Less alcohol- February 2018- one day at a time

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  • dressagerider1020
    dressagerider1020 Posts: 108 Member
    My husband bowls on Wednesdays, so decided to surprise him at the lanes, cupcakes for the team! I would normally have had a shot or 2 with him... but did not! I didn't even eat any of the cupcakes. Day 4 for me and going strong! I just love how I feel in the mornings, much more energy, and no guilt!

    Great job! These are the things that keep me motivated - so thanks!
  • SanDiegofitmom
    SanDiegofitmom Posts: 303 Member
    I watched this video Ted talk last night on “gray area” drinking - it’s nothing groundbreaking but she talks about nourishing our neurotransmitters. Here’s the link https://youtu.be/wvCMZBA7RiA
  • dbanks80
    dbanks80 Posts: 3,685 Member
    Sorry if this is a daft question - but can you 'join' this group just by commenting?! I have been logging onto MFP, tracking food and exercise and reading success stories for inspiration, but this thread I love!

    Just jump right in!!!!
  • dbanks80
    dbanks80 Posts: 3,685 Member
    WinoGelato wrote: »
    Last day in Dublin was a great success in moderation - two glasses at dinner, one more afterwards - dancing with colleagues and headed to bed before midnight. Was packed and ready for the final day, presentation went well and am now on the plane to head back to the states. Other colleagues were tired, hung over and some didn’t even make it to the morning session. Glad that wasn’t me! Looking forward to a few AF days in a row at home.

    You rocked it !!! Amazing job!!!
  • dbanks80
    dbanks80 Posts: 3,685 Member
    MissMay wrote: »
    dbanks80 wrote: »
    I am curious. What is everyone's triggers to drink?


    A drinking spouse and socializing out of my house.

    I wish there was a town or state specificly alcohol free. I would move there for sure

    LOL In a perfect world LOL!
  • dbanks80
    dbanks80 Posts: 3,685 Member
    missanne11 wrote: »
    Hi guys. I'm writing first comment and been reading everyone's comments. I'm so happy to find this as I've been struggling. I started Monday. As I'm joined a 12 week challenge at gym. Unfortunately I drank the weekend as I knew I was starting but that's it. I actually went AF on Sunday so this is my 4th day. My problem is my hubby and I have been drinking practically daily for so many years. I just don't feel good anymore. How do you stop when your hubby wants to keep on. Ugh. My problem is not only him. Depression boredom lonely. He works away and I lost my job thru not my fault. Redundancy. I drink alone which I hate also. My goal is now to not drink for 12 weeks. So I'm hoping joining gym will keep me focused. I'm loving it and the social part of it too. Wish me luck and the same to all of you!

    Welcome! My husband still drinks as do I but now he is coming around and being very supportive in my efforts. If you stick to your guns of not drinking your hubby will pick up on it. I think you joining the gym is great. Staying busy helps as well.
  • erikNJ
    erikNJ Posts: 1,009 Member
    dbanks80 wrote: »
    My Valentines was good. Nothing spectacular or romantic. We went to our favorite pizza place and shared a pitcher of beer.

    I did ask my husband to make a stop for wine and he said No I didnt need it. I felt good because we went straight home I went to bed and woke up feeling great!

    When I woke up I told him "Thank you for not stopping." He then said "I am proud of you because normally if I said No you would just take the car and go get it yourself anyway! So I am proud of you!"

    So I am taking baby steps and that's what matters.

    Hope everyone had a great Valentines Day!!

    You guys are my kind of couple - pizza place and beer.

    Great job. Small steps can really help. I feel like when I take steps that are too big, I fail much more quickly.
  • dbanks80
    dbanks80 Posts: 3,685 Member
    erikNJ wrote: »
    dbanks80 wrote: »
    My Valentines was good. Nothing spectacular or romantic. We went to our favorite pizza place and shared a pitcher of beer.

    I did ask my husband to make a stop for wine and he said No I didnt need it. I felt good because we went straight home I went to bed and woke up feeling great!

    When I woke up I told him "Thank you for not stopping." He then said "I am proud of you because normally if I said No you would just take the car and go get it yourself anyway! So I am proud of you!"

    So I am taking baby steps and that's what matters.

    Hope everyone had a great Valentines Day!!

    You guys are my kind of couple - pizza place and beer.

    Great job. Small steps can really help. I feel like when I take steps that are too big, I fail much more quickly.

    LOL! We are a pretty simple couple.
  • dressagerider1020
    dressagerider1020 Posts: 108 Member
    kittybenn wrote: »
    Arrggh. Really struggling today. My plan was to drink only Fri-Sun. Made it through V Day with a delightful beach picnic and some fake chardonnay from Trader Joe's (pretty hideous). But today just had a stressful, 12-hour+ day at work and absolutely chugged a glass of chardonnay just now. It's not that I drank that much but I had a plan and blew it. I'm trying not to be too mad at myself, but think it's time for a cup of Sleepytime tea and some chilling out in front of the tube, LOL. This was the first time I've done stress drinking since maybe mid-December. I don't want to fall back into old habits. Really pretty disappointed in myself. Great to have this group to moan and groan to!

    I know the first thing we want to do is get mad at ourselves when we make a mistake, but you traded in the wine glass for a teacup, so that's a win!

    I'm afraid I feel a craving coming on for the weekend, and I'm fighting it. I'm trying to stay busy and come here to talk, and read everyone's experience and how we're all dealing with things. I'm going to bed early tonight.
  • erikNJ
    erikNJ Posts: 1,009 Member
    kittybenn wrote: »
    Arrggh. Really struggling today. My plan was to drink only Fri-Sun. Made it through V Day with a delightful beach picnic and some fake chardonnay from Trader Joe's (pretty hideous). But today just had a stressful, 12-hour+ day at work and absolutely chugged a glass of chardonnay just now. It's not that I drank that much but I had a plan and blew it. I'm trying not to be too mad at myself, but think it's time for a cup of Sleepytime tea and some chilling out in front of the tube, LOL. This was the first time I've done stress drinking since maybe mid-December. I don't want to fall back into old habits. Really pretty disappointed in myself. Great to have this group to moan and groan to!

    It’s great that you traded for the tea. And coming here to vent really helps.
  • machchic
    machchic Posts: 229 Member
    kittybenn wrote: »
    Arrggh. Really struggling today. My plan was to drink only Fri-Sun. Made it through V Day with a delightful beach picnic and some fake chardonnay from Trader Joe's (pretty hideous). But today just had a stressful, 12-hour+ day at work and absolutely chugged a glass of chardonnay just now. It's not that I drank that much but I had a plan and blew it. I'm trying not to be too mad at myself, but think it's time for a cup of Sleepytime tea and some chilling out in front of the tube, LOL. This was the first time I've done stress drinking since maybe mid-December. I don't want to fall back into old habits. Really pretty disappointed in myself. Great to have this group to moan and groan to!

    Hey GF it is ok, well I say that because I also had a stressful day and some tough personal issues coming up. My goal since Jan 1 was to cut back from drinking every freaking day. I did it. 6 times in Jan and 3 times in Feb. My goal was 5 times in Feb and down from there. I allowed stupid things deter me. So we both stopped in our tracks and we are on tea, hopefully I won't feel bad in the AM, I am sure I am not use to it. So we continue this battle and move forward. Let's not be disappointed and learn those triggers and move on.
  • RubyRed427
    RubyRed427 Posts: 4,348 Member
    kittybenn wrote: »
    Arrggh. Really struggling today. My plan was to drink only Fri-Sun. Made it through V Day with a delightful beach picnic and some fake chardonnay from Trader Joe's (pretty hideous). But today just had a stressful, 12-hour+ day at work and absolutely chugged a glass of chardonnay just now. It's not that I drank that much but I had a plan and blew it. I'm trying not to be too mad at myself, but think it's time for a cup of Sleepytime tea and some chilling out in front of the tube, LOL. This was the first time I've done stress drinking since maybe mid-December. I don't want to fall back into old habits. Really pretty disappointed in myself. Great to have this group to moan and groan to!

    Don't worry- that's how it goes sometimes. I smiled when you said you chugged the wine:). I've often thought about that too! One glass, no big deal. Drink your tea and relax. Go easy on yourself as you would to one of us on the thread. Xoxo
  • RubyRed427
    RubyRed427 Posts: 4,348 Member
    machchic wrote: »
    kittybenn wrote: »
    Arrggh. Really struggling today. My plan was to drink only Fri-Sun. Made it through V Day with a delightful beach picnic and some fake chardonnay from Trader Joe's (pretty hideous). But today just had a stressful, 12-hour+ day at work and absolutely chugged a glass of chardonnay just now. It's not that I drank that much but I had a plan and blew it. I'm trying not to be too mad at myself, but think it's time for a cup of Sleepytime tea and some chilling out in front of the tube, LOL. This was the first time I've done stress drinking since maybe mid-December. I don't want to fall back into old habits. Really pretty disappointed in myself. Great to have this group to moan and groan to!

    Hey GF it is ok, well I say that because I also had a stressful day and some tough personal issues coming up. My goal since Jan 1 was to cut back from drinking every freaking day. I did it. 6 times in Jan and 3 times in Feb. My goal was 5 times in Feb and down from there. I allowed stupid things deter me. So we both stopped in our tracks and we are on tea, hopefully I won't feel bad in the AM, I am sure I am not use to it. So we continue this battle and move forward. Let's not be disappointed and learn those triggers and move on.

    You made some great gains. You've limited your alcohol and reached your goals for the month. I would imagine many of us are deep feelers and things affect us greatly to the core. Just take one minute at a time. Keep chugging the tea. Xoxo
  • RubyRed427
    RubyRed427 Posts: 4,348 Member
    erikNJ wrote: »
    I had a nice win tonight. I had a company event after work (for those new here I work for a beer wholesaler, so drinking events are many and sometimes tough to attend)
    There was free Guinness, one of my favorites, and hard seltzer. And free pizza. God I wanted pizza ...
    I had nothing. No drinks. No pizza. Came home to a home cooked meal by my wife :)

    That's tremendous self control ! Wow- so proud of you.
  • RubyRed427
    RubyRed427 Posts: 4,348 Member
    kittybenn wrote: »
    Arrggh. Really struggling today. My plan was to drink only Fri-Sun. Made it through V Day with a delightful beach picnic and some fake chardonnay from Trader Joe's (pretty hideous). But today just had a stressful, 12-hour+ day at work and absolutely chugged a glass of chardonnay just now. It's not that I drank that much but I had a plan and blew it. I'm trying not to be too mad at myself, but think it's time for a cup of Sleepytime tea and some chilling out in front of the tube, LOL. This was the first time I've done stress drinking since maybe mid-December. I don't want to fall back into old habits. Really pretty disappointed in myself. Great to have this group to moan and groan to!

    I know the first thing we want to do is get mad at ourselves when we make a mistake, but you traded in the wine glass for a teacup, so that's a win!

    I'm afraid I feel a craving coming on for the weekend, and I'm fighting it. I'm trying to stay busy and come here to talk, and read everyone's experience and how we're all dealing with things. I'm going to bed early tonight.

    Yes, plan ahead. Read the thread. Watch some videos or read some blogs. And find other ways to nourish yourself. Stay strong! Xo
  • dbanks80
    dbanks80 Posts: 3,685 Member
    erikNJ wrote: »
    I had a nice win tonight. I had a company event after work (for those new here I work for a beer wholesaler, so drinking events are many and sometimes tough to attend)
    There was free Guinness, one of my favorites, and hard seltzer. And free pizza. God I wanted pizza ...
    I had nothing. No drinks. No pizza. Came home to a home cooked meal by my wife :)

    Win and Win!!!! Great for you!
  • dbanks80
    dbanks80 Posts: 3,685 Member
    NormInv wrote: »
    Evening Pals, hope everyone is staying strong and enjoying the clarity of mind :)

    How are you doing?