Pet peeves
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Saying good morning to a coworker and receiving a look and no response.1
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jasamjak67 wrote: »Saying good morning to a coworker and receiving a look and no response.
super inconsiderate of people to do things like that, also a pet peeve of mine1 -
foxtrot1965 wrote: »entitlement relative to rank; I don't care if you are VP
I worked for an organization where the owner would NEVER say hello to anyone unless you say hello to him first. A total DB.
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Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »CoffeeAndContour wrote: »laprimaJenny wrote: »Parents that feel shaming their chikdren is an effective form of discipline.
It’s scary to me, how many parents feel it is an appropriate way to punish. You should have seen this Mother this morning at drop off, yelling at her son and name calling him through the car window because he closed the door a little hard. I think if I was anywhere that wasn’t in front of my sons school it would have turned ugly. Some people really just don’t deserve the kids they are blessed with.
Actually... Embarrassment can be a very affective parenting tool... If use properly
But I would agree, all that lady did was prove that she can't handle her kid...
I work with kids everyday who’s parents have that same mentality and I assure you it is not an effective form of discipline. The effects are often long lasting, sometimes devasting and a recipe for disaster when considering your child’s emotional health. It’s not my business how you parent your child or if you even use this as a tool for punishment but if so I suggest you read up on the subject matter. That’s all I will say here because I am very passionate about the subject at hand and it isn’t appropriate for here.2 -
jasamjak67 wrote: »foxtrot1965 wrote: »entitlement relative to rank; I don't care if you are VP
I worked for an organization where the owner would NEVER say hello to anyone unless you say hello to him first. A total DB.
I work in IT, and will let nice people jump the queue. Execs better be having a serious issue if they are going to be rude and want quick service.1 -
foxtrot1965 wrote: »jasamjak67 wrote: »foxtrot1965 wrote: »entitlement relative to rank; I don't care if you are VP
I worked for an organization where the owner would NEVER say hello to anyone unless you say hello to him first. A total DB.
I work in IT, and will let nice people jump the queue. Execs better be having a serious issue if they are going to be rude and want quick service.
I work in IT too...oh it is a wonderful feeling when someone arrogant and rude does not realize that something which usually takes me 15 minutes to solve - I deliver to them in 3 days!
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jasamjak67 wrote: »foxtrot1965 wrote: »jasamjak67 wrote: »foxtrot1965 wrote: »entitlement relative to rank; I don't care if you are VP
I worked for an organization where the owner would NEVER say hello to anyone unless you say hello to him first. A total DB.
I work in IT, and will let nice people jump the queue. Execs better be having a serious issue if they are going to be rude and want quick service.
I work in IT too...oh it is a wonderful feeling when someone arrogant and rude does not realize that something which usually takes me 15 minutes to solve - I deliver to them in 3 days!
Ya never piss the guy off who is working on your car till after he's done ! Your bill will be a lot lower
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jasamjak67 wrote: »foxtrot1965 wrote: »jasamjak67 wrote: »foxtrot1965 wrote: »entitlement relative to rank; I don't care if you are VP
I worked for an organization where the owner would NEVER say hello to anyone unless you say hello to him first. A total DB.
I work in IT, and will let nice people jump the queue. Execs better be having a serious issue if they are going to be rude and want quick service.
I work in IT too...oh it is a wonderful feeling when someone arrogant and rude does not realize that something which usually takes me 15 minutes to solve - I deliver to them in 3 days!
Ya never piss the guy off who is working on your car till after he's done ! Your bill will be a lot lower
I just don't understand why some people believe they are above others. we all bleed red my friend!
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jasamjak67 wrote: »jasamjak67 wrote: »foxtrot1965 wrote: »jasamjak67 wrote: »foxtrot1965 wrote: »entitlement relative to rank; I don't care if you are VP
I worked for an organization where the owner would NEVER say hello to anyone unless you say hello to him first. A total DB.
I work in IT, and will let nice people jump the queue. Execs better be having a serious issue if they are going to be rude and want quick service.
I work in IT too...oh it is a wonderful feeling when someone arrogant and rude does not realize that something which usually takes me 15 minutes to solve - I deliver to them in 3 days!
Ya never piss the guy off who is working on your car till after he's done ! Your bill will be a lot lower
I just don't understand why some people believe they are above others. we all bleed red my friend!
Yep and pants go on one leg at a time !!1 -
JustPassingTime wrote: »jasamjak67 wrote: »jasamjak67 wrote: »foxtrot1965 wrote: »jasamjak67 wrote: »foxtrot1965 wrote: »entitlement relative to rank; I don't care if you are VP
I worked for an organization where the owner would NEVER say hello to anyone unless you say hello to him first. A total DB.
I work in IT, and will let nice people jump the queue. Execs better be having a serious issue if they are going to be rude and want quick service.
I work in IT too...oh it is a wonderful feeling when someone arrogant and rude does not realize that something which usually takes me 15 minutes to solve - I deliver to them in 3 days!
Ya never piss the guy off who is working on your car till after he's done ! Your bill will be a lot lower
I just don't understand why some people believe they are above others. we all bleed red my friend!
Yep and pants go on one leg at a time !!
Uhhhhhhh?....... Speak for yourself
Lol ,,,ya but it took three guys1 -
tinkerhellraiser wrote: »CoffeeAndContour wrote: »laprimaJenny wrote: »Parents that feel shaming their chikdren is an effective form of discipline.
It’s scary to me, how many parents feel it is an appropriate way to punish. You should have seen this Mother this morning at drop off, yelling at her son and name calling him through the car window because he closed the door a little hard. I think if I was anywhere that wasn’t in front of my sons school it would have turned ugly. Some people really just don’t deserve the kids they are blessed with.
maybe the lady was having a really bad day and lost it and felt bad like 2.5 seconds later bc i’ve yelled at my kid i would be really surprised if any parent hadn’t yelled and felt bad about it tbh
Sure, we’ve all yelled at our kids from time to time. That’s wasn't what made me think what I did. It was the names she was yelling at her son. I hope most parents aren’t calling their children a POS and a bastärd while yelling it out the window in front of their school because they closed the door a little hard. Then suddenly and calmly they turn their head back to their youngest and say “have a good day sweetie” like nothing even happened. I can’t think of any excuse that warrants treating children that way.3 -
@CoffeeAndContour wrote: »Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »CoffeeAndContour wrote: »laprimaJenny wrote: »Parents that feel shaming their chikdren is an effective form of discipline.
It’s scary to me, how many parents feel it is an appropriate way to punish. You should have seen this Mother this morning at drop off, yelling at her son and name calling him through the car window because he closed the door a little hard. I think if I was anywhere that wasn’t in front of my sons school it would have turned ugly. Some people really just don’t deserve the kids they are blessed with.
Actually... Embarrassment can be a very affective parenting tool... If use properly
But I would agree, all that lady did was prove that she can't handle her kid...
I work with kids everyday who’s parents have that same mentality and I assure you it is not an effective form of discipline. The effects are often long lasting, sometimes devasting and a recipe for disaster when considering your child’s emotional health. It’s not my business how you parent your child or if you even use this as a tool for punishment but if so I suggest you read up on the subject matter. That’s all I will say here because I am very passionate about the subject at hand and it isn’t appropriate for here.
I think we're talking about two different things here...
Example...
When I was young and got out of line, one of the threats I would commonly here was... I'm going to tell your grandfather...
For me, this was the absolute worst thing ever...
I just couldn't bare his dissapointment, it was well, embarrassing for him to see me like that...
I'm not talking about publicly shaming your kid 😂... Of course I would never do that
But at the same time, you also can't be afraid to get ahold of them when they need it sometimes... People around or not...
Another ex... When you make a kid say sorry, it's the embarrassment that's really the teacher
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Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »@CoffeeAndContour wrote: »Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »CoffeeAndContour wrote: »laprimaJenny wrote: »Parents that feel shaming their chikdren is an effective form of discipline.
It’s scary to me, how many parents feel it is an appropriate way to punish. You should have seen this Mother this morning at drop off, yelling at her son and name calling him through the car window because he closed the door a little hard. I think if I was anywhere that wasn’t in front of my sons school it would have turned ugly. Some people really just don’t deserve the kids they are blessed with.
Actually... Embarrassment can be a very affective parenting tool... If use properly
But I would agree, all that lady did was prove that she can't handle her kid...
I work with kids everyday who’s parents have that same mentality and I assure you it is not an effective form of discipline. The effects are often long lasting, sometimes devasting and a recipe for disaster when considering your child’s emotional health. It’s not my business how you parent your child or if you even use this as a tool for punishment but if so I suggest you read up on the subject matter. That’s all I will say here because I am very passionate about the subject at hand and it isn’t appropriate for here.
I think we're talking about two different things here...
Example...
When I was young and got out of line, one of the threats I would commonly here was... I'm going to tell your grandfather...
For me, this was the absolute worst thing ever...
I just couldn't bare his dissapointment, it was well, embarrassing for him to see me like that...
I'm not talking about publicly shaming your kid 😂... Of course I would never do that
But at the same time, you also can't be afraid to get ahold of them when they need it sometimes... People around or not...
Another ex... When you make a kid say sorry, it's the embarrassment that's really the teacher
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THIS.foxtrot1965 wrote: »entitlement relative to rank; I don't care if you are VP
People at my workplace will literally refer to you by your salary grading.
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THIS.foxtrot1965 wrote: »entitlement relative to rank; I don't care if you are VP
People at my workplace will literally refer to you by your salary grading.
NOT COOL3 -
RhiAnLewis17 wrote: »
THIS.foxtrot1965 wrote: »entitlement relative to rank; I don't care if you are VP
People at my workplace will literally refer to you by your salary grading.
NOT COOL
Unless you are in the military.....then your rank is also your paygrade and thats exactly what you get called by.1 -
RhiAnLewis17 wrote: »
THIS.foxtrot1965 wrote: »entitlement relative to rank; I don't care if you are VP
People at my workplace will literally refer to you by your salary grading.
NOT COOL
Unless you are in the military.....then your rank is also your paygrade and thats exactly what you get called by.
Maybe, but if you're not it's just disrespectful.
And, that's your rank. Not your salary. I feel like there's a difference. A rank can be a reminder of your achievements.2 -
RhiAnLewis17 wrote: »RhiAnLewis17 wrote: »
THIS.foxtrot1965 wrote: »entitlement relative to rank; I don't care if you are VP
People at my workplace will literally refer to you by your salary grading.
NOT COOL
Unless you are in the military.....then your rank is also your paygrade and thats exactly what you get called by.
Maybe, but if you're not it's just disrespectful.
And, that's your rank. Not your salary. I feel like there's a difference. A rank can be a reminder of your achievements.
No, rank is also your paygrade and the vast majority of rank is earned through time served not on specific achievement. When you are a private you can be called as such and it is your paygrade of E1......enlisted one.....in the Marine corp which i served the next rank is PFC, private first class....E2....then Lance Corporal.....E3.....and so on. Its not disrespectful its what you have earned to that point and nobody has issue with it.
Now the military is different then the civilian world, but in say, the union construction trades. They have titles of mechanic to apprentice.....which is exactly their pay grade.
At first glance i thought i had an issue with people being called by their paygrade, but at second look i dont think its a big deal. I think context is important in how its done, and that would be my only issue.4 -
RhiAnLewis17 wrote: »RhiAnLewis17 wrote: »
THIS.foxtrot1965 wrote: »entitlement relative to rank; I don't care if you are VP
People at my workplace will literally refer to you by your salary grading.
NOT COOL
Unless you are in the military.....then your rank is also your paygrade and thats exactly what you get called by.
Maybe, but if you're not it's just disrespectful.
And, that's your rank. Not your salary. I feel like there's a difference. A rank can be a reminder of your achievements.
No, rank is also your paygrade and the vast majority of rank is earned through time served not on specific achievement. When you are a private you can be called as such and it is your paygrade of E1......enlisted one.....in the Marine corp which i served the next rank is PFC, private first class....E2....then Lance Corporal.....E3.....and so on. Its not disrespectful its what you have earned to that point and nobody has issue with it.
Now the military is different then the civilian world, but in say, the union construction trades. They have titles of mechanic to apprentice.....which is exactly their pay grade.
At first glance i thought i had an issue with people being called by their paygrade, but at second look i dont think its a big deal. I think context is important in how its done, and that would be my only issue.
I was referring to it being disrespectful in terms of the civilian population. When I see the word 'salary' I imagine that means referring to someone as a number.
Maybe it's just me, but I consider length of time served to be an achievement.2 -
RhiAnLewis17 wrote: »RhiAnLewis17 wrote: »RhiAnLewis17 wrote: »
THIS.foxtrot1965 wrote: »entitlement relative to rank; I don't care if you are VP
People at my workplace will literally refer to you by your salary grading.
NOT COOL
Unless you are in the military.....then your rank is also your paygrade and thats exactly what you get called by.
Maybe, but if you're not it's just disrespectful.
And, that's your rank. Not your salary. I feel like there's a difference. A rank can be a reminder of your achievements.
No, rank is also your paygrade and the vast majority of rank is earned through time served not on specific achievement. When you are a private you can be called as such and it is your paygrade of E1......enlisted one.....in the Marine corp which i served the next rank is PFC, private first class....E2....then Lance Corporal.....E3.....and so on. Its not disrespectful its what you have earned to that point and nobody has issue with it.
Now the military is different then the civilian world, but in say, the union construction trades. They have titles of mechanic to apprentice.....which is exactly their pay grade.
At first glance i thought i had an issue with people being called by their paygrade, but at second look i dont think its a big deal. I think context is important in how its done, and that would be my only issue.
I was referring to it being disrespectful in terms of the civilian population. When I see the word 'salary' I imagine that means referring to someone as a number.
Maybe it's just me, but I consider length of time served to be an achievement.
Haha....you are serving your time in the miltary once you sign those papers whether you like it or not. The achievement comes in choosing to serve your country. After that your time served is mandatory. And as long as you arent a total shitbird you will gain rank just for being there. I do find those that choose to reenlist and make it a career to be honorable though.
But i guess im not as sensitive to being addressed in a professional atmosphere in the term in which you have earned. That may be something i should look at and rethink, i honestly never thought about it. Not saying i would change my mind, but you have at least opened it to consideration.6 -
RhiAnLewis17 wrote: »RhiAnLewis17 wrote: »RhiAnLewis17 wrote: »
THIS.foxtrot1965 wrote: »entitlement relative to rank; I don't care if you are VP
People at my workplace will literally refer to you by your salary grading.
NOT COOL
Unless you are in the military.....then your rank is also your paygrade and thats exactly what you get called by.
Maybe, but if you're not it's just disrespectful.
And, that's your rank. Not your salary. I feel like there's a difference. A rank can be a reminder of your achievements.
No, rank is also your paygrade and the vast majority of rank is earned through time served not on specific achievement. When you are a private you can be called as such and it is your paygrade of E1......enlisted one.....in the Marine corp which i served the next rank is PFC, private first class....E2....then Lance Corporal.....E3.....and so on. Its not disrespectful its what you have earned to that point and nobody has issue with it.
Now the military is different then the civilian world, but in say, the union construction trades. They have titles of mechanic to apprentice.....which is exactly their pay grade.
At first glance i thought i had an issue with people being called by their paygrade, but at second look i dont think its a big deal. I think context is important in how its done, and that would be my only issue.
I was referring to it being disrespectful in terms of the civilian population. When I see the word 'salary' I imagine that means referring to someone as a number.
Maybe it's just me, but I consider length of time served to be an achievement.
Haha....you are serving your time in the miltary once you sign those papers whether you like it or not. The achievement comes in choosing to serve your country. After that your time served is mandatory. And as long as you arent a total shitbird you will gain rank just for being there. I do find those that choose to reenlist and make it a career to be honorable though.
But i guess im not as sensitive to being addressed in a professional atmosphere in the term in which you have earned. That may be something i should look at and rethink, i honestly never thought about it. Not saying i would change my mind, but you have at least opened it to consideration.
Maybe being in the military hardens you to that sort of thing and I'm just a snowflake 🤷♀️1 -
RhiAnLewis17 wrote: »RhiAnLewis17 wrote: »RhiAnLewis17 wrote: »RhiAnLewis17 wrote: »
THIS.foxtrot1965 wrote: »entitlement relative to rank; I don't care if you are VP
People at my workplace will literally refer to you by your salary grading.
NOT COOL
Unless you are in the military.....then your rank is also your paygrade and thats exactly what you get called by.
Maybe, but if you're not it's just disrespectful.
And, that's your rank. Not your salary. I feel like there's a difference. A rank can be a reminder of your achievements.
No, rank is also your paygrade and the vast majority of rank is earned through time served not on specific achievement. When you are a private you can be called as such and it is your paygrade of E1......enlisted one.....in the Marine corp which i served the next rank is PFC, private first class....E2....then Lance Corporal.....E3.....and so on. Its not disrespectful its what you have earned to that point and nobody has issue with it.
Now the military is different then the civilian world, but in say, the union construction trades. They have titles of mechanic to apprentice.....which is exactly their pay grade.
At first glance i thought i had an issue with people being called by their paygrade, but at second look i dont think its a big deal. I think context is important in how its done, and that would be my only issue.
I was referring to it being disrespectful in terms of the civilian population. When I see the word 'salary' I imagine that means referring to someone as a number.
Maybe it's just me, but I consider length of time served to be an achievement.
Haha....you are serving your time in the miltary once you sign those papers whether you like it or not. The achievement comes in choosing to serve your country. After that your time served is mandatory. And as long as you arent a total shitbird you will gain rank just for being there. I do find those that choose to reenlist and make it a career to be honorable though.
But i guess im not as sensitive to being addressed in a professional atmosphere in the term in which you have earned. That may be something i should look at and rethink, i honestly never thought about it. Not saying i would change my mind, but you have at least opened it to consideration.
Maybe being in the military hardens you to that sort of thing and I'm just a snowflake 🤷♀️
I think dealing with racism has hardened me to what i deem lesser first world problems.
And i like snowflakes......just not the icy ones that accumulate on the ground and ruin my commute.6 -
JustPassingTime wrote: »I yelled I love you to my high schooler when I was dropping him off at last week's dance. He yelled I love you too back at me. The nerve of that kid 😑
Now that's embarrassing your kid 😂...
Kinda like when I drop mine off and tell him..
"Have a good day Boba Boba bear bear bear"
🤷🏽♂️🙈😂1 -
Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »@CoffeeAndContour wrote: »Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »CoffeeAndContour wrote: »laprimaJenny wrote: »Parents that feel shaming their chikdren is an effective form of discipline.
It’s scary to me, how many parents feel it is an appropriate way to punish. You should have seen this Mother this morning at drop off, yelling at her son and name calling him through the car window because he closed the door a little hard. I think if I was anywhere that wasn’t in front of my sons school it would have turned ugly. Some people really just don’t deserve the kids they are blessed with.
Actually... Embarrassment can be a very affective parenting tool... If use properly
But I would agree, all that lady did was prove that she can't handle her kid...
I work with kids everyday who’s parents have that same mentality and I assure you it is not an effective form of discipline. The effects are often long lasting, sometimes devasting and a recipe for disaster when considering your child’s emotional health. It’s not my business how you parent your child or if you even use this as a tool for punishment but if so I suggest you read up on the subject matter. That’s all I will say here because I am very passionate about the subject at hand and it isn’t appropriate for here.
I think we're talking about two different things here...
Example...
When I was young and got out of line, one of the threats I would commonly here was... I'm going to tell your grandfather...
For me, this was the absolute worst thing ever...
I just couldn't bare his dissapointment, it was well, embarrassing for him to see me like that...
I'm not talking about publicly shaming your kid 😂... Of course I would never do that
But at the same time, you also can't be afraid to get ahold of them when they need it sometimes... People around or not...
Another ex... When you make a kid say sorry, it's the embarrassment that's really the teacher
Yeah, we’re definitely not talking about the same thing. And our parents must have thought the same way. I went through a period where I was really into about cuss words (I was 4) and it really embarrassed my Mom. So she told me that when I cussed I had to call my Grandma and tell her the cuss word I said. Since I never wanted to disappoint my Grandma I stopped cussing altogether. But then one day I was going to Church with my Grandma and I was in a new phase, one where I made up words that I thought sounded funny. The priest was talking to me and in turn I called him a pervert lol. My Grandma was SO mad, probably thought I was a lost cause. I thought at the time I made the word up, but looking back at the time I probably over heard it somewhere. That was the only time I remember my Grandma upset with me.3 -
CoffeeAndContour wrote: »Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »@CoffeeAndContour wrote: »Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »CoffeeAndContour wrote: »laprimaJenny wrote: »Parents that feel shaming their chikdren is an effective form of discipline.
It’s scary to me, how many parents feel it is an appropriate way to punish. You should have seen this Mother this morning at drop off, yelling at her son and name calling him through the car window because he closed the door a little hard. I think if I was anywhere that wasn’t in front of my sons school it would have turned ugly. Some people really just don’t deserve the kids they are blessed with.
Actually... Embarrassment can be a very affective parenting tool... If use properly
But I would agree, all that lady did was prove that she can't handle her kid...
I work with kids everyday who’s parents have that same mentality and I assure you it is not an effective form of discipline. The effects are often long lasting, sometimes devasting and a recipe for disaster when considering your child’s emotional health. It’s not my business how you parent your child or if you even use this as a tool for punishment but if so I suggest you read up on the subject matter. That’s all I will say here because I am very passionate about the subject at hand and it isn’t appropriate for here.
I think we're talking about two different things here...
Example...
When I was young and got out of line, one of the threats I would commonly here was... I'm going to tell your grandfather...
For me, this was the absolute worst thing ever...
I just couldn't bare his dissapointment, it was well, embarrassing for him to see me like that...
I'm not talking about publicly shaming your kid 😂... Of course I would never do that
But at the same time, you also can't be afraid to get ahold of them when they need it sometimes... People around or not...
Another ex... When you make a kid say sorry, it's the embarrassment that's really the teacher
Yeah, we’re definitely not talking about the same thing. And our parents must have thought the same way. I went through a period where I was really into about cuss words (I was 4) and it really embarrassed my Mom. So she told me that when I cussed I had to call my Grandma and tell her the cuss word I said. Since I never wanted to disappoint my Grandma I stopped cussing altogether. But then one day I was going to Church with my Grandma and I was in a new phase, one where I made up words that I thought sounded funny. The priest was talking to me and in turn I called him a pervert lol. My Grandma was SO mad, probably thought I was a lost cause. I thought at the time I made the word up, but looking back at the time I probably over heard it somewhere. That was the only time I remember my Grandma upset with me.
I've thought this about our parenting styles for a while, we both seem to have an old school upbringing and our trying to keep those values alive... 💕
A few years ago we had our son in church for the spring litergy that several friends were reading in...
We are not regulars in church and our son just started learning to question things...
While the priest was talking, all of a sudden, clear as a bell, my kid speaks up "Who's Jesus?!", then a few minutes later "Who's the lord!?"...
OMG I just about died 😂🙈... All I could think was, Omg my Grandmother would kill me 🙈😂...1 -
CoffeeAndContour wrote: »Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »@CoffeeAndContour wrote: »Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »CoffeeAndContour wrote: »laprimaJenny wrote: »Parents that feel shaming their chikdren is an effective form of discipline.
It’s scary to me, how many parents feel it is an appropriate way to punish. You should have seen this Mother this morning at drop off, yelling at her son and name calling him through the car window because he closed the door a little hard. I think if I was anywhere that wasn’t in front of my sons school it would have turned ugly. Some people really just don’t deserve the kids they are blessed with.
Actually... Embarrassment can be a very affective parenting tool... If use properly
But I would agree, all that lady did was prove that she can't handle her kid...
I work with kids everyday who’s parents have that same mentality and I assure you it is not an effective form of discipline. The effects are often long lasting, sometimes devasting and a recipe for disaster when considering your child’s emotional health. It’s not my business how you parent your child or if you even use this as a tool for punishment but if so I suggest you read up on the subject matter. That’s all I will say here because I am very passionate about the subject at hand and it isn’t appropriate for here.
I think we're talking about two different things here...
Example...
When I was young and got out of line, one of the threats I would commonly here was... I'm going to tell your grandfather...
For me, this was the absolute worst thing ever...
I just couldn't bare his dissapointment, it was well, embarrassing for him to see me like that...
I'm not talking about publicly shaming your kid 😂... Of course I would never do that
But at the same time, you also can't be afraid to get ahold of them when they need it sometimes... People around or not...
Another ex... When you make a kid say sorry, it's the embarrassment that's really the teacher
Yeah, we’re definitely not talking about the same thing. And our parents must have thought the same way. I went through a period where I was really into about cuss words (I was 4) and it really embarrassed my Mom. So she told me that when I cussed I had to call my Grandma and tell her the cuss word I said. Since I never wanted to disappoint my Grandma I stopped cussing altogether. But then one day I was going to Church with my Grandma and I was in a new phase, one where I made up words that I thought sounded funny. The priest was talking to me and in turn I called him a pervert lol. My Grandma was SO mad, probably thought I was a lost cause. I thought at the time I made the word up, but looking back at the time I probably over heard it somewhere. That was the only time I remember my Grandma upset with me.Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »CoffeeAndContour wrote: »Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »@CoffeeAndContour wrote: »Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »CoffeeAndContour wrote: »laprimaJenny wrote: »Parents that feel shaming their chikdren is an effective form of discipline.
It’s scary to me, how many parents feel it is an appropriate way to punish. You should have seen this Mother this morning at drop off, yelling at her son and name calling him through the car window because he closed the door a little hard. I think if I was anywhere that wasn’t in front of my sons school it would have turned ugly. Some people really just don’t deserve the kids they are blessed with.
Actually... Embarrassment can be a very affective parenting tool... If use properly
But I would agree, all that lady did was prove that she can't handle her kid...
I work with kids everyday who’s parents have that same mentality and I assure you it is not an effective form of discipline. The effects are often long lasting, sometimes devasting and a recipe for disaster when considering your child’s emotional health. It’s not my business how you parent your child or if you even use this as a tool for punishment but if so I suggest you read up on the subject matter. That’s all I will say here because I am very passionate about the subject at hand and it isn’t appropriate for here.
I think we're talking about two different things here...
Example...
When I was young and got out of line, one of the threats I would commonly here was... I'm going to tell your grandfather...
For me, this was the absolute worst thing ever...
I just couldn't bare his dissapointment, it was well, embarrassing for him to see me like that...
I'm not talking about publicly shaming your kid 😂... Of course I would never do that
But at the same time, you also can't be afraid to get ahold of them when they need it sometimes... People around or not...
Another ex... When you make a kid say sorry, it's the embarrassment that's really the teacher
Yeah, we’re definitely not talking about the same thing. And our parents must have thought the same way. I went through a period where I was really into about cuss words (I was 4) and it really embarrassed my Mom. So she told me that when I cussed I had to call my Grandma and tell her the cuss word I said. Since I never wanted to disappoint my Grandma I stopped cussing altogether. But then one day I was going to Church with my Grandma and I was in a new phase, one where I made up words that I thought sounded funny. The priest was talking to me and in turn I called him a pervert lol. My Grandma was SO mad, probably thought I was a lost cause. I thought at the time I made the word up, but looking back at the time I probably over heard it somewhere. That was the only time I remember my Grandma upset with me.
I've thought this about our parenting styles for a while, we both seem to have an old school upbringing and our trying to keep those values alive... 💕
A few years ago we had our son in church for the spring litergy that several friends were reading in...
We are not regulars in church and our son just started learning to question things...
While the priest was talking, all of a sudden, clear as a bell, my kid speaks up "Who's Jesus?!", then a few minutes later "Who's the lord!?"...
OMG I just about died 😂🙈... All I could think was, Omg my Grandmother would kill me 🙈😂...
I lol'ed for real at both if these!!
That is what I love about kids...what comes out of their mouths!1 -
RhiAnLewis17 wrote: »RhiAnLewis17 wrote: »RhiAnLewis17 wrote: »
THIS.foxtrot1965 wrote: »entitlement relative to rank; I don't care if you are VP
People at my workplace will literally refer to you by your salary grading.
NOT COOL
Unless you are in the military.....then your rank is also your paygrade and thats exactly what you get called by.
Maybe, but if you're not it's just disrespectful.
And, that's your rank. Not your salary. I feel like there's a difference. A rank can be a reminder of your achievements.
No, rank is also your paygrade and the vast majority of rank is earned through time served not on specific achievement. When you are a private you can be called as such and it is your paygrade of E1......enlisted one.....in the Marine corp which i served the next rank is PFC, private first class....E2....then Lance Corporal.....E3.....and so on. Its not disrespectful its what you have earned to that point and nobody has issue with it.
Now the military is different then the civilian world, but in say, the union construction trades. They have titles of mechanic to apprentice.....which is exactly their pay grade.
At first glance i thought i had an issue with people being called by their paygrade, but at second look i dont think its a big deal. I think context is important in how its done, and that would be my only issue.
I was referring to it being disrespectful in terms of the civilian population. When I see the word 'salary' I imagine that means referring to someone as a number.
Maybe it's just me, but I consider length of time served to be an achievement.
Haha....you are serving your time in the miltary once you sign those papers whether you like it or not. The achievement comes in choosing to serve your country. After that your time served is mandatory. And as long as you arent a total shitbird you will gain rank just for being there. I do find those that choose to reenlist and make it a career to be honorable though.
But i guess im not as sensitive to being addressed in a professional atmosphere in the term in which you have earned. That may be something i should look at and rethink, i honestly never thought about it. Not saying i would change my mind, but you have at least opened it to consideration.
Well you will only make rank just for being there to E-4 after that it has to do with testing-performance reports and time in grade, Matter of fact if you can not make E-5 after a certain amount of years you will not be retained.
So you can not make rank just for being there !5 -
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People who post before and after photos in the wrong order, especially when there is only a little difference between the two.
In Western culture we work from left to right, it represents time. Before is on the left, after should be on the right!!! Come on!!3 -
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