More of a "used to be skinny-fat, then gained a bit in my early 40s, now digging down and muscling up" kind of thing for me. Gaining confidence and self-respect are not petty, but manifestations thereof may be for me at times.
Non-petty:
--Having my SO drag me to the beach, which she does regularly.
--It's a life gesture to my SO, indicating that I'm happy and healthy both in our relationship and with her.
Petty:
--Working out at the gym in a tank/sleeveless shirt while looking and feeling like I belong there.
--Having younger women look at me and think "I hope my husband looks as good as him at 47."
I have a friend who started trying to lose weight around the same time I did. He keeps bragging about his progress, but when I share mine he basically acts like it's nothing. Its not a competition.....but.......I want to win LOL
This is me as well. I have a co-worker I am friendly with who has lost weight over the past several months and is doing great and I am happy for them . . . but I want to WIN. (Remember this is the petty thread)
When thinner, I appear more together, less harrassed and not coping. I know it, others see it, not sure if it is in my imagination but it feels very real. Thinner I equate with organised and streamlined life.
I know that many of us choose to lose weight because we want to have a healthy lifestyle and feel better about ourselves, but c'mon, we also have "I'm going to stick it to X" reasons.
For me, it's because I don't want to be the fat gay cousin. I want to be the hot gay cousin. I also want people's minds to be blown when I can lift heavy boxes by myself.
What's yours?
Every time I have my picture taken I don’t like how I look. I’m always double chinning it, have unflattering angles, etc. I want to take pictures any way and feel confident. I’m not getting any younger lol.
My “petty” reason is that my ex told me I was fat. Told me that I needed to lose weight, I was with him for 4 years. So I did, I lost 180lbs over night last September when I kicked him out 🤗
Another guy told me that if I got myself in shape then and only then would I be a head turner.
Non petty reasons, for myself. I’m loosing weight to show my children that health is important, I don’t want them ending up like I am. And I mean, also because I want to look good for myself 😆
Currently 40lbs down and I’m not stopping till I’m happy with myself AND my progress.
I know it's petty, but I am not going to follow in the footsteps of my family. I want to die when God says it's my time, not from Type 2, heart attacks, and/or strokes. I'm also not going to have the thin side subtlety pass me diet articles, recipes, and give me their fat clothes because I'm "the only person they knew who could fit them."
Petty reason? I just don't want to feel fat anymore. I know people always look at me and marvel at how skinny I am, but I honestly don't feel that way. Even my husband thinks I look attractive, but I just don't feel it.
Mainly I want to look in the mirror every single day and think, “Damn, I look so freaking HOT.” Also, for the petty reason, I want to make sure that I am the most beautiful woman that my husband has ever been with, inside and out. It’s difficult since his ex was a freaking ballerina.
The father of my child has made my life hell for the past 3 years, ever since he met his current, incredibly insecure wife. They’ve brainwashed my daughter into believing I lie to her constantly and he has had the gall to tell me many times that his wife is now my child’s mother and she is closer to my child than I am. My poor child is caught in this bullsh*t, and the stress of dealing with them is a huge part of why I gained weight in the first place.
I’ve done my uttmost to take the high road, and repressing my rage at this a**hat has eaten me up inside. I’m taking control back. We’re headed to court, and I want to walk in there intimidating as f**k. I was to scare the bejeezus out of his b*tch wife. It’s my time now.
I really want to deflate my boobs. No shirt or dress looks good, and I can't figure out how to do an FBA when sewing. And even if they're from genetics rather than fat, skinny people with large boobs still look skinny when they wear shirts that aren't fitted... right now, if I put on a non-fitted shirt, it just looks like I'm equally fat throughout my torso, rather than having a giant chest and stomach that's a lot smaller.
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Non-petty:
--Having my SO drag me to the beach, which she does regularly.
--It's a life gesture to my SO, indicating that I'm happy and healthy both in our relationship and with her.
Petty:
--Working out at the gym in a tank/sleeveless shirt while looking and feeling like I belong there.
--Having younger women look at me and think "I hope my husband looks as good as him at 47."
This is me as well. I have a co-worker I am friendly with who has lost weight over the past several months and is doing great and I am happy for them . . . but I want to WIN. (Remember this is the petty thread)
Also people treat me differently
Every time I have my picture taken I don’t like how I look. I’m always double chinning it, have unflattering angles, etc. I want to take pictures any way and feel confident. I’m not getting any younger lol.
Another guy told me that if I got myself in shape then and only then would I be a head turner.
Non petty reasons, for myself. I’m loosing weight to show my children that health is important, I don’t want them ending up like I am. And I mean, also because I want to look good for myself 😆
Currently 40lbs down and I’m not stopping till I’m happy with myself AND my progress.
I want to prove my mom wrong when she said I got fat and will stay that way after the kids.
I don’t want to be a stereotypical “fat American”.
Never let age and other's negativity discourage you! Tons of people are successful at every age and starting weight!
I’ve done my uttmost to take the high road, and repressing my rage at this a**hat has eaten me up inside. I’m taking control back. We’re headed to court, and I want to walk in there intimidating as f**k. I was to scare the bejeezus out of his b*tch wife. It’s my time now.