Enlighten us about the creeps and their MO
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monkeefan1974 wrote: »
*shrugs* people are weird. I’ve read that the only reason we do anything is because our brain perceives some kind of “reward” at the end. I couldn’t even begin to guess what some people’s “reward” would be.
A bucket full of dead spiders would be nice.
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_Deadman_Walking_ wrote: »jcstevens86 wrote: »TeacupsAndToning wrote: »jcstevens86 wrote: »monkeefan1974 wrote: »jcstevens86 wrote: »Yall trippin 4real lol....i get what yall sayin...a broad should be able to be what she wants dress how she wants and act how she wants...i agree 100%....but on a platform such as a social media site why would you portray yourself in a manner that makes it appear that you crave the attention you really don't want....am i wrong for thinking those pix shoulda been kept private for her man and not been put on social media?....
I think a lot of the problem is that people are quick to judge a book by it’s cover. I’ve posted bikini pics and been accused of trying to promote an IG account or just garner attention from guys when the reality is I’m not even on IG, am in a happy and fulfilling relationship already and just want to show on this fitness site the results of my hard work and determination. I had to overcome being obese and other health issues and I’m proud of my body now and hope to inspire others and show them what is possible. I understand that it’s human nature to immediately judge someone off a pic, but we also have the capacity to think beyond that and give people the respect they deserve. But then again, some people might actually be seeking creepy attention and complain about it anyway, everyone has their own reasons for doing things.
Look i get that i really do ....no different in that than me with my shirt off in a pic from the beach...all i was sayin is if you post a pic of you im just a thong on a social site expect the worst cause it will happen....its a free world for snyone to do as they please just dont complain whem the end result gets you what you knew u would get
It is a free world but receiving unsolicited dirty messages isn't always what someone wants.
Your right but why put yourself in a situation where you know thats what the outcome will be
You're beginning to sound like one of those "if she didn't want to be sexually assaulted, she shouldn't have dressed provocatively" types.... stop while you're ahead. People do what people do. Don't like it? Delete them. It's not complicated.
Your beginning to sound like the illiterate person who cant read between the lines3 -
JillianRumrill wrote: »monkeefan1974 wrote: »
*shrugs* people are weird. I’ve read that the only reason we do anything is because our brain perceives some kind of “reward” at the end. I couldn’t even begin to guess what some people’s “reward” would be.
A bucket full of dead spiders would be nice.
Well, Halloween is just around the corner so you just might get it
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jcstevens86 wrote: »_Deadman_Walking_ wrote: »jcstevens86 wrote: »TeacupsAndToning wrote: »jcstevens86 wrote: »monkeefan1974 wrote: »jcstevens86 wrote: »Yall trippin 4real lol....i get what yall sayin...a broad should be able to be what she wants dress how she wants and act how she wants...i agree 100%....but on a platform such as a social media site why would you portray yourself in a manner that makes it appear that you crave the attention you really don't want....am i wrong for thinking those pix shoulda been kept private for her man and not been put on social media?....
I think a lot of the problem is that people are quick to judge a book by it’s cover. I’ve posted bikini pics and been accused of trying to promote an IG account or just garner attention from guys when the reality is I’m not even on IG, am in a happy and fulfilling relationship already and just want to show on this fitness site the results of my hard work and determination. I had to overcome being obese and other health issues and I’m proud of my body now and hope to inspire others and show them what is possible. I understand that it’s human nature to immediately judge someone off a pic, but we also have the capacity to think beyond that and give people the respect they deserve. But then again, some people might actually be seeking creepy attention and complain about it anyway, everyone has their own reasons for doing things.
Look i get that i really do ....no different in that than me with my shirt off in a pic from the beach...all i was sayin is if you post a pic of you im just a thong on a social site expect the worst cause it will happen....its a free world for snyone to do as they please just dont complain whem the end result gets you what you knew u would get
It is a free world but receiving unsolicited dirty messages isn't always what someone wants.
Your right but why put yourself in a situation where you know thats what the outcome will be
You're beginning to sound like one of those "if she didn't want to be sexually assaulted, she shouldn't have dressed provocatively" types.... stop while you're ahead. People do what people do. Don't like it? Delete them. It's not complicated.
Your beginning to sound like the illiterate person who cant read between the lines
Real quick, google the word "illiterate". It's ok, I'll wait.3 -
cherchezlafemme13 wrote: »I think the point we are missing here is that people send out creepy messages because they work. Maybe not 100% of the time, but they work. It’s a game of numbers. You cast your net as far out as possible in hopes of catching as many as possible but even catching just one is success.
Agree. And the few guys that send creepy messages they send the same copy and paste one to 100 women. One will bite1 -
If I wouldn't get in trouble I'd post a screen shot of an epic message I got this past week.0
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cherchezlafemme13 wrote: »I think the point we are missing here is that people send out creepy messages because they work. Maybe not 100% of the time, but they work. It’s a game of numbers. You cast your net as far out as possible in hopes of catching as many as possible but even catching just one is success.
Spam return rate.
Marketing return rate.
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LeGaCyGiAnT91 wrote: »
lol... once was enough. New accounts are too much work.0 -
How do you send a message directly to someone?0
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A lot of women (and men) come here because they are unhappy with the way they look. When they start to see progress they get excited and want to show the world. A lot of them want appreciation, kind words, compliments... It helps them validate that what they're seeing is really there.
It helps them feel better about themselves. The more revealing the pose, the more likely they are to get compliments. Many respectful. (Yes, I said, MANY). More often than not, I'd say. This encourages that behaviour until one day... they get blindsided by a D pic, or a brutal aggressive message that borders on verbal sexual abuse.
Sometimes it's utterly random and based on who is on what threads at any given time, but from experience, it is often thread based.
I've been in both places... I used to be all over the place, in success threads, progress pic threads, and way in the beginning rate me / date me / hate me threads.
Now, I'm more secure in myself, rarely show my face in here, and lo and behold... no messages ever. That said... I believe I needed that initial validation period. It was part of my process, and I'm happy where I am now.
It would just be nice if people would toe a line... if you wouldn't say it to my face or show it to me on our first meeting... then don't send it in an email. And the same goes for me... If I'm not going to flash my ash in public, then why would I do it here?
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LotsOfTaterTots wrote: »How do you send a message directly to someone?
And we have the winner of this thread.
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_Deadman_Walking_ wrote: »LeGaCyGiAnT91 wrote: »
lol... once was enough. New accounts are too much work.
So i see your used to this mfp life lol make new profiles alot?1 -
jcstevens86 wrote: »_Deadman_Walking_ wrote: »jcstevens86 wrote: »TeacupsAndToning wrote: »jcstevens86 wrote: »monkeefan1974 wrote: »jcstevens86 wrote: »Yall trippin 4real lol....i get what yall sayin...a broad should be able to be what she wants dress how she wants and act how she wants...i agree 100%....but on a platform such as a social media site why would you portray yourself in a manner that makes it appear that you crave the attention you really don't want....am i wrong for thinking those pix shoulda been kept private for her man and not been put on social media?....
I think a lot of the problem is that people are quick to judge a book by it’s cover. I’ve posted bikini pics and been accused of trying to promote an IG account or just garner attention from guys when the reality is I’m not even on IG, am in a happy and fulfilling relationship already and just want to show on this fitness site the results of my hard work and determination. I had to overcome being obese and other health issues and I’m proud of my body now and hope to inspire others and show them what is possible. I understand that it’s human nature to immediately judge someone off a pic, but we also have the capacity to think beyond that and give people the respect they deserve. But then again, some people might actually be seeking creepy attention and complain about it anyway, everyone has their own reasons for doing things.
Look i get that i really do ....no different in that than me with my shirt off in a pic from the beach...all i was sayin is if you post a pic of you im just a thong on a social site expect the worst cause it will happen....its a free world for snyone to do as they please just dont complain whem the end result gets you what you knew u would get
It is a free world but receiving unsolicited dirty messages isn't always what someone wants.
Your right but why put yourself in a situation where you know thats what the outcome will be
You're beginning to sound like one of those "if she didn't want to be sexually assaulted, she shouldn't have dressed provocatively" types.... stop while you're ahead. People do what people do. Don't like it? Delete them. It's not complicated.
Your beginning to sound like the illiterate person who cant read between the lines
Sorry bud, but this broad is inclined to agree with him.
I hear what you're saying and I understand what you're getting at... but the way you're communicating it leaves a little to be misinterpreted.5 -
LotsOfTaterTots wrote: »How do you send a message directly to someone?
And we have the winner of this thread.
Dead.0
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