
I’m no ten either and I tend to post some really unflattering things about myself so that part is a mystery to me.
But like @RunHardBeStrong said, I think forum flirtiness is misread. I can be outrageous in the forums but it’s a joke, not who I really am.
I am not saying this is about you at all but.... do you think some of the creeps are targeting women that may seem a little more....how can I say it without sounding mean, since that isn't my intention...but maybe women who might not be getting attention IRL?
Ding ding....these broads get no attention at home and seek it here
well i'm sure this is the case for some, but I'm talking about those who are not overtly seeking attention here but say they receive a bunch of creepy messages. Are the creeps targeting them because the creeps think these women must be "wanting" attention or easy targets.
I think the creeps send the same message to 20 random ladies, no rhyme or reason other than they may have been on forums at a similar time.
They may get one or two bites.. I don't think it really matters as they tend to delete a few hours later.. they show up again in a week or two with a new profile and do it again.2 -
Man, I picked the wrong day to be busy at work. This looked like a good one.0
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SomebodyWakeUpHIcks wrote: »
Have someone take one when you're in the shower. #ContinuingCreepyTheme@lavinia_whateley_goals wrote: »Renaissance_Turtle wrote: »I've lost 106lbs, do my legs look ok?
@Renaissance_Turtle
our bathrooms are similar enough that i did a double take at yr pic
Great, now we'll see tugboat turtles hairy *kitten* in 5.. 4.. 0 -
@lavinia_whateley_goals wrote: »SomebodyWakeUpHIcks wrote: »
Have someone take one when you're in the shower. #ContinuingCreepyTheme@lavinia_whateley_goals wrote: »Renaissance_Turtle wrote: »I've lost 106lbs, do my legs look ok?
@Renaissance_Turtle
our bathrooms are similar enough that i did a double take at yr pic
¯\_(ツ)_/¯ a little weird but whatevs
Well you did what I asked. I should have been more specific in my request
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