Less alcohol- February 2018- one day at a time

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  • xcjumper
    xcjumper Posts: 207 Member
    @norminv I don't see a friend request....hmmm, I'll send one to you
  • SunnyDays930
    SunnyDays930 Posts: 1,572 Member
    @JulieAL1969 wow your bartender was a d!ck. I cannot believe him. That being said I DO find myself saying to bartenders stuff like "Im the driver" or "doctors orders. I'm on a new medicine" or some BS so I don't feel like such a freak. It really stinks that we have to justify why we are not putting a known poison into our bodies.
  • NormInv
    NormInv Posts: 3,303 Member
    @JulieAL1969 I'm appalled too. You handled it well
  • RubyRed427
    RubyRed427 Posts: 4,348 Member
    eddie_fields wrote: »
    Another weekend upon us. This is my seventh sober. Also especially challenging because I am at football coaching clinic. It started last night and sober so far. I have been going to these for 13 years and never even made it sober through the ride there lol so making it out tomorrow evening will be a huge victory.

    Also have done well with food. I don’t know what’s more impressive that I haven’t had any vodka or any French fries!

    Good luck to everyone this weekend!!

    Good luck Eddie ! You can do it !
  • lporter229
    lporter229 Posts: 4,907 Member
    eddie_fields wrote: »
    Another weekend upon us. This is my seventh sober. Also especially challenging because I am at football coaching clinic. It started last night and sober so far. I have been going to these for 13 years and never even made it sober through the ride there lol so making it out tomorrow evening will be a huge victory.

    Also have done well with food. I don’t know what’s more impressive that I haven’t had any vodka or any French fries!

    Good luck to everyone this weekend!!

    Good luck.! Stay strong. You are doing fantastic!
  • MissMay
    MissMay Posts: 3,738 Member
    dbanks80 wrote: »
    JulieAL1969 wrote: »
    Hi All! I was thinking back to last week when I met my teacher friends. We went to at a local , upscale bar after work. My friends ordered two wines each, and I ordered club soda. We ordered four appetizers to share. Then, Another guy sat down next to me at the bar. He ordered a club soda and an appetizer.

    Then, all of a sudden, the normally cordial, professional bartender turned around and muttered frustratingly under his breath, "God, another club soda taking up a space."

    The other soda drinker just looked at me stunned. I was stunned, too. Over the years, I've spent thousands of dollars at this upscale bar. Bartender even knows my name. So, the other club soda guy turned to me and said did he just say that? I said, "yep".
    The man said, "I was just in here last week drinking wine with my friends, but today, I just wanted to eat and not drink."

    Without passing judgment on bartender, (maybe he was having a bad day or maybe we were taking up space of an alcohol paying customer) I was really stunned. We both ordered food. We were former alcohol drinking customers.

    Anyway, I think it was a good life lesson. Dont take anything personally. Of course, the embarrassment didn't last long. And the other guy and I had a meaningful conversation about life and life's lessons. And I left happy and sober. But it is a little life lesson on how people will look at you differently when you don't drink. I'm not bothered by it, but it was a little jarring.

    P.s. The other club soda drinker told me he left a huge tip to the bartender to make up for the space he took not drinking. One last thing, When I was in Nashville ordering my club soda all weekend, I did leave more tip than the club soda to compensate the bartenders.

    All I can say is WOW!!! I can't believe he said that. Well I am glad you weren't offended. But I am sure it felt great being sober.

    I am not surprised at those remarks
    I was asked last Summer by the owner (of a reastrurant/ pub/ inn) what are you doing sitting at my bar without a drink in front of you? I was stunned, but quickly replied: 'It's 11:30am, I am picking up my husband from work and besides I am drinking coffee"

  • salleewins
    salleewins Posts: 2,308 Member
    Go Eddie!
  • RubyRed427
    RubyRed427 Posts: 4,348 Member
    edited February 2018
    Just got the Annie Grace daily message (author of This Naked Mind) ; today's email spoke of how to view socializing at parties with people who are drinking. She says reframe your thoughts.
  • Alzzi76
    Alzzi76 Posts: 504 Member
    JulieAL1969 wrote: »
    Just got the Annie Grace daily message (author of This Naked Mind) ; today's email spoke of how to view socializing at parties with people who are drinking. She says reframe your thoughts.

    This is so true, the negitive thoughts that come and fill your mind days after a good time are terrible. Im appreciating this thread a lot more. Lots of positive vibes coming in and is very much needed .


  • Alzzi76
    Alzzi76 Posts: 504 Member
    NormInv wrote: »
    Happy Friday evening peeps, just got back from gym, thank goodness for that....helped a ton with any ideas of booze

    Thanks for the reminder!
    Ill try and fit it in b4 bed, even if its late. It does help the mind.
  • RubyRed427
    RubyRed427 Posts: 4,348 Member
    angelacatheart wrote: »
    JulieAL1969 wrote: »
    Just got the Annie Grace daily message (author of This Naked Mind) ; today's email spoke of how to view socializing at parties with people who are drinking. She says reframe your thoughts.

    I bought this book, but haven't read it yet. I did read Allen Carr's How To Stop Drinking Now. How do you get on the email list for Annie Grace? Do you have to pay to join her website?

    Thanks for sharing!

    I went to her website this naked mind and signed up to get the free first 40 pages of her book. *I belive that's how I got her book sample. And then her daily emails.
    P.s. I emailed her twice telling her my progress, and each time someone on her staff replied to my email.
    I didn't pay for anything or join her program. The email is enough and her book:)
  • NormInv
    NormInv Posts: 3,303 Member
    Sabine_Stroehm wrote: »
    Friday night. 8pm and I'm in bed with tea and a pup. Perfect.

    poor pup ;)
  • Sabine_Stroehm
    Sabine_Stroehm Posts: 19,263 Member
    NormInv wrote: »
    Sabine_Stroehm wrote: »
    Friday night. 8pm and I'm in bed with tea and a pup. Perfect.

    poor pup ;)
    LOL
  • looneycatblue
    looneycatblue Posts: 1,481 Member
    Ahhh, Friday night league bowling actually can be great fun, even AF!
  • lporter229
    lporter229 Posts: 4,907 Member
    JulieAL1969 wrote: »
    From Annie Grace's email message:

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    This is great. Last night as I was preparing a good dinner for me and m husband, I thought about the comments on here about viewing a dry evening as a treat to yourself rather than a challenge or a negative thing. I made myself a decaf vanilla latte and enjoyed it while I cooked. I was in bed by 10:30, completely alcohol free. This morning I was up at 6AM to get ready for run group, clear mind and feeling good. Again, Thank you guys so much!
  • Alzzi76
    Alzzi76 Posts: 504 Member
    JenT304 wrote: »
    I fell into a bottle of merlot last night. Ended up having an argument with my husband. I feel terrible today and mad at myself. For those of you that know they can't moderate take it from me, it was not worth it. I'll be back to tea today.

    thanku Jen, im with u in this. I trying to get over Thursday night. It shows doesnt it how it messes with our minds and eventually bodies.
    Ill get back to tea as well. :)
  • Alzzi76
    Alzzi76 Posts: 504 Member
    lporter229 wrote: »
    JulieAL1969 wrote: »
    From Annie Grace's email message:

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    This is great. Last night as I was preparing a good dinner for me and m husband, I thought about the comments on here about viewing a dry evening as a treat to yourself rather than a challenge or a negative thing. I made myself a decaf vanilla latte and enjoyed it while I cooked. I was in bed by 10:30, completely alcohol free. This morning I was up at 6AM to get ready for run group, clear mind and feeling good. Again, Thank you guys so much!

    Awesome job!!, well done ;)
  • ehseeker
    ehseeker Posts: 515 Member
    JenT304 wrote: »
    I fell into a bottle of merlot last night. Ended up having an argument with my husband. I feel terrible today and mad at myself. For those of you that know they can't moderate take it from me, it was not worth it. I'll be back to tea today.

    Every road has bumps. You recognize the problem which is way beyond where some people are at right now. I raise a cuppa to you.
  • Alzzi76
    Alzzi76 Posts: 504 Member
    MaryBethHempel wrote: »
    46 days AF!! YAY!

    Well done Mary!! o:)o:)
  • kittybenn
    kittybenn Posts: 444 Member
    @islandbeez - don't obsess and just move on. I say this as a person who spends way too much time beating herself upl You should be wearing out your arm patting yourself on the back for all your success, including that phenomenal weight loss. WTG!

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