Less Alcohol- July 2018- One Day at a Time
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Ksandoval0401 wrote: »I know I'm late to the thread for the month, but I'm here! I'm on day 4 without a drink, and looking forward to crushing the weekend. My previous m.o. was to drink vodka 4 nights a week, minimum 2 drinks per night...but I work so hard otherwise on my physical And mental health that I decided to say screw that!
Welcome! You're right on time to join. There's a lot of information compiled on the first page, if you're interested, and lots of support from everyone.3 -
andysport1 wrote: »Well day15 for me
I can’t believe it
Day 1, was very hard
Days 11 & 12 were the worst days I can ever recall
Then suddenly it’s day 15 and I’m here, free of alcohol,
I’m soooooooooooooooo pleased
Bravo Andy! So happy for you. Day 15~ Congrats on all your hard work!1 -
Ksandoval0401 wrote: »I know I'm late to the thread for the month, but I'm here! I'm on day 4 without a drink, and looking forward to crushing the weekend. My previous m.o. was to drink vodka 4 nights a week, minimum 2 drinks per night...but I work so hard otherwise on my physical And mental health that I decided to say screw that!
Welcome to our group. Check in as much as you need. We can help or just be place to vent. Sounds like you have determination! Xo2 -
You know how some people talk incessantly when they have had a couple of drinks to prove how sober they are? I experienced that earlier today. He wasn't slurry yet but his face had changed and he was over enunciating his words a little. He wasn't expecting me. It was a last minute decision to stop in where he works to see if he wanted to grab lunch while I was near his office. I am trying to figure out why he cared to try and cover at his office but then proceeded to drink at lunch.
I wouldn't say anything regardless. I expected it. I'd love to see him quit since he is definitely on a self-destructive path but we all know he has to want it himself.6 -
@eriknj It is funny how life can be messy. You are comfortable with how much you drink and I am uncomfortable because I stopped so abruptly without much resistance (at least on this leg of my journey). I know I should be happy but I am nagged by the old saying "if something seems to be too good to be true it usually is." My goal was never to accumulate AF days but I seem to be doing it. I think I am closing in on 80.
@NovusDies That hits the target for me. I found it really easy to quit on Jan 31, and have stuck to it ever since.
But ...
In the back of my mind, I have a fear that it's not always going to be easy. One reason why I don't try drinking on a special occasion is because I think I might go straight back to daily drinking.
Maybe it's only "easy" because of the fear. Hmmm.
When I was going through the April thread I came across your room being painted. You were originally going to have a drink after it was done and then decided not to. When I was reading that I was thinking that somehow I seem to be following along a similar path right now. I hope that means I can start running a bajillion miles soon.
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As I come more and more to realize my struggle is with food - although I still need this group, cause drinking alcohol leads to bad food for me - I had a situation like many of you have had with alcohol. I can recall countless posts where many of you said after not drinking for awhile you would have a beer/wine, and you did not enjoy the taste. That never happened with me, even after my longest AF runs. But today I caved at lunch. Still had a water! But I went for a cheesesteak over something healthy. And it really wasn’t that great. And this is a famous sandwich shop I have eaten at dozens of times too. It honestly was just a huge waste of most of my allotted calories for the day. Disappointing.10
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Ksandoval0401 wrote: »I know I'm late to the thread for the month, but I'm here! I'm on day 4 without a drink, and looking forward to crushing the weekend. My previous m.o. was to drink vodka 4 nights a week, minimum 2 drinks per night...but I work so hard otherwise on my physical And mental health that I decided to say screw that!
Well done
My only advice is, quitting is nothing like what I imagined.
It’s easier, better, harder, worse
This roller coaster is pretty big.8 -
andysport1 wrote: »Well day15 for me
I can’t believe it
Day 1, was very hard
Days 11 & 12 were the worst days I can ever recall
Then suddenly it’s day 15 and I’m here, free of alcohol,
I’m soooooooooooooooo pleased
Day 1 was hard!!! Good job!!!!!!!!! There were other bad days. In fact I had one last week and I am now 6 months in. It was well worth it to not drink!!!!6 -
As I come more and more to realize my struggle is with food - although I still need this group, cause drinking alcohol leads to bad food for me - I had a situation like many of you have had with alcohol. I can recall countless posts where many of you said after not drinking for awhile you would have a beer/wine, and you did not enjoy the taste. That never happened with me, even after my longest AF runs. But today I caved at lunch. Still had a water! But I went for a cheesesteak over something healthy. And it really wasn’t that great. And this is a famous sandwich shop I have eaten at dozens of times too. It honestly was just a huge waste of most of my allotted calories for the day. Disappointing.
I have no words of wisdom
All I can say is don’t put yourself down, your doing great.
One day at a time5 -
Happy for everyone on their progress!!!!!!!
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Going camping tomorrow for a 3 day weekend get-away. As I was planning what to take, it occurred to me, that we typically enjoy sitting out at night enjoying beer/wine to unwind/relax/enjoy. At first, I felt like something would be missing. But then I realized that it's just as easy to sit and sip Pellegrino (my favorite water plus a cherry) as to sit and sip anything else. And going through "The Alcohol Experiment 30 day challenge" (I'm on day 23) I've learned that I will end up more relaxed with a hotdog and the sparkling water anyway!
Wishing everyone a wonderful weekend!
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As I come more and more to realize my struggle is with food - although I still need this group, cause drinking alcohol leads to bad food for me - I had a situation like many of you have had with alcohol. I can recall countless posts where many of you said after not drinking for awhile you would have a beer/wine, and you did not enjoy the taste. That never happened with me, even after my longest AF runs. But today I caved at lunch. Still had a water! But I went for a cheesesteak over something healthy. And it really wasn’t that great. And this is a famous sandwich shop I have eaten at dozens of times too. It honestly was just a huge waste of most of my allotted calories for the day. Disappointing.
One of the things that it has taken me some time to get accustomed to is wasting food. It goes against my upbringing which was eat what is in front of you and clean your plate. I would rather waste food than calories though.6 -
everyone is doing awesome6
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I'm going to visit my family this weekend and I just got off the phone with my mom and I told her I'm not gonna drink,,,she got upset,,heaven help me
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I'm going to visit my family this weekend and I just got off the phone with my mom and I told her I'm not gonna drink,,,she got upset,,heaven help me
wow, not the reply you expected. Well, I’ll say it for her, “Good for you. You are taking charge of your health and happiness. I’m proud of your decision. “ Hope you can endure. Xoxo Big hugs.10 -
I'm going to visit my family this weekend and I just got off the phone with my mom and I told her I'm not gonna drink,,,she got upset,,heaven help me
I'm cheering for you!! I hope you can hold up under the pressure! Please update us after the weekend. NO judgement. Only support.
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I'm at a 3-day convention this weekend in a rather large city. I got lost trying to find my hotel. I ended up going to an entirely different city if you can believe it. I even had my GPS on my phone "trying" to direct me, but I thought I knew better AND it turns out that I did NOT!! LOL! Anyhoo, I'm in my hotel room unpacked & settled.
I do not like getting lost, it sends me into a bit of a panic. My heart was pounding & I was fairly anxious & then I thought about breathing. I've been doing a guided Mindful Meditation CD that a therapist gave me & I've been doing it regularly...SO, I actually applied it & began to breathe & tell myself that it's ok to be lost....and I WILL find my way!! Actually, I decided to let my GPS tell me where to go & voila.
How is this connected to alcohol you may ask??? As I was driving in circles trying to find my way back to where I was supposed to be, I thought that if I was still drinking THIS would be the perfect time to be drinking because the first thing I would have done when I finally arrived at my destination would have been to pour myself a big FAT glass of "Granny-juice" That's what my grand kids used to call my vino.
BUT my breathing & talking myself down actually worked.
Lots of really good comments & awesome to see so many new ones joining this supportive thread...I hope everyone has a really good weekend. I'll be checking in after my sessions each day to see what everyone is up to...I've already enlisted someone who is attending the convention to let me follow him to the convention site...then after that I should be good to go for the rest of the weekend.
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Thank you I feel fine with my decision not to drink I guess I'm just a tad upset and wondering to myself am I not fun when I'm sober? Just kinda bugs me,,besides its too hot for a hangover! I was reading the blog "off dry" and they mentioned loving and taking care of the "tomorrow you" it resonates cuz we all know when you're wrapped up in drinks the night before it gets easy to forget how you'll feel the next day,bleh,will update how it went 7
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Before bed, I went looking for an article about why my brain never lets me stop at one drink... this article enlightened me a little bit.
https://fit-recovery.com/top-reason-alcoholics-just-cant-stop-one-drink/
Good night, friends. Xo2 -
I just found this discussion, and this is what I need. I can go AF for a few days, and I enjoy feeling healthy, strong, rested and clear headed. Then, I slip, and I don't know why. I look forward to giving and receiving support here.9
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I just found this discussion, and this is what I need. I can go AF for a few days, and I enjoy feeling healthy, strong, rested and clear headed. Then, I slip, and I don't know why. I look forward to giving and receiving support here.
Welcome, @hwg63 We look forward to having you around.1 -
JulieAL1969 wrote: »Before bed, I went looking for an article about why my brain never lets me stop at one drink... this article enlightened me a little bit.
https://fit-recovery.com/top-reason-alcoholics-just-cant-stop-one-drink/
Good night, friends. Xo
I seemed to prioritise things in that order, with alcohol at the top, but I still had alarm bells go off after a couple of drinks and would stop before doing anything stupid or getting drunk.
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I just found this discussion, and this is what I need. I can go AF for a few days, and I enjoy feeling healthy, strong, rested and clear headed. Then, I slip, and I don't know why. I look forward to giving and receiving support here.
Welcome to our group! I'm glad you found us. There are lots of links, hints, and information on the first page. You will find lots of support here. Post when you can, or want to. Success and not so successful are shared, so feel free to share your journey with us.3 -
Thank you I feel fine with my decision not to drink I guess I'm just a tad upset and wondering to myself am I not fun when I'm sober? Just kinda bugs me,,besides its too hot for a hangover! I was reading the blog "off dry" and they mentioned loving and taking care of the "tomorrow you" it resonates cuz we all know when you're wrapped up in drinks the night before it gets easy to forget how you'll feel the next day,bleh,will update how it went
Sounds like the family would be drinking and under the influence, so how would they know if you are not fun while being sober? 4 -
salleewins wrote: »Thank you I feel fine with my decision not to drink I guess I'm just a tad upset and wondering to myself am I not fun when I'm sober? Just kinda bugs me,,besides its too hot for a hangover! I was reading the blog "off dry" and they mentioned loving and taking care of the "tomorrow you" it resonates cuz we all know when you're wrapped up in drinks the night before it gets easy to forget how you'll feel the next day,bleh,will update how it went
Sounds like the family would be drinking and under the influence, so how would they know if you are not fun while being sober?
I'm wondering if she got upset because it might make her feel guilty about drinking too much.7 -
@JulieAL1969 Thank you for that reference. I can relate on some levels, but not to the extreme of the author's drinking. And I could stop at times or only drink the "planned" amount, but those were becoming fewer & farther between. I had more consequence-related drinking in years past especially teens & 20s. I should say, "obvious" consequences because my recent drinking was often done alone OR with other problem drinkers who were quite comfortable with my problem drinking causes it didn't highlight theirs'. The health & conscience consequences were my issue mainly especially in light of the fact that I progressed to a daily drinker.
I began to isolate my drinking more frequently because I didn't want to drink & drive...not than I hadn't done that in the past, but the GUILT & SHAME the next day ate me up so I opted to drink at home alone mostly or invite friends over...Anyway, I'm blabbing!!
@Orphia I'd say, "You owe me a beer" for thinking the exact same thing, but we're AF...LOL (not sure if you are familiar with that expression in your part of the world) I agree that @whitpauly could be pressing some buttons on the family front. @whitpauly I'm not sure of your family dynamics but I hope that they can just respect your decision to not drink this weekend.
Hoping everyone enjoys their day whatever that may entail. 5 -
Felt compelled to go to AA meeting number two this week. As I sat there, I was humbled by people’s caring, humor, stories, and candor. I never wanted to be part of this type of thing, because I never imagined having this problem, but I am happy for now that I have somewhere to go. I just sit quietly and absorb the good karma. Today’s message hit home particularly. Someone read a passage from a reflection book. And I sat there thinking this is all meant to be. Xo Happy Friday!
Recently, my friend gave me a birthday gift - it was a bracelet that says “Trust the journey.”13 -
So, I was going to watch a short video update on Demi Lovato who overdosed , but first watched a commercial. You know the commercials you sit through on a news show before the video plays. It was a Seagram’s cooler commercial with girls in bikinis at a pool having fun. This was on the entertainment tonight website. Poor taste.
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@JulieAL1969 stay strong
You can do this.1 -
andysport1 wrote: »@JulieAL1969 stay strong
You can do this.
I feel quite determined. I woke up early and will go on a morning jog in our beautiful park system. How are you? Hope you are enjoying the weekend. Xo3
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