Less Alcohol- July 2018- One Day at a Time
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JulieAL1969 wrote: »andysport1 wrote: »So this is the big day
The magical day
Why ?
Is it a 10 day myth?
I'm not sure why day 10 BUT I believe it takes 10 days for the alcohol to leave your system. So,maybe today you will have zero residue. I love your writing style.
Thanks, I like to read your posts and the way you support others.
Hey, if you want to see an awesome person, just go look in the mirror.3 -
andysport1 wrote: »imfitasacello wrote: »I’m so inspired and encouraged by all of your words. I’ve been at this since Monday, so I’m just figuring things out (technology wise) so I haven’t been commenting as much as I’d like on individual posts. Takes me so long! I’m so grateful to have this fairly anonymous source of support. I’ve limited myself to one drink a day four four days, which is huge. It seems that if I pass the one drink threshold, all bets are off and I’ll keep going. Evening boredom and social situations are challenges for me. My weight is down and I’m feeling good about my progress so far. Thank you all for your support.
Well done you,
Ask yourself why one drink?
Today take just a small sip and then sit back.
Now, have a think “do you really like the taste?”
I don’t want to know the answer, I just want you to know why you drink.
The reason alcohol makes people feel relaxed is because it blocks your brain from working correctly.
This might come across as pushing instead of just supporting. Her goal was one drink per day and she seems happy with it. This thread can be kind of tricky because less for some means moderation which can have countless definitions and for others means none or working towards none.
I certainly didn’t mean to come across as pushy
At no point did I say don’t drink, in fact I actually encouraged her to take a drink, when I learnt why I drank I found the solution that was correct for me.
I don’t push my solution on others
I think it’s useful that people understand why they do things.
Oh well,
I apologise @imfitasacello I didn’t mean to come across as pushy, just supportive.
@NovusDies, I’ll keep my thoughts to myself in future Thanks4 -
andysport1 wrote: »I certainly didn’t mean to come across as pushy
At no point did I say don’t drink, in fact I actually encouraged her to take a drink, when I learnt why I drank I found the solution that was correct for me.
I don’t push my solution on others
I think it’s useful that people understand why they do things.
Oh well,
I apologise imfitasacello I didn’t mean to come across as pushy, just supportive.
NovusDies, I’ll keep my thoughts to myself in future Thanks
I said "might". This is a message board and intent can be murky at times. No reason to go too far the other way. It is hard to know when to give advice because we all have to be ready for whatever step we are ready to take. I try to take my cue from whether or not the person is happy with their progress and their goal. However, I am no expert... I have put my foot in my mouth plenty of times and I will very likely do it again. Luckily this group is supportive and forgiving.
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andysport1 wrote: »andysport1 wrote: »imfitasacello wrote: »I’m so inspired and encouraged by all of your words. I’ve been at this since Monday, so I’m just figuring things out (technology wise) so I haven’t been commenting as much as I’d like on individual posts. Takes me so long! I’m so grateful to have this fairly anonymous source of support. I’ve limited myself to one drink a day four four days, which is huge. It seems that if I pass the one drink threshold, all bets are off and I’ll keep going. Evening boredom and social situations are challenges for me. My weight is down and I’m feeling good about my progress so far. Thank you all for your support.
Well done you,
Ask yourself why one drink?
Today take just a small sip and then sit back.
Now, have a think “do you really like the taste?”
I don’t want to know the answer, I just want you to know why you drink.
The reason alcohol makes people feel relaxed is because it blocks your brain from working correctly.
This might come across as pushing instead of just supporting. Her goal was one drink per day and she seems happy with it. This thread can be kind of tricky because less for some means moderation which can have countless definitions and for others means none or working towards none.
I certainly didn’t mean to come across as pushy
At no point did I say don’t drink, in fact I actually encouraged her to take a drink, when I learnt why I drank I found the solution that was correct for me.
I don’t push my solution on others
I think it’s useful that people understand why they do things.
Oh well,
I apologise @imfitasacello I didn’t mean to come across as pushy, just supportive.
@NovusDies, I’ll keep my thoughts to myself in future Thanks
If you keep your thoughts to yourself, they can't benefit any of us. Feel free to share, its appreciated.7 -
I drew us a picture.
It's called "Sufficient".
Didn't get round to explaining this yesterday.
This is all of us.
If we're an abstainer, this is us happily refusing any alcohol even though restaurants lay out wine glasses automatically. We're fine with that. We've already had our share in the past.
If we're a moderator, this is us happily refusing a drink that will put us over our limit for the week/month. We've had our share for now.
We can take it or leave it. We've had sufficient.11 -
I drew us a picture.
It's called "Sufficient".
Didn't get round to explaining this yesterday.
This is all of us.
If we're an abstainer, this is us happily refusing any alcohol even though restaurants lay out wine glasses automatically. We're fine with that. We've already had our share in the past.
If we're a moderator, this is us happily refusing a drink that will put us over our limit for the week/month. We've had our share for now.
We can take it or leave it. We've had sufficient.
This is beautiful, you are very talented! Thank you!3 -
Day 10 came & went
My thoughts came & went
Temptation came & went
I went to bed, proud, confident, with a sense of achievement.
Wow
Ok so it’s 7am on a Sunday in England
My want for alcohol is huge, the highest it’s been since day1.
I wonder
Is having a mini goal “Day 10” a mistake?
I wonder
After the achievement has my brain said
“it’s reward time”
OMG
I have to leave the house this is horrendous
This feeling is what I thought I’d feel everyday, I’d let my guard down.9 -
@andysport1, hang in there. I can relate to your feeling after Day 10. A "few" times that Day 10 has actually led me to think, "Wow, I did 10 days, so surely now I can enjoy one drink." I've finally learned that is lying to myself, but I do understand feeling very tempted around the 10-12 day mark.
It's 4 a.m. CDT here in the U.S., so it's 10 a.m. for you now. I hope by now you are feeling much better. Julie often mentions the "6-second" nature of cravings. I hope the last few hours have been good for you.
I'm up at 4 a.m. after having slept 1 hour. I've been out of touch lately trying to help my mom navigate a situation in which a business partner is taking very unscrupulous advantage of her, and she is having trouble standing up for herself. And yes, I've used wine to "comfort" myself. Stupid. It is not a comfort, and this sleepless night is a tough reminder. So back to non-drinking, which is much much better for me.
I believe I have discovered that I am not as anonymous as I thought on this board, so I'm backing off a little bit, but I'm certainly following and appreciate all the good thoughts.7 -
Oh, PS, I think it's 6 minutes. 6 seconds would be nice, but . . . .4
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@donimfp I too have used wine to "help" with a stressful situation. It doesn't help anything for me! Hang in there, Girl. Today is a new day.
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andysport1 wrote: »Day 10 came & went
My thoughts came & went
Temptation came & went
I went to bed, proud, confident, with a sense of achievement.
Wow
Ok so it’s 7am on a Sunday in England
My want for alcohol is huge, the highest it’s been since day1.
I wonder
Is having a mini goal “Day 10” a mistake?
I wonder
After the achievement has my brain said
“it’s reward time”
OMG
I have to leave the house this is horrendous
This feeling is what I thought I’d feel everyday, I’d let my guard down.
I hope you're doing ok. Keep us posted, I'm thinking about you.1 -
@andysport1 Just wondering if you ever write in a journal. I find journalling very helpful cause I can figure out what is going on inside of me when I write it out. It also helps to just vent it ALL!! If you haven't, I'd suggest trying it. Hope this helps somewhat. Hoping the best for you!! You can DO THIS!!!1
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Don't ask how or why but I have a terrible hangover. I'll work on a plan tomorrow. Today, I'm just trying to function. I did manage to cook dinner for the kids and wash the floors. Small positive to a bad day. Xo6
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@andysport1, hang in there. I can relate to your feeling after Day 10. A "few" times that Day 10 has actually led me to think, "Wow, I did 10 days, so surely now I can enjoy one drink." I've finally learned that is lying to myself, but I do understand feeling very tempted around the 10-12 day mark.
It's 4 a.m. CDT here in the U.S., so it's 10 a.m. for you now. I hope by now you are feeling much better. Julie often mentions the "6-second" nature of cravings. I hope the last few hours have been good for you.
I'm up at 4 a.m. after having slept 1 hour. I've been out of touch lately trying to help my mom navigate a situation in which a business partner is taking very unscrupulous advantage of her, and she is having trouble standing up for herself. And yes, I've used wine to "comfort" myself. Stupid. It is not a comfort, and this sleepless night is a tough reminder. So back to non-drinking, which is much much better for me.
I believe I have discovered that I am not as anonymous as I thought on this board, so I'm backing off a little bit, but I'm certainly following and appreciate all the good thoughts.
Ouch. I always think we are anonymous but I'm sure that's not always the case.
Sorry for your wine indulgence. It happens. And yes, the sleep disruption is a terrible but necessary reminder. Oh well, start fresh tomorrow. Xo
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Be kind to yourself Julie xxoo!4
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Had a rare occurrence today. Went to a baseball game completely sober! And it was lovely!
Usually we were the type to go hours early and tailgate, then go inside and buy an overpriced beer. Not today. We got there early so we could eat at a restaurant in the ballpark. I drank a Powerade with my meal (still overpriced, haha)
Hope everyone had a great weekend10 -
Going to bed at my regular time, having had 1 less beer than my limit. Unusual to say the least, lately. Have a good morning all!5
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Good Morning/Happy Monday all!
Just getting to work nice and early and drinking my coffee. Trying to not have the ole Monday blues... lol.
Made it through another weekend with no alcohol. I even went out multiple times, and my husband drank multiple times. I stuck with my water, kombucha, and la croix! Today will be day 9 with no alcohol and I've had 14 AF days this month.
This upcoming weekend will be the real challenge, as some friends are coming from out of town. One of the biggies on their list? Visit local breweries. But I'm not worried. I'll be DD! I can have fun without alcohol. I don't need it. And it'll be amazing waking up the next morning and feeling energized and refreshed instead of hungover!
Here's to a good week for all of us.12 -
Last night, I reached out to a friend who is an addiction counselor. I called him crying and said i need you. We talked for a half hour and today I'm meeting him to talk. I think his presence in my life will be helpful. He's taking me to my first AA meeting - I know some people love it and some people don't , but it may be the hope I need. I don't want to live always teetering on the edge.
P.s. My friend says it takes 3 days for alcohol to leave the system. So, that's good news. i always thought it was ten days.
@ErynVee great weekend for you! Like someone on our thread says, you are exercising your will power muscle.
@snoo61 Great job ! You set a goal and was under it. And you probably slept soooo well. Xo11
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