I am in my little sister’s wedding in July and I do not want to be the fat bridesmaid. (All the other girls are young 20’s and I’m 30, married and have had two kiddos!)
I've always been the girl in the full swimsuit while my friends are in bikinis. I don't just want to wear a bikini because it comes in my size, I actually want to look good in it.
I've always been the girl in the full swimsuit while my friends are in bikinis. I don't just want to wear a bikini because it comes in my size, I actually want to look good in it.
I want to get out of my Frumpy mode and transform back to "me". And show up a hater (and kick her @ss into the ground.. just metaphorically) that just tolerates me and pretends to be a friend when others are around. I didn't know I was so mad about the situation until I wrote it here.
So my emotionally and mentally abusive ex can see how much better my life is now that he is gone... btw I ended things tonight.
@1991court - You are a warrior! Just remember that if you have doubts. He is NOT worth another single nanosecond of thought.
Stay safe and stay strong
Thank you, it has gotten easier. However, he has lately decided to call atleast 5x a day.. so theres that. I'm taking it as he is desperate and doesn't like not having control of me.
So my emotionally and mentally abusive ex can see how much better my life is now that he is gone... btw I ended things tonight.
@1991court - You are a warrior! Just remember that if you have doubts. He is NOT worth another single nanosecond of thought.
Stay safe and stay strong
Thank you, it has gotten easier. However, he has lately decided to call atleast 5x a day.. so theres that. I'm taking it as he is desperate and doesn't like not having control of me.
That is exactly what it is! He sounds like a narcissist.
I'm sending you lots of hugs Each day you're away from him is a step forward in your healing
I started working out for the energy, the weight loss was a bonus. But I am pushing it farther for the following reasons:
1) to stick it to some *itches in my life that treat me like they are better. I used to be so much prettier than them, then my weight gain tipped things in their favor. I want it back.
2) I miss it when my husband and I first married and people would say "THAT'S YOUR WIFE?" Both my husband and I got a kick out of it and I would like that reaction again.
3) to tighten my mom pooch as much as possible. I know I am supposed to be proud of my stretch marks, and while I am grateful to my body for giving me my perfect babies, I dont want the pregnant pooch anymore. My personal preference.
4) to occasionally get hit on. I am happily married but nothing feeds the ego like having a stranger pay that compliment.
5) To motivate my husband to lose some weight. He tends to follow my lead on weight gain and loss. He looks great to me as is but I worry about him being too sedentary and long term health issues with that. I need my best friend for the long haul. This one isnt really petty, just important.
Mine is I just want to look more attractive and confident in my body. Wear sexy clothes and a bikini to the beach. My boyfriend says I look beautiful either way and he loves my body, but I really have a hard time believing it. I'm very insecure, and to be honest I'm afraid that even if I lose all the extra pounds and tone up my body I would still not be satisfied with myself.
• I told myself I couldn’t get a boob job till I lose weight.
• To buy clothes in a regular section at a regular store.
• To show my friends and family that I don’t fail at everything I try to do.
I started working out for the energy, the weight loss was a bonus. But I am pushing it farther for the following reasons:
1) to stick it to some *itches in my life that treat me like they are better. I used to be so much prettier than them, then my weight gain tipped things in their favor. I want it back.
2) I miss it when my husband and I first married and people would say "THAT'S YOUR WIFE?" Both my husband and I got a kick out of it and I would like that reaction again.
3) to tighten my mom pooch as much as possible. I know I am supposed to be proud of my stretch marks, and while I am grateful to my body for giving me my perfect babies, I dont want the pregnant pooch anymore. My personal preference.
4) to occasionally get hit on. I am happily married but nothing feeds the ego like having a stranger pay that compliment.
5) To motivate my husband to lose some weight. He tends to follow my lead on weight gain and loss. He looks great to me as is but I worry about him being too sedentary and long term health issues with that. I need my best friend for the long haul. This one isnt really petty, just important.
Yes, I also miss the "wow! That's your wife?!?" Reaction. It was a confidence boost
Was thin my whole life then whammy old age post menopause went up a tad. Then my Mom died had a miscarriage didn’t know I was pregnant so wasn’t on bedrest on my left side enough! Lost it then 3 months later bam it pregnant post menopause again! I hadn’t lost the weight from the other pregnancy! Bammo pregnant for a year on my left side y because of surgeries with a giant boy. Healthy Shaq sized 2yr old! Had hypertension plus more so bad that I had a deadly placental abruption at my age you don’t bounce back like my younger years! Had a tubal tie since my uterus falling apart left it not sturdy enough for another surprise kiddo. Doctors warned my weight would soar after all the surgeries y especially the tubal tie.In peri menopause again restart button. Got a Adult Daughter in the Navy plus a 2yr old boy who’s a mommy boy hangs on me a lot.
Soared to 195lbs.Lost 20lbs so at 175 range now. Just wanting mobility again since this has slowed me down a lot having a toddler makes stuff difficult from dieting to exercise. Needing to get to a healthy weight I’m trying to love my new scarred body 4 hip to hip 1 up y down Csearan cuts to get 1 kid out! I look like Freddie cougar did my surgeries lol. I know I won’t be back at 130 lb range again but my goodness Id be happy for 140’s if I can. Sticking to 1200 calories range but plateau hit me not sure what to do I excersise all baby will allow got a few months of after baby healing to go. Litterely starving pains yet my weight loves to yo-yo. My Navy kid coming home wanting home cooked feasts so hoping my weight progress doesn’t slip!
Just want to not feel my age anymore be able to play on the floor with my toddler then get back up without help.
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Be glad it's only a full suit. All my fat is in my legs, so I have to wear one of these numbers. lol
https://www.amazon.com/BeautyIn-Boyshort-Swimsuit-Racerback-Swimwear/dp/B07FDTW72J/ref=sr_1_6?keywords=swimsuit+with+legs&qid=1559077181&s=gateway&sr=8-6
@1991court - You are a warrior! Just remember that if you have doubts. He is NOT worth another single nanosecond of thought.
Stay safe and stay strong
Thank you, it has gotten easier. However, he has lately decided to call atleast 5x a day.. so theres that. I'm taking it as he is desperate and doesn't like not having control of me.
That is exactly what it is! He sounds like a narcissist.
I'm sending you lots of hugs
1) to stick it to some *itches in my life that treat me like they are better. I used to be so much prettier than them, then my weight gain tipped things in their favor. I want it back.
2) I miss it when my husband and I first married and people would say "THAT'S YOUR WIFE?" Both my husband and I got a kick out of it and I would like that reaction again.
3) to tighten my mom pooch as much as possible. I know I am supposed to be proud of my stretch marks, and while I am grateful to my body for giving me my perfect babies, I dont want the pregnant pooch anymore. My personal preference.
4) to occasionally get hit on. I am happily married but nothing feeds the ego like having a stranger pay that compliment.
5) To motivate my husband to lose some weight. He tends to follow my lead on weight gain and loss. He looks great to me as is but I worry about him being too sedentary and long term health issues with that. I need my best friend for the long haul. This one isnt really petty, just important.
Yes!
• I told myself I couldn’t get a boob job till I lose weight.
• To buy clothes in a regular section at a regular store.
• To show my friends and family that I don’t fail at everything I try to do.
My dream!!!! 😊
Yes, I also miss the "wow! That's your wife?!?" Reaction. It was a confidence boost
Soared to 195lbs.Lost 20lbs so at 175 range now. Just wanting mobility again since this has slowed me down a lot having a toddler makes stuff difficult from dieting to exercise. Needing to get to a healthy weight I’m trying to love my new scarred body 4 hip to hip 1 up y down Csearan cuts to get 1 kid out! I look like Freddie cougar did my surgeries lol. I know I won’t be back at 130 lb range again but my goodness Id be happy for 140’s if I can. Sticking to 1200 calories range but plateau hit me not sure what to do I excersise all baby will allow got a few months of after baby healing to go. Litterely starving pains yet my weight loves to yo-yo. My Navy kid coming home wanting home cooked feasts so hoping my weight progress doesn’t slip!
Just want to not feel my age anymore be able to play on the floor with my toddler then get back up without help.